i really don't want this post to come across the wrong way or like i'm trying to invalidate anyone, but i've noticed recently that there are quite a few people who identify as trans men while still presenting completely feminine or hyper feminine, using feminine pronouns only, and not planning to socially or medically transition. i mainly see this on r /ftm and different naming suggestion subreddits, and then get offended when they are masculine names. i'm obviously not talking about people who have to present a certain way for their safety or they aren't in a position where they can come out. i think i'm mostly confused because my own experience was so different. when i came out, i immediately started doing everything i could to present and be recognized as male in both my personal and professional life. i know that presentation doesn't necessarily determine someone's gender. maybe i'm just not completely up to date with how people are describing their identities now, and that's on me.

Quit bc I'm too paranoid to shower in public place but hated going home all greasy, also used to ruminate between sets and overall gym was making me feel worse than better. I hate being skinny and weak but i also hate sweating in the crotch bc it reminds me of my genitals. I know it's lowk pathetic of me but idk i really don't miss how shitty my mood used to get in the gym. I work in a warehouse so im not zero fitness but it only gives me some muscle definition on good days and no mass. I hope to have phallo next year, idk how it goes and when i will be able to lift but i hope to be be able to start lifting peacefully after all :(

I'm just curious as it's so under discussed. I hadn't even heard of the condition until after my hysterectomy with oophorectomy, the biopsy notes said that they found symptoms of adenomyosis in those organs (as well as several cysts on the ovaries). I dealt with some insane pain before my hysterectomy and if I hadn't gotten it then I may have just suffered in silence. I remember being in so much pain and dysphoria it felt like my body was trying to self destruct from the inside out. I had been on progesterone to stop the bleeding but it became ineffective after a while, as was testosterone. I'm so glad to be done with that nightmare now.

Basically my voice is not passing at all and even when i try my best at training it it just sounds like a woman's. It has already changed a great deal from what it used to sound like but im afraid im stuck like this

I currently live in the US and get my testosterone prescribed to me from a clinic specialised in hormone therapy/sexual wellness. I was wondering how different it the process is in Germany/if anyone had any clinics they recommend?

i've been growing out my hair since '24, but it's time for it to go. i know if i put myself on passing subs, i'll be ripped to shreds despite being stealth for a couple years.

trans man life hacks is in hell, so should i just go to men's hair subs for advice?

Hola , yo hablo español y tengo 18 años , soy nuevo Aqui en reddit no se donde pedir consejos , pero soy chico trans desde hace unos 2 años , no estoy en testosterona pero me gustaría entrar en 6 años mas , tengo el problema que sufro de un tc4 ( trastorno alimenticio ) yo antes era gordito ,por ese mismo motivo tenía muchos pechos y mucha cadera y me daba inseguridad por que me hacía sentir mujer , ahorita mismo estoy pesando 49-50 kilos , Pero siento que me sigo viendo mujer y gordo , mi mayor miedo de inyectarme es engordar mucho y ponerme muy caliente.
No se que hacer.

No se si recomiendan algunos cortes de cabello , algun estilo de ropa, por más masculino que me vista me veo insuficiente.

Y si , Voy a mucha terapia desde los 13 años.

19yo here. i went on testosterone in april of 2025, and months later began getting sick. my liver levels kept going up. my ALT was at 475 a unit, and my AST was at 273 a unit.

i’d gotten sick, which i believe was the trigger for my health issues. i couldn’t sleep one night because i was extremely itchy and nauseous. i got up, went to the bathroom, and looked at myself in the mirror. there were yellow hives ALL OVER my stomach, thighs, and chest. i called my mom and she said we’d go to the hospital in the morning. i go back to sleep. a few hours later, she wakes me up (around 3am) and says we’re going now because she’s worried. we go to the hospital, we’re there until 7am with pretty much no answers. they noticed i did have an undiagnosed uti, which maybe could’ve contributed to it.

for months we went to doctors. they tried to diagnose me with autoimmune hepatitis, but there wasn’t enough evidence of it… so they did a liver biopsy. still not enough evidence. they said there was inflammation, but no cirrhosis. they said the testosterone was likely not the cause. my mother thought otherwise.

so in october, we tried going off of my testosterone for a bit. i got better, and my mom concluded it was likely the injections.

i really miss being on testosterone, but i’m worried my liver will get inflamed again. is it maybe because i was doing the injections? would the gel work better? i’m not sure, but i never got the chance to get all the results i wanted out of t and would really like to get back on it.

My height is my biggest issue with passing (4'10") yes im aware there are cis men that height. Yes im aware theres nothing wrong with being a short man. My height and hand size and even my shoe size (size eu 33 or a size us 2) and literally I think about how much I hate these things multiple times a day. It makes me feel like I have to be in the cute uwu space instead of more masculine ones and yk I do lean into it because I could never be happy with myself if i tried tk be masculine at this height; it just feels like a lipstick on a pig type of thing.

Hey I start a blue collar job, building ships in the heat all day on the 21st of this month. That was very blunt. But nobody will know I’m trans and Im very deep in the south. I need recommendations on binders that I can wear doing physical labor. Idek if something like this exists to be honest. But I need a fix for this pretty quick. I’m not small chested. Last I checked which was many many years ago I was a D36 chest size. I’m on T and will soon get back to working out so that’ll go down if it hasn’t already, but if anyone has suggestions please tell me what they are and just tell me about the binder in general. ANYTHING YOU CAN. thank you. I’m not expecting them to be 100% safe. I just need them to be not so bad that I need to be sent home. Good enough where I can tough it out. Thank you again.

I recently applied for a passport. I have already changed everything legally in my state. I am expecting the passport to have the wrong gender marker, but seeing if anyone has advice to get around that. I received a letter from the US DOS stating they need the documents that I used to change my birth certificate, which are the original and the court documents. I don't want to send the original in, but if I don't they may deny the application and I will have wasted time and money. Seeing if anyone has advice on this matter and if they were able to get around it. I don't travel much so this passport won't be used often, but it will be annoying or potentially unsafe if TSA noticed the discrepancy and calls me out.

Like in title; I've been out for around 6 years (pre-everything bc I just turned 18), but I could never comfortably wear boxers (or even any longer "boy short" type underwear) because they hike up like crazy. I have a unit so that is probably the reason why. Has anyone here had a similar problem and solve it? Unfortunately I'm not strong enough to walk around with a wedgie all day.

So I just got a new binder from gc2b as a gift, but I'm really worried. It does work, compression is good. For conext it's the racerback and I haven't worn binders for a few years cause I gained weight. But problem a. Theres a gap at the bottom (it's the half one) and from what I remember it shouldn't stick out. And the straps are tight, I can FEEL the stitching and it HURTS, it looks like normal stitching, from what I remember my old binders, they're not supposed to hurt, then continue to hurt after taking it off (writing this like 10min after taking it off), it's supposed to feel like a normal tank top with compression. My glamma who got them, says itll be ok after I wash them, Google says it might be cause they're new but idk. If y'all have any answers please lmk. Thank you

NSFW !!!

Hi, I was hoping to talk about what changes testosterone does on genitals ; it's hard to get infos on internet or with doctors.

I've been on T for 3 years now

-I experienced bottom growth, now nothing unusual, but then some dots started to appear. It's kind of like white pimples located all around the head/glans of the tdick. Later it started to appear on the inside part of the lips too.

Doctors confirmed it's not a STD, and from what I searched it kinda looks like "pearly crown" that some cis man experiences.

-I also experienced some growths around the anus ; in two places, there's more skin, in the shape of a flat teat. I've never done anal so it's not prolapsus.

Can someone relate ? It's frightful to see your body change and no one is able to explain clearly what's normal and what's not...

Thank you and be brave fellow comrades !

A bit embarrassed to post about this, but I seriously need help. (Not sure if this is the proper subreddit for this, so sorry if that isn't the case.)

Quick warning, this might be a bit gross.

So I'm not that new to binding, I've done it for a while, but this is a more recent issue I've been having. I think it's because of the binders? I've been rocking gc2b for a bit before switching to using Fluxion, the gym racerback ones.

For some reason, along my back and below my chest where the binder ends, I keep getting what looks like ringworm. Little circular splotches of discolored skin. They don't itch or burn, but they're just... there, and I feel like something's up.

I have two binders, and they fit fine, they're comfy, no pain or discomfort. I alternate between the two while one of them is drying after being washed.

What I don't get is I'm pretty sure I'm doing everything right? At least I think I am?

I make sure I don't bind for super long periods of time, I wash them every time after use, I don't sleep in them. I'm handwashing them with cold water, with sensitive skin detergent and hanging them to dry, and I only put them on when they're 100% dry. I also shower 1-2 times a day, so I don't think it's a me thing.

For now, I've been just applying ointments which usually makes them fade away.. but like... What is going on? Am I missing something or? Something's not right here.

Recently I learned that for folks assigned male at birth, sitting to pee is significantly healthier. They’re much less likely to have pelvic floor issues or prostate cancer when they sit to pee.

I used to get nervous about peeing in the men’s bathroom thinking I’d be “found out” with the sound hitting the bowl but since I found that out I haven’t. 🤣 Now when I imagine if a weirdo hypothetically said something about me peeing in the stall I imagine just telling them those facts, like bro I don’t want prostate cancer!! Since learning that I also learned cis men who sit to pee are a lot more common than I realized, so that’s helped a lot too with my bathroom anxiety.

Thought I’d pass it along in case anyone else would find it helpful.

Okay sorry I know this has probably gotten asked before but I find it more helpful to ask again for my specific experiences than to scour the sub for some other post that might be close enough to what I'm wondering 🙏 it's also easier to turn to reddit than it is to pay planned parenthood out of pocket for an appointment lmfao

I'm about 4 months on T (.2ml subq weekly), and have been taking 1mg of daily oral finasteride mostly consistently alongside it because I have worries with hair thinning and balding - which is not *horrible*, but is still prevalent in the men in my family. I'm 20 now so I don't know for sure how long I'd have before the genes go after my hair, but my oldest brother is 32 and I've noticed his developing bald spot for a few years now. It's hard for me to tell with my other brother because they both sport freaking buzzcuts like losers but yk, my dad and uncles and grandfathers on both sides don't have the greatest heads of hair.

However! I've been seeing more stuff about how it can mess with bottom growth and possibly also vocal changes? I want pretty much every change that comes with taking T *apart* from losing my head hair, but the thought of losing the effectiveness of the T in the other areas worries me :/

I am taking it orally because I have a cat and had concerns for it spreading to him, but also really because I am very bad at routines and consistency (unmedicated ADHD) and am unsure if I'd be able to stick to applying a topical treatment daily LOL

So my questions basically are:

- is my fin dose enough to truly impact other effects of T?

- if yes, how much work is it to instead keep up with a topical treatment while having pets?

- what is the difference between finasteride & minoxidil? and is oral minoxidil an option/helpful/have the same negatives as the fin, etc etc

- I assume that topical stuff costs more (goodrx is not the most helpful in trying to figure this out), but does it last as long? I understand that this can vary.

if you have any other related insight / advice I will very gladly take it!!

I really don't want to lose my hair but I'd like to do the not losing it in the most effective way for my transition lol 🙏

Hey, I’m currently offering free personalized training and diet coaching while I study for my NASM certification.

I hate to see how few resources exist for people pursuing non-medical masculinization. I want to help my fellow AFAB folk achieve the physique they deserve, while I continue to develop my specialty.

I’m essentially looking for kickstarter clients who are willing to help me practice while I learn. Whether you take testosterone or not, we can tailor your training and nutrition to you and your goals, making them that MUCH easier to achieve.

Of course, there are limitations to what diet and exercise can change, and I make no promises to rearrange your skeleton or unburden you from the shackles of estrogen 😭 But I can help you take advantage of what personalized training and proper nutrition can change, and help you get as close to your ideal as healthily possible.

This is absolutely FREE. Tips/donations are greatly appreciated, but they are never required, or expected.

If you’re interested, DM me for the form so we can get things started. Don’t be a shy guy, be a Mulan. I may just make a man outta you

Anyone been on injectable estrogen blockers (Gonadotrophin)? GP offered them if a raised Test dose doesn’t suppress my estrogen back to normal levels but I’ve only heard of friends taking oral suppressants (raloxifene), think I will just accept the offer even with raised test dose but looking for any experience people have had considering ralox sent me crazy for four weeks

Hello there, a while ago I bought myself the Godor XL STP from axolom. It's looks amazing, feels amazing and I can even wear it without the harness (tighter boxer trunks under boxer briefs) and using it is almost no problem for me. Almost. There's always just a little bit of liquid flowing back and out of the stp. I've tried adjusting the way I hold it, basically cupping the "balls" with one hand while the other one does the aiming, but the issue persists. I haven't had any such issue with my first ever STP, which was a very cheap one with a much smaller "cup" funnily enough.

I thought the problem could be solved by putting it farther back so there'd be no backflow to begin with but that only leads to spillage at the front and that's much worse...

I really hope I haven't made a mistake in purchasing this STP and it's just a skill issue on my part lol

(Also, what do you do with your old STPs? Keep them as spares? Turn em into art?)

My girlfriend (17F) and I (17 FTM) have known each other for about 6 months (date 4 months). I told her I’m trans at the start of us dating, and she’s been making weird comments.

She has some condition where her periods are really bad, and she said we’re going to go together for a uterus-removal surgery and that it's a "date idea", "matching surgery" - ik she was joking but it was weird. She also said things like “you don’t have balls” or that she doesn’t care what’s between my legs, she likes “trying new things,” and that she’s okay with giving me head.

I hate talking about trans stuff, and her comments make me feel really fucking weird. I don’t want her to think about me like that ('the trans bf'). I don’t want her to think about what’s going on inside my pants - I just want her to treat me normally. She’s only said stuff like this couple times and I never encouraged it rather told her to stop, it’s still really weird.

What should I do or say to make her stop? Having a uterus-removal surgery is not an matching activity to do with your boyfriend. Like, what the fuck, why would she say that? I just want her to treat me normally, i hate when ppl know this shit, her comments make my dysphoria skyrocket, especially cuz i can't get HRT utill im 18 and I'm miserable

Edit: and I forgot to mention, it's a LDR and we never fucked before

Hoping to find more likeminded guys. Theres a small group of us that meet regularly and are pretty stealth/cis passing. We’re a pretty laidback bunch. Usually get food, drinks and play cards/billiards at a bar. Would love to expand our group and build camaraderie!