Hi , I am 25 and recently been tested positive. I was wondering how’s life of other gay men after being positive. Especially your dating life.
I am mostly into older men(40+). I don’t know how I can find poz or poz friendly men. A part of me says me to just keep it private and meet people casually after I am undetectable. But a part of me also thinks that’s not right. I should let my partner know that I am poz even if it’s undetectable . I think the best is to I try finding men who really don’t care about my HIV status. Anyone up for a chat ?

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For those of you in NYC and the metro area, there is now a subreddit for you

https://www.reddit.com/r/NYCPozMeetsandHookups/

I have just been diagnosed recently and and I knows it's hard but I am doing my best to keep ok going. I would really love to connect with my fellow poz and just talk about anything in life. I'm 23 and I'm open to any be it 50+ . I hope to get to know one or more if there is. Have a great day

Hello group. Been poz undetectable for a while now but I’m going through something new this year and just want to reach out and see if there are any other people in a similar situation as me. I have a lot of questions and I’ve asked my doctors and they’ve given me all the medical infos and what not but I want to hear from people and know what their experience is like.

I recently got an organ transplant and everything has been going well so far. Still undetectable but my CD4 dropped to 180. Freaked me out when I saw the number but I was told that number didn’t mean that my diagnosis has changed to AIDs, but still it was scary seeing that. But because I’m on so much immunosuppressants I’m so nervous and scared to do anything sexually. It’s the fear of catching something and my new organ gets destroy in the process. I’ve talked to my doctor and she has been very helpful and told me to use protections and the whole safe sex talk but still, it’s ummm nerve wracking and stressful! So if you’ve been through something similar like this, I’d appreciate how you navigated through it or any advice, really. Thanks in advance

Hey, not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I wanted to try.

I’m 22 and looking for a genuine long-term connection that can start with friendship and naturally grow into something deeper if the vibe is right. I’m not interested in casual stuff or hookups. What I want is comfort, emotional safety, loyalty, affection, and a partner who genuinely chooses me.

I’m someone who values emotional maturity, honesty, calm communication, and consistency. I’d love to meet a man who is kind, caring, financially independent, emotionally available, and serious about building a meaningful bond rather than wasting time. Someone who knows how to love gently, communicate properly, and make a relationship feel safe instead of confusing.

For me, romance matters more than sex. I’m looking for affection, hugs, kisses, emotional closeness, deep conversations, mutual support, and the feeling of having a person who truly stands by you. I want something soft, stable, and real.

In terms of preferences, I’m usually drawn to someone taller than me, decent-looking, well-groomed, and someone who carries himself with maturity and confidence. More than looks though, I’m attracted to a calm nature, kindness, loyalty, and emotional intelligence.

If you’re someone who values genuine connection, long-term intentions, and starting with friendship first, feel free to message me. Even if nothing romantic comes out of it, I’d still appreciate meeting good people with honest intentions.

I am going to start researching Reta while on Biktarvy. I'm hoping to hear from others who are also poz/undetectable and who've researched injectable peptides.

I've been on Biktarvy for some time now. Since starting I have noticed a weight gain – however, I don't want to attribute all of it to Biktarvy itself. Since starting Biktarvy and receiving my diagnosis, my mental health has gone through ebb & flows and during my lows I'd use food as an escape. It also doesn't help that I'm a chronic marijuana smoker and munchies get the best of me.

Nonetheless, I've always had a muscular body, despite my weight/fat gain. As I approach my 30s, I'm at a point in my life where I want to push myself to really lock in and shred the fat. I don't think GLP-1s are my groove, but recently started hearing about peptides. Thus, here I am.
If anyone out there is poz/undetectable and/or on Biktarvy and researching peptides, I'd like to know about your experience with injectable peptides. Which ones have you researched? What did you notice? Any red flags?

Hello guys my name is Brandon. I’ve recently gotten tested and found out I was Poz. Didn’t know what to feel but a bit of sadness and shame. Took me a month to come to terms with it but I’m now adjusting to my new life and so happy to find a Reddit page with men like me. Would love a warm welcome and wishes 💙

Does anyone have any experience with this? I have 0 income, a pending disability claim, for combined issues of HIV, major depressive disorder, and anxiety disorder. However, my RW case manager has refused to assist by not even giving me a referral for housing assistance through that program. This has been going on for months. Has anyone had ANY experience with this program?

Hey everyone I hope you all doing well today. I recently found out that I was tested positive for HIV. When I found out, I’ve blames and tear myself down. I know it’s not the end of the world but it feels that way for me. I haven’t told anyone besides my ex. I’m hoping I can find a nice friendly group where can talk about it or something idk. I’m scared and nervous for my own future.

Ps. I’m Deaf Black male if anyone wondering what’s my identity.

Hi everyone, I just wanted to ask how did you find out you were HIV positive? At first, I didn’t think I had it because I didn’t feel any symptoms. A friend convinced me to get tested and said symptoms aren’t a reliable way to know. When I got my results, I was honestly crushed to find out I was positive.

For anyone here who is HIV positive, how did you find out? What convinced you to get tested?

How did you tell your date or partner? How did you handle it, and what was their reaction? Did they leave or stay? I’m a 22M college student 😔

Hey,

i’m 24 and about two months ago i found out i’m hiv positive. i’m on treatment now but mentally it’s been kinda hard and i feel pretty alone with it sometimes.

i’d really like to talk with people who are going through the same thing. if you’re also hiv positive and open to sharing your experience or just chatting, that would mean a lot.

also if there are any gay guys here living with it too, i’d really appreciate connecting and talking about it.

thanks 🫶

I would love to see some more discussion from our visitors. Maybe some ideas for weekly topics or even monthly. I would love to see this subreddit become a little safe haven for those who are newly diagnosed, and at the same time have an active group of people who lived with HIV/AIDS for a while.

I'm finding it incredibly difficult to share this, but I'm hoping for some guidance and support from this community. My boyfriend (25) and (34) have been together for 7 years. Unfortunately, things have taken a terrible turn recently. In December, I learned that my boyfriend had cheated on me. While infidelity is painful enough, the bigger shock came last week. He confessed to having contracted HIV and not informing me about it before having unprotected sex with me since January. I'm processing a whirlwind of emotions right now. Part of me wants to understand why he wouldn't tell me about the infidelity, especially since we've been intimate for months since. It's incredibly hurtful that the person who infected him seemingly faced no consequences and remained friends with him. The biggest fear, of course, is my own health. Thankfully, I haven't tested positive yet, and lI'm incredibly grateful. However, the entire situation leaves me feeling betrayed, scared, and deeply confused. I'm reaching out because don't know how to react or what steps to take. Here are some questions I'm grappling with: Should get tested immediately, or is there a waiting period? •What resources are available for emotional support during this difficult time? How do navigate this situation with my boyfriend, considering the potential health risks and the betrayal of trust? Any advice or support from those who have been through similar situations would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for listening?

I’ve seen some of his stand up comedy and it’s mildly funny, but then his Jerrod Carmichael Reality Show is damn hilarious. I came into it with low expectations but, I’m hooked now. He came out in his early thirties. He came out as gay in his comedy special Rothaniel (2022). I picked some of this from his Wikipedia page and some stuff may be outdated or not true. I was diagnosed with HIV when I was maybe about 24. I had my fair share of hookup’s, but as I grew older people were blowing me out the water. I’ve had two long term relationships. One when I was 19 years old, which lasted about eight years and then one when I was twenty-seven years old. Basically, I cheated the whole way through. Now, back to Jerrod. It feels refreshing to be seen. My first account was adam4adam. I did have random hookups on there, but I didn’t find anything interesting until ex boyfriend. I’ll save that for another time. Jerrod was just like me too a certain extent and he had the same high sex drive that I did. I haven’t taken before, and I don’t plan taking them anytime soon, that’s taking a bit too far. I’m fine with my edibles. He talked with his dad being gay. The dad felt very uncomfortable about that. His mom had nice things to say about his boyfriend, but she felt uncomfortable also. It’s as real as it gets for “reality television”. He, Jerrod talked about his cheating his boyfriend, which was uncomfortable and they got through it. It’s very satisfying when the queer community are represented. I know I just scratching the surface but you should definitely give it a try and you won’t be disappointed.

I’ve been on prep for several years now with only a missed dose once or twice. I just went in for my routine test to extend my prescription and got a positive result back this afternoon. In my quick googling I do see that it’s possible to have false positives and maybe even slightly more likely for guys on prep. Anyone here either seroconvert or have false positives on tests while on prep?

It’s Friday and this all happened this afternoon, so I don’t anticipate additional testing or hearing from my doctor until Monday.

I've been with this guy for a few months now and I haven't told him I'm poz. I've been poz and undetectable since I was 21 and it has always been a thing I've been hesitant to share with guys because I get treated differently. I was afraid to tell him when we first started getting serious because I was worried I'd make him uncomfortable. Plus, he's a little older than me (he's 36 I'm 28) and I feel like a lot of the guys I've met that are older than me have a lot of reservations about poz guys. Any advice?

I’ve made this group for anybody who’s interested (not positive or positive), but you can air your grievances or not.

I’ve never a faithful of type of man, but I’m easy on the eyes, if I can say that myself. I cheated, more than once, I’ve cheated on everyone, full disclosure. He’s married, but not to me. We still text everyday, he’s my best friend, but now it’s for me to move on. I’m HIV positive and now I’m alone just sitting here with my thoughts. I’ve been on these dating sites for Positive people and it’s not going well at all. How can I get with talking to people? I’m dealing with a stroke, it’s not easy but I a smile on my face 😊

He was stinky, but so hot 🥵. I don’t know what came over me. He was playing football, my neighbor came over and said “Do you like him?”, I had never thought about before, I don’t know what I had said, but it was clear to me. I had the hots 🥵 for him. The family had moved, to Queens. So I had the myself, so like any good neighbor would do I ingratiated myself to him. He didn’t have any food, he was basically homeless, and he didn’t have any lights working so he would charge his phone. I would give him treats, if he didn’t have any coffee I would give some. Slowly, I would trying to reel him in. This one night I tired as hell. It was 3am, so I trying to get him out of here so I could go to sleep. Wouldn’t you know it. I went to the bathroom, as I was going into the bathroom and said “Why didn’t you try and suck my dick?”. I was up! It was alright but I enjoyed it. I think he regretted it, but I didn’t realize he was into cocaine. I didn’t know realize how much I was into stinky guys, who knew!

I was 19 years old, when I was young man. I was at Watertown Mall, this was when in Massachusetts. I shopping for clothes and shoes and I met my cousin who was shopping too. It just so happened it was boyfriend and some other guys. I just didn’t like him that time so much some I so loaded my stuff up and went about my day. My cousin and I, was telling me his brother in law, had just gotten out of prison. I couldn’t care less, but when he the name, I didn’t who he was talking about. A few weeks later, I got a call from my phone. I had a separate line, and I didn’t know who he was, and said I’m going to come and see you. I had forgotten about that, but when he called he there bright and early, at like 7:30am. And he was fine as hell, but he wasn’t my type. I sucked his dick that was all. He’s married to a lesbian now.