r/LGBT_Muslims • u/i_woke_up_as_you • Jul 26 '26
Today (July 25, 2026), there was an attack at the Christopher Street Day (CSD) Pride event in Berlin.
In one of the discussions afterward, someone asked:
(For clarity: I’m not a Muslim. I’m responding because the question is about what the Qur’an teaches, and I haven’t seen anyone answer it from the Qur’an itself.)
Here is what I believe, beginning with the Qur’an itself…
That’s a fair question, and I appreciate that you’re asking it respectfully.
First, it’s important to separate what individual Muslims believe from what the Qur’an actually commands Muslims to do.
The Qur’an repeatedly teaches that human beings are not appointed as judges over one another’s faith or sins.
“Let there be no compulsion in religion.” (Qur’an 2:256)
“So remind. You are only a reminder. You are not a controller over them.” (Qur’an 88:21-22)
“And had your Lord willed, all who are on earth would have believed together. Would you then compel the people to become believers?” (Qur’an 10:99)
The Qur’an also teaches that ultimate judgment belongs to Allah alone.
“Indeed, your Lord will judge between them on the Day of Resurrection concerning that over which they differed.” (Qur’an 22:69)
“Then to Us is their return, and upon Us is their account.” (Qur’an 88:25-26)
Regarding relations with people outside Islam, the Qur’an explicitly rejects hostility toward those who are peaceful.
“Allah does not forbid you from being kind and acting justly toward those who have not fought you because of religion and have not driven you out of your homes. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly.” (Qur’an 60:8)
Even more broadly, the Qur’an teaches that taking one innocent life is an offense against all humanity.
“Whoever kills a soul unless for a soul or for corruption in the land, it is as if he had slain all mankind; and whoever saves one, it is as if he had saved all mankind.” (Qur’an 5:32)
So when someone attacks people at a Pride event, that violence cannot be justified by the Qur’an.
The Qur’an consistently commands justice, restraint, and leaves final judgment to Allah.
As for homosexuality itself, Muslims disagree.
Traditional scholars understand the story of the people of Lut as condemning all same-sex sexual relationships.
Progressive Muslims argue that the story is actually about attempted gang rape, sexual violence, humiliation of strangers, coercion, and the rejection of God’s messengers, not about loving, consensual same-sex relationships.
They point out that the men of Sodom are repeatedly described as approaching Lut’s guests with hostile intent, and that the city is condemned for many other sins including oppression and violence.
Under that reading, the story is not a blanket condemnation of gay people or same-sex relationships.
Whether someone accepts the traditional or progressive interpretation, however, the Qur’an does not authorize ordinary Muslims to police, investigate, or punish people for presumed homosexuality or presumed zina.
Judgment belongs to Allah, not to individuals.
So yes, Islam and homosexuality can coexist.
Millions of Muslims identify as LGBTQ, including many who believe they are faithfully following Islam.
Others disagree theologically while still recognizing that the Qur’an commands them to treat others with justice, dignity, and without coercion.
Those are separate questions: what one believes is sinful, and whether one has any authority to judge or harm another person.
The Qur’an answers the second question very clearly: no.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/EgyptianNational • Nov 29 '25
Hello everyone!
Welcome to our Frequently Asked Questions!
Here we are going to take some time to go over some of the most common questions we get. This should hopefully help people figure out how to navigate this subreddit and community and how to get the most out of your time here.
We will be posting the common question first. Then the answer underneath.
why can’t I post without community and Reddit karma?
A: we restrict posting to those who have established karma as way to ensure our community is not taken over by bad faith actors.
Basically. In order to make a post you first have to comment (sometimes that means waiting for a comment to get approval) and having that comment be seen and upvoted by other members of this community.
While we do sometimes approve comments slowly. Asking us to hurry up is no guarantee your comment is approved any faster.
Please give us a chance to respond first. Then message us if your post is not approved.
How can you say that LGBT is not haram?
A: Please see our Resource List for a list of various articles and readings that make a strong argument for both the totality of Allah’s love and compassion for us, as well as great arguments for why queer identity is compatible with your faith and identity.
In case you don’t want to read. The broad strokes is that the story of lút is pretty clearly about their immoral behaviors, including rape and adultery out of greed and corruption which were done by the MEN and the WOMEN of the people of Lot (43:44). It does not in anyway reflect or represent a consensual queer relationship and should not be interpreted in that way.
We maintain that the Quran commanded us to respect our selves and our relationships. Not reject people for who they are or what they believe.
We urge you to take in the totality our reading list before attempting to once again make the argument.
The Hadith says…
A: the Quran said:
> (٤٤) وَمَا آتَيْنَاهُمْ مِنْ كُتُبٍ يَدْرُسُونَهَا وَمَا أَرْسَلْنَا إِلَيْهِمْ قَبْلَكَ مِنْ نَذِيرٍ
Translation: We did not give them any other books to study, nor did we send to them before you another warner.
This Surah is discussing the usage of other books next to the Quran. Emphasizing that the Quran must remain above all other books. Necessarily that includes Hadiths.
Which as far as we know the prophet Muhammad ﷺ did not want Hadiths to be made. This can also be seen in the first Hadiths being written more than a 100 years after the prophet death.
This makes Hadith fall into the category of books held to the same standard as the Quran despite being commanded by Quran to do the opposite.
Hadith worshippers rely on believing the Quran is either incomplete or imperfect.
As the Quran said:
> وَإِذَا تُتْلَىٰ عَلَيْهِمْ ءَايَـٰتُنَا بَيِّنَـٰتٍۢ قَالُوا۟ مَا هَـٰذَآ إِلَّا رَجُلٌۭ يُرِيدُ أَن يَصُدَّكُمْ عَمَّا كَانَ يَعْبُدُ ءَابَآؤُكُمْ وَقَالُوا۟ مَا هَـٰذَآ إِلَّآ إِفْكٌۭ مُّفْتَرًۭى ۚ وَقَالَ ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا۟ لِلْحَقِّ لَمَّا جَآءَهُمْ إِنْ هَـٰذَآ إِلَّا سِحْرٌۭ مُّبِينٌۭ ٤٣
Translation: When Our clear revelations are recited to them, they say, “This is only a man who wishes to hinder you from what your forefathers used to worship.” They also say, “This ˹Quran˺ is no more than a fabricated lie.” And the disbelievers say of the truth when it has come to them, “This is nothing but pure magic.”
It’s no coincidence that today Muslims continue to struggle to preach faith over culture. And be guided by the faith rather than be tempted with the corruption of hatred and power.
We can add also these questions:
Is LGBT people condemned to hell?
A: No, LGBT people are created the way they are. Verses like 95:8 and 21:47 tell us that Allah is perfectly just and will not do the smallest measure of injustice to anyone. Allah will not punish people for being their true sexual orientation or gender identity, a matter which they did not choose.
Is same sex marriage allowed in Islam?
Yes. Verse 30:21 tells us that one of the signs of Allah is that He created spouses for us, that we might find comfort in them, and has placed love and compassion between spouses. Notice that in this beautiful verse on the benefits of marriage, there is no mention of procreation. The Quran thus recognizes that a marriage can fulfill its divine purpose even if no children are born from the marriage. Hence, the non-procreative nature of same-sex marriages does not mean that they lack value, or that they are not what Allah ordained.
Requiring a homosexual person to remain celibate, or to marry a person of the opposite sex, is effectively a lifelong arbitrary punishment (and a punishment for the other spouse as well, even if he/she is heterosexual). And it is also a lifelong temptation to extramarital sex, which is clearly haram.
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r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Hengkal • 4h ago
Context: ALNST Is A Korean Musical Animation Series That Was Heavily Featured Queer Theme.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/FlowFluffy7664 • 11h ago
I am bisexual south asain (Pakistani) from the midlands in the UK. I am 35 Muslim. I feel so hopeless and have lost any happiness I had. Everytime I find someone that I feel I connect to, and I tell them I am bisexual.. they are no longer interested. I don't want to start a relationship on a lie. Am I really destined to be alone and not have my own family. :"(
I am sorry if this post is not allowed, I am just tired, exhausted and emotionally wounded. May god make things easy.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Thinkeree • 5h ago
Salam alaikum everyone,
I’m reaching out to this community because I’m currently going through something I never thought I’d experience, and I honestly don't know who else to turn to. I need a safe space to lay this all out.
I’m M42 years old, of North African descent, and I live in France. Because of my faith in Allah, I’ve remained a virgin all my life and have never had any romantic or sexual experiences.
Three months ago, things shifted unexpectedly with one of my colleagues. He’s M43, from South America, living in France, openly gay for years, and non-religious (ex-Christian). At first, our interactions were strictly professional. But slowly, our conversations evolved into something deep, romantic, and intensely affectionate. We’ve both admitted our feelings and now say "I love you" every day.
Since we’ve both been away on vacation in different countries, we haven't seen each other physically during these three months. Our communication is strictly through text, voice notes, whatsapp videos, and a rare phone call—mainly because I can’t speak freely around my family.
Despite the distance, the physical and emotional reaction in my body is overwhelming. Whenever we chat, I get strong physical arousal (erections, pre-ejaculatory fluid). In the heat of the moment, I express deep affection, compliment him, and flirt heavily. But as a practicing Muslim, this creates a major daily struggle: maintaining my wudu (ablutions) becomes a constant battle. I literally have to carefully time when I open his messages so it doesn't mess up my prayers.
Lately, I’ve been reading books and researching progressive Islamic views on homosexuality. Yet, I live in constant tension. On one hand, there is a deep, human need for intimacy. On the other, there's a terrifying fear of misinterpreting the texts and committing a grave sin. Sometimes, the emotional distress is so heavy that I almost pray for death—while still leaving the choice of my life in Allah’s hands.
When the sexual arousal drops, I’m left with intense confusion. I ask myself: Do I genuinely love him, or am I just overwhelmed by physical attraction?
He knows I’m a practicing Muslim and that I cannot be out, and he is completely respectful and reassuring about it. He’s an amazing, kind person and a truly beautiful friend. I don't want to be unfair to him. But now that our vacations are coming to an end and we will soon meet in person, I feel completely lost about what to do next.
I’m facing a major dilemma and would love your perspective:
* Should I continue this relationship? Part of me wonders if I should just walk away, accept a life without sexual pleasure, and free myself from all this inner turmoil. But I'm also afraid to loose a real opportunity for love.
* How do I deal with the religious conflict? Even after reading context-based interpretations, the explicit verses condemning men desiring men deeply haunt and disturb me. I’m still not 100% convinced of the permissibility of same-sex relationships.
* What should I do when we meet physically? Given my total lack of experience, I’m anxious about how to handle the next step.
I love him as a person, but my feelings feel very different when I’m sexually aroused versus when I’m calm.
Has anyone been through a similar dynamic? How did you navigate the guilt, the physical attraction, and your faith? Feel free to ask me anything if you need more context.
Thank you for reading.
P.S. Two practical fears are also weighing on me: Sexual health: He’s experienced and I’m a virgin—i'm afraid of STI. Public visibility: I'm well-known in my local French Muslim community and my family is very conservative. I'm terrified of being spotted in public with him.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Effective_Leading376 • 1h ago
I’m a 24-year-old Palestinian-Jordanian man living in the US and looking for a woman who is genuinely interested in building a lavender marriage and meaningful life partnership together.
I’m 6 feet tall, masculine, successful, financially stable, and come from an upper-class Arab family. I’m Muslim but non-practicing and not strict. My family isn’t extremely traditional or controlling, and my future partner would have the freedom to live her own life and be herself.
I already own a beautiful home and would like to build a comfortable, stable life with the right person. She would be free to pursue her own career and goals. If she would rather stay home, especially once we have children, I’m also able to support her fully. That choice would always be hers.
I’m comfortable with my sexuality, but I’ve always wanted a family, children, and a lifelong companion. I’m not looking for a marriage that exists only for appearances. I want a genuine best friend and partner whom I can grow with, travel with, raise children with, and support through every stage of life.
Ideally, we would have mutual respect, emotional closeness, honest communication, and complete transparency about our expectations and boundaries. I want both of us to feel secure and fulfilled while creating a loving and stable environment for our future children.
She must currently live in the United States, and I would strongly prefer someone who is Arab because sharing a similar culture and family background is important to me.
If this sounds like the kind of partnership you’re looking for, feel free to message me with some information about yourself, your background, and what you envision for a lavender marriage. Serious inquiries only.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Personal-Sail-8043 • 11h ago
Hi,
I’m going through a really tough time. As a practicing Muslim woman in her 20s, and having same sex attraction, I never gave in to my desires. I always refrained from being with anyone (be it men or women).
I really have this urge of experiencing how it feels to be in a relationship. However, I want it only with another Muslim woman, who would understand these challenges. I’m giving it a shot posting here (DMs are open). Please do reach out if you’re in the states, and this post resonates with you.
No creeps, PLEASE.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Effective_Leading376 • 1h ago
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Nine004 • 12h ago
Hey, I'm currently living in Germany and i might go back to Jordan soon, but I'm hesitant because I'm into girls and i don't know how safe and tolerated to be queer or gay there, and how people date? Or get to live with there partners, especially when u have a conservative family, and what the worst gonna happen if you get caught......
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/TopEnvironment286 • 10h ago
Hey! I’m 30M 6ft 1. South Asian ethnicity. Born and raised in the UK. Love exercise and into the gym + outdoors + reading + writing + piano. Looking for friendship with likeminded people (M or F , I don’t mind). Hit me up 🙏🏼
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/dubai-lesbian • 1d ago
Trying my luck again to meet a nice Lebanese femme, preferably 24+. Feel free to DM me
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Arif_Tom • 1d ago
What Madjhab is more tolerating/ more practical/ suitable and actually basing upon quran sunnah literature?
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Over_Shoulder_1354 • 2d ago
I am a transgender woman; is there truly a place for someone like me in Islam? If so, I would like help with converting.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Sorry_Lack_5872 • 2d ago
I have been asking my self this question for the past few months. I am gay from a north african (so muslim by heritage let s say) background who have been living in a european country for several years now.
I have been on dating apps and it simply didnt work because there are many cultural differences ( for instance i m not out to my family and many gay men here wont even think about dating a closeted person). I thought finding someone on the same boat would be a good step towards finding a partner. But how do you do that? There are no lgbt inclusive mosques around. No apps for lgbt musilms ...kinda starting to give up on the idea of finding a partner
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/HourglassGourd • 2d ago
So i posted this on the r/muslimgaybros subreddit:
"i just recently discovered this subreddit from r/askgaybros and from what ive seen, the vibes are pretty okay so far (well except for that one guy). So this is my first time posting here.
As someone who's not muslim, i know that most muslims hate the lgbtq movement. And this caused a lot queer muslims to distance themselves from the movement.
Thankfully there are also many more resistances out there that seeks to assimilate queer muslims so that they won't be afraid to be part of the lgbtq movement. Through lgbtq organizations, subreddits like r/LGBT_muslims and the likes.
because only through our movement can we champion the rights of queer people in muslim lands, the right to live, the right to love, and eventually the right to marry. Hopefully someday we're able to see queer marriages be legalized across every muslim majority country. THIS is the importance of our movement.
I trust that this subreddit will be among those who'll invite people to our liberal and inclusive community."
But it got taken down after a few hours. When i asked why it was banned he told me that he didn't want pro lgbt sentiments in that subreddits and that gay marriage shouldn't be advocated for.
I (and im sure most gay people) find this problematic, and frankly outright homophobic. I'm just here to warn you guys about that subreddit and To keep an eye on them.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Ok-Target6556 • 2d ago
I'm 16, muslim Trans MtF and I know how my family's probably gonna react and I know they're probably gonna hate it. i dont wanna live anxiously for 2 more years till i'm 18, I wanna start HRT now and become the person i wanna be.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Tazzzii • 2d ago
My intention for marriage is companionship for the sake of Allah. I experience same-sex attractions / am asexual, but I don’t want to act upon these desires. Instead, I would like to build a family life that is based on mutual support, compassion, and a shared love for the Deen.
I hope to find a wife who is in a similar situation — someone who also wants a marriage rooted in companionship, trust, and worship, without pressure regarding desires, someone who I can be best friends with so together, inshallah, we can create a peaceful home, support each other and have children too through halal means. If you live in or are close to Manchester please reach out.
For me, the most important things are: sincerity, kindness, and working together to grow closer to Allah through our marriage.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Low-Kangaroo-9628 • 2d ago
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r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Over_Shoulder_1354 • 3d ago
Hello. I’ve been having doubts about my faith for several years; I was born Catholic, but I lost interest a long time ago. I would like to learn more about Islam and the culture in general—to find out if you are truly the way people describe you. By the way, I am a 26-year-old transgender woman. It would be lovely if you could send me a message so I can learn more about your faith, your beliefs, and your worldview.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/PartyWeird3155 • 3d ago
As the title states i am currently struggling with my identity. I have always been into women since my teenage years and it has been hard. I want the relationship with fellow girliess but because of my Muslim background i'm in this dilemma that i somewhat cannot get out of currently. As i grow up older it gets harder i want to break away from my chains and do what i want in life but don't know where to start.
I just want someone to talk to and maybe build a friendship or relationship i don't mind. Some stuff about me is I love reading book currently reading 'a little life', love hiking and nature.
\-- any creeps will get blocked 😊🩶
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Ok_Establishment9698 • 3d ago
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/ja_london01 • 3d ago
Hi all, I’m a 30 year old Muslim male living in London. As you can imagine I’m expected to marry soon considering my age now.
In an ideal world, I’m interested in a queer woman who can relate and has a similar situation. And no, this doesn’t come from a place of self hate it’s just a matter of convenience for most of us I believe.
A little bit about me: I love to go on walks, go to the cinema, read books and I also love to travel as well.
I do work full time, I come from an East African background but open to those who are from other backgrounds. And if you live in the UK/EU that would be a plus. Please do message if interested! Thanks.
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Chemical-Shift-1900 • 3d ago
wanted to repost here as well if anyone knows of great spaces or resources to connect with!
r/LGBT_Muslims • u/Head_Distribution573 • 3d ago
Hi everyone!
I'm a 25-year-old British Pakistani male with same sex attraction based in the UK. I'm working and financially stable, and my parents are pushing for me to get married. I don't want to get married to a heterosexual female as it just wouldn't be fair to her as I'm attracted to men.
I'd like a woman who's in the same or similar situation as me to please reach out whether they have same sex attraction or asexual, I don't mind. I'd prefer someone educated, and decent looking so that convincing parents would be easier. Preferably lives in the UK and willing to relocate to Birmingham.
I am not interested in anyone wanting to get married just as a cover. I want someone who doesn't act on their same sex attraction due to Islam like me, or is asexual, preferably someone who tries to pray 5 times a day and is a hijabi, but that is not a deal breaker at all.
I'd love to have our biological children someday, but after a certain amount of time and once we've become best friends first. I am very flexible in that regard and would consider other ways of having children too or even no children at all. Children are not a must for me. I fully support my partner working after marriage too, if they want to.
I love traveling, watching movies, TV shows and playing board games.
