Kind of a vent but....
I’ve been looking into adopting a dog for a while, specifically a German Shepherd. I found an older dog from an advertisement I was really interested in and contacted a shelter/rescue per sms/whatsapp.
I only asked how the adopting process is at their shelter and got later suddenly a phone call from them.
The problem is, I have social anxiety and autism so I have problems with phone calls especially so sudden. So I wanted to be truthful and not find an excuse why I didn't take the phone call and apologized for not taking the phone call and explained that I'm not really a fan of phone calls/ that I got some difficulties with it and asked if its possible to ask further questions and the process per Whatsapp. (We were messaging on whatsapp already)
Immediately the worker goes. "No that doesn't work, forget it. Good luck."
Maybe I'm just sensitive but that really threw me off as I was just asking a question and they basically shut me off already. It's sad, it feels a little discriminating as I was just stating my prefered communication way. I understand they probably just try to find a good owner but even people with autism or social anxiety can treat pets well? I had already dogs and I went to dog school with them and socialized them, so it's not like I would avoid the whole world and just sit at home with the dog. I also think I have good living requirements for a dog. As I got a big apartment with a fenced garden, the dog wouldn't be long alone (maybe just 2 or 3 hours) and there are nice forest areas nearby so no big city.
Before they replied that I found their website and the whole adoption process and nowhere there is something about a phone call or anything like that. Just a form and some other stuff. Not even a home visit so I thought it would go well and would be perfect for me as the idea of a home visit also makes me anxious...
It's sad as this was my first Interaction with a shelter/rescue and it kinda frightened me away to give other shelters a try and just buy a puppy instead...
Maybe shelters/rescue aren't a thing for me? Or maybe I should have asked someone for help to assist me with the process of adopting? It definitely was a lesson for me that even nowadays many places aren't open minded to different kind of people and that I will have it difficult in the future without any help.
If anyone knows about a shelter/rescue in Europe with GSD's that doesn't require a homevisit and is maybe a little more "easy going" than my last experience and would also provide transport, I would gladly take any recommendations and look into it.
Sorry for any grammatical errors.
Edit because many people are misinterpreting:
No, I'm not complaining about needing to make a phone call, I'm complaining how the person responded rude. I simply asked something and stated my prefered communication way, I'm able to do phone calls just with more encouragemen to myself.
No I'm not a social wreck 24/7. Just phone calls and something that feels like I'm being judged by other people/ exam like what a home visit probably is like.
yes I got dog experiences, also bigger dogs like akita inu and other difficult breeds.
I informed myself about GSD since years ago. Been my favorite breed since a kid. I know they need structure and all that stuff. I'm planning to join a GSD-club and train it with all the help and resources I get.
I'm also just wondering why there are no other ways that are basically the same? Form basically same result as a phone call. Instead of a home visit maybe a Video of my apartment. Same result no?
Questions I have
How do shelters do home visits if the shelter is from another country? Is it maybe just sending a video of my place? Because I could imagine that being less stressful for me.