hello all. my babe is almost 3 months and is wonderful sleeper at night. she sleeps about 8 hours during her first stretch at night before she wakes up for a feed then sleeps another 3 ish hours. when we watch her on the monitor she wakes after her first 30 minutes or so and then spends 20-40 minutes awake ish but almost always falls back asleep on her own. if she fusses too much i go back in and put her back to sleep.

during the day she mostly contact naps but i do want her to start napping in her crib at least once a day so i can get some things done. we have been practicing putting her in the crib once a day, usually her second nap but starting to try with first. when she contact naps she often stirs after about half an hour and i shush her back to sleep and she’ll usually sleep for 1.5 to 2 hours. during her crib nap she wakes after 30 minutes and will not go back to sleep. i give her lots of time but she always ends up fussing or crying out after a while so i go get her.

looking for advice on supporting her to sleep a little longer in her crib!

OMG Y’ALL! As the title says. I’m shooketh. I was posting on here a couple months ago LOSING MY DAMN MIND with 45 minute wake ups throughout the night. Here I am on the other side. And I haven’t done anything different - still nursing to sleep, still cosleeping. He’s just growing up & naturally developing into a more sleep capable little bubs.

I’m absolutely not expecting this to continue, just to not get my hopes up lol but for this morning, I am celebrating 🙏🎉🥳

When you’re in the trenches of sleep deprivation it feels like you MUST be doing something wrong, you start questioning everything. The only thing I did start doing was capping day time sleep around the really really bad nights and that made a slight improvement in his sleep, but it was still really tough. He had 4 teeth coming in & was trying to crawl.

Just keep going, you WILL sleep again. I never thought it would happen to me 🥲

I am coming up to going back to work in 3 weeks' time (😭) with an 11 month old who was still often waking every 1-2 hours, maybe with an initial 3-4 hour stretch, with me being the solo responder every single night to feed back to sleep.

Everyone was telling me I can't keep doing this back at work, I would be too tired, I would have to sleep train, I would have to stop feeding to sleep, I would have to do something to change this. I didn't want to change anything, I was just planning to deal with it, plus she's going to go to daycare and probably get sick a lot and have bad nights because of that anyway, and I just didn't see the point. But the pressure people were giving me!!

But!! The last couple of weeks, things have slowly been improving where our best nights were becoming our normal slowly..... And then last night she did an initial 7 hour stretch and then slept through till morning and tonight an initial 8 hour stretch!!!

So eff all those people who told me she couldn't learn to do it all by herself and that I was hindering her sleep and mine. I have changed literally nothing about her schedule, the way she falls asleep, how I respond, nothing. She will sleep when she's good and ready, thank you very much.

I know we will likely go through rough patches again for various reasons. But she can do it!! And I'm so proud of her and so proud of me for sticking with it.

That's all.

Baby is 8.5 months and sleep has gone completely to shit. He’s always needed a lot of support around sleep (normally wakes 2-4x a night), but bedtime has recently become a nightmare.

At this point the schedule is roughly 3/3/3.5, and that’s just following his sleepiness cues. Sometimes WW are a little longer, but never under 3 hours. Total naps around around 2 hours, sometimes 2.5.
We just moved states. Dad isn’t here yet. He’s teething. Bedtime is taking 2 hours minimum. He feeds to sleep and then is ready to party but also fussy, rubbing eyes, and melting down. Nighttime is a whole different story. 4-6 wakeups a night, which used to be 2-3.

Is it just a transition thing? Not enough wake time (it seems weird to extend WWs when he’s clearly tired)? I tried Motrin at bedtime for teething and it made no difference. Am I doing something wrong? He’s going through so much, constantly pulling to stand and wanting to walk, plus a new place… I am just at my wit’s end solo parenting and so exhausted.

My LO is 11 months and we love bed sharing so I can easily nurse her back to sleep. We don’t want any more kids so I’m happy to get in all the baby cuddles that I can as hard as it can be sometimes. Anyways, when did you transition your LO into their own bed/back to their crib/their own room? Our crib sits in the corner of our bedroom collecting dust and I will be getting rid of it soon, but not sure if I want to try out a floor bed in our room/her own room or just continue on. Her bedroom is on the floor down from us so I am torn. Thanks!

(I also posted this in the cosleeping sub, but think I may get more responses here)

Were going to do our first hotel stay this weekend and im a little stressed about the sleep situation. I sleep on a very low profile futon on the floor with my 12 month old at home. He rolls a lot in his sleep and every time he wakes at night he immediately sits up, crawls, even stands on the rare occasion. I usually wake when he does, but sometimes i wake and find him sitting on the floor on the side of the bed…no clue what his manner of exit from the bed was…

We have done some traveling to families houses and had luck with just putting a mattress on the floor. I also slept with him once on a high normal bed that was against the wall. I put him on the wall side and it wasnt a problem.

Also, my husband does not want to entertain the idea of our baby sleeping between us. Husband is a fairly large guy and feels like he sleeps too deep and moves to much in his sleep. I am more comfortable with the idea than he is after all the books ive read about sleep. But not trying to start an argument right now.

So ideally we can put the mattress on the floor at the hotel.

But im planning for the event that there is not enough space to do that.

I want to preface this by saying I understand that bed bumpers and rails are not necessarily the safest option. I am just weighing pros and cons for the temporary situation.

I assume the bed will not be against a wall. So I bought these inflatable travel bumpers and I set them up today and I am so worried that my little guy would easily crawl over them in the night. And fall off the bed.

Any suggestions? Should i buy a bedrail? Not sure if we would be able to fit that in the car for travel

ETA: We cosleep for pure survival. We are bringing the pack n play as an ultimate last resort, but he currently wakes every 2 hours with cosleeping…so i am pretty sure no one would get much sleep with him in the pack n play all night.

ETA #2: There is a sofa bed in the hotel room. I am not sure why i did not think to look at the room photos and description online. My husband booked it months ago and im clearly sleep deprived this week lol. I think we will be able to easily put the mattress from the pull out sofa on the floor!

Wondering if anyone has advice about how to break the feed to sleep association once baby naturally stops BFing? Not a problem just now but I’m assuming it’s on the horizon. Thank you!

This is my 3rd baby and neither of my older kids did this so would love to know this is actually a thing (lol)
My 4 week old fights tooth and nail to sleep. Not just at night time, all day. This just started a few days ago. I change and feed her as soon as she wakes up and then try and get her back to sleep as I don’t want her wake window to be too long (made the mistake of doing that earlier on) and she will not settle. Screams and cries. It takes almost 2 hours for her to settle. Even while holding her, rocking her, in the carrier. Once she finally does start to shut her eyes it’s like clock work 5 min in she opens her eyes and starts looking around. I don’t dare put her down because I know she isn’t in a deep sleep yet. On top of the hours it takes to settle her, for her to actually be in a deep sleep takes another 30-45 min. Anyone else???

My 6 month old has generally been a relatively decent sleeper and a fairly high sleep needs baby.

We went through 4ish weeks of sleep challenges when she was 4 months old with fighting naps and being unable to link sleep cycles (all naps at 30 minutes). Luckily from 5 months onwards she had gone back to longer naps and we would get anywhere between 30mins to 2 hours. Night sleep would be between 7pm to 7am with one wake up for milk. Sometimes she would wake to happily babble in her bed for an hour and go back to sleep.

Now, for the last couple of weeks sleep is a mess again. She gets tired around 2 hour window with clear signs - rubbing eyes, staring etc., but trying to put her down is hell - screaming, kicking, hard to transfer. A lot of naps don’t go past 30 minutes and cannot be ‘saved’ despite her clearly being tired after waking up. At night she also wakes up multiple times screaming and being hard to put down (normally from 2am onwards). It is definitely not teething as we tried remedies to no effect.

My question is, is this a normal phase? Development? I am happy to keep supporting her, rocking and persevering through her distress, but I am worried about how tired she seems all the time upon waking up.

Babe is 12 months! (I think) I’m finding that with an earlier bedtime (like before 7:30p) my baby tends to sleep later in the morning between like 6:30/7a. But when I put him to bed closer to 8p he will wake up at 5:30/5:45a ready for the day….does anyone else find this?
Where it confuses me is if he wakes up at 4p from a nap I feel like putting him to bed at 7:15ish is not enough awake time….so what do I do lol

My baby was born at home, since the night she was born I have always coslept. I went into motherhood planning to cosleep because I believed in the bonding, health benefits, and breastfeeding support, we never even bought a bassinet. I woke her up every 2 hours to nurse until she hit her birth weight, and from then I’d let her sleep, however she’s always woken up every 2 hours on her own anyways. I carried her basically all day as a newborn, all naps were contact naps in the carrier, and I had her on me doing skin to skin as much as possible for the first few months of her life. She had reflux so up until she was 5 months old we slept chest to chest, and then she slept next to me nursing on and off throughout the night. From 6 months onward she’d basically be latched all night long, and had 2-3 months of waking up every 30-60 minutes.

She’s 12 months now and still needs to be near someone, still wakes up every 1-2 hours, and can not sleep in the car, stroller, or anywhere that isn’t touching someone. She will let others put her to sleep if I’m not in the room, so she’s not dependent on me or nursing specifically, but she definitely needs to be in contact with someone for both naps and night sleep. Throughout the past year I’ve tried at various points to get her to sleep in a crib attached to the bed, a separate mattress, even just a bit further than me on the mattress, but the max she’ll sleep is 30 minutes before stirring and getting super upset that she’s not touching someone.

My husband is telling me that for the next baby, we need to try a bassinet/crib from day one so we “don’t make these habits again”. He really believes that she got too used to cosleeping and constantly being near someone, so she never got the ability to learn that it’s possible to sleep on her own away from someone touching/holding her.

In my head I keep thinking this is just her temperament, even if I had put her in a bassinet from day one she might have just turned out to be a contact-seeking baby anyways. And if she wasn’t a contact-seeking baby, she would have made it clear that she doesn’t like being so close. But the comments start getting to me and I’m beginning to wonder if maybe he’s right. I did what I thought was best for her, but now I keep worrying that maybe I made her too dependent on touch and she could have been getting better sleep if I had just given her a chance to sleep away from someone.

I’m not sure if this has any basis in biologically normal infant sleep, but this sub aligns most with my thoughts so I thought I’d ask here. Thank you for reading!

Helpppp!! Feeling at the end of my tether. Do I sleep train? Finding it so hard and not being consistent with it as it breaks my heart seeing her cry so much. Shes getting so distressed she's turning herself over in her bassinet and she hasn't learnt to roll back yet therefore getting more frustrated so I end up going into her before the 5/10 mins.

She used to sleep great, put down awake but drowsy and go straight to sleep at 7pm - 2am for her first feed, back down and then wake at 7am. Since approx 4.5months - she is unable to go down without significant crying meaning myself or my husband have to rock her and sing her to sleep, when she wakes in the night she takes so long to settle, I end up putting her in my bed which she is definitely sleeping better in when being cuddled but still not great.

Me and my husband are now falling out frequently over this as we're both so fed up of taking 1hr+ to settle her every night and throughout the night.

Any advice so greatly appreciated

My 9 month old gets up multiple times a night I feed him back to sleep, which sometimes is draining but I am not wanting to do any sleep training. Anyways naps… he normally does two 60-70 minute naps a day recently he’s been wakening half way through and I go in and pat him or rock him back to sleep is this wrong should I let him wake? But I feel if he’s easily going back to sleep within two minutes he needs the rest.

Got an 8 month old here who is still on a very firm 3 nap/day schedule. Kind of expected to at least be transitioning by now but she still can’t and it more than 3 hours awake and currently sleeps 11 hours straight at night, so I’m not keen on forcing any changes!

But I’m curious, what age was your LO when they dropped the third nap?

My baby is just hitting 4 months. I’ve heard this is a good time to kind of add more of a schedule to their sleep.

I like the idea of this because if it helps my kiddo sleep better that’s great and I obviously want them getting enough rest for their brain development etc…. However I also don’t want to restrict myself and make myself go crazy by limiting all my life interactions due to set naps and bedtimes. We often go to grandparents for dinner for example and I don’t want to just have dinner and be like k bye gotta go cuz bedtime u know? How are people balancing these things? Any ideas or help is appreciated. Thanks.

Cosleeping with a 7 month old. I don’t mind it although I wish I could get more comfortable. Breastfeeding at night is a breeze. It’s just me and her in the big bed.

The problem is that I work nights (12 hours) several times a month. Hubs then has to take LO all day while I sleep and then all night while I’m working. Thankfully his mother stays overnight so she can take over after I get home, shower, nurse, and then get some sleep. Hubs definitely loves the snuggles and baby girl sleeps just fine with him despite the absence of boobs, so breastfeeding is not the limiting factor, but he absolutely cannot sleep when he’s got her, so he’s running on almost 24 hours awake by the time I get home. It would also be nice to not feel like I was hit by a truck every morning and maybe let hubs have his spot back lol.

Because of this we are making a concentrated effort to get her accustomed to sleeping in her crib. We rock and nurse to sleep and then either I or hubs will put her down, but she usually doesn’t stay asleep for long and wakes up crying. Last night we got about an hour and a half, but tonight she only slept 20 minutes and now she’s in my arms. We always end up back in the big bed.

We will absolutely not let her cry it out, but I do want to help her to feel safe enough in there at night that she’ll go back to sleep unless she’s hungry. Is that even possible?