So I got divorced nearly ten years ago. I was stupid and gave my wife the paid for modest house and everything in it as well half my retirement. I basically left with my clothes, my car and one piece of furniture I inherited.

I also agreed to too much alimony for too long.

Fast forward and due to documented medical reasons, I can't work and am on disability. Coincidentally, ex has been on disability for years and was getting that as well as alimony. The alimony amount was well over half of my disability payment and left me very little to live on.

She refused to even entertain a reduction in alimony when I reached out to her a while back. I got with my lawyer to petition the courts and the hearing was today.

I got exactly what I offered her before lawyers got involved, which is an 80% reduction.

Through the court filings , I learned that she has been spending like a drunken sailor and has totally overextended herself. I am not surprised as I was always the bad guy whenever she wanted to spend money and I wouldn't.

Feels like karma.

Hello Reddit. I am 34 (F) and my husband is 33 (m). We have been married 4 almost 5 years and I am honestly struggling. He is nice to me, funny, faithful he is handsome he is a great dad but i am just so unhappy. I am highly motivated in my career and life. I work out I am in shape I am on the promotion track for work I enjoy to travel and hike. I cook full meals I try my best to clean with my hectic schedule. I simply cannot get him to match any of that. I can’t even get him to do equal shares of household duties no matter how much I beg him. He barely likes to travel he won’t help me around the house consistently. He’s extremely unreliable. I beg him to do small tasks for weeks before I finally snap and then he does it because he feels bad. For example what has me on edge this time is a generator. We bought one it doesn’t work and I asked him to call the company. i work 9-5 and they are only open 9-5. Two weeks after asking multiple times I took a half day at work and called. It took me 15 min…. I got the form and printed it but I need him to remove the gas. It’s been 5 days since and he still hasn’t. This is a constant in my home. At what point do I just leave ? It will honestly make my life harder. And my sons will be hurt just because I am unhappy with my mediocre life. I feel like I will wake up and be 50 and realized my whole youth was gone.

I wish I could say I didn't see it coming... because the signs were there, but I was blind. We have been married for 6 years, together for 10. He came to my work and said he wanted a divorce and left. I was stunned and hurt.

How can someone of 10 years just do that. He shows no emotion or anything. Like he already went through the process, and I am here breathless hurting, not knowing what am I going to do. He was my best friend, the one person I shared everything with, and now it's just me... no kids, no family near me, just me....

I am married to an emotionally dismissive avoidant man. When I was in my early 20s, I was a people pleaser and I learned how to mold my life around his emotional needs (or lack of). I got really good at walking on eggshells and keeping the peace and apologizing for things just to break the tension. I mistook our trauma bonding as a spiritual connection. L

Now in my mid 30s, I’ve gone to three years of therapy and I’m at the point where I can see we are not necessarily emotionally compatible. His actions over the past decade have hurt me significantly and I feel like I am at the end of my rope with what once was an Unlimited pool of forgiveness., I have recently started expressing where I’m at, and I’m asking him to try and meet me halfway. While we have just started therapy, it feels like he really just wants to make all this go away as fast as possible. Expressing this need has been a major inconvenience for him.

Here is the curveball, I am pregnant with our second baby. I know I will get a lot of crap for this. But if you were to have asked me six months ago, our relationship seemed to be afloat, but a lot has happened since then. I think being pregnant again has brought up a lot of old emotional wounds I had buried deep within myself trying to make things better that occurred while I was post partum the first time.

He supports me financially. I am a stay at home, mom. When I quit my career him and I were both making the same amount of money (300k). Money which was never an issue for me now feels like it will be. I’m not sure I can jump into the same career. I once had so that makes me a little nervous, but I’m also not afraid? We live in Manhattan though, which is outrageously expensive even if you make decent money. Neither of us come from money.

I think right now my plan is to try and keep the peace till this new baby is about 18 months old. The first year and a half is truly difficult and I can probably fake it a little longer. Our life is relatively peaceful when I live on the surface of my emotions.

What do you guys think? What would you do in my position? Am I just kicking the can down the road? Is there anything wrong with that?

For context, I am going through a somewhat ugly divorce. My STBXW has made many horrible accusations (all false) and done everything she can to try and hurt me.

I've been paying all of the bills for both the house (where she still lives) and my apartment. My kids split time between the two. Between supporting both homes and paying the ever increasing legal bills, my finances are quickly falling apart. I haven't been in my home in seven months and have maybe 10% of my personal property (including some clothing). My lawyer filed a temporary motion back in June to get this all addressed, but the courts do not move fast. Yesterday we finally had the hearing on it. She brought up some BS in the hearing that was quickly shot down by my lawyer and the PGAL. It was all really uncomfortable to sit through. I won though. I get to pay only a small portion of the house expenses and I get to retrieve my stuff. And the court really came down on her about her attitude, lies, and delay tactics.

But, I don't feel like I won. This feels...like a pyrrhic victory. I didn't want to have to do this to her. I gave her numerous chances to avoid it over the last two months. But she forced me to do this. I still care about her. I can't shut off 15 years that quickly. I know she's livid, frustrated, upset, etc. And I don't want her to be, despite everything she has done to me over the last few months. I just wanted this to end peacefully and amicably.

I barely slept last night. And I'm feeling really depressed right now. Everyone's telling me that this was a great victory and that the end is in sight. But I feel like I just destroyed someone I care about. I know I will get past this. But right now...it feels like I'm actually the monster she thinks I am.

It’s happening. I feel like I’ve gotten hit by a bus. It was my choice but when your partner doesn’t care even a little bit that the marriage is ending, it affirms you were the only one trying all along.

I feel broken.

Nobody cheated or lied or anything. But after almost ten years of marriage (our anniversary is in a couple of weeks) and having been together since 2009, it’s done. The bedroom had been dead. The emotional communication broken down. So many feelings hurt. We had a daughter and it wasn’t enough. We survived a late miscarriage and it wasn’t enough. I got sober and it wasn’t enough. We lived through all that and so many good things and so many bad things and so many perfectly whatever things and now it’s done. I didn’t want it to end, after so much thinking this year. I wanted to fight again. But because things were not moving I had to be the one to research and serve him papers. He at least went to the courthouse with me. But he was well and done and couldn’t even bring himself to get sad over all of this.

I’m not perfect. I’m a mess. But was it truly so awful being married to me that not a tear could be shed for all of it? I feel so foolish for being so devastated today as he sat there stone faced in the car and told me that “I would get through this eventually”—like he had processed all of this behind my back, in another worse life where we didn’t even try.

I was never enough. And all I am is a fool.

My spouse and I are going through an amicable divorce (no kids, no custody issues) and we're at the point of deciding what to do with our frozen embryos. Our clinic gives us three options:

1. Destroy
2. Donate to medical research
3. Donate to another individual or couple for reproductive use

We're aligned on not wanting to use them ourselves, but torn on which of the three paths feels right. I've heard many infertility stories and would love to help another couple or family if we can. I'd value hearing from people who've been through this.

Hello,

Ten days ago my wife told me she wants to separate. I am 43 and she is 40. We have been together for 17 years, have two kids (10 and 8), and own an apartment together. This is by far the most challenging time of my life, and at times the pain and sadness are very hard to manage.

She is the love of my life, and I don't want to separate. But she is completely convinced, and it seems there is no other option for her. We worked on things for many years, and even though our relationship improved a lot, something broke that we haven't been able to recover. Despite everything, we have a deep love for each other and are handling this with respect, care, loce, and always keeping what's best for the kids at the center.

I am doing therapy and trying to stay active and focused on work as a way to cope.

In a few days we will tell the kids, and I have already rented a small apartment nearby where I will be moving shortly after. Our priority is to remain a strong team as parents. We have also promised each other never to fight over money, never speak badly about each other to the kids, and to always care for and support each other.

I live in Stockholm, Sweden, and would love to connect with others going through something similar, to share, support each other, and not feel alone in this. Does anyone know of a group, or would anyone be open to connecting? Any advice is also very welcome. I feel a strong need to talk to people who can understand what this feels like.

Update for my previous post about my husband wanting a divorce. Tldr: he got more and more anxious as time went on, until he dropped a bomb on me and asked for divorce before he left.

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Okay, so where do I even start? Perhaps something easy. I live in Europe, so it works differently here. Getting lawyers and all that stuff involved is not usually a thing. Also the advice given was much appreciated, and I am very glad I could write it all off my chest. So thank you all.

This is already hard... anyway, we talked, he came over for a bit and it was short. I just told him I wouldn't kick him out and that he was welcome to stay. We could buy a cheap ikea bed and toss it in the guestroom. Done. Because he meant it when he said he still wants to help with the kid. He still seemed very out of it here. Very dissociative in a way. I left after and told him he could stay home if he wanted to.

Then later, day after, we had another talk. He slept at home, I didn't. And he asked me to come over, which I did. Being able to think it over for a night, I came over stupidly hopeful. I just wanted to get past this. I realized i really did not want to throw away 10 years of a good relationship for this. So I brought it up carefully. Saying exactly that. And he seemed so relieved, he said he wanted that too. That he wanted to be there, wanted to be with the kid. He wanted it all, the kid, the life we could have. Me. He cried then. First time I've seen him cry *ever*. It was bizarre but also heartbreaking.

I was completely right about it. That this was a mental break down.

Now here's where it all goes to utter shit. You all were right, well.. half right. He did not have a full blown affair, not emotional, nothing. But he did cheat on me. Once. The same day he dropped the divorce bomb and he left. He went to a friend and was completely out of it. So left again, aimlessly driving until he called this girl from the sport he plays. He only knows her from there. And he went to her.

That's when it happened, he went inside, they made out and then they had sex. But it wasn't long, he says, because the moment he started... he knew it was wrong. He had this moment of clarity and immediately stopped, got dressed and left. He stopped at a parking place outside the city just to puke his guts out. But he knew what he had done would probably break everything. But he did tell me. He said he couldn't keep it a secret and it was eating him alive. Which showed. He was completely pale, like sickly, shaking.

He went on a two hour walk the day after that happened (so after divorce day) and only could see me and the kid... and him standing there left behind. He told me he fell to his knees there and wanted to take it all back. He said he didn't know what the hell had happened to him, why he said he wanted a divorce, why he never talked about it sooner. He didn't understand. All he knew was like he felt in a trance and couldn't stop the destruction. And he hates himself for it.

He didn't ask my forgiveness, he didn't beg for me to stay or make that choice. The only two things he really begged for were 1: "please please please don't take my baby away from me." And 2: "can I please be at his birth?" That was the most important. And I said yes, which made him completely break down.

Now for me... yes I'm utterly and completely broken. Cheating is and always will be the worst thing someone can do in a relationship, to me. And he did that. Which was insane. I keep crying. I see a picture of us both, I cry. I see him, I'm okay and then suddenly I'm not and I cry. My whole future, everything I wanted feels like it's been ripped away from me. I am not sure if I can forgive him, even if I desperately want to. Everytime I see him I am reminded of what he did and it feels like I'm grieving for a life I'll never have. Even if I'm able to forgive him, it will never be the same again.

Some questions people may have (just a guess): How do I know he didn't have a full blown affair? First of all, he told me and I believe it. Second, I checked his phone many times during pregnancy because he was *so* distant that even I got worried. But there was never anything there. And this man is *not* tech savvy, trust me. And the fact that he immediately told me because he couldn't hold it in at all.

edit: no he didn't have cheating behavior before. never worked late, never was suspicious with his phone. never did anything sneaky. i believe him. he has blocked her. he's leaving his sport.

Why let him stay? Because I still love him a lot even if I hate him rn. He wants to help with the baby. He wants to be here through it all. Helping in every way he can, because he realized how much of a fuck up he is. And what he did. He does not understand why he did what he did and he wants to take it all back.

Sleeping arrangement: separate bedrooms now. We went to ikea to buy the bed. Its set up and ready to go. Oh speaking of which, we went to an electronics store first and he bought me an Ereader i wanted to buy for myself. Yeah... this man is at his wits end.

Everything he said before: the excuses he used why he wanted the divorce and saying he doesn't love me were all a lie.

This man is in extreme crisis and he will get the help he needs. But that doesn't excuse his behavior. Especially not the cheating. I am not sure if I'll ever be okay after this. My life has crumbled around me, everything I thought was going to happen... will change.

I want to forgive him so so bad. I want to move on. But everytime I just... break. I woke up just now, looked at the empty side of the bed and cried again. I don't want this. I never wanted it like this. The only future I wanted was with him.

If you made it this far, thank you for reading this. <3

My wife and I have been married 30 years, and this is finally coming to an end. Our divorce should be a fairly simple division of assets, no child custody issues. My wife is extremely emotional, and I am concerned that her histrionics will impact the divorce process. I am looking for an attorney that can handle the financial aspects as well as the emotional volatility.

If you have gotten divorced, or getting divorced, what attributes of your lawyer were/are effective for you during this process?

So the title kind of says it all. I (37F) am divorcing my husband after I found out about him being at minimum emotionally unfaithful again with the same person. We have been together for 12 years and I am absolutely devastated. That being said, this sounds dumb, but I don't want him to be left completely screwed. I know how much he relies on me. We share a car, we work together, we have two children. For the sake of our children I don't want this man to be living in the streets. And I hate him with everything I have but I will always have love for him. After he pays for daycare every two weeks he only has a couple of hundred dollars left. I pay for everything else. But I want to be able to give him ample enough time to save up for a new place to live and some stability... Honestly, not for him. But for our children. Is it stupid? Everybody in my life is going to hate this idea. Please somebody give me some positive input.

I really get irked by this question. It easy to say he was a narc. They leave me alone after that.

I used to just tell it outright its because I discovered he had an affair with his supervisor at work, then gaslit and lied about it to me and my children. They have a follow up of:

It's do you think if you guys did counseling it would fix it. Like who wants a cheating liar? And why is that bar of disloyalty and disrespect up for consideration?

The emotional dyregulation he caused me and my children leaves no reproach for any deserving good to happen to him. Why would I want that back? What example of a man, father, and person am I telling my kids to let back into their lives?

I was naive to think love was enough. I doubt he ever loved me at all. And once upon a time I may have loved him, too much.

I don't feel like I have a choice. They have emotionally abused and neglected me for seven years. Despite this, instead of telling our kids that mommy and daddy have come to the agreement that we must split up, SBXW insists I tell them it's my choice alone. This is such bullshit.

Why do men get meaner and can’t stand their girlfriends and get just angry towards them whenever they’re cheating? And does it always mean they’re cheating if they’re acting like this?

Thrown by my ex wife of 2 years, while our children were with her. Ballon’s, cake etc. along with the kids friends as well as a teacher from their school. And we live next door to eachother

So I left my ex 2 and a half years ago and divorced. We have a three year old. We both agreed that if we started dating someone and wanted to introduce her in person to them that we would let the other parent know. Well I have been dating someone for 8 months. My ex found out months ago and continued to remind me of the agreement to not have her meet him without his knowledge. He continuously brings it up to which I stated I don’t need reminders.

Recently, she’s been saying my boyfriends name and that she wants to call him. Becuase sometimes I have to call him, and she is 3 and tries to say hi to him, and he says hi back.

My ex now stated he does not want her talking on the phone to him. Which I stated that was not what we agreed to and I am not in agreement to that but will honor our previous agreement.

I have no plans to introduce my daughter to him anytime soon. I really would like my ex to just leave me alone. I have her Monday thru Friday a stay at home mom during the week as I work weekends. So sometimes she hears a 5 minute phone call between my boyfriend and I, she’s three I can’t even go to the bathroom alone lol

Husband left to find himself. I don't know what to do from here. He admits that he has all the cards, and I can't "fix" it. He's getting his "own apartment, own friends, own hobbies" and he doesn't know if it will take a year or more to finally find himself.

I just don't know what I'm supposed to be doing. Find Myself? Hold down the fort? Prepare for him deciding that he's not coming back?

I'm just so overwhelmed, depressed, in shock, that it's hard to get out of bed in the morning, so how do I rebuild my life?

Hi everyone,

We’ve been together for 14 years, he’s my first love, and I’m completely lost: I just don't know where I stand anymore.

For several years now, I’ve been trying to talk to him and improve our relationship, without success. He used to refuse to engage, telling me I was a "troublemaker" or "looking for drama." He makes negative comments and criticisms on a daily basis (for example: saying my high performance rating at work was "easy" to get, asking why a guy is looking at me in the street, suspecting me over simple selfies in my photo gallery even though I have no social media, criticizing me if I take a nap, getting annoyed if I laugh out loud watching a movie because it's "too loud," getting annoyed by the time I sometimes spend on the phone with my mother, At the end of an argument, he always tries to erase his mistakes by demanding that I state and apologize for my own, He uses sarcastic comments to downplay my words in front of friends when I feel proud of my achievements, He insists we do everything together and struggles with independent time apart, He makes me pay for time spent with friends one in a month by picking trivial fights when I get home....).

During disagreements, it systematically takes hours, if not days, of negotiation for him to finally admit fault.
He has also always leaned heavily on me for everything (house logistics, vacations, paperwork, etc.).

One of the heaviest issues has been the topic of having children. He has always refused to talk about it, and more specifically over the last two years because I started insisting, saying it was "too soon." When a very difficult situation occurred regarding this topic, he offered zero support.

Since I told him I wanted a divorce, he started therapy and is making daily efforts. It’s not perfect, but it's there. The problem is that I'm terrified this will only be temporary, and I struggle to picture a future with him again.

As you can imagine, he has good sides too, but daily life is extremely heavy, and after 5 years of trying to communicate, I feel completely drained. I feel like he treats me as an adversary to weaken, rather than a partner.

What are your thoughts on this situation? Am I exaggerating? Marriage is important to me and I want to fight for it, but it’s so hard.

Thank you for your feedback.

Hello everybody,
My wife and I have been struggling for the last several months. Everything came to ahead when we had gotten into a minor argument about a month and a half ago. Everything was fine for a couple of weeks and then randomly out of the blue. She had gotten mad that my daughter had texted her while she was out with her friends the following day I came back from work and she had told me that she was unsure if she wanted to be married emotional because we’ve been together for 11 years, I decided that I would spend the night at my brothers figuring cooler heads would prevail.

I went back the following day and she told me she did not want to see me. she was not in love with me anymore did not think marriage counseling would work all the buzz words. I continue to watch our kids while she worked because I work different hours so I’m able to be home during the day and for several weeks this was fine.

Well the day after we had informally separated her and her father decided to take pictures of my safe and all of the things that I had in it we continue to coparent while navigating the informal separation, and then finally things came to ahead when my oldest daughter scared texted me, saying that my wife had locked herself in her room and blocked it. She was not responding to the kids, and she has a history of depression and extreme anxiety. I could tell my daughter was scared so I did a welfare check. My wife had texted me after absolutely losing her mind which I do understand and then the following day filed a petition for divorce.

She then proceeded to use the pictures of my safe and the contents as a shield for a domestic. The reason I’m posting this is because navigating this has been extremely wild and to think for the first time in almost 2 weeks I’ll see my wife and my kids and I’ll see my wife and it’ll be across a courtroom and it’s just such a surreal feeling because I still love her.

She’s still my best friend but at the same time I’m conflicted because she made a bunch of accusations and has kept me from my kids for anybody else that’s gone through something similar. How did you navigate it? How did you address the conflicting emotions and feelings? I’m not really sure what to do with myself right now. It’s just also surreal.

My wife and I are likely divorcing after she discovered I cheated early in our relationship, before we were married or had kids. I take responsibility for that and understand I hurt her deeply. For almost two years now, the relationship has been a cycle of her saying she wants a divorce, then deciding to “try,” then pulling away again. During that entire time, I’ve continued trying to make things work.

I moved states with her and our kids, leaving behind my job, family, and life because we were trying to build a new future. I cook, clean, take care of the kids, feed them, handle parenting responsibilities, and support her while she works, one of her non negotiable was that she would get a job since she doesn’t trust me. She said she would try for one year to make this work but than decided a month into living here she was absolutely done.

I’ve apologized countless times, answered questions about what happened, written her letters, and tried to show her through actions that I regret what I did and that I love her.

The confusing part is we can get along great as co-parents. We laugh, cuddle, and recently were even intimate. But whenever we’re “trying” to be in a relationship, things eventually go back to the cheating. She consumes a lot of social media content about infidelity and moving on from a cheater, and almost any disagreement can become about something I did years ago.

For example, I recently went to a job interview because she wanted me to get a job ASAP. So that i can have money to move out, The interviewer was a woman, and she immediately asked if she looked like the woman I cheated with. When we tried discussing a parenting plan around my overnight work schedule, she accused me of going to work to be around “little girlfriends.” She will say this in front of our 3 year old daughter and doesn’t mind getting into arguments in front of the kids.

When I say I can’t keep having every conversation turned into accusations about something from years ago, she says things like, “You just don’t like hearing how you ruined this family.”

At this point, I genuinely don’t know what else I’m supposed to do. I know I caused the original damage, but I feel like I’m constantly trying to prove myself while she has already decided she can’t forgive me. She is also demanding I do extra work around the house and is very picky on certain tasks and if they don’t get done she get enraged.

Am I doing too much at this point? Where is the line between taking accountability for what I did and continuing to stay in a cycle where I’m repeatedly punished for it? Am i wrong for not keeping up with the house that she wants me out of?

Please be brutally honest. I’m not claiming to be innocent here I know what I did but I’m starting to wonder if I need to stop trying to save something she has already decided is over.

I was wondering if anyone has ever experienced a time in their life like this and could offer advice. We were together for 5 years and now getting divorced. We own nothing together and have no kids together but it’s still the most traumatic and heartbreaking thing I’ve ever felt in my life. I’m 34 and I feel like my life is over because I have nothing now (Other than my job and car and parents). I know that this is the right thing to happen; we both do, but it’s hard for me to accept it all.

Can someone please tell me that it will get better.

At some point in this painful process, you will reach the end of everything you can do – emotionally, physically, legally. And knowing that you did everything you could, you now have a simple choice to make.

Am I going to carry the guilt, the shame, the failure, the worry, the desire for a different outcome with me all of the time? Or am I going to make the choice to let this go? Right here, and right now.

And the thing you’ll realize is that letting go does not take any special skills, any training, you don’t need to prepare, you don’t need permission – it is just a choice. Everything that is weighing on you right now is weighing on you because you are choosing to let it. You are allowed to choose differently.

When I made that choice for myself, the dam broke - all of the pain of keeping it together for so long was allowed to be released. I had given myself permission to take care of me again, and to not make other people’s issues, anxieties, past traumas, failures, etc., mine any longer. All of the physical pain of tense muscles came through as they relaxed for the first time in a year, and I’ve never cried quite like that - it was catharsis.

I put all of the painful memories and the emotions in a box and put them on a shelf in my mind. I can look in the box when I need or want to, and remember that memories like feelings can’t actually hurt you. They are part of you, but now they are integrated and not in charge of your life.

My entire world shifted and instead of spiraling after getting the full restraining order and the divorce paperwork in process, I entered a flow state in a way I never expected. I started living the way that I wanted to live, and everything started falling into place around me.

Since July 1, I have gotten to experience real joy and human connection again, and in a way that’s better than I’ve ever experienced. Through the trials of this divorce, I have learned to have bulletproof boundaries, and when I stopped owning other people’s crap (like anxieties) or trying to fix them, I have made the easiest connections with people throughout my world. My coworkers, my clients, my rapidly growing friend circle ALL want to be around me all the time, and my vibe is infectious.

When I put down those burdens, I took a flight to Denver that very week and went to see Zed’s Dead at Red Rocks. I hadn’t been to a show in a year or more, let alone an EDM show, and it was exactly what I needed, AND I met a woman there who I really connected with, who was on my level in terms of intellect, interests, geopolitics - so much so we spent the next 3 days together and went to see Zed’s Dead again the next night. And she took me to the top of mountains in her convertible (and her daughter asked when I was moving to Denver lol)!

I couldn’t have planned this - but when I chose to set down the burdens, the universe put me exactly where I needed to be. And since then, I’ve travelled to Nashville for work and had a blast, went to western KS for a music festival and had a blast, been wake surfing, World Cup parties, I’ve helped run a booth from our local ethnic enrichment festival (and been invited to travel to Nepal), I’ve been invited to travel to Boston, Virginia for Seven Stars hopefully, Atlanta, Las Vegas, New Orleans, and I’m going to Dancefestopia in a couple weeks too.

After Denver, and setting down the burden, all of my hormones started rebalancing too, at first it reminded me of first starting an SSRI - I couldn’t sleep, I felt kind of high and a little disorganized, but really really good at the same time. And I was doing a great job at work. And with the cortisol much lower, my testosterone came back with a vengeance too - exercise is easier, I’m like really sexually interested in women again (and have had a few wonderful encounters with 0 anxiety), oh, and adult acne for good measure. A price I will willingly pay.

My divorce is not finished yet, but it will be at some point. I just wanted to share because I want everyone to remember that a lot of this feels like it’s happening to us and all we’re trying to do is survive day by day, but eventually, when you’re ready, you can simply choose to let go. And for me at least, it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

I hope this brings some of you some hope that things can and will get better, and if you’ve been looking for permission to set down the burdens, maybe this can be it for you too.