r/short • u/Intelligent-Bird8120 • 1d ago

Dating Dateless.

For context I’m 21 (male) about 5’1. I grew up basically in hospital because I was born ill. Long story short. Had chronic kidney disease and from 9 till 10 had dialysis and then I had a kidney transplant. My height was affected. All day I feel lonely or sad. Whilst a lot of other people have someone besides them. I have…no one. I’m Asian (from Pakistan but born and raised in England so I guess I feel more English) I do want to date but i don’t think I’ll ever actually get the chance to or at least that’s how it feels. Despite me being a good person and kind. I don’t know if it’ll ever happen. I am happy for other people in relationships. I just wish that I could be one of them. Do you guys have any advice I could use for dating or anything?

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u/bauni_baddie_hu 1d ago

if you want a friend you can dm me

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u/Intelligent-Bird8120 1d ago

Thank you 🙏

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u/Crocodille27 1d ago

Yeah bro, it’s going to be harder for you, and it looks like you’ve already realized that. But there’s nothing wrong with that. Focus on strengthening the things you actually have control over, without stressing about getting quick results, and try to enjoy the process along the way. When the time comes and you have a partner, you’ll look back and be pissed at yourself for being so hung up on something you had no control over. I had the same problem as a teenager. I was 177 cm (5'10") and thought the world sucked because I was in a friend group where everyone was 195–200 cm (6'5"–6'7"). As I got older, I realized it was just a huge amount of unnecessary stress.

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u/Comprehensive-Cry485 5'5" | 165 cm 22h ago

You can try in East Asia.

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u/OkVeterinarian3412 22h ago

Do people really think 'Just uproot your whole life and start it in another country vro to get a slightly better chance at dating' is actually good advice?

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u/Inevitable-Laugh-294 163 - 164 cm | 5'4" - 5'5" 22h ago

And what kind of dates would he get in east asia?

And if one is looking to date worthy women, such women are choosy and picky everywhere, going to a different continent changes nothing. Different if one is just searching for a wife by flaunting their wealth or privilege, but I'm sure most guy's aren't doing that given that they're searching for a serious partner.

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u/Swimming-Tap488 19h ago

Broski reality shift 

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u/idontknowmyusernameT 12h ago

I dont think kidney disease affects your height. Malnutrition can but usually max around 3 inches