I’m (33, M) modeling for an artistic nude photography series celebrating the male body - all different types of men. I spent most of yesterday completely naked. Everyone on set was gay, incredibly kind, respectful, and professional, and the photographer is a close friend - a gay Vietnam War veteran and established artist. I trust him completely.

What caught me off guard was how emotionally vulnerable I felt. I’m actually pretty shy, and my body has always felt very private. Standing there naked for hours, knowing everyone could see everything, was embarrassing in a way I wasn’t expecting. People had to adjust the lighting, point things out, discuss what they were seeing, etc.

Nobody made me uncomfortable - it was just the strange, intense feeling of having absolutely nothing left to hide. My penis was literally just out there for everyone to see.

Now I keep wondering if I’m really okay with fully nude photos of me existing in the world for other people to see. Part of me thinks it’s meaningful and beautiful, but another part feels incredibly exposed and wonders if I’m making myself too vulnerable.

I will go first. My favorite one is Latter Days 2003 film.

I'll be 29 this month. I've known I was gay from a very early age. I haven't told anyone in my personal life that I'm gay except for my therapists. However, as I am approaching 30, I am tired of not fully living in my truth and not expressing my true self. I've actively tried to hide it especially from my dad and brother because they are both big homophobes. My dad and brother always expressed negative views towards gay men. A lot of their homophobia is rooted in misogyny, anti-feminism, and toxic masculinity. They're of the mindset that a man who is sexually attracted to other men is less of a man. I already know if I were to reveal to them that I'm gay they wouldn't be happy about it and 9 times out of 10 would have a negative reaction. Because of this I think it probably would be in my best interest to not tell them.

However, that isn't to say that I will remain closeted to everyone in my life. I think I will only reveal my sexual orientation to people I trust and feel safe with and with who I feel like could be an ally. I also realize that as a gay man why would I want to be around homophobes? Aside from my father and brother's homophobia, they're also not really the type of men I want to be around anyway because I find them to be toxic people in general and have only maintained a relationship with them out of toleration.

Do you think it would be ok if I wore a skirt to a local cruising area. I'm not passable but like the freedom of wearing one

Has anyone had a prescription for either of the injectable PrEP options, Apretude or Yeztugo, filled at Walmart? I work at a Walmart Pharmacy, so I know I could ask whether we can order and dispense them, but I currently don’t feel comfortable asking my coworkers. I’m wondering whether Walmart pharmacies can order and dispense them, or whether they have to come from a specialty pharmacy.

For anyone with Walmart insurance, are either of these medications covered for you? Apretude is given every two months after the initial two injections one month apart. Yeztugo is the newer twice-yearly option, with two injections every six months after the initial starter dosing. Yeztugo would be my preferred option if I can get it covered.

I’m currently taking generic Truvada, but I’m interested in switching to an injectable option, partly because these medications don’t contain tenofovir and therefore don’t have the same kidney-related considerations as Truvada. I checked my Walmart insurance website, and it appears that both medications are covered with a $0 cost. However, because of some medical issues earlier this year, I’ve already reached my out-of-pocket maximum for the year, so I’m not sure whether the $0 cost is because of that or whether they would normally be fully covered.

If anyone has experience getting Apretude or Yeztugo through Walmart, especially with Walmart insurance, I’d really appreciate any information. Thank you!

Question is as it stands. Outside of sex are there aspects to gay community and life that you actively enjoy? Would you change it if you could?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and I’m genuinely curious to know if there are other gay guys who feel the same way. Sometimes I find it hard being attracted to men while also having such a different view on relationships. I’m not interested in casual sex, hookups, Grindr or constantly going from one person to another. I actually left social media altogether because I realised that kind of environment just isn’t for me. I’m quite a private and reserved person, and I really value privacy, commitment, loyalty and more traditional values in a relationship. And btw, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with people who choose to live differently — everyone has their own choices and I respect that. I just feel like it’s really difficult to find someone who genuinely shares the same values as me. What makes it even harder is that whenever I talk to a guy about these things, he’ll often agree with me… but then I get the feeling he’s just saying what he thinks I want to hear because he wants something from me. Later on, their actions show that they don’t actually think or live that way. It’s made me wonder if people who genuinely think like me are really that rare. For me, sex isn’t the centre of a relationship. It’s something that naturally comes when there’s a real connection between two people. I like things to have meaning. I want to genuinely get to know someone, build trust, fall in love and eventually have a relationship where both people actually choose each other. I honestly don’t really understand the mindset of constantly moving from one person to another, as if one like on Instagram or someone appearing on an app is enough to suddenly become interested in them. Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but to me intimacy isn’t something you just do for the sake of doing it. It means something when there’s a real connection behind it. And honestly, in my 20-something years, I’ve only met one person who, without me even bringing the subject up, spontaneously told me that he saw things in a very similar way. I was genuinely shocked. For the first time, I felt like I was talking to someone who actually understood what I meant, instead of simply agreeing with me to please me. And it made me realise how much I miss finding someone like that. So my question is genuinely: are there more gay men who think this way? Men who are more reserved, value commitment, loyalty and a genuine relationship, who aren’t really interested in casual sex or constantly meeting new people, and who still believe that intimacy and relationships should have meaning? Why does it sometimes feel so difficult to find people like this? :(

as the title suggests, my bf of 4 months (not that long, i’m aware) broke up with me today after confessing that he doesn’t, and never loved me. there were signs, but i ignored them like a moron because i need as much support as i can get right now because my father just passed away, not even a month ago. does anyone have any advice on how to move past this because it’s really crushing rn

So i’m(24m) quiet a big guy (very chubby), so shaving is kind of hard tbh and i usually use a shaving machine, is there anything better and easier to use? And what are some tips regarding shaving do y’all have?

Hi guys! Bi - probably gay - guy here (48). I would love to hear from any of you who have come out later in life. Advice needed.

Hello! I don’t really know how to start this but recently I have decided to really start loving myself. Just got out of a situationship (maybe I’ll post about that in the future) and I forgot how to love myself. I do some things already to help build myself back up but I’d love to hear all ideas. Here are some things I do

-Walking around downtown, AirPods in and people watching

- Taking myself out for dinner/a drink or two

-Exploring new areas and connecting with new people

- Focusing on hobbies, Old and New

-Everything shower (I’m talking eye mask, candles, body scrub, lotion/oils)

But alas still feeling lonely so please any recommendations will be helpful. Also don’t know if it matters but I’m M25.

Hello, just an advice abot if you guys know about meet other guys here on Reddit. I’m in FL, so, that’s all.

Hallo Leute, Ich würde gerne Wissen wie ihr dazu steht? Ich habe es an mir entdeckt nachdem Ich mein Partner beim Fremdgehen erwischt habe. Er macht es immer noch, immer wieder mit verschiedenen Jungs - Männer, Dates über dating apps und in sex-clubs , bars, ect. Und ich finde es mittlerweile geil. Am liebsten ficke ich ihn davor und danach 😛

Was ist daß? Das ist doch nicht normal oder? Am anfang war ich verletzt und böse, doch musste feststellen dass er ein geiles schwein ist der wohl nicht anders kann und es immer wieder tun wird. Also entweder trennen oder akzeptieren. Ich liebe ihn und finde ihn sexuell auch noch so geil anziehend daß Ich es akzeptiert habe und daraus hat es sich irgendwie entwickelt dass Ich es jetzt richtig geil aufregend finde wenn er fremdgeht. Sehr geil macht mich daß wenn er denkt Ich wüsste Nichts davon daß er gerade bei jemanden war der ihn gefickt hat und dann ficke ich ihn geil danach.

Grrrr. Ich weiß für den einen oder anderen wird es unvorstellbar sein. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Only use the app a couple of times a week but I always spend more time on there than I want to, always feel better when leaving it for a day, it’s a toxic app with unrealistic expectations for men’s bodies.

Hey guys,

I’ve been meaning to write this for a while. I’ll give a little context before getting into the crux of it. I’m 32 and have a Master’s degree in foreign languages. I currently work as an adjunct instructor at a local university—it’s contract-based and pays peanuts, but it’s deeply satisfying since I get to teach language majors.

I’ve been applying for other jobs on the side, but it’s been brutal, to say the least. The job market feels completely stagnant right now. I’m not claiming to have some ultra-niche, magical skillset, but I speak three languages fluently and three others well enough to hold my own. I’m also prepping for a national certification exam that would credential me as a sworn legal translator.

On paper, all of that sounds pretty solid. Yet I feel completely stuck. A close friend of mine just landed a major job opportunity today—and while I’m genuinely happy for them, I’ve been on the verge of tears all evening because I just don’t know what else I’m supposed to do. On top of that, I feel like a terrible person for even feeling this way. I keep asking myself: What if I pass this translation exam and nothing actually changes?

To add another layer to it all, I’m gay and still in the closet. That weight alone takes a massive toll on me. I’m a total introvert, so talking about this stuff openly with people in my real life feels almost impossible, which is why I’m turning to this space.

How do you deal with feeling worthless? How do you stop comparing your timeline to everyone else’s? And how do you convince yourself that you’re actually not a total waste of space?

Key accessories to bring into a gay sauna?

Interested to hear from other men what personal items you may bring, have seen others bring or recommend to bring into play spaces in a gay sauna.

Obviously venues provide condoms, lube, large towel and refreshments but notice some guys bring their own things.

Could be:

- Small bum bag/waist bag (to have personal medication- ie asthma)

- Small cotton face washer

- travel sized tissue pack

- Wearing and bringing along rubber/plastic shoes/slides

- Silicone lube (often only waterbased lube provided)

- Condoms (if needing non standard sized condoms provided)

Thoughts on the above and what other things?

On my previous post I told the story how I was curious so I tried with a guy for the first time ever but I had that quilty and disgusting feeling afterwards. So I processed it, thought about it, had flashbacks of everyhting that went down with this one twink and how I enjoyed it. And I will say that I would definetly want to try again. The way I felt when he took the lead and took the charge, when he kissed me and grabbed me everywhere without asking me (we both agreed on that), the way I was so turned because of it and not to forget the first time getting a bj from a guy and also giving a bj to a guy for the first time. All of it was great.

So it is safe to say that the guilty feeling and disgust in my throat dissapeared and I would definetly want to try again. (but only with a twink, femboy or feminine guy. They are the only ones that turn me on).

Now one question remains. Does this make me officialy bi? I never imagined myself being part of LGBTQ

Hey I’m 24 now and it’s been already 6 years since Covid and I still remember every moment. We spent hours and hours chatting and talking, you were insecure about your homosexuality and you’ve always been dreaming about moving out from Russia to Germany so that we could live together one day. You promised me that one day we’ll meet and finally be together forever but it ended sooner than expected. Distance grew between us and we no longer talked as the virus spread all across the globe and I got sick and even lost people whom I thought I’d never lose. I know that the possibility of you reading my message in this group is pretty low, but if you ever did, I hope you’re having the life that you dreamed of cuz there will always remain a place for you in my heart Roman.

I’m 25M living in Australia and I’ve reached a point where I really want to start exploring my sexuality with other men. I’m fairly inexperienced and feeling a bit unsure about how to approach it.

I've heard about the various hookup apps and sites, but I'm not really sure how to go about it. Any tips on what to put in a profile or how to start the conversation without it being awkward?

I’d ideally like to have at least a little connection and feel comfortable with the person, although I don’t want to be too close as I don’t know how I’ll feel once I actually experience it.

Any advice, tips or stories about similar situations would be greatly appreciated.