r/ROCD • u/Leather_Late • 1d ago

ROCD + Cheating

Does anyone else experience the cheating rumination that spiral into the pulling away and considerations of breaking up?

I already have PTSD from previous relationships and being cheated on (including my 5 year relationship where we were married for 2 years and I found out about a lot of their unfaithfulness), but I'm now facing it in my newest relationship. We just hit a year in July, and I want to say the cheating rumination started to ramp up around then too

She knows of my previous relationship, and I'm trying to explain to her OCD and how I exist with it as it's starting to affect our relationship more, but I want to know if anyone else experiences this

It's started becoming a "she's lying, she could cheat on you, she probably has feelings for her friends and is fucking them behind your back and you need to distance yourself and break up with her before you find out and are devastated again" and its also becoming scenarios like "her friends are telling her how terrible you are as a partner and trying to get her to break up with you" and all of that.

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u/treatmyocd NOCD’s corporate account 18h ago

Hi there! I am just sharing a resource that may be helpful with stopping the mental "ping-pong"

https://iocdf.org/expert-opinions/how-do-i-stop-thinking-about-this-what-to-do-when-youre-stuck-playing-mental-ping-pong/

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u/Fantastic-Way6025 13h ago

Yes I experience this all the time. And it’s horrible because it’s mainly with one person who every time I see them and my partner in the same room I get a really visceral full body reaction, and I can’t hide that in my head I’m thinking “they are having an affaiiiiiir” even though I’ve spoken so many times to my partner about this and it would never happen. Especially with this person!
Gah. Hate it so much.