Hello y'all, It's been a while since I made one of these posts. I'm a big fan of us (mod team) consulting the sub to make sure we are on the same page.

I'm curious about having a conversation with the sub about some of the ways I feel we don't always represent the sub, specifically in a pretty specific way we mod that isn't clearly reflected in the rules.

We don't include anything about sexualization in the rules but I find we do remove a handful of creepy comments from time to time that technically don't fit Rule 1 but we interpret within it. Like any social media, whenever a picture of a woman gets posted, there's a handful of comments that sexualize the image even when it's poster had no intention of that being done. An example being recently where someone posted their daughter's dorm room and a few posters chose to comment on the looks of his youngish looking daughter (it creeped me out). Another example is that any picture of the wives of hockey players has the same creepy comments that sexualize them even when it's not contextually relevant to do so.

We are never going to be a sub that allows hockey cosplays or OF type promotions but we are also not exactly going to shut down meaningful, depth inducing conversation because it has sexual connections to it (Mailloux draft conversations being an example).

I also know that it could be rough to be a woman on the sub if every post featuring women features comments like 'that ass tho" "Nice 🍑 on her... 🥵" " don't know much about hockey or decor, but I do know that your daughter will be passed around at a frat house rager just before midterms marks are released. This will be followed up by her running a train on the basketball team...(frick, this comment goes on a lot more, it got grosser)" "meme of a man drooling" "oh hubba hubba daddy likey... who is this lil foxy minx in the middle with the short hair... meow meow hubba hubba daddy likey lotta cheeze whiz" "Difficult to know who the biggest tits are" "Hooters, hooters...yum yum yum.Hooters, hooters...on a girl that's dumb."

Those comments are just from 2 posts, I left a lot out too. I get that the sub has more men then women posting on it and that adult content will always have a place but some of those comments creeped me out.

So my question to the sub is, where do you want us to draw the line? We dont want to go overboard with modding but at the same time, we don't want to be a place that attracts creeps. Should we have a more formal rule or is it just self-explanatory that you shouldn't be a creep?

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