My sister called me freaking out and told me something I really wish she hadn't.

Her husband was interviewing for a job in another state that would've been a pretty big promotion. She absolutely does not want to move, but apparently every time she tried talking to him about it he kept saying they should at least see what the offer is.

He had a final interview scheduled and she knew the login to his email. She went in while he was at work, emailed the recruiter pretending to be him and said he was withdrawing from consideration. Then deleted the emails.

He thinks the company just decided not to move forward with him.

She told me because she's starting to feel guilty and wanted to know if I thought she should eventually admit it. I told her that's completely insane and she got defensive saying I don't understand how much moving would mess up their lives.

The awkward part is her husband and I are pretty close. He was literally talking to me recently about how disappointed he was because the extra salary would help a lot.

Now every time I see him I feel like I'm lying to his face even though I didn't do anything.

My sister made me promise not to tell him before she explained what she'd actually done.

Do I stay out of their marriage or tell him?

Have a work meeting for three days 6 hours away. I will be driving and using my personal vehicle to get the mileage money. Coworker just asked if I wanted to carpool to the event. As an introvert having to spend 6 hours in a car making small talk is my nightmare. Plus have IBS so just thinking about having to stop and go to the bathroom frequently is giving me anxiety.

How do I decline?

Im 26F a SAHM,married to my husband and we have a 14-month-old baby.

A few weeks ago I had some time to myself and went out shopping while my husband stayed home with our 14-month-old.

When I got home, I entered through the back of the house and tried to surprise my husband. Our baby was in the stroller, and my husband was moving the stroller back and forth when I scared him.

He reacted completely on instinct and punched me.

It was an accident. He didn't know it was me, didn't have time to process what was happening, and reacted instinctively. I ended up with a bruise, so we went to the ER and got everything checked. Thankfully everything was fine.

My husband is not abusive. We have a loving and healthy marriage, and he is genuinely the love of my life. This was a one-time accident, and there has never been physical abuse in our relationship.

When my mom saw the bruise, I explained exactly what happened.

The thing is, my mom 100% believes that my husband physically abused me and that I’m making up the story about it being an accident to protect him.

And honestly, I can understand why she thinks that.

If your daughter has a bruise and tells you that her husband punched her, I can understand a mother thinking the worst. She loves me, and I understand why she would believe that something terrible was happening behind closed doors.

I’m not angry at her for believing I was abused.

What hurt me was what she said afterward.

She told me that these kinds of things happen in marriage, that my husband is a good person and a good husband, and that I was doing the right thing by covering it up and not making a big deal about it.

She basically told me that I was doing the right thing by protecting my husband and not making him look like a bad person.

That really shocked me.

If she genuinely believes that my husband physically abused me, why would she tell me that this is something that “happens in marriage” and that I should cover it up and not make a big deal about it?

I would have understood if she had told me, “If he is hurting you, you need to leave him. You don’t deserve that, and I’ll be here for you no matter what.”

Even if she was completely wrong about what happened, I would understand that reaction. She would be trying to protect me.

Instead, she normalized what she believed was physical abuse and encouraged me to protect my husband from being seen as a bad person.

That is what has really hurt me.

I’m not upset that my mom worried about me. I’m not upset that she assumed the worst. I can completely understand both of those things.

I’m upset that in the situation she believes is happening, she thinks I should accept it, cover it up, and not make a big deal about my husband supposedly physically hurting me because “these things happen in marriage.”

My husband and I are completely fine. We dealt with the accident, and there is no abuse happening in our marriage.

But what my mom said has made me seriously rethink our relationship, and I’m considering cutting her off because of it.

Hi. So just for context I live in work housing. So there’s just a buncha guys in this one house or were. There’s only 5 of us now. Now we are all downstairs in this place and the rooms are all in a line one by one right next to each other. Sharing walls with the next one. So this morning was the second time I’ve been woken up by one of my work colleagues having sex. Now I usually can give it grace if it’s on our day off. But this getting to a point where it’s keeping me up on work nights and waking me early on work days. I don’t really know what to do. I know something needs to change but, I don’t really know how to go about it.

I (33F) have been a preschool teacher for 8 years. I love my job. My husband works in finance. He said my job is "cute" but "not a real career" because I don't make much money. He said I should "do something more serious." I felt like everything I do every day was dismissed.

Is he being honest or just cruel?

I (29F) have spent the last 7 months pouring my life savings and every weekend into renovating a 1920s apartment in Prague. I restored the original oak herringbone floors by hand, imported custom matte ceramic tiles, and had high-end matte black sanitary fittings installed.

yesterday morning, a sub-contractor came to finish the sealant joints on the kitchen splashback. he was supposed to be there for two hours.

about 45 minutes in, he politely asked if he could use the bathroom, me be like: 'of course, it’s through the second door on the left...' (something, my gut feeling probably, told me I shouldn't have)

the man was in there for nearly 20 minutes. when he came out, he gathered his caulking tools quickly, said he had to grab extra silicone cartridges from his van downstairs, said he would be right back.

and, he never came back. 15 minutes later, i expected for him to message or call and sent him preamptive text asking for contact

and, I also felt a bit more suspicious of the situation and walked into the bathroom

what I walked into made my jaw hit the floor:
1. the brand new toilet was unflushed, with urine splashed across the unsealed oak baseboard behind the bowl.
2. there was a smear of feces on the underside of the matte black flush actuator plate and there were feces really, not a nice sight at all
3. he had apparently cut his finger on a sharp tile edge or his utility knife and left five distinct dark droplets of dried blood smeared across the rim of the custom ceramic basin and the chrome towel rail.
4. not a single drop of water had been run to rinse the sink. He simply wiped his bloody thumb on my clean linen hand towel and left.

so, stood there in rubber gloves with hospital-grade disinfectant spray, and also felt this wave of visceral disgust and violation. I fired him via text immediately and told his agency I would not be paying the remaining invoice.

so, my question for homeowners and contractors: would you leave a brutal public review naming the subcontractor, or do you just eat the loss / disinfect the entire room with bleach three times, never speak of it again?

I (31F) have been with my partner for 5 years. We got into a fight last week. They said "I settled for you because I couldn't find anyone better." They said they "love me" but it's not "passionate." They apologized the next day. But I can't unhear it. I feel like I'm just convenient.

Can a relationship survive hearing that you were the second choice?

To update on my last post I’ve spoken to both my friend and boyfriend. They both said that wasn’t their intention and that they didn’t mean anything by it. I talked to my other friends in the same friend group as me and my best friend and I found out my boyfriend had been telling my best friend personal things about us. When our mutual friend later asked her if my best friend told me and she said yes that she had. She Did Not. I don’t know if I should mention this to either of them or what to say since she said she would fully stop talking to him.

I have a major professional interview coming up out of state, and when my boyfriend’s parents found out, they said they wanted to go on the trip too. They genuinely enjoy traveling, so it wasn’t like they wanted to go solely because of my interview.

Anyway, my boyfriend told me not to worry about booking or paying for my flight and hotel because his mom is using their airline and hotel points to cover everything for the trip. Here’s the part that’s making me a little uneasy: his mom has never actually told me directly that I don’t need to pay them back. Everything I know about the arrangements, including the fact that they’re covering my flight and hotel, has come secondhand through my boyfriend.

My immediate instinct was to say thank you and let them know I’m happy to chip in for my share, because I don’t want to come across as presumptuous or entitled. However, my boyfriend told me not to offer anything. He keeps saying that he “knows his parents” and that offering to pay can sometimes be taken the wrong way or feel like an awkward rejection of their generosity.

On one hand, I hate the idea of assuming someone else is footing the bill for me, and I want to show that I’m responsible and respectful of their money. On the other hand, my boyfriend says pushing the issue will just be unnecessary and that I should accept the gesture graciously.

What would you do? Should I trust my boyfriend’s read on his own family and just say thank you, or is it a social blunder to accept the flight/hotel without at least offering to pay my share?

Okay so my (24f) little brother (22m) has a 3 year old.

Last weekend was my dad’s birthday. We all went over to my dad’s for dinner. When my little brother and his crew got there, my dad asked my niece for a hug. She was kind of stand offing like she wanted to but in a little bit or something. She’s a big hugger, but sometimes she wants to play first.

My little brother made his voice stern and basically ordered her to give my dad a hug.

He said “give grandpa a hug.” Probably 4 times in a very stern voice.

It really bothered me. I didn’t say anything but I’m debating on if I should.

I believe children have bodily autonomy, and should not be forced to do anything. Obviously I’m not talking about bathing or eating. I’m talking about interactions with others.

If I said something, I would say something along the lines of-

Hey I noticed this interaction, I know she’s not my child but I think this is wrong. Or something like that idk ..

I think the biggest reason why I have an issue with parents forcing their children to hug adults, is it teaches them to be uncomfortable for the sake of others. It teaches them, they aren’t in control of who has access to them.

My parents always said this to me when I was younger. I genuinely thought anytime someone wanted a hug I had to hug them. I hated hugging people. Then when I started being sexually assaulted I thought well if I don’t just let them I’ll get yelled at.

Should I say something? Do I just leave it alone?

Update: I brought it up with my brothers fiance.

I asked her if they were thinking about teaching my niece about safe touch. She asked what I meant.

So I told her it’s grooming and sexual assault prevention. And told her there’s a lot of good books and songs for kids to teach about safe and not safe touch. And I told her what I noticed on Sunday.

Anyway we were talking about it, and she mentioned she wants to get books when she’s a little older, and that she also didn’t like how my brother reacted. But both agreed if I brought it up with my brother he would get defensive.

He’s kind of aloof and thinks everyone’s out to get him. He also isn’t very good at taking accountability.

So I brought it up with his fiance instead. I don’t know if she’s going to talk about it with him or not. But I know I feel better knowing there is a plan to teach my niece about safe and not safe touch.

yall i js came to the hospital with my aunt n they told us it will take at least another 6 hours we have already been here for about half an hour i literally got like 4 hours of sleep last night im soo tired and sleepy but i dont think i can sleep in front of so many people should i go find a shopping place or something i aint even had breakfast i feel like crying itsss soo awkward because im like the only teenager here everyone else so soo old lol😭😭

I guess this can be a little weird post.

So, the thing is I’m an avoidant person in general or maybe I’ve become one, idk but now I’m avoidant by nature, and I still like talking to new people very much so I talk to many different people online as well as in real life

IRL it’s not that difficult because not everyone has so much going on so it’s still manageable but online how do I even put it properly I talk to many different people, and after a point, like some days later I just get this sudden urge to stop talking then I mostly start avoiding them and eventually ghost them

But I also feel really bad about it I start thinking about why I ghosted that person and how hurt they might have felt it’s not like I enjoy ghosting anyone I genuinely put effort into replying to people because I see them putting in effort and trying to talk to me. I really do try to keep in touch with them

But when I ghost someone, I start thinking from their perspective about how they must be feeling. Obviously, they might be hurt, especially if we’ve been talking for weeks or months. It hurts a little when someone ghosts you, and I know that

I’ve talked to some people for months, so obviously there’s a little connection from both sides. And then if I suddenly ghost them, I get this guilt and start thinking what am I even doing because I know how it must feel from their side

So now, whenever I talk to someone new, I keep mentioning that I have this really bad habit of randomly disappearing and that I’m an avoidant person It genuinely bothers me, and I don’t want it to hurt other people either

The other thing I really think about is, how am I supposed to maintain any relationship in life if I always end up avoiding everyone

Whenever I talk to someone new, we might talk for some days, weeks, maybe even months, and then suddenly something inside me gets triggered, and I just can’t seem to be in that conversation anymore After that, I have to convince myself to talk to the other person again

It’s started to make me wonder how I’m supposed to have real connections with people or maintain any kind of relationship if I keep doing this and just to be clear, I do this in real life too, with my offline friends, my parents, my family, everyone

So yeah, that’s it I guess I don’t really know what I’m looking for by posting this on Reddit maybe some advice maybe some conversations or maybe just finding someone who is similar to me and has experienced the same thing

I genuinely don’t know how to deal with it and I’m starting to feel like it’s becoming a real problem for me

As always DMs are open if anyone wants to have a conversation

My gf currently has a mucus infection. She asked me if she should eat ice cream and I said i don't see why not. She then went to Gemini and asked the same thing, it told her it can make her mucus thicker and so on.

I told her there's no problem with having ice-cream and relying on AI is not always reliable. I even showed her ChatGPT's response to further prove my point. ChatGPT said it may feel like its thicker but it doesn't produce any mucus, the sensation will go away.

I thought she was joking when saying this but she was dead serious. I'm kind of getting the ick if she relies on AI this much in making logical decisions.

Every logical thing you can think for yourself she uses AI. Another situation was a day ago. She had a blocked nose and asked AI for help on how to sleep with it. It told her to elavate her head with two pillows. The next morning she woke up with her jaw hurting. She went to the doctor and it turns out because of the way she slept, mucus went down to her ears and caused an ear infection.

I've tried my best, but it seems like there is nothing i can do. It's making me view her differently and not so 'smart'.

so i emailed a gym about working a front desk position. the manager got back to me and said they’d be happy to connect about it but also sent this:

“I’d also love to have you come into the studio and take a class with us sometime this week or next! Take a look at our class schedule and let me know what day/time works best for you, and we can coordinate a time to meet as well.”

They’re offering it free of charge so I can’t use that as an excuse. I have a physical disability that limits the workouts I can do…not really sure I should disclose that.

What excuse can I give to not participate?

Wife is on vacation in Hawaii with her best friend for the week and I'm staying home. Other than work I have a full week to myself. I don't particularly feel like being in my house alone all week. Any tips or ideas?

These people called from a whole different number. Then they called my cousin from a different number than me. Then my mom from a different number than both of us. I called them yesterday. They knew about a legit debt of mine. But when I asked them what company they were with they said “oh we’re just an arbitration company” and I asked for an email. Or to be sent payment info on payments I would need to make. And they said they send it out after my first payment 🤔 I also looked up the number. And I can’t find a legit company anywhere.

I did some junk removal for an older lady who lived in a rundown home and was happy to help, took a bunch of things to the dump costing me around 120$ to dispose of for her, coolers, freezers, old electronics, after I was done she can’t pay because she doesn’t have the “money”, she is the sweetest old lady but I’m a broke college student and I don’t want to lose 120$ but don’t want to really try and get the money from her.

I want to buy those viral whiteboards from Home Depot and mount them on my wall to make one giant whiteboard. I’m in my third semester of nursing school and I’m really trying to finish out strong, which means utilizing every study method that works for me. Do you think it’s worth it? My bf says I don’t need it lol.

I own an interest in a single family home (which I live in with my children) shared with my sibling after the passing of our mother (it was in a life estate and reverted to us jointly upon her death). My greatest fear is my sibling (and sib's spouse who fancies themself part of this ownership) will force the sale of the house leaving me and my children having to rush to find housing. Kids are teenagers so, the school district will soon not be an issue but my goal is to own the home independently as a point of pride but also to avoid the torture of dealing with the sibling and spouse (I'm required to get approvals to proceed with any repairs/work and everything requires a 'meeting' always with their disjointed perspective of what works realistically costs).

The sibling is proving difficult and refused an offer based on a very recent comp (for the same type of home, on the same lot, accross the street). I gave them six weeks to 'think about it' and heard nothign so proceeded with securing approval for a mortgage. When I let them know i had the financing, they refused. They didn't offer a counter stating they 'want to hold their share.' They didn't give a timeline they might want to sell it. My priority is to hold the home independently due to the benefit of an income stream from a legal accessory apaprtment -- it pays my exhorbitant property taxes and is a backstop in the event i need the income.

What options to I have if i really want to buy the other share of the home but, more improtantly, want to protect me and my children from being forced to sell?

this guy openly tells me that he's a failure academically, romantically, and financially, that he hates his appearance and lacks self-confidence, but from my interactions with him so far, I feel he's an exceptionally kind and naive person, and he also seems to have money so I'm not sure why he says he's failing financially. I just hear a lot of warnings about dating insecure guys but insecure guys don't usually say it so openly and casually so idk man.. help.

also important note: he's 30 and never been in a serious relationship in his life but i didn't think much of it because he comes from a muslim family and muslims usually don't do dating, but his excuse was different, he says girls are afraid of him because they assume he's toxic without giving him a chance (?)

I’m in a really difficult situation with my family right now and I don’t know what the right thing to do is.

My uncle is an alcoholic, he's extremely toxic, and has been aggressive and violent with me before. He recently gave me an ultimatum that I need to work. He can’t technically kick me out, but he can make my life miserable. He yells, bangs and breaks things, slams doors, becomes very threatening and has physically attacked me before. Once he grabbed me by the throat, and another time he chased me because I wasn’t answering him.

I currently have a serious health issue that makes working extremely difficult nearly impossible. Plus that I’m in recovery after stopping drugs and certain medications, and even months later I’m still struggling badly. One medication I quit has serious effects on the nervous system and it's like a neurological injury, not just withdrawal. I’m not myself yet, I can’t tolerate stress normally, and a lot of times basic daily things are difficult. I genuinely wish I could work and support myself, but right now I can't without triggering extreme symptoms.

I cant tell my uncle the details of my health problem, I don't want to either. He'd say it’s an excuse, and the conversation would become unproductive and he'd become very aggressive..I'm also trying to avoid any conversation with them.

So today I told him I'd start looking for work toward the end of September, mainly to buy myself some time. He told me to start now. I regret telling him I'd work because I should have stood up for myself and simply said no. But I also know that saying no would make my life much harder. He can yell at me and intimidate me, which is something I need to avoid, while he doesn’t treat my mother the same way.

My mother is currently in a much better position to work than I am, and my uncle knows this, but he isn’t putting pressure on her. I’m the youngest person here and I’m the one recovering from everything, and he knows that, but I’m the one being told that I have to work. He probably just doesn't like seeing me doing nothing, although I need a lot of rest. We have no financial problems so ..

My family, well they are treating me like I'm the enemy and they act like they resent me. They witnessed me at a severe point in my drug use,the drug use that my mother introduced me to, and I was barely able to speak and i was experiencing psychosis, and they still didn’t intervene. So there's that.

There is one grandfather I’m considering asking for help. He has the financial ability to help me move somewhere else for a few months while I recover. I recently told him that I have a health problem and that I won’t be able to take my exams this year. He was pressuring me about them for a long time. Not this time though. I stood my ground and told him we'll talk some other point in the near future when jm better.

We aren’t very close, and because he is part of the same family, I honestly don’t know whether he would understand or help me. He witnessed my drug use too and he was taking me for rides asking for my future while I was clearly in no position to talk. It was obvious...

I have about 250 €. I also have a friend in another village who said I could stay with him in an emergency, but I don’t think that would be a good solution. I wouldn’t have my own space or bed, and it would feel like I was escaping in panic rather than making a safe, planned move.

Things are a bit quiet this week so it's doesn't feel as urgent but I think it is. I’d also worry that my grandfather would see it as me running away and then wouldn’t want to help me later.

I feel trapped. I need to use this month strategically and figure out whether my grandfather might be willing to help me move. It would still be a risk, and I don’t currently have the capacity to handle conversations let alone difficult ones ,and all the logistics involved..But I could deal with finding housing and figuring everything else out if I at least knew he was willing to help, or was seriously considering it.

Any thoughts and advice would be very much appreciated!