r/PlusSize Jul 08 '26

/r/plussize “Thanks But I’m Not Actually the Problem Here” Resource List

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Help us build a resource list for people who want to read, watch, and listen more widely around fat acceptance, fat liberation, anti-fat bias, diet culture, and fat people's lived experience.

The point is not to help people become smaller. It's to collect work that treats fat people as actual human beings, and that names the social, medical, cultural, romantic, professional, and everyday pressures fat people are routinely forced to face.

A lot of this list is especially relevant to fat women, because so much anti-fatness is tangled up with misogyny. That said, fatphobia doesn't only affect women, and this list shouldn't be read as women-only.

Books to start with:

Lindy West's Shrill is funny, furious, and very readable.

Aubrey Gordon's What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat is probably the clearest modern introduction to anti-fat bias as a social issue rather than a personal failing

Her follow-up, "You Just Need to Lose Weight": And 19 Other Myths About Fat People, tackles the claims fat people hear constantly.

Virgie Tovar's You Have the Right to Remain Fat.

Sofie Hagen's Happy Fat and Jes Baker's Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls are also accessible entry points for people newer to fat acceptance.

History and politics:

Sabrina Strings' Fearing the Black Body explains how fatphobia is tied to race, gender, class, etc, rather than being simply about "health."

Sonya Renee Taylor's The Body Is Not an Apology is broader than fatness but useful for thinking about body-shame and hierarchy more generally.

Marilyn Wann's Fat! So? is older but historically important.

Charlotte Cooper's Fat Activism: A Radical Social Movement is valuable for understanding fat liberation as an actual movement.

DaShaun L. Harrison, Belly Of The Beast. Anti-fatness, anti-blackness and gender

Tigress Osborne, "Weight and Wisdom: Find Yourself in Fat History"

Podcasts:

Maintenance Phase is great for unpacking diet culture, wellness cons, BMI panic, and how health language gets used to boulster prejudice.

Virgie Tovar's Rebel Eaters Club.

Food Psych and Rethinking Wellness, both by Christy Harrison, anti-diet and wellness-culture critique.

Fierce Fatty by Vinny Welsby.

“Why Won’t You Date Me?” Nicole Byer

Weight For It by Ronald Young Jr (also worth a follow on socials)

The Body Trust Podcast.

Film and TV:

Your Fat Friend is a documentary about Aubrey Gordon, fat activism, family, and ordinary discrimination od fat people.

The Shrill TV series based on West's book.

My Mad Fat Diary, Dumplin', Real Women Have Curves, Patti Cake$.

Fiction, memoir etc:

Roxane Gay's Hunger is honest about trauma, body size, and safety.

Jennifer Weiner's Good in Bed was significant for centring a fat woman's romantic, sexual, and professional life.

Julie Murphy's Dumplin' is a great YA option.

Talia Hibbert's Get a Life, Chloe Brown

Olivia Dade's Spoiler Alert.

Nicole Byer’s book #VeryFat #VeryBrave is a photo series of her rocking her extensive bikini collection

Health without weight-loss framing:

Lindo Bacon's Health at Every Size.

Christy Harrison's Anti-Diet unpacks how wellness culture repackages diet culture.

Intuitive Eating by Tribole and Resch is the standard reference for eating without restriction.

Ragen Chastain's Weight and Healthcare newsletter is good for research and practical scripts.

Decolonizing Fitness (Ilya Parker) covers movement spaces that don't treat body-size reduction as the goal.

People worth following:

Aubrey Gordon, Virgie Tovar, Sabrina Strings, Sonya Renee Taylor, Jes Baker, Ragen Chastain, Jessamyn Stanley, Vinny Welsby, Tess Holliday, and Tess Royale Clancy.

Read/watched/heard anything that made you think, lifted you up, informed, empowered or inspired you?

Please add below.


r/PlusSize Jul 17 '26

FEEL GOOD FRIDAY POST! ❤️ Share your good moments and positive stories here!

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#It's Feel Good Friday! 🎊

Post your feel-good moments and positive stories here. It can be anything: work, hobby, pets, kids, events, a book you particularly loved, a win of any sort, finding the exact right pair of shoes, mastering something, you name it, so long as it's positive. 🤗💖

Do please still refrain from any weight loss talk (save it for the Intentional Weight Loss Wednesday thread 😉)


r/PlusSize 5h ago

S*x Stuff Dating

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Hi All,

Going on a date tomorrow with a guy whose been heavily flirting /borderline sexting me on app. I have a full body photo as my primary photo, but still so paranoid, I'm going to get there and he will instantly no longer be interested, because im bigger than he was anticipating. Im a UK size 22/24. Just wondering how others find dating as plus size. Part of me kinda wants to remind him like "hey you know im plus sized" before the date, but worried it'll come off very insecure.


r/PlusSize 46m ago

Mental Health Has anyone else become very reclusive because of their size?

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I'm a first generation American of South Asian (Indian) descent. I've always been fat my whole life and struggle with PCOS. As a kid I was bullied relentlessly either for my weight or because of my ethnicity. I don't feel like I belong in the Indian community either because people in my experience are very judgemental and fatphobic.

I don't have any friends or sense of community but I haven't sought out people. I just always assume people are not going to like me at all so it's like why even bother. I don't even like meeting new people unless I have to for work. I also avoid even hanging out with my family because they are so critical and my weight always gets brought up. I do want to socialize and not be so isolated but I don't know how I can when most people will never like or appreciate me?


r/PlusSize 1h ago

Recommendations Shopping in Vancouver, BC

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I'm heading to Vancouver later this month and wondering if there are any particularly good shops for a plus size (2x-3x) girlie who doesn't want to dress like a depressed 60-year-old elementary school teacher or a Disney Adult? I've got Penningtons, Ricki's, Blue Sky, and Reitmans at home so I'm hoping there are more options in the bigger city.


r/PlusSize 23m ago

Fashion Discussion Begging For Back Support

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Bras bras bras

HELP!

My back feels like I am 100 years old

I have tried so many options I am exhausted of trying and returning a million times. I’m tired of spending so much money to be in pain. Please help me. I will take any and all recommendations. I would do ANYTHING to be able to try on in store. The current Lane Bryant bras I have are KILLING me and putting permanent indents in my shoulders. I went to two locations and returned three different sizes before being assured these were the right size. I really need advice I’m overstimulated and overwhelmed.

I’m currently wearing a 42D at Lane which seems insanely small to me but the other sizes were too big.

I don’t want an underwire due to sensitivity issues/comfort.

Thank you in advance I’m mid meltdown


r/PlusSize 1h ago

Fashion Discussion I need a coat

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I'm a lifelong Floridan and I've only ever seen snow once. Next January, I will be taking a trip to visit friends in Toronto, which does the cold. I would like to be not cold as I am not prepared for it as a person. Where can I get a good coat? I wear a 24/26 and I'm not looking to break the bank because this will just sit in the back of my closet for several years probably. I'd be open to thrifting too!


r/PlusSize 21h ago

Venting Friend assumed I’m insecure and I can’t get it off my mind

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Let me preface this by saying I hate swimming, I get so bored in a pool and wonder why I’m there. To top it off being in a wet swimsuit is such a sensory nightmare for me, it just isn’t my thing.

I was talking to a friend today about an upcoming pool party another friend of ours is hosting. I mentioned despite skipping all the other pool days that I’d be going to this party and I’d even ordered a swimsuit so I wouldn’t feel out of place.

I said I probably wouldn’t swim and would just hang by the pool, but I was looking forward to it anyway, and she started off by giving me some “advice” that everyone, “not just fat people” has insecurities about being in a swimsuit. I have zero qualms with being in anything skimpy or revealing, or with anyone seeing my body by the pool. I wear things that expose my midriff and legs regularly, Im never trying to hide my body, so this advice felt out of left field.

It was so annoying and out of nowhere and I haven’t been able to get it out of my head. Even people who are close friends with us, who are around us often still have these misconceptions. This comes not long after another thin friend asked me how offended I was by Norbit’s use of fat suits (why are we bringing up a 20 year old movie?) as a fat person. Like be for real.

Anyway, love you all.


r/PlusSize 1d ago

Discussion Would you feel more comfortable with a plus size PCP?

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I’m currently in the process of applying for graduate programs to become an advanced practice provider, but I’m starting to get nervous that I won’t be taken seriously as a plus size woman.

I’m confident in my ability to do well in the program and I’m so passionate about equitable healthcare, but I worry about how my preceptors, peers, and even patients will view me. I have patient care experience as an EMT but those were always very quick interactions, nothing longitudinal.

I try to remind myself that I’m capable and deserve to go after my career goals, and I know that I would personally feel much more comfortable with a plus size PCP.

Would you be comfortable with a provider with a similar body type to you? Do you have experience as a plus size provider/person in healthcare? Just looking for people’s thoughts (both reassurance and reservations are welcome!)


r/PlusSize 1d ago

Personal Concert Nerves

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Happy Monday everybody. So tonight I am going to a huge concert in my city and I’m feeling extremely nervous about it. I’m not even totally sure why and I wish that I could just feel excited and relaxed but I can’t get my mind into that mode. I guess I’m just looking for words of wisdom or any encouragement, have any of you experienced this?

My two major concerns are the walking (which honestly should be fine) and more importantly the seating. Earlier this year when I bought the ticket I must’ve been totally delusional and I bought a floor ticket thinking it would be fine. But now we’re here and I saw how small and flimsy the chairs are. I already called the stadium earlier to inquire about ADA seating and I’m going to try to snag that when I arrive.

It makes me feel ashamed, like I don’t deserve to go and it’s just another thing I can’t do right. Thanks for listening. 🩷


r/PlusSize 23h ago

Venting Have you guys ever felt like you had to wear more fitted clothes?!

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I'm 20 and in college and honestly feel like I have to wear tight clothes a lot of the time. I'm size 28-30, so I'm not the more acceptable 18-20.

I've been big all of my life and growing up I used to wear very loose clothes. But then, over the summer things changed and I found myself really liking short and tight clothes. Not like revealing, just a fitting shirt and a mini skirt that's mid thigh. I don't do revealing tops because they never even fit my chest to begin with. 🫣

Anyways, I've been noticing how a lot of people perceive me. When I was dressing in bigger clothes or just ones that didn't hug my body people would be nonchalant or mean (but those were 98% guys so f them). Now, I'm getting compliments and the girls are nice like always, but more! Except certain white girls, I go to a pwi and the ones that look like they do Pilates and wear those grey sweatshirts with the bold font sometimes look at me funny. One time they laughed out loud at me in the library which was so insane because I never would have imagined that in University. I wish I had done something but I just walked away. I was walking home the other day and a group of them in a car stopped right beside me and said something, but I didn't hear what they said because it was too quiet. Idk what that was about. I was wearing this jean mini skirt that day to try something new and fun.

And guys have been less weird. But I don't really be around guys anyway. I've always loved my girls. 🌸 And I've been called cute more by older people around me. That's not new per say but I haven't really been called that since I was like 14. And there are these weird stares I get from this one guy I took a class with last semester. I catch him looking at me sometimes but it's not mean compared to what I'm used to...

I'm not investing in that tho I'm not playing Guess Who. It was just different.

I won't say I don't have a shape. That would be lying. But I'm also not Jessica Rabbit with more plump. I'm like a very subtle pear. That's how I would describe it. My butt doesn't stick out much but it is really big, and my chest is around an h or g cup so they're huge I guess...

I just don't want to rely on other people to be happy. Don't get me wrong, I love my style and would wear it anyway. But sometimes I find myself thinking about how appealing it looks to others and I don't want that. I always dismiss it as this is a very new feeling for me...

Anyways, if anyone relates please let me know, I'd really like to hear it! Or just any words of advice or encouragement! Ty!


r/PlusSize 1d ago

Discussion Plus Size Flights

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Looking for recent personal experience.

Should a heavy person (400 lbs, 5’2”) even attempt to fly these days? Specifically, the seat size issue. Didn’t fit in a Texas Rangers stadium seat (MORTIFYING) in April and now terrified to try to do almost anything, until the weight comes off.. But thought it was worth asking. It would be a relatively short (3 hours) flight.
Any suggestions? Warnings?
Worth it? Don’t do it?
Thanks.


r/PlusSize 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Living my dream, coast of O'ahu.

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Glasses are from Zenni.


r/PlusSize 17h ago

Recommendations Buying coats and "long" pieces with a big belly. How do you navigate it?

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Something always happens to me when I try to buy plus size clothes:

my hip and bust tend to match the size of the garment I'm looking at online but my waist is always way larger than the listed waist size for the garment. so like, for example, if a 2xl in a given store is 46/39/48 but my measurements are 45/44/48. not my actual measurements but just using this as an example. sometimes, the waist discrepancy is so huge that I'm like..... has this store never met a chubby girl?????? we tend to have bellies...... do they not realize this???

when it comes to pieces that tend to rely on just one or two of these measurements (like pants or shirts for example) this is not that big of a deal, I can sort of work around it as annoying as it is. But when it comes to larger pieces like a coat or a dress that's when I'm like..... how am I expected to fit into this exactly? I imagine I'm not saying anything you don't already know but like... these sizes don't seem feasible for anyone over a 2XL that doesn't have an hour glass shape. I have a bit of a belly (which I don't mind), that's why my waist size is so much bigger than the garment. I suppose if I sucked in my belly I could MAYBE fit into the belly but I would rather not have to do that 24/7.

I'm probably preaching to the choir here but like I say all of this to ask for advice: Have you been in this situation? how do you navigate it? I'm genuinely at a loss for what I'm supposed to do other than, not wear coats or dresses. And if you have any brands (bonus points if goth, but not required) that are more conscious of this I would love to know, cause so far it feels like every brand does this.

I don't really shop for clothes that often because it kind of sucks for me (hence why it probably sounds like I don't know that much about clothing sizes) but I'm trying to change that and genuinely find stuff that I'd like and that would fit.


r/PlusSize 17h ago

Discussion Has anyone here done any thrill seeking or like highly adventurous activities?

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I’m going to go to the Philippines at the end of this month with my family to do thrill seeking activities like canyoneering and ziplining. But the thing is i’m 125kg (275lbs I think) and this is my first time doing activities like this and i’m a bit worried about my weight. I’m also scared of heights but I want to face my fears and unleash my adventurous side.

Has any one of you tried doing thrill seeking activities like ziplining, bungee jumping etc. as a plus size person? What’s your experience? Did your weight affect it?


r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Had the courage to go bralass for the first time since puberty

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I had this dress custom made while in Vietnam and I cannot believe I can go bralass! So jealous of people who never need a bra 😅


r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Another day another cute outfit

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Dress is from shein, stockings are from a local store along with the necklace/earrings

Came off Amazon, and the shoes are Clark’s


r/PlusSize 1d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Pink goes with everything 💕

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r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Recent selfies

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r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Just a lil Sunday selfie! 😘

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r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Felt pretty today!

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Second pic! Recently I've been working on my self confidence so I've been wanting to share more of myself and be less shy on social media! So here's another pic! I felt pretty today!


r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Thoughts on the dress?

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My dad is getting married in October and its a smaller affair. Still dressy but not full out. I'm not in the wedding per se but I am doing a reading. This is the dress the bride and I have landed on for me. I don't feel my best in it but most people say it looks nice.


r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Happy selfie Sunday to all you beautiful people!

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r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! Me being brave

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Me streaming Kingdom Hearts on TikTok this morning! I only had one stupid troll come in and comment about my weight! The rest were lovely nerds who wanted to watch me game. :)


r/PlusSize 2d ago

Self-Pics - Sundays Only! ✨ let’s go to an estate sale!

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Felt cute! Not super comfy with my vbo but it was like 93 degrees out.