I'm iraqi, one of the most homophobic and misogynistic societies in the world (not that it's a competition) but I'm a bisexual woman, I've been struggling with conflicting emotions regarding relationships, on one hand i want to cut all the homophobic people off which is... everyone, on the other hand i truly care and yearn for some of these people.. but how can you long for people who'd want you dead? idk maybe because I'm still young but yeah... especially my cousins, I'm the eldest and i watched everyone grow and some of them used to look up to me and try to impress me and shit but now we just see each other in family gatherings and barely talk (covid also played a part in this), I'm also the cousin who doesn't keep in touch and doesn't text anyone for reasons mentioned, I wish i can be there for them and see what they're interested in now and all of that but I've seen how they talk about lgbtq.. i can't simply "educate them" cause rhat means I'd be at risk of getting exposed and maybe even violated or worse because in iraq this happens all the time so I'm not risking my chances, it's a very lonely place to be.... and every time people talk about the future i just can't see myself with them even tho I don't see myself anywhere, I'm 22 and i fear this loneliness is going to affect how i interact with the world. At uni i have friends and I'm known as a very honest person but they still don't know I'm queer and i have this wall between me and everyone, I'm never too close to anyone but i did confide in them in some of my issues (they're also raging homophobes). I don't know what to do? i want to experience life and have friends but i also want to respect myself and stay away from people who think people like me deserve to not exist (one of my favourite friends once drew a pic of a "femboy gore (he deserves it because he's gay)" i was so shocked that this intensity could come from her but also not entirely surprised.. so guys.. do you have advice on how to set boundaries in cases like this or how to not let people have access to me without being miserable?? uni is very difficult i need some people to not drown in the pressure.

by the way my uni is religious lol I'm so fcked

So im mostly straight, i love woman of all shapes and sizes

But, some really pretty guys just have me fiending, and it sucks cuz its mostly found in fiction, tho some irl guys have hit the mark, but its just really frustrating cuz i am REALLY attracted to this genre of guy and yet they're so hard to find

And its probably not what youre thinkin, not the Ryan goslings, nor ultra fem cross dresser femboy, the guys gotta have the perfect blend of feminine and masculine traits, or else my body will just not react to them, but when they do strike that balance, its damn near more attraction to them than any woman, there was a guy i briefly dated who almost struck the balance and seriously kissing him was amazing (unfortunately our personality among other things didn't align so it didn't last long) and it also feels like a sick joke cuz on these apps i have SO much success with dudes, 10x more than the ladies, and yet my body just refuses, it feels lile torture

I’m a girl in my late teens and I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. But I’m bisexual and have known since I was around 9 years old. I have a small thing with a girl but nothing serious. I love my boyfriend but sometimes I feel left out or crave the feeling of having a girl friend. Is it bad that I feel this way? I love my boyfriend and wouldn’t trade him for the world but I want to experience something with a girl.

Lmk if this is a common experience ☹️✌️

Sexuality is such a weird thing.

I’m a trans guy but I used to be a masc lesbian before I figured it out. I was a lesbian for many years and couldn’t fathom the idea of dating a man. When I came out as trans, it was like a light switch in my brain and I also came out as bi because I wanted to date men as a man. My preference slowly switched from women to men until I didn’t want to date women anymore. Now I’m gay. I collected the entire LGBTQ like Pokémon 🏳️‍🌈

So recently I’m thinking I might be bisexual. I feel sexual and romantic feelings towards women, but only mild romantic feelings towards men, and no sexual feeling towards men. Is this bisexual or does it count as something else??

For a while I felt comfortable just saying im a Trans Woman and going about my day but lately I feel like neither a man nor a woman. Whatever my body is feels irrelevant at this point even if I still hate it.

Am I just larping? Does anyone get what I mean?

I think we need to stop meowing 🥲

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/s/82uMbHWL5F

​Namoro uma garota trans e moramos em uma cidade pequena, onde quase todo mundo se conhece. Hoje fomos ao mercado e, enquanto eu estava em outro corredor, ela foi ao açougue. Na hora de atender, o rapaz do balcão (um cara de no máximo 26 anos) chamou ela de "amigão". Obviamente foi de propósito por ela ser trans.

​Ela não me chamou na hora e só me contou tudo no caminho de volta para casa. A reação dela nesses casos é ficar triste, se fechar e ignorar para não gerar confusão nem se expor.

​Quando ela me contou, me veio um misto de raiva e impotência por não estar do lado. Fiquei com vontade de voltar lá, arrumar briga ou tirar satisfação, mas sei que isso só deixaria ela ainda mais desconfortável, já que ela odeia barraco e o foco dela é não prolongar a situação.

​Quero me preparar para saber como agir da melhor forma nas próximas vezes, porque sei que infelizmente pode acontecer de novo.

​Para quem passa por isso (seja sendo uma pessoa trans ou parceiro/a):

​Se eu estiver junto na hora: Qual é a melhor postura para impor respeito e não deixar o cara folgar, mas sem criar um show que vá deixar minha namorada mal?

​Se ela me contar depois: Como ser o melhor apoio possível no momento em que a poeira já baixou, sem passar a sensação de que estou pressionando ela a reagir diferente?

Old version. New version

Isse/Isser/Issem set. lze/Izer/izem set

O/tir/kir set O/ter(tyr)/ker(kyr)set

(Still said the same)

Lue/lim Lui/lim

I (15 Agender) and my boyfriend (14M) are both from the UK. We’ve been a long distance relationship for nearly a year and a half, (over two hours by car) and we’re in different school years. I’m moving into Y11 and he’s moving into Y10.

Whilst I am incredibly nervous for Y11, to the point I’ve actually been suffering that’s not the point of this post.

This is more so how to cope with completely different schedules. I’m going to be in college when he’s doing his GCSEs and our life’s will completely change, especially mine. I don’t know how it’s going to roll so I just want to hear anyone’s advice or past experiences of either a one year difference and their life in Y11 and their partners in Y10 or their life in college/6th form and their partners in y11.

(Or anyone with a similar experience no matter their country and year group.)

And yes, I will speak to him about it - he’s just gone to bed and I wanted to had what yall think. I’m just nervous, and quite apprehensive on how things will change and I don’t want it to break us apart. And I know quite a few of people may say, “OO it’s not the end of the world because you’re still young and you will meet new people” but out of everyone ever been in a relationship with he’s the one I’ve bonded with the most and can actually see a functioning future with.

Thanks in advance <3

sorry for the dumb question but i keep seeing it everywhere, esspescialy in memes, what is it

So i recently told my mom that I think im trans masc, and I told her the name ive been going by with friends. I was planning on telling the rest of my family today, but when my mom calls me by my chosen name it feels wrong. And I still think I wanna be her daughter and I wanna be my siblings sister. But when im out in public or with friends I think i like my chosen name and more masc pronouns. Ive been going through a gender crisis lately, and this situation is making me doubt if I'm even trans at all. My mind is all over the place.

Hello, 23 F, me and my girlfriend are a wlw couple in a medium distance relationship (350 km). We try to meet everytime we get the chance, approximately 3 times a month for a few days and we love each others very much. I never doubt her love for me and her dedication to our relationship.
We ve been together for longer than a year and she just moved out from her family house to a new place in another town since she started working . She shares a house with roommates and she s starting to make new friends and hang out with them and deep inside of me there’s an unconscious fear that she will find better or that she will lose interest in being with me.
I know I shouldn’t since she is so much caring and never made me insecure but i don’t know how to overcome this irrational fear of being abandoned.
She is a strong,smart and capable woman and her life is finally becoming happy since she moved out from her toxic parents and im scared that once she finds her peace of mind and happiness, she won’t really need me or want me anymore…

For context I live in a really conservative rural area of Canada. I can't openly be gender fluid or bisexual, so I can't switch my name or pronouns or the way I dress those days.

But like, it really hurts, my body doesn't match and nothing matches and it just makes me really sad and I feel physical pain. I know I would still have this problem even if I decided to transition one day since my head goes back and forth. I guess I'm kind of curious about that too, sometimes I go months or even a year feeling like one gender, but other times my head switches multiple times a day. Is that normal?

I don't have any friends let alone queer friends to ask so I'm sorry if this is all basic stuff.

hi everyone! im really not sure if this is the right subreddit to post this on and if it’s not pls lmk ill correct it.

I (19F) have been reflecting a lot on my own romantic and sexual life for a while and im really not sure where i stand.

Ive basically been straight my whole life as I’ve only dated the opposite sex, however im questioning if I might fall on the aroace spectrum. All of my past relationships have been them on the pursuing end and me kind of just saying ok sure because I don’t want to complicate things with our friends or I was just being a doormat. I’ve had the same thought of “I kind of wish we were just good friends” with all of my exs when we were together, and I don’t really know if this is normal or if I should do more research. Additionally, I don’t think I’ve ever had a crush on anyone; I’ve found people attractive but I’ve never acted or wanted to pursue anyone romantically.

Whenever someone asks about Love languages and stuff I think of familial and platonic love almost exclusively to determine what I value the most, and when I try to think of it romantically I just come to the conclusion that I don’t really care it’s all just ehhhh whatever. I am also VERY adverse to PDA, words of affection in a romantic manner, pet names, all the traditional relationship stuff. Maybe I just find it corny as hell but I really hate it.

On the sexual side, I do sometimes feel hormonal, but the thought of being intimate with another person kinda just irks me out. I’ve had intimate interactions with my past relationships (not sex but still of sexual nature) but every time it’s kind of just a means to an end; I don’t feel “turned on” im kinda just waiting for it to end so I can go watch tv or eat LMAO. I’m happy to just deal with everything myself and I know myself the best so what’s really the issue amiright!

I’ve always seen romantic relationships as a “side grade” rather than an “upgrade” to platonic relationships. I value my friends greatly and I don’t understand why people say im crazy when I say I really don’t care if I don’t marry or if I stay single for the rest of my life; I have hobbies and goals that fulfill me greatly so i don’t get why a relationship would be so much better.

My first relationship was very toxic so maybe I am just a bit scared of romantic intimacy insteed of actually ace, but I’ve also had these thoughts during and before my first relationship so I’m a bit confused. I doubt anyone’s gonna read this but it does feel good to write out my feelings. If anyone does take the time to give me some advice I’d greatly appreciate it no matter how small it be !! Thank u :D

So, I (16F) have been dating my girlfriend (15F) for 9 months. We met in a summer program and it was clear she had a little crush on me. I knew it for sure by the end of the first week. I thought she was cute and thought that, if we kept contact after, we could talk and get to know each other better. And well, we did. She's amazing, honestly; very kind, smart, talented, and really pretty as well. I couldn't ask for better and I love her very much.

However, as we continued dating, there have been some problems, some of which have correlated this post.

I found out that she has some mental health issues (And hey, this is not a deal breaker at all), that include anorexia and probably anxiety and/or depression (undiagnosed, but from what she told me, very clear and a response to the bullying she gets at her school). I urged her to get professional care, and she says that she didn't want to because it would stress out her parents, and when she did reach out in the past, her therapist failed her (which I think would've been prevented if her parents had gotten her a therapist that specialises on children/teen's mental health, but whatever). So, I researched and did what I could to make her feel seen, be there for her and not pressure her about anything. Also, to add to that, she has become really clingy in a sort of "dangerous" way. Basically, she tells me how she's only alive right now because of me, and that the only reason she's alive right now it's because of my presence. You can see why this might be a problem.

Then, her parents are very overprotective. When I say she can't go outside, I mean it. I haven't seen her once on our summer break, except when we're at projects/classes from the dance school we're both enrolled in. She has one specific childhood friend that can come to her house and that's it. And I wouldn't mind texting, if my main love language wasn't quality time, and we can't really get to know each other's deep thoughts while in the middle of a pirouette.

Other than that, I've been recently researching about the aromantic spectrum and I found that I might fall into the demiromantic category, hence the quality time thing. I've only had very specific crushes in the past, like actual crushes and both of them I had known for years before I actually started developing feelings, which with her, I have not. She's a very great friend, don't get me wrong, I just don't think I totally see her in that light. I thought I might wait so the feelings would develop, but it's clearly not working with our circumstances.

With all that, it's clear that this isn't really working out on my end of things. But my problem is that I'm afraid of what will happen to her if I try to break up. I don't want her to hurt herself, in any way shape or form, but I really can't keep lying. What can I do?

(Also, sorry for the long post, it's my first time posting and I don't know if it's too much, and sorry in advance for any grammatical errors, as English is not my first language.)

Okey,i don't want to be Xenophobic or anything but...

Can you guys explain how do you identify yourselfes with Angels or planets or something?

I'm a Paraboy,cuz i feel like a boy,that i like when i'm masculine and i have a deep voice but also i feel That something is Missing,but how dose it work with you?