r/bisexual • u/Odd_District_6205 • 11h ago

DISCUSSION Is visual attraction apparent for both men and women?

M25. I’m trying to figure myself out. More about self identity than just looking for a label. I’ve always developed crushes on girls my whole life, felt butterflies around them, and visually attracted. With males, I have never felt that. Theres not any visual attraction for me and have never had butterflies talking to a man. For women I see a nice body/butt and it grabs my attention. Men there’s nothing that will do that for me. For one I’m curious how this is for any of you. If there is equal visual attraction or whatever. Even as far as male personality, there’s never been anything that appeals to me.

I read in another post on here someone said “I’m not attracted to males I just like sucking dick and getting fucked.” I think this could be me as I’m turned on by the idea of it but just don’t actually find males as a whole to be attractive. It’s like attraction to role/dynamics over actual appearance. Anyone experience this?

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u/ZhaozhouCongshen 11h ago

Yes I feel the same way. I feel no romantic attraction to men. Not saying it would never happen if I really clicked with someone.

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u/Odd_District_6205 10h ago

Do you feel like butterflies in your stomach around men&women? The feeling I get of attraction towards women like the tell tale signs, I’ve never experienced towards males.

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u/ZhaozhouCongshen 10h ago

Only with women. But I knew a guy and I knew for a fact that he liked me a lot. He was just waiting for me to say the word. He was so cute. I just wasn't there at the time and I think he knew it. He must have seen it in me, maybe the way I looked at him or reacted. But I didn't feel anxious around him.

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u/Odd_District_6205 3h ago

So you didn’t have any attraction to any of those features before having a same sex experience? I don’t find any male features erotic and women I really only find butt/face primarily erotic

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u/HughGeneWrites 4h ago

If you've recently had this desire for men, without attraction. It could be that you have never allowed yourself to be attracted to a man, because of upbringing and environment influences. If you develop a somewhat recurring encounter with the same man, even if it doesn't start with attraction. Try to let yourself feel attracted. Think about what you like about them other than their privates.

Do you like the way their skin feels? Do you like the shape of their body, muscles, the grit of their beard? Do you like how they are eager to please you or do you like how they let you please them. Try cuddling more, even if its after.

When you allow yourself to do these things without shame or fear, you will probably find you do have some attraction to men, even if its not as strong as your attraction to women.

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u/Odd_District_6205 2h ago

I think it’s more self focused on myself fulfilling a role. I wouldn’t cuddle with a man or kiss one. Idk it seems role based for me maybe some role based fantasy. Where my interest is, is not on the other person but 100% what I feel.