(Context: Agender was an ""option"" of mine in the past (because I was confused about where to place myself))

A vent because I'm sad. :(

There's so much pressure to find a label to put on yourself. It's like people can't see you unless you label yourself.

You can't have community unless you have a label, it seems.

And if you say you don't like labels... well, I get the impression people think thats a bi/homophobic or transphobic dogwhistle?

I am just me and I don't know where I fit and I've been trying to label myself for a good 15 years now, and it all just hurts. :(

Today I got my drains out, five days after my surgery. My body is healing crazy fast and I am so grateful.

Tonight I took some time to really look at how my body is now and I feel SO good about how everything looks, even though I look massacred 😂. I opted for no nipples and I’m just so giddy with how everything looks. I wish I would have done this the first go-around but I was afraid before to have anything medically trans on record before. (Had a “medically necessary” reduction before.)

I wish the agender euphoria fairy visits you all tonight, and you feel connected to yourselves in small and large ways tomorrow.

Hi, first post here. I just wanted to hear about other people's feelings regarding gender and neurodivergence.

I am AuDHD and lived most of my life feeling like I don't really fit into any gender category. For a long time I tried to not actively think about gender expression or being able to choose whatever makes me feel most comfortable, I assume due to shame.

When I started going to therapy I quickly found out I was autistic aswell as ADHD. With time I found out that the overlap between the neurodivergent community and the queer community is huge - I believe society's rules are not made for either of those two groups. I am personally having a really hard time accepting myself as non-binary or anything other than my assigned gender at birth.

So I would love to know:

If you are ND and queer, which did you 'discover' first? Are there any strategies to survive a world not built for either of those? How do you deal with prejudice?

To feel more comfortable with my identity I'm trying to interact more with people like me, so any kind of comments are welcome.

Thank you and goodbye

Some people seem to think that seeing someone who is wearing pronoun pins or wearing too many pronoun pins is going to inspire impressionable voters to vote more extremely in another direction, and so it isn’t advisable to campaign with them on. Is there a lot of merit to this idea?

Me 28 (amab) just discoverd agender. I was bit sceptical cause i was growing up with "there are 2 genders and some people love to change that and thats it" but coming out of the closed as pansexual opend pandora's box.

First i thought i was non binairy then it thought i was genderfluid. This whenned on for a long time till i came across a video that someone identified themselfs as agender. Out of intrest i looked it up and everything made sence.

Because i was like that i just have a "manelyhood in my pants" and further i dont really found myself male nor female but also didnt feel the non binairy vibe or trans vibe and struggelt with pronouns. Then i came across agender like i sayed and if felled good to identify as it. With pronouns im more of a any/all type of person.

I’ve been going by Wren for 6 months. Then realised it’s rising in popularity as a girl name And have lost the euphoric feeling I used to get from it. I’m anxious that in 10years or so it will not be viewed as a neutral name.

But equally would be anxious to change it again, my social media, work colleagues and family/friends are getting used to using Wren

Hello! I am AFAB, and I was wondering if anyone had any makeup tips to look more androgynous. Thank you!

As a kid I always had this feeling that this body is not quite right. I allways had these moments where I kind of questioned if this was really my body because I allways felt very detached from my body. It felt like I was experiencing live in a third perspective like in games. I really wanted to have a female body because I hated to be in a boys body. Because I acted so differently as every other boy around me and really felt excluded. But then I saw girls who acted similar to me and had friends. And then I thought Mabye I should have been a girl after all and it was all a mistake. I had these feelings a lot mainly subconsciously.

I've been struggling with my identity for ages, and I feel like the label of greygender fits me the most. I don't feel like my sense of identity fits in any category of male, female or non binary (I know non binary is deliberately not binary, but I still don't feel like how enby people describe themselves). I also don't really relate to being agender either, as I am not apathetic to my sense of self, I care about labelling my gender a lot (probably a mix of identity OCD and the autistic need to put things in boxes). Agender is often defined as "not having a gender". I feel like I have something, but something unlabelable. It's there, but it's translucent, it's unable to be pinned down. Kind of like maverique ("a gender characterised by autonomy and inner conviction regarding a sense of self that is entirely independent of male/masculinity, female/femininity or anything which derives from the two while still being neither without gender nor of a neutral gender") but I lack the conviction and that firm sense of having a gender. For futher context, I also identify as greyaroace / greyrose (RO = romantic, SE = sexual), so I feel like a lot of my emotions are really wispy and lacking definition, which I really can't handle because it's painful to not understand yourself better by knowing you're not alone in your feelings by having at least a word to describe yourself. Like realising you're a zebra, not just a weird horse.

Anyway, greygender (and I am spelling it that way, I'm British) seems to have a very small community and doesn't get discussed a lot anywhere. I was just wondering if it and those that identified as it had been swallowed by the broader agender / genderqueer / nonbinary community / label, or whether it had just died out due to disuse. If so, that would be very sad. Plus, I don't even know which flag to use, since there's two. I'd prefer to use the one that doesn't have the weird stripe width ratio and uses the primary blue. It looks nonstandardised. I prefer the other one that matches the greyrose flag with the teal. The thing was I was thinking about the greygender label since there was a YouTube video about a person identifying as greyaroace that came out recently that made me feel more confident knowing that there were others and it hadn't died out, so I wanted to know if greygender was still around, too. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8iy8WMLPTMs