Hi guys, this is maybe going to be long but i really would appreciate some insights as i seem a bit lost..

So, i turned 30 this year and who looks at me from the outside might think i have a great life, and in a way i do. I have a good job that allows me to enjoy things in life, i have great friends that are always there for me, a supportive family, etc

But one aspect of life that always has come short has been relationships, and dont get me wrong, i dont want to make this about relationship advice.

I feel that maybe because from my 20-30 i invested more into my "career" to be in the position i am today i might have damaged other aspects of my life and not developed myself maybe some personality traits to make having new relationships now easier.

I had only 1 real relationship that lasted less than a year(ended mid this year). We ended in good terms, its just that we weren´t fully align, and now living in a bigger city i just cant seem to be making new connections in general.
The thing is that i´ve been to realize this is an issue with me, in how i expose myself, because everyone that knows me, my friends(men and women) say great things about me and i know the qualities that i have but i just can´t seem to know how to show myself in a good way or in just some way.

And i am a very active person, i practice sports, i go for walks, i go to the gym, i try new cafes or restaurants, i try to be outside home quite a lot because i like it but all of these do not translate in myself meeting new people.
I think i might have some sort of social anxiety in a way, which is weird because when i feel happier is when i am with friends laughing and stuff. But when i have to interact with strangers more than the initial stuff i get uncomfortable, at least until i get to know them better.
I even tried to join some whatsapp goups of new people in the city but is so fast paced that i just feel uncomfortable talking and end up losing interest in it.

So like, what can i actually do to improve myself in this sense? I want to meet people, eventually a partner but i feel i need to somehow improve the way i expose and show myself to others because right now i feel that i am invisible to most in a way.

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I’m 18M, for years now people in my school/college etc have thought I was gay but I’ve never been and this isn’t the case? My last girlfriend was when I was 14ish and I broke up with her.

I think people just assume I’m gay normally because my voice isn’t exactly low and it’s a higher pitch. I’ve hated my voice for years but I work in marketing and am constantly speaking with people on the phone and in person.

I just feel like the older I get the more my life seems to be hindered by people thinking I’m Gay. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with people being gay at all but I hate it when people assume things and say things about others that aren’t true.

I just really don’t know what to do.

Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks

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Hey Reddit, this is my first time posting and I’m fairly new but I’m here for advice. I’m 29-M and I’m getting married in the next 3 months. In the last 4 years, working a sedentary job, I’ve gained a lot of weight and have been feeling self conscious. I’m looking to transform physically but find it difficult to find the time to workout (usually go home from work at 11pm) and to take care of my health, skin and mental being. Do y’all have any tips on how to start doing things, get in the motion and actually get better for my partner and myself? Also, things are very chaotic mentally and I’ve not been able to catch a break. I’m very exhausted.

Lately its been hotter cause its summer but im sweating way more than normal, like my face is dripping within minutes of leaving the A/C. Its so bad I have to hang my clothes up to dry outside when I get home so my room dosnt smell like sweat. My clothes get so soaked my shirt drips. Ive been taking alot more water with me to prevent dehydration ive been drinking a gallon and a half of water in my 8 hour work day but I swear I sweat it all out.

Is this normal? I was always a heavy sweater but this is ridiculous im trying to convince my self that its just really hot but I cant function like this. Imagine jumping in a swimming pool fully clothed and then trying to work like that.

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I was talking to my coworker about and she said. It’s crazy how little effort most men put in there looks and I agreed. Then I thought about it after work and I came to a conclusion. I use a cleanser, moisturizer, hair oil and conditioner for the hair on my head and beard, Toothpaste mouthwash and cologne etc, I also weight train. After all that i still feel extremely average and rarely get compliments. All this things I assume most men do to be perceived as normal. I’m aware men don’t use makeup but not all women do either and very little women work out consistently and count macros and calories. So my conclusion is that men should put equal or at least a close amount of effort in their appearance. Could be completely wrong.

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Hello men in their 30s, Congratulations! You are still young, but that will very soon change. Your body is about to start changing. Your metabolism slows, your energy dips, and if you're not careful, your waistline grows.

The good news? You can do something about it now.

I'm a 51-year-old woman, divorced, mother of one, and sister to five brothers. I played sports through my early 30s and have bike-commuted in NYC for over 25 years. I never exercised because I wanted to age well—I did it because it was fun. Looking back, those habits are probably why I've stayed fit, active, and, according to most people, youthful-looking.

The choices you make in your 30s show up in your 40s and 50s.

Look around. Too many middle-aged men haven't just gained weight—they've lost muscle, their posture has suffered, and they often look older than they are. By contrast, a lot of women the same age have held up remarkably well. Part of that is because women have spent our entire lives hearing that our appearance matters. Fair or unfair, many of us have made exercise, healthy eating, skincare, and self-care part of our routines for decades. The results are visible.

Men can do it too. Just look at gay men. Middle-age gay men look good. They look damn good because they are catering to other men, who are visual (just like you). As my gay bestie once told me, “we give each other a quick glance, and in two seconds, we know if we want to  f\*\*\* you.”

Women are visual. Maybe not to the same extent as men, but attraction still matters. A fit body, good posture, and an active lifestyle signal more than good looks—they signal that you haven't given up on yourself.

Here's my dating reality: I date men my age when I'm looking for a relationship, but I often date men in their 30s for something casual. I'd love those worlds to overlap, but the number of healthy, fit men in their 50s is surprisingly small.

So do your future self a favor. Lift weights. Ride a bike. Play a sport. Whatever you enjoy, make it a habit. Your body, your health, and your future sex life will thank you.

Namaste.

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So unfortunately I started watching porn when I was around the age of 11 and now I’m about to turn 20. A few weeks ago I had the realization that I’ve almost spent half my life addicted to porn. It’s gotten worse in the past 3 years and I decided I need to make it stop because I’ve started noticing the side effects. Depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, struggling with school etc. I’ve tried to stop here and there and the longest I went was 5 days without searching it up or at least mastrubating. It’s horrible I know. Since the realization I’ve tried harder than ever and stopped taking my phone to the bathroom (cuz that’s where I usually jerk it) and it’s been hard. Haven’t done the deed in 2 days but I’ve searched up porn to check on the newest releases etc. Like it’s so tempting to just go watch one and do it but I know it’s not good for me. But I can’t see myself stopping completely. Like every new release is just another hot girl or a girl I’ve been waiting for. It’s so sad. Anyone experience this or overcome it? I need words of reassurance. I’ve never dated or asked a girl out and barely talk to girls. I sense there maybe a connection between the two but what if I can’t find a hot girl. Idk man I’m so lost.

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Hey guys! I’m 22 and just started to get active in the gym (around a month now). Trying to be as consistent as possible. Any thoughts on my upper body routine? Anything important missing or that I have too much of? Any thoughts would be appreciated, not always sure what i’m doing lol

for anything to add, i’d have to substitute something as this takes me up until the max amount of time i have in the gym. also for note, my physique is pretty skinny, more better with endurance/running, so this routine should look fairly beginner level.

thanks! :)

• 30 (reps) Abdominal — 120 Weight
• 30 Chest Press - 80 Weight
• 30 Chin Assist — 40 Weight Assist
• 30 Row — 90 weight
• 50 Dumbbell Bench Incline Press
25 Weight — 20 (reps)
30 Weight — 30 (reps)
• 30 Triceps Press — 90 Weight
• 30 Lateral Pull Down — 90 Weight
• 30 Hammer Curl — 40 Weight
• 1 Plank — 2.5 mins
• 2 Side Planks — 30 Seconds Each