So, there’s this young EIT with about a year of experience.
We interact very often and I feel like a mentor to her
And we talk very often. she always asks me work questions along with things like improving workflow and technical skills etc. She has a good enthusiastic attitude and you can tell she’s open/trying to learn.
Fast forward to today and her boss walks in and pulls her for a meeting and absolutely gets on her. They told her she’s the worst engineer on the team and that once she gets PIP’d she can never work for another company again. Just berating her. She asked her boss how she can improve and it was a laundry list of things she’s done wrong.
she then asked if there’s anything she’s doing okay at and he said “absolutely nothing” which I felt was wrong bc of what I actually see when she brings me her work for questions and also that’s no way to encourage someone new imo.
This particular team that she’s a part of works primarily remote. When they come in, no one greets her or asks about what she’s doing or if she has any questions. Based on what I’ve seen her work on, what she was assigned recently vs what they had her working on for at least half of her time here is night and day in terms of difficulty.
After she came out that meeting, I can tell she felt dejected but was trying to keep her head up. I invited her to lunch and we had convo so I could gauge her mindset. I asked her if she’d gotten feedback from her boss prior to today.
She said this is the most feedback she’s ever gotten from him. No 1:1, no goal meetings, and no performance reviews or evaluations prior to this.
I asked her about training in her group.
They just have them watch Bentley videos…
I asked her how often she asks for help.
She asks frequently and is either met with no response, people referring her to multiple other ppl, or if it’s her boss, responses where he responds to her extremely condescendingly.
I say all this to ask how would you encourage someone dealing with this to keep their head up and keep trying? I’m very very very compelled to tell her to leave, But I don’t want to overstep in anyway.
In my opinion, she’s very diligent and is trying her best considering the circumstances, but I don’t want her mental to get out of control and she just gives up all together.
How would you guys navigate this?