My wife and I recently had a baby. We sometimes take him out in stroller to get him use to the outside nosie environment. Everything was fine-ish at first especially when he was smaller. Old strangers (mostly old women) will approach us and make comments about our baby asking if he was a boy or girls, etc. This was already a shock since, I been living here for a few years now and strangers don't normally approach you unless they wanted to recruit you to their cult or hand you some tissue paper for their company.
However, yesterday was when I believe the line was truly crossed. I took our son to a Starbucks alone to work on some stuff online. It's not uncommon to hear the occasional person talking about our baby so I mostly zone those noises out while still keeping an eye on my baby as he chills in his stroller nest to me.
Suddenly, this older lady (maybe 50-60) just came up and started interacting with my baby. I didn't have any reaction since I thought she was just talking to the baby. Normally, if they do, they would just leave after. This was when this women took it next step further. She starting touching my baby's leg. I didn't know how to react since I never had ANYONE directly touch my baby without asking. Mostly of the time especially strangers, would just smile and wave at my baby. However, this old lady just started touching my baby's leg without asking. She said something about him being cute and then went back to her table. Maybe I should have reacted then, however, I was still in shock and didn't even really process what just happened. I went back to doing my work. 20 mins later, the same lady (who chose a seat close to me) came back and started talking to my baby again. She didn't make any physical contact this time yet... She then spoke to me and asked if she could pick up my baby. Excuse me??!?!? Who the hell are you??? Why would I let you, a stranger pick up my baby who has a immune system of a paper bag. What if you drop our baby??? I reacted as calmly as possible, gave her the death stare and said no. She then went back to her seat.
The saga wasn't over. Just before she left starbucks with her male partner/boyfriend? (No idea who the other guy is) She came back and both her and her male friend touched my babies leg again.
Like.... do I have the right to get extremely upset here? Or am I overreacting?
I also want to share that we've taken our baby out to other prefectures in Japan. We would get looks from staff who you could tell that they like babies. However, no one would dare come over and let alone make direct physical contact with our baby.
In Osaka.... it really feels like people (especially old women) don't understand boundaries.
What would you guys do if you were in my shoes?
Should I add* my baby is still getting all his Vaccination. He IS already taking some medication for something as a prevention because the hospital is worried about his status since he might have ALREADY caught something from a stranger.
Going to add another detail, the lady grabbed my baby's calf and shock it like it some kind of rattle (before and after she left). It was was hard enough that the whole baby's body shock.