Guy on dating app I’ve been talking to for a bit but haven’t gone out with yet. I think the screenshots are self-explanatory, but not even a casual “oh, sorry to hear that”?? Oh they want me to write more to get up to a specified word limit. Well, I think he sucks, how about that.

UPDATE: I wrote “I’m sorry, we’re not compatible. Take care and good luck” he wrote “that is strange”

I (29f) booked with a nail tech and immediately sent my deposit as that is something she requires to hold your spot. During booking I put the nail designs I wanted and went on with my day.

She just told me I cannot get that nail design done as she doesn’t want to do a design with ants and teeth on them so I would have to pick something else. (Pic included) I told her I didn’t want something else so I would like the deposit back to go to someone else. She says that deposits are non-refundable.

While I understand that, there’s nothing on her page stating she won’t do certain designs, and I would understand not getting my money back if I had brought up an issue. Yet she says she won’t do the design I want. Am I the asshole for feeling I should get a refund?

My son is in 5th grade and has a friend who has no limits on their iPhone. In person, she’s been a bit of a bully to other kids. She threw a slushie on my son’s BFF, has made fun of people, and is called “a liar” by some kids.

At the start of 5th, we got our son an Apple Watch with a phone number so we can keep in touch during extracurriculars, etc. It’s a great way to give a kid safe access to communication without putting a phone in their pocket. His Apple ID is also connected to an iPad, and we have parental controls both at the router level and device levels.

He was excited to see that his class friends started an iMessage group chat. I approved the contacts so he could talk to them. By the next day, though, he was burnt out by how prolific they are. He didn’t like waking up to 100+ texts because his friends could keep devices all night — it wasn’t “I don’t get to keep my device like they do,” but rather, “They need to get some sleep!! They’re crazy.”

He left the group. He got added back. He left again. He was added a third time. He left again, telling them NOT to add him. He got added back.

At that point, I asked him to add me before leaving so I could see who kept adding him. I wanted to reach out to a parent.

After he added me, nobody added him back. It’s possible they realized an adult was present. Numbers started leaving.

His friend, mentioned in the beginning, sent a very inappropriate video (for 5th graders) at nearly 9:20pm that night.

I asked my friend for this girl’s parent’s phone number. I gathered exactly what I wanted to communicate and texted the next day. NO response. It’s been almost 24 hours.

I was told by both my son, his BFF, and my own friend that these parents do nothing to intervene when bullying or inappropriate behavior is brought up.

Evidently they’re right.

I’ve solved the digital problem by blocking the girl. But I’m flabbergasted that despite the VERY specific language I used (with kindness), no response. I want to respond again or get the school involved. But my husband was an educator for 15 years, and I know this isn’t a “school problem” per se — although the bullying on campus is. AIO?

My boyfriend and I live together. We have an en suite bathroom connected to our bedroom which is the bathroom he uses. He showers in the evening and leaves the extractor fan switched on all the time.

Last night I switched it off before going to bed because the noise bothers me while I'm trying to get to sleep. The fan had been on for a few hours after he showered and the window was open so there was no steam or condensation trapped in there.

I told him I'd turned it off so to just make sure he switched it back on before he showered. He went off on me saying how I didn't even ask him if that was okay. I made a unilateral decision for the both of us and it will inconvenience him to have to turn it on again. I said that switching it on before he gets a shower isn't an inconvenience, to which he replied that maybe it isn't one time but if he has to do it 10000 times that's days of his life gone.

I really didn't take that well and kind of went off on him. I told him he's being inconsiderate, he's creating a huge issue out of nothing, and he's acting like a child. I feel kind of bad saying those things but I genuinely feel like the response was warranted. Am I overreacting here??

So I see my therapist once a month, and for the last couple of sessions she's been asking me about hobbies worded as healthy coping mechanisms. Completely understandable. I've been struggling a lot w my mental health this year, so when she asks about hobbies my response usually is that I cant find the motivation. In today's session, she tells me she thinks I'm a bit lazy wording it as this profound thing. Mind you, I mention on multiple occasions that all I have the energy for most days is work and even getting out of bed in the mornings is this great hill I struggle up.

I understand it comes from a place of wanting to help, but its been sitting wrong w me since she said it. Am I overreacting?

Disclaimer: Kid is 5 y/o, so overall this is not that serious. It's more the family's reaction that's the problem.

Staying with family at the moment, and they have 3 kids. The youngest keeps coming into the room I'm staying in, going through my stuff, making a mess, and taking money when he sees it. He never takes all of it, usually just a pound coin or a few pennies. I don't have loads lying around anyway as I usually pay for things by card. I explained to him that stealing is wrong and asked him to stop taking my money. Didn't really make a difference. On one of the occasions I caught him, both of his older sisters were around. I was told that if I don't keep money locked away securely, it's my own fault if he takes it. Apparently he's allowed to take coins he finds in the house regardless of whose it is because it "helps him learn about saving money". This absolutely baffled me to be honest. Especially since his family isn't exactly swimming in cash. Sure, I understand wanting to educate him, but surely at his age learning moral boundaries like not stealing is more important...? I pointed out to them that when I was his age, I knew that taking other people's stuff was wrong, and I was laughed at and told that my parents were too strict. I have it put away more securely for the time being because I realise that I can't change the way he's being raised. But am I crazy for thinking that it's a weird approach? Or do I have unreasonable standards for teaching kids boundaries?

On accident, because there are cameras set up in the house and apparently they didn't disable them when they were together. She happened to log into the app and saw more than she bargained for. For a little context, her spouse has been hanging out with this friend as a retaliatory thing because of her and my friendship. Her spouse swore they were only hanging out and nothing ever happened.
She doesn't know how she wants to handle it. It clearly hurt her and is a super shitty situation. I, on the other hand, want to burn it all down. It could have farther reaching consequences for her spouse if she reports it (military) but the friend would have no repercussions. I have half a mind to hold a tea time and just pass out fliers of them on the cameras. I need to know if I should chill or if I'm over reacting because I'm about to hype her up and I am trying to decide if I actually need to sept back from the ledge.
ETA: I'm not really passing our flyers guys 😂 I do understand people are serious when they say that but I'm just tryin decide how much I hype her up because I think her spouse is a pos.

For context my business is in the entertainment rental industry, I don’t want to be too specific for privacy.

I started this business just to bring in some extra income for savings and investments. I went through the process of researching the industry and how the equipment works, buying the startup equipment (medium-high on the scale), creating the business name and branding etc and everything else that goes into the startup of a business.

My first booking happened to be my gf’s boss when she noticed the equipment in the background of the room during an online meeting, for which I am eternally grateful for as it got me over a few big hurdles like getting the first booking, getting content for promotion and chipping away at repaying that start up cost. At the event itself she came with me to help which I definitely needed considering it was still new to me.

The problem for me kind of started when she began claiming that it was our business when, up until this point, I had done all the work and put myself entirely at risk. It just felt like she was only interested when it all came to life and she saw what it could bring to the table. She sort of backed it up by saying that she got the first booking, has helped by giving her opinions during the creative process and got some of her friends to follow and support the page (which I feel as though comes with being in a relationship but that’s whatever).

Don’t get me wrong I was totally in the mindset of asking for her help with things and then paying her fair share I’m not greedy and I definitely need her, she’s great with people and would make transportation so much easier with an extra pair of hands. It just felt really weird the way she went about it without talking to me first and felt like I had lost half of everything I had worked so hard for.

I was just hoping to get some advice on how I could approach this and how I could fairly incorporate her in the business?

Edit - I’ve seen a lot of people go down the legal thought path with this. For context the company is registered in my name with me as the owner and that isn’t going to change. She also hasn’t categorically spoken about money or legal ownership but I’m assuming that is her interest in it.

Thank you so much for all the advice, I believe I know how I want to approach this situation now and might come back to update if anybody cares.

I don't want to share our specific ages, but she is an adult who is older than me. We are both female.

For the last few years, my sister has been struggling with her gender identity. She sometimes identifies as a trans man, which i have no problem with, but sometimes she doesn't. For the sake of this, I will refer to her as she/her and a woman, as I do not know what she identifies as and it makes more sense this way. She identified as a woman when I last spoke to her.

A few months ago, I started to notice that I was growing a bit of facial hair. I mentioned this to our mum, I had loads of doctors appointments, and then I was diagnosed with PCOS. One of my other symptoms is irregular periods.

When my sister found out about my diagnosis, she was mad at me. She said that I want to always be a woman and it's not fair that I have the ability to grow facial hair and that I sometimes don't get periods. She said that I should be lucky to have PCOS, as many trans people (ftm) wish they had it. Me and her got into an argument about it and we haven't spoken since.

Recently, I've been thinking about it and I can see both sides. Part of me can understand why she feels that way. I understand that gender dysphoria can be mentally painful and draining and to see someone have something that you want, can be annoying.

However I do still feel mad and I understand my side. She knows that I want kids and I've always wanted kids, and now I may not be able to. There's a lot of other things that she can do to feel more like a man. There's hormones she can take and surgeries that she can have. PCOS will affect my life in so many more ways than just growing a beard and having irregular periods, and I don't feel like she understands that. She very much thinks that her thinking is always right and always has done.

I think she was in the wrong, but I don't know if i'm overreacting.

I was approached by a female colleague (not someone I am particularly close to or spend much time with at work, but have always been civil and friendly woth) recently who confessed she has noticed I (F34) had the occasional habit of momentarily itching 'down there'. I was mortified as I had no idea (I have ADHD and am a very fidgety person), and immediately apologised if I had made her feel uncomfortable. She went on to tell me she had secretly filmed me doing it some weeks ago and it had been circulated around our business (all without me knowing) until someone went to HR to express their concerns.

It's been 4 days since I found this out, am I overreacting to still be completely devastated & mortified???

My husband watched our neighbor kid (between 7 to 9 years old) use his trampoline to climb his fence and throw what we thought was a ball into our above ground pool. The kind with an inflatable ring on top. I drained the pool yesterday to find a big piece of broken glass.

I was reading that the microscopic glass particles can become embedded in the liner and weaken the structure. They can also get into the filter and into foam pool toys. Not sure how true this is, but I am not willing to take a chance. I think the neighbor should reimburse us for the pool, having it hauled away, and the foam toys. Total is $250.

I just made a police report. The officer told me I was overreacting. I have a dog and 3 year old. Since it was broken glass, I have to do a thorough check around the yard to make sure more pieces aren't present. This is also not the first time he has thrown something into our yard and then tried to climb inside our privacy fence to retrieve it.

Now I am questioning if I am overreacting or not?

I need an outside opinion, because this is the first time this has happened to me in my life and i don't know how react for this. I am a F(40 yo), my partner a M(40 yo). We met 3 years ago and living together for 2.5 years. We have 7 months old baby, and i also have a child from my first marriage (10 yo), he loves him and raises him as his own son. Our characters are similar - he explodes easily, but quickly calms down, I am also impulsive, but if there is a quarrel, I need more time to cool down. Despite our two hot-tempered characters, we have a fairly peaceful relationship, after quarrels we discuss everything, apologize if necessary, seek a compromise, because we understand our shortcomings. Every day we have a lot of laughter, jokes, dances, games... And over these years we have had only 2 big scandals, and what I will describe below is the third. English is not my native language, I have been living in this country for 4.5 years, and I came as a refugee because there is a war in my country. I will note right away that finding a relationship and staying in this country was not my goal, because I have everything I need for a good life in my country, it is just extremely dangerous there, and here I really fell in love and in fact he and now our child are all that keep me here.

So, he often makes me notice that I look at my phone when we have time together. I don't think so, because if I need to do something on my phone, I do it (reply to a message, look up a product, make notes, add to calendar something, translate a word I don't know) because later I will simply forget to do it. It doesn't look like 1 hour together, I spend 40 minutes on my phone, more like a quick glance, reply to a message, maybe longer if I have to choose what to buy. Because with two children, everything flies out of my head very quickly. In addition, I try to stay in touch with friends who stayed in my home country. And my morning ritual is coffee, news and if there was shelling, then a messages to my friends whether everyone is alive. He is also constantly on his phone, playing mini-gsmes, although not when he is next to me.

Two days ago we were going to visit friends. I was cleaning the kitchen, while chatting on messenger with friends we were going to about plans, food, bbq, etc. When it was time to feed the baby, we had a conversation:

Me - can you feed the baby because I haven't finished cleaning the kitchen yet.

He - you didn't clean the kitchen because you were staring at your phone too much?

Me - don't make such remarks to me, because I will remind you about staring at your phone.

He - what are you talking about?

Me - yesterday when you were putting the baby to bed, she fell out of bed while you were playing games on your phone. So which one of us is staring at the phone? In 7 months she fell out of bed 3 times, and all of those times were with you.

Then he just exploded and started screaming at me like crazy: "Fu..k you, fu..k, you fu..ing cu..t, fu...ing tw..t, fu..k you...Why did you say that, you know I'm blaming myself for the fact that she fell. My little girl fell, I'll never forgive myself for this....When she fell, you took her from me and didn't give her back, as if she needed to be protected from me...You said that specifically to hurt me..." and so on. He broke down and screamed this while sitting in front of the child, he scared her and she started crying. Then he came up to me and screamed this in my face, until saliva was flying, he hit the wall, his eyes were bloodshot, he seemed possessed.

I note I don't blame him her fell. First time was after the birth, we both were exhausted and she was sleeping on his chest and rolled over. The second time was about 10 days ago when he didn't put the blanket around the bed to make a nest and went to talk on the phone and the third time was two days ago. Every time she fell on the carpet and apparently nothing happened to her, her behavior did not change, she ate and slept as usual. I understand that this can happen to anyone, and it happens a lot with children. I wasn't going to judge or blame him, but it looked hypocritical he was making a remark to me, but it was his staring at his phone that made her fall out of bed.

About 10 minutes later he came over and tried to apologize. But an apology in the style of "forgive me, but you..." and then shifting the responsibility for what happened to me. I don't consider that an apology. AIO? I was shocked by his reaction, no one has ever treated me like this in my life. Can a person insult and humiliate their loved one with the most disgusting words? Did I really say such a terrible thing to him and his reaction was appropriate? I'm overreacting that i don't want to accept his apologies?

My son was around my mums i was in the garden. I heard my son crying and my mum shouted no dont throw that! I think he threw it and she said you stupid little boy. I also overheard her shout at him and say 'now look what you made me do' when he caused her to spill her tea over herself this was severel months ago The tea incident was severel months ago the stupid little boy incident was today

My (24F) brother (26M) is getting married next year and his soon to be MIL has taken the liberty of sending the Save the Date’s. She is a bit of a control freak and has chosen the majority of the specifics for the wedding without consulting him or my family. His fiancée is the youngest daughter and has two siblings who have both gotten married in the past year, so this will be the 3rd invite going to guests of the family in the past 2ish years. My brother is the oldest child and the first to get married in our family.

The MIL decided to put on the Save the Date “We promise this is the last one”, implying that all 3 of her kids will now be married and no more wedding invitations will follow. I understand this is an inside joke among the family, but these Save the Dates will be sent to my brother’s guests as well (many of which are likely to be invited to the weddings of me and my 2 younger siblings down the line).

As mentioned, the MIL is a control freak and if the roles were flipped, she would undoubtedly be upset about it. I (and my brother included) feel it’s disrespectful to include an inside family joke on an invite that 50% of the people receiving the invitation won’t understand, especially when it calls into question my own marriage plans (which I expect to also be happening in the next year).

Part of me feels like it isn’t a big deal, but the other part of me is frustrated that the MIL is comfortable doing things to others that she wouldn’t be comfortable being done to her. Am I overreacting?

Me (19F) have always been on the nerdy side and I’m always open about my interests in that with my friends. So there’s a DnD club at my college that one of my friends has been begging me to come to and just “see if I want to get in on it”. I only ever played the online versions of DnD like Neverwinter and whatnot so I was curious what the actual game would be like so yesterday I came by their club room to see what it was all about.

As soon as I got in there I immediately realized that I was the only woman in the room, my friend I came with immediately introduced me to everybody as “that girl I was telling you about”. I see the guy sitting at the head of the table practically LEAP from his chair to come and shake my hand. The three other dudes in the room all waved and it was chill from then on. I told them I’d just be sitting in to watch a session to decide whether or not I’d like to join them on their next campaign. However, not even ten minutes into them playing the DM turns to me and asks me how I’ve found everything so far. I told him I was familiar with the mechanics of the game because of my experiences with the online versions and whatnot. He asks me about them and we talk about it some more before another one of the players at the table chimes in and is like “can we play please” and the DM just ignores him. He keeps asking me questions but they completely shift from questions about DnD and my experiences to personal questions about my major and future job interests. Then he gets to the question I was hoping he wouldn’t ask and that was “are you seeing anyone” and I am, I’ve had a partner for a while now and so I tell him that and he looks confused. He goes “partner? is that like a girlfriend or a boyfriend?” I asked him why that matters and he says “I just wanna know if it actually counts or not,” to which I told him that’s none of his business and left. My friend then spam texted me all the next day saying I embarrassed him by “being all sensitive” and that the DM was just “trying to get to know me” and I told him that I was incredibly uncomfortable being talked to like that but thinking back on it maybe he was just trying to get to know me. Did I overreact?

My partner and I stayed at an AmericInn recently, and the next morning we discovered a small pile of what appeared to be used needles behind the chair cushion.

We immediately reported it and had the items removed. Thankfully, we weren't injured, but finding used needles where we had been sitting was extremely disturbing and raised serious concerns about the cleanliness and safety of the room.

AmericInn's response was to offer 50% off a future night. We don't travel often, so a future discount or hotel points isn't particularly useful to us. I feel that finding a biohazard like this in a guest room warrants more substantial compensation, such as a refund or complimentary night.

Am I overreacting, or would you expect more from a hotel after finding used needles in your room?

Edit- commented the picture for those interested. E2- maybe not? It disappeared. Note- they had clearly blood inside of them and were not for diabetic injections.

I really need an unbiased opinion here. All my friends I tell obviously take my side and its not really helping me solve the situation.

For context, i 23F have a bf 28M and we have been dating just about 4 years now. He is from india and we have children together.

From the start he has always joked a bit inappropriately, it was always about other girls, how good looking they are, that he'd love to be with them for one night, whatever. At first I thought thats just his weird humour? And must be the humour where he's from? But it hasn't stopped for 4 years now, even when I repeatedly tell him how much it hurts me and makes me feel unwanted. He always has to point out how hot a girl he works with is or a girl on the street and its gradually lowering my self esteem and ive started to hate myself because I receive no compliments from him at all. He will joke how ugly I look and im a "2/10" and he says this all while laughing and obviously trying to play around but I dont find it funny, I do chuckle just because I dont know how to react.

Deep down these comments hurt me a lot, I feel so depressed, started hating myself and my appearance and feel like maybe im not enough and why cant I be pretty like the other girls.

There are times where it's getting better and I hear no inappropriate jokes or bad comments for months and finally think maybe things are changing but then there are months where I just feel like he is constantly putting me down. He even jokes about leaving me in a few years and make me a single mother which obviously isn't nice to hear. I'm at the point where I just dont know what to do anymore.

The good times are really good but there's just this, if he could control his jokes and just not say such things, this would genuinely be a perfect relationship but im not sure if I can go my whole life listening to someone say how hot his coworker is and joking he would cheat on me with her.

The hard thing is we have kids and im not sure how i would cope if I left. I have no family nearby nor do they bother with me, I only realistically have my dad.

I know my bf is going through a hard time right now with his family at home and there has been a lot of struggles there. He is also stressing about finances since only he works due to our kids being too young for me to get back into work just yet. I've offered to start work and we pay for childcare but he always rejects it but complains i do nothing to help him.

I feel like sometimes I should just try to understand he must be so stressed out and maybe this humour is his way of dealing with it since he's not an open person about his feelings and never tells me what's really going on in his mind. The times when I see him most stressed out is when he will make me feel bad the most, so sometimes I feel like this could get better if things in his life finally got sorted out but I dont know for sure.

I just dont know if this is the way men act or because of where he's from since all his friends there are the same way which makes me feel like I should just deal with it? And maybe im overreacting?

I just feel like calling it quits and saying enough is enough, that im done with this behaviour or if I should just deal with it?

Am i overreacting?

I have a good friend who I sometimes go out to dinner with. At some point during every meal, usually in the middle or toward the end, he puts each of his 10 fingers in his mouth and licks them (one by one). I'm always repulsed by this but I have never said anything and I never will because I hate confrontation. I've seen people who do this with one or two fingers and I think that's also repulsive. I'd like to know if you think this is normal to do, not just in a public setting but even in the privacy of your own home. Am I overreacting? Thanks.

EDIT: When I ask if I am overreacting I'm referring to whether my inner objection and repulsion to it is an overreaction or justified. I have questioned whether "it's just me" that feels this way in a situation like this and that maybe I'm overreacting.

My boyfriend and I have been together since we were teenagers (I was 16, he was 17). We moved abroad together, studied our bachelor’s, and are now working toward our master’s and building our life together.

Recently we saw a TikTok about a father who divorced his wife, took their child, disappeared, and the mother was desperately trying to find them. I said I couldn’t understand how a parent could do that because the child needs both parents.

My boyfriend said he would do the same thing. I thought he misunderstood the story, so I explained that the father literally took the child and disappeared. He said yes, and that after a divorce he would take our child, move somewhere unknown, tell the child that their mother had died, and find another woman who would truly love his son like her own.

I was shocked. I brought it up three times, and each time he said he genuinely likes the idea because after a divorce he wouldn't want his child being raised by his ex without his control. He doesn't believe in co-parenting in that situation.

He says we would never divorce and if we do in the future he will never do this to me because he loves me but also you would never know what happens in a marriage.

Am I overreacting for now questioning whether I want to marry him? We've been together for years and I love him, so I'm really confused.

Hello,

I’ve been dealing long-term with a brother who tends towards alcohol abuse and cannot hold down a job. My parents constantly support him and bail him out and at this point I feel like they enable him. He’s in his late 30s now, but it’s been going on for almost all of his adult life. I’m finally removing myself from the situation and am wondering if I’m over reacting. My parents feel I am.

Early 2025 or so he got a job and moved out of my parent’s place on his own. Previously he’d either been supported at a place by my parents or living with me. Working regularly was rare for him. I was hoping he’d finally gotten his life together! Said he was off the booze too.

Around 6 months ago he cut off contact with all family and mutual friends. Wouldn’t respond to calls or texts. He also deleted me on all social and video game apps and left every group chat. Even chats from years ago! It felt like he was purposefully trying to slight me and my parents. No idea why. I was seeing my parents every weekend as I felt really bad for them. They had no idea why either.

In the last two months or so we found out he no-showed at work. His coworkers were so worried they called the cops to check on him and called my parents as they were his emergency contact.

Then, at the beginning of August (when rent is due mind you) he finally reached out to my parents asking for rent money. He admitted he was drinking again and just didn’t want to go to work.

My parents paid his rent and said he’s probably going to move back in with them. This has been happening like this for decades now; my brother gets a job and seems to be doing well, but then quits/gets fired after he starts drinking again (I honestly wonder if he ever really stops) and is ashamed so cuts off contact until he reaches the breaking point then wants to reconnect and ask for help and my parents acquiesce. He’s had a DUI previously and an alcohol ignition interlock device for years now from that. It keeps getting extended because he keeps blowing positive for alcohol!

My parents want me to reconcile with him like they are doing. My parents are pushing this on me and my brother hasn’t really reached out at all to me. I told them I’m done with this and they’re enabling him. It’s their money and house and I’ll keep in touch with them, but I’m not interacting with my brother until he quits the alcohol and gets a job and moves out and stays this way. Is this too hard of a stance?

45(m) I was wearing only the hospital gown. Surprisingly warm in the room and being a stomach sleeper, at one point I was sleeping and basically was completely uncovered. RN came in to give meds and while I didn’t hear her come in she did call out my name which woke me up. Realizing she’s seeing my ass at this point I was frozen as turning over would reveal me even more. I did eventually turn over but don’t know if I did a great job covering everything and pretty sure she saw it all. She never said anything and took my vitals, gave me IV meds and left. At that point I looked down and yup, everything was out. I was half asleep to my defense but I still feel bad as I didn’t want her to see me as trying to be creepy because trust me it was never sexual as I was in too much pain to think as such. Should I feel ashamed, embarrassed, or should I chalk it up as she probably forgot about it the second she walked out? For context she was probably in her upper 50’s

So i female (35) went out with some work colleagues on a Saturday night for drinks. While there a gentleman (40s) approached our table while i was in the washroom asking about me from the other two ladies. When i got back he came to me asking if i was single and wouldn’t mind sharing my contact with him. I am single and searching and he was cute so yeah i gave him my number and went about my evening with my colleagues.
He sent me a message on WhatsApp immediately asking me to leave my colleagues and go to a different location with him. I refused. He stayed back and paid for all our drinks and for the next 3 hours kept asking to take me to another location which was more fun and relaxing.
I finally gave in when we had decided to leave (stupid me) but i shared my live location with the girls and told him i did so. He drove me to a place near my house which turned out to be a night club. I told him i wasn’t into night clubs and wanted to go home. I stayed a few hours with him until a fight broke out and i finally had a reason to leave. He dropped me off at my condo building around 4:30 am.
The whole of sunday he kept messaging me to hang out again and i refused. Told him i was out all night and needed to recoup my energy for the week ahead.
The whole week he kept messaging me to meet up after work but i refused and insisted on meeting on a weekend and also said i didn’t want to go to a night club again but would like to go see the new spiderman movie so that could be our date. He said he would get the tickets.
Saturday came and he never told me what time to meet up until 9:30 when he asked to come pick me up. I said no because it was already late and i didn’t think he had the movie tickets anyway. He said we could go get dinner and he would bring me back home. I said okay. He said 11:45pm. I’m like thats rather late.He came at 12 midnight anyway and took me straight to a night club again! I wasn’t happy and insisted on leaving. So he took me home reluctantly.
During the week he called me on WhatsApp again and i tried calling him back on regular phone call but it wouldn’t go through. I asked why his phone is off but WhatsApp works perfectly fine and he said he doesn’t have a phone number. Like what the hell? I can only communicate with him through WhatsApp and thats it.
Mind you i do not know this guys name. He said i should call him junior but wont tell me his real name. He wont share with me where he lives and is very evasive whenever i ask which part of Ontario he lives. Red flags popping up everywhere
On Wednesday i was sick and was taken to the hospital by my friend and i messaged to tell him. He said he would come at 11:45 pm to see me. I said that’s too late so he can come the next day. Next day he messaged again to come at 11;45pm to see me and i got furious.
This was the third time he said 11:45 to me whenever we were supposed to meet. He never has any other time aside 11:45pm.
So i told him off and blocked him on WhatsApp. He used a different WhatsApp number to message me. He can’t even call me on regular calls. I do not get it. I blocked that one too.
I think he is married or living with another woman. Or hiding from the cops cos who doesn’t have a phone number in 2026?
Did i overreact?

Hi! I work a front desk position at a hotel, I started in mid July and have a few complaints about the work I’m doing and how my boss is using me.

For starters, I’ve worked in hospitality at similar hotels in the same role for about 4 or 5 years now, I moved jobs in July to a new property and though the interview process was weird, I needed the money so I took the job. By weird I mean that I interviewed with the GM of the property for about 10 minutes, and then she got pulled into a meeting and I talked to two random employees for like 5 minutes and then I left, I got a call offering the position later that afternoon.

When I was hired I was given specific hours that I would be working and while my training schedule wasn’t what was promised the first two weeks I overlooked it because I was in training. Then after I finished training the AGM quit, and our housekeeping supervisor quit. So after I finished my training my promised hours were essentially thrown out the window and I was then scheduled to be a housekeeping supervisor (with no pay raise I was told that this position payed the same amount) for pretty much the rest of the time I’ve been working here which has been a month and a half now. So my set schedule promised at the interview, thrown out the window. And now they’re expecting me to cover night audit (overnights) on the weekends and pretty much telling me I won’t get my full time hours if I don’t.

I’ve also learned that they expected to get rid of a pm person when they hired me and they still haven’t gotten rid of him so my schedule that wasn’t promised isn’t open yet.

I’m pretty much ready to quit this job but I need the health insurance, I plan on moving in a little over a month to another city so I knew this job would be short term anyway, but I took the job expecting it to be a standard front desk job like the ones I’ve had where I can read for a good portion of the shift, but now I spend all my time running around the floors and managing conflict between housekeepers whose language I don’t even speak. On top of that my sleep schedule isn’t feasible with having to stay up on the overnights and then be ready to work 9-5 on the day after.

I’m just tired and over it, and on top of this my boss can’t help herself to give me a hard time, and dismisses my complaints when I have them. I just feel like I’m being used and wanted to shout into the void I guess.

Fuck capitalism, I have to pay my rent