i keep thinking to myself: what is the point of anything?

i’m going to be a doctor, going to medical school next year. but when i think of all the effort i’ve put in, and all the work i am yet to commit to, it all feels so meaningless. why am i doing this?

why do we do all this?

like we all are just staying alive, attempting to make as much money as we can. but for what? happiness? a dopamine rush? to flex to people who ultimately don’t give a shit about anything but themselves or one upping you?

once you get to the point of financial stability, what then? what’s the point or the enjoyment in expensive things, in music, in fashion ultimately? to not be like other people, simply separated by borders that have one wish: their health. and my job is going to be helping people get back to health - the baseline.

and even when you’re healthy WHAT IS THE POINT? i feel too self aware. i feel like other people have this innate drive and lust for life within them, or they see the fun in life but i simply can’t.

all human connection seems kind of the same to me. either familial, platonic, or romantic, and it all feels monotone and forced. conversations and small talk are so dull to me and everyone around me is so concerned about stupid small things. war, politics, disagreements seem so stupid to me. we are all just well evolved animals whose ultimate end goal is survival and successful reproduction.

i feel like there’s nothing new and enjoyable. i feel like i’m just staying alive and the time will fly by and it will end up meaning nothing regardless of if i work hard or not.

i feel like it’s so hard to put what i’m feeling into words and there’s more i could say but hopefully you guys will understand.

I may be overthinking all this ? In need of some advice , What age do most women find weird to still be a virgin ? I'm a 22 years old male who is turning 23 in 2 short months in November I am still a Virgin and don't know if I should even bother entering the dating scene now afraid I have lost my prime chances of being normal. I live in very rural Pennsylvania (USA so western culture) so Every women I'm around my age is sexually experienced infact many are already experienced or been in long-term relationship and in fact many have already are having families I know many 22 year old women on the second child, and i feel so fundamentally behind that when most women do find out I'm a virgin at this age they will find it highly unattractive and run away and reject me ? Also I was diagnosed with PDDNOS (now known as part of the autism spectrum which means you have very low traits but don't usually do well with the social stuff which I have improved as I've aged ), and I also had substance use issues for most of my teens and early 20s so I dedicated a lot of time to that, so I don't have much relationship experience either . now I'm at that age where most women wont understand my situation or want to help me become . So what age do most sexually experienced women generally find it unusual or become wary to the point passing up a virgin man In the US western culture , are my options likely limited now ? They say you should have by college but I never went to college . Is this issue mostly in my head ?

Bought my first air fryer and I feel like a bad bish already 🥰🥰🥰 What should I make first?

I’m 19 right now, and sometimes I feel like I’m behind compared to other people my age, even though I know I still have a lot of time. For those of you who are older: if you could go back to 19 with everything you know now, what would you do differently? What would you start doing earlier, stop worrying about, or take more seriously? I’m genuinely curious what advice you’d give your 19-year-old self.

I’m 22 and this year I have goals to improve myself, be more organized, complete my classes good (I’ve been a great student always so no worry), work on physical fitness via playing sports, stay off social media, and make/develop new friends at my new school by myself that are outside of my immediate friend group .

I’m gonna try my best to get outside as much as possible and spend less time at home and work on being productive everyday.

This post kinda pertains to relationships and sex but frankly I feel this is a territory of much confusion and uncertainty for me. I never have had a long term girlfriend, though I’ve had maybe 3 ish chances but I ruined all of them because of my own uncertainty. I feel I really self sabotaged for one of them and I don’t know why I did.

Maybe this was for the better looking back as I feel my uncertain feelings would have ended up leading to big problems had these relationships gotten more serious. I view those events as unique in the sense they were very much “natural” and random (I met them in person, not through any dating apps).

Nowadays I feel both really longing for a relationships or even just sexual validation (since I’m still a virgin), but I also am extremely avoidant of them because I view them as something that I’m not worthy of for some reason and I think I’m already a lost cause for even if i try to become better.

I know I need to stop thinking like this and at some point take the risk when the opportunity comes up and just go for it head on like a man. It’s not in my nature but I honestly wouldn’t mind a casual relationship if it came up, just to explore sex while in youth and get some validation (I would be communicative of this ofc and not just use the other person).

I get scared the opportunity won’t ever come again. Dating apps are a joke to me and I don’t think I fit very well in general, I feel I need someone that comes by chance into my life, that’s a similar kind of weird to me.

I walk around campus and don’t feel like girls really pay me any mind nor even in my class (which is fair I’m a random guy haha) but still I see others dudes with their gfs and I wonder how they just easily find someone who fucks with them enough like that.

I feel like the truth is I’m a good person and have great things to offer but I’m very closed off which makes intimate connection hard for me.

Some of the worst people in the world (Trump, Elon musk etc) managed to have many relationships in their life so someone decent like me should be too then and I know that.

I’ll keep exercising and improving my self in silence ig but I’m aware even that is not a warranty i will ever find someone for me. It’s frustrating.

So I made a post about me asking a guy out at my school and he said yes but hasn’t said anything to me which is weird but I’m gonna drop it cuz why run after someone who hasn’t even texted yet? But it’s only been a few days and I’m starting to loose hope. I honestly thought he was gonna say no but I was surprised that he said yes. I honestly wished he said “no” from the start but whatever it is what it is. I think I’m gonna take a step back from dating again before I try with someone else cuz I ain’t gonna dwell on smth that’s one sided.

When I was around 13, I had to leave public schooling because of the rapid development of crippling anxiety that happened my last year in elementary. I never returned to public school and now that i want to go to college it haunts me. I know it's mainly made up (or hopefully made up) this idea of a idealistic teen friendship and romance, but I can shake it. I'm already going to be 22 at least before heading to college, but it's killing me. Every time I hear about high school it sends a shiver down my spine.

It's embarrassing how many things trigger it to a point where most media surrounding coming of age sends me in a spin. I don't want to feel this way anymore. I want to be able to live outside my regret and self-hatred. I don't know if I'm looking for a affirmation like high school wouldn't of made me a normal person without the dread, but i need something because its just silent right now and its driving me nuts.

building something at balansedapp.com, wanted to share why

every time i get bored or stressed i open some app and buy stuff i don’t need. small amounts, but it adds up fast. checked last month’s spending and it was way more than i thought

spending apps are built to feel instant and rewarding. saving mostly just feels like a chore. trying to flip that — same instant feedback, streaks, but pointed at saving instead

still early, testing with a waitlist. curious if this resonates with anyone else

We forget that sometimes what happens to us can be out of our control and us being humans wants to control every outcome

Single men to fathers you all think what happens I. Vagas stays in vagas

This is my first time posting here, or posting on Reddit in like 5 years (I'm 20 now). Kinda sad to leave r/teenagers haha, but this seemed like smth similar.

I can't write anything sufficient to express what I've felt and experienced these past few years (a few breakups, finished Highschool, served a religious 2 year mission abroad, and now a couple weeks from starting college in a new state). I always used to post memes on various subreddits, and used to spend unhealthy amounts of time reading posts from all over, and commenting haha. I say unhealthy, and it was for me, but I value the feeling of community I got during that time, starting around when I moved to a different state with no siblings at home, no family other than my parents multiple states around, and having no friends in person, right before starting 8th grade.

I'll be blunt. I've had 2 exes that I really grew attached to whilst dating, and it wasn't until breaking up with my most recent ex (one of those 2) that I started noticing different things that reminded me of the 2 in a way that make me wonder if I'll get that same kind of bond again. Ik there's many fish in the sea, and I'm about to start college, so there's lots of opportunities there for dating. But right now, until I'm in a place I can start dating, I'm living with the reminders, without any current out. Just feeling it.

Actually played Undertale for the first time the other day, finished this morning, but it's the first game in a while I've played that caught and melted my heart a bit at times. But now I want a hug, from someone who's shoulder I feel comfortable crying on, more than anything. Video games don't sound as fun, and I'm too transitional with moving to dive into things I wanna do more of like drumming, oil painting (my parents' new place rn doesn't have a good place for painting), or forging (hoping to save up to get myself a portable forge in college). Every time I get frustrated with my lack of fun-sounding hobbies, I go "I don't wanna play video games, I want a hug" half-jokingly. Ik this'll sound very whiney, and 1st-world problems-ish, cuz it is. But this is what's been on my mind. I know not to just focus on finding a partner, I'm determined to enjoy being single in college, but it's just hard in this transitional phase rn, right before college. I'll survive, I'm just in my feels. And I like to be in my feels whenever the chance comes, tbh.

So yeah. Weird rant. Here you go 🦅🦅🦅

I tried to end my life August 19th @ 8pm. I ended up going to the ER and being sent to a psychiatric ward for 5 days. During my stay they put me on Lithium and Trazodone. Ever since I got out last Monday, Ive been feeling off. Like Im in the back seat and my body is the car. Still nothing brings me joy but nothing makes me sad anymore? And during this time school had started but I’ve missed the first week cuz i couldn’t bring myself to get out of bed. I just want to know whats going on with me? Is it my meds? Will this pass? I want to feel normal again. Any advice helps thanks.

I’m 23F , I graduated college in 2025 from a accredited university. Right after school I hopped to corporate life in healthcare tech sales. I moved to Chicago and have been here for over a year, I really don’t like the city. I have lots to be grateful for but I just feel drained. Corporate is bs and all made up, I’m so bored everyday. I want OUT of the city and this job, but it pays well with benefits. Imagining 45 more years of this makes me sick, I need to get out of this. However idk what to do as I’m barely passionate about anything. And what I am passionate about doesn’t pay well. Any positive tips and advice are much appreciated thanks :-)

Hey, my name is Zeke. I’m located in Argyle, Tx, I’m 18, and I’m looking for people to go out and shoot photos with somewhere locally. Looking for people who are around my age who wanna go walk around somewhere of our choosing and get some sick shots.

What is one thing you wish you knew sooner in life?

simply posting cause i’m bored don’t be rude or ill be petty and try being rude back.

I think I’m depressed again. I escaped it for so long, but I think it’s back.

I don’t feel like myself. There’s this impending doom I keep feeling, like everything is gonna fall apart. It will. I can’t do anything about it other than prepare myself to be alone. Which, frankly (home wise) I do want to move out. The problem is managing all that myself.

I have bad ADHD (that wasn’t diagnosed until my final semester in high school) that makes everything so damn hard to do, and recently I just found out that I might have been dyslectic my whole life. I took honors classes in school, but I began struggling. So bad that I didn’t go to college. I tried. 2 times. But it hasn’t worked out.

I have this need to try to get rich like anyone else. But I’m so damn lazy and I feel like I’ve lost my talent. I can’t focus on anything. I don’t wanna work a 9-5. Not now and not ever. That’s not how I want to live. It feels lazy, like “I didn’t want to work,” which frankly I don’t. At least not in that way. I think I’ve done some “hard work” this year building strories and plans, but when you look at what real successful people do on a daily basis, it’s just not worth it. My friend is successful in his business, not rich, but successful. Frankly, he will be rich. And I don’t think that’s too far away. But I worked at his food truck a couple times, and I’ve seen how much work he puts into the truck, and it’s just not something I could do. It’s not the kinda life I wanna live. Slaving away for small chances of success.

When I told him I’m going back to school (which, I don’t know why I am anymore), he told me “you need to lock in. You’ve seen how hard it is for me to do the truck first hand. You know it takes work to be successful.” He’s right, but that’s just not something I can see myself doing.
At the same time, I haven’t been to work since July 22nd (medical), and this last month has felt so weird. It was nice at first, but now it feels like I’ve been cramped away in my room with no aspirations or meaning. It doesn’t help that my damn home is falling apart and my savings are almost gone.

I’m not suicidal, but I constantly think, “what’s the point? Why do I have to live like this and deal with these things?” Then I I think about people who have less than what I have and feel like I’m not grateful. I live in a good neighborhood. I don’t pay any bills other than electricity. I can spend my money on food easily. I can remain unbothered in my room sometimes.

At the same time I think, “what is the point of a home if you don’t want to be in it? What’s the point of a home you don’t feel safe in? What’s the point of a home that traps you in?”

It all feels like some sick trap. My entire family hates each other. There are people in the home that have threatened each other. They scream and yell every day. I get no support with school and payments. My mom isn’t present like she should be.

But I’m the availability itself feels like the trap. Comfortability feels like a trap. I hate it here, and I kinda hate life.

On a slightly more bright side, since February I’ve written 3 volumes of a series I want to eventually turn into a comic/manga, and I’ve started an idea that I’d hope could turn into something for marvel in the future. That’s honestly all I want to do anymore. Write to escape reality. I’ve became good at that over this year. But when everything comes crashing down, that will mean nothing. Writing isn’t a realistic way for me to live comfortably. And I hate that.

That friend I spoke about earlier is 1 of 2 that are in my life, and the other doesn’t live near me. I speak to no one, and get no social interaction, and that’s honestly the only reason I still try to go to college.

I don’t know about anything anymore tbh. Honestly if you read all of this, I thank you for that.

On social media, people talk about their wants/needs and green flags/red flags in a relationship. Whether you are in a relationship or want to be in one, how has social media affected your view on them?