r/leaves 5h ago

Can’t believe how much vaping was aging me

110 Upvotes

I’ve been a heavy user of carts for a few years and have been trying to quit. I’ve managed a few long breaks (longest was about 10 weeks) but have slipped a few times. I’m currently 3 weeks THC free after ~2 months of heavy all-day-every-day use.

I’m turning 30 this year & I’m used to people thinking I’m younger than I am, it’s been happening since I was a kid. But I’ve been stressed as hell about how I look this year. It felt like I was aging at a rapid rate & I thought it was genetics catching up to me. My skin looked awful (I’ve been dealing with the worst acne I’ve ever experienced), my hair has been dry and frizzy. But it was more than that too. Not sure what exactly, I just felt like I looked old and haggard. Like the lines on my face were more pronounced.

THREE WEEKS LATER and holy shit. Yesterday was the first time in a long time I’ve looked in the mirror and didn’t feel dread about what I saw. I look so much better😭 My skin is FINALLY clearing up, the dark circles under my eyes are gone & overall I feel I look younger and brighter. Just applying my face sunscreen yesterday I was poking my cheeks bc of how supple the skin felt.

It’s just insane to me how much it was actually affecting how I looked (and also how I perceived myself). I felt like a stranger & hated myself for it.

Anyway, just posting this to remind myself not to go to the dispensary today.


r/leaves 2h ago

I’m 3 years sober today, ask me anything

33 Upvotes

r/leaves 9h ago

Day 2 after 33 years of daily smoking

84 Upvotes

I just shit myself. Apparently, your gut gets so used to cannabinoids that once it doesn't have it, it has to completely rewire itself. It's not just the brain fog, or suppressing nightmares, etc - your entire system gets used to relying on a foreign substance to help regulate basic functionality.

I'm never going back to wasting days (years/decades) - and I hope at least one person reading this realizes that there's a lot more going on with this than we'd care to admit.

I used to make excuses, too. Cannabis helped me for a long time, but it isn't without its downsides.

Still very much pro-weed, but not for me any more.

I finally smoked enough. I don't need it any more.


r/leaves 3h ago

Reasons not to smoke again after a year

29 Upvotes

I’ll hit a year of no weed on Thursday and have been contemplating trying it again. I miss the big clouds of smoke I get from a bong hit and disconnecting from reality. Previously I smoked for 7 years, up to an 1/8 a day.

I’m saving money from not going to the dispo every other day and am much more emotionally stable and my life isn’t revolving around weed. Ive been single for a while and weed was always there to keep me company.

Can you folks list some reasons why I shouldn’t go back?


r/leaves 3h ago

Day 3 sober, smoked heavily for 27 years, feeling good but nervous

17 Upvotes

Y'all are freaking me out. I was daily user, double hitting carts almost every hour, waking up and smoking 3-4 times every night.

First couple days sober I would have intermittent sweats or chills but today I'm feeling pretty good.

At work I would take walks every hour or so to hit carts. Now I'm walking and doing deep breathing and it seems cool for the time being but looking at what everyone here has gone through compared with how heavily I was using... Fuuuuuuuuuuuck.

The dreams haven't come back but that's what I've been dreading. I buckling up.


r/leaves 1h ago

The only one quitting in a relationship

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Today is day 1 for me. Again.

I’ve quit many times & always think I can just “smoke this once,” but before I know it I’m back to daily use.

I want to quit.
I need to quit.
I am quitting.

My partner is heavily addicted & apparently has no interest in quitting.

It’s like the more I ask him to, the more he resists. He’s a stubborn MF.

Leaving him is not an option I want to consider. We have a beautiful life together with kids, a home, business, etc. & are aligned on pretty much everything—except smoking.

He grows it & smokes it & grows it & smokes it.

I started smoking again, in part, because I appreciated feeling connected to him again. Like, really connected.

When I’m not smoking & he is, I find myself irritated with him & start to think of him as a lazy POS even though that isn’t true.

I’m scared to be the only one quitting. I’m scared of what it will do to us because I know I’m going to get irritated, mouthy, & judgmental of him.

I’m curious to hear from other people who might be the only one to quit smoking in the relationship. How did you deal with your partner smoking? Any tips?

I’m not interested in hearing a bunch of people telling me to end things with him because it’s not that simple when you have a life & family together. This is the man I want to grow old with. But I am worried about being the only sober one.

Help. 😭 TIA. 🫶


r/leaves 8h ago

A big turning point

31 Upvotes

Today I'm 14 days w/o after 20 years as a heavy daily smoker. Been through a lot in the last 2 weeks, starting with an upset stomach for a couple days, then a week of non-stop sweating 24 hours a day. Now I'm coughing up dirty mucus every couple of minutes.

BUT, I finally have some positives to share! Last night I saw The Odyssey at a theater and I can honestly say it was the most enjoyable movie I can remember, especially because I didn't fall asleep, like usual. I never realized how much the weed was blunting the experience.

Now I just got back from a long walk while listening to music on my headphones, and it sounded just as good as that first time I got high and listened to a favorite song.

After all these years I didn't realize that it wasn't enhancing these experiences anymore, and was actually doing the opposite. I can't wait to try a really good steak while sober to see if the effect is similar.


r/leaves 1h ago

The boredom AGHGHHHHHHHHHHHHBBBHHHHHHHH

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It’s too hot outside to walk. Nothing is interesting on any streaming service. It’s 5 PM AND I AM SOOOOOOOO BORED


r/leaves 7h ago

day 2 no weed

19 Upvotes

hello, today is my second day fully weed free and it was a very rough morning. i woke up extremely anxious. cried for a while. got upset that my boyfriend has to go to work. cried more, decided i cannot handle being out today so i stayed home. now i’m just sitting here in my messy apartment that i need to clean wondering how i’m gonna get the day started without the constant flow of dopamine i get from hitting the cart, and just from having it with me and knowing i can hit it. my boyfriend asked me why i didn’t wait until my counseling appointment on friday to quit for good. i simply didn’t feel comfortable using my crutch anymore once i decided it was time to quit. i just want this thc out of my system. i want to be normal.


r/leaves 1h ago

No control

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I'm so very irritated right now. This weekend I got too fucked up and decided it's time to quit everything. Also I am getting a new job and may be getting a mouth swab Friday.

At this point I'm going insane between wanting to smoke and not wanting to 😭 I keep stopping myself but I literally hate my life without it. Man I hope this gets better.

On day 2 of quitting


r/leaves 18h ago

Day 250. No weed. Too much porn. AI is taking my job. I'm empty inside and looking for dopamine.

121 Upvotes

AI is taking my job. I fucked up the last ten years of my career. Didn't save any money. Day 250, no weed. Watching too much porn. I'm too tired to masturbate. Day 250, no weed. Let's get to 251.


r/leaves 3h ago

Walking myself through throwing away the stuff I just bought

6 Upvotes

So I just went out and bought weed. I haven't used it. I need to wet it down and throw it away. I just spent $75 on it. But I have to toss it b/c that is the right thing to do. Because I have NEVER been able to "not use." I am going to do this. throw it away. I just want to say that A it sucks and B damn. that is a lot of money a lot of weed to waste. 75 dollars! but I will. C. I need to think long term and remember that this horrible urge to use and rage at the world will abate. I've been rude all day. persnickety. yes, IATAH. I will post in the comments when I have done it. about 2 hrs from now, after work. :-( this sucks


r/leaves 1h ago

Impostor syndrome for “only being addicted to weed”

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I’m one week weed free today and feeling better than I have in a while! One big barrier for quitting was the false notion that because weed is a lighter drug, a dependence or addiction was not a big deal. No matter what your vice is, if it ticks enough boxes (worsening quality of life, choosing a substance over most other things in life, etc) it should be taken seriously as the problem that it is.
Downplaying my addiction feels so stupid in hindsight, especially considering I have lost jobs/relationships because of weed. A good guideline to follow: if you often find yourself thinking about quitting something but keep doing it, chances are it is bad for you. This applies to substances, relationships and habits.
Recognizing if you have addictive tendencies is also very important. If you have an “addictive personality,” odds are you will always be addicted to something. Especially when you first quit a harmful addiction, be mindful of what you choose to fill that vacuum. Personally I just leaned more into art and climbing.


r/leaves 8h ago

Day 3, smoking all day everyday for about 10 years.

13 Upvotes

I'm 28. I’ve tried to quit before. Usually by now my skin would be crawling and I’d be looking for scraps to smoke. This time is different; I don’t feel the urge to look for weed anywhere. I'm going to smash my bong with a hammer. My brain feels foggy af. I’ve been journaling, watching TV, and doing chores when I feel restless. I just want to be sober and sane for once. 

I was smoking all day everyday for about 10 years. What a waste of my time. It was okay at first – When I was 18 and starting college I only smoked at the occasional party and always with friends. But by the time I was 21, getting high was my main hobby and I did it alone. I should’ve quit a long time ago.

For the first time in my life I can admit that I have a substance problem and I want to get better. Usually if I can't get high I'll get drunk, but I'm going completely sober. The last time I smoked I felt sad, numb, and withdrawn. It felt like my mind was begging me to do something different. I never want to feel so lost again.

Before I was a stoner, I used to read a hundred books a year, had an active social life, was super creative and intelligent. I still believe I’m capable of being the person I used to be. Maybe even smarter this time around. 

My partner of 5 years who I live with is still a daily weed user. I don’t mind that they still smoke, but I’m thinking about asking them to only smoke outside and to put away their joints so I don't have access.

Thanks for reading.


r/leaves 2h ago

Day 19 - Round 2 Symptoms

3 Upvotes

Gave up for the second time 19 days ago and I know for real this time I can never go back. Had been sober for 6 months - so mad at myself for relapsing! Last September I gave up cigs / vapes and weed all at once after daily smoking for over a decade.

Had hoped the withdrawal symptoms wouldn’t be as bad this time since I’d only been smoking weed (no tobacco) for 4/5 months this time, but this week the gastrointestinal stuff has been so fecking annoying.

- have a VERY small appetite (get full so quick and nauseous if I try eat more).
- Heartburn and reflux which then sparks my anxiety and it’s a whole ordeal.
- exhausted very early in the day, even after 7-8 hours sleep
- hyper aware of every body sensation (heart beat/ breathing / my own tongue and swallow )

Now luckily the sleep has been good this time, no bad sweats or insomnia thank god, but the eating stuff is really annoying. Only thing I’m doing to relieve symptoms is mint or ginger tea, and chewable Rennie to relieve the heartburn… but can anyone recommend other solutions? Or even just tell me it will pass!

I had 2 coffees today and learned my lesson - my body is just incapable of processing anything anymore it’s so tiring. Rant over, sorry! Just need to share with people who’d understand.


r/leaves 1h ago

Day 7 and PMS

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Only one week down and my body already decided to enter my worst nightmare, first period in a very long time without the relief of smoking.

I feel like actual shit. It's so overwhelming.

Where are my girlies at and how do you do in this... bloody mess


r/leaves 6h ago

Thinking of going to detox/rehab but feel like ppl think I don’t need it cuz it’s just weed

8 Upvotes

Title says it all. Really think this is truly the only way for me because I have so much coinciding mental illness that goes along with the weed addiction. Anyone have any experience with this?


r/leaves 17m ago

Second post today - struggling so bad

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I just want to feel NORMAL. I don’t want to go to MA bc it feels punitive and I don’t want to continue to suffer. When will this stop, it feels like never. I parked at the dispo last night and left, this is the longest I’ve been without it in over 2 years


r/leaves 9h ago

Week One!

11 Upvotes

Made it to one week sober (for the umpteenth time) and I am so sweaty 😩 lol trying to remember how uncomfortable I feel so I can stick to my goals of quitting for real this time. Physically I feel awful and can’t sleep, but mentally I feel much better already. 💪🏻 maybe it’s all in my head, but even my face looks less puffy and bloated. Anyone else just starting their quitting journey? We got this. 🙌🏻


r/leaves 7h ago

Day 9. Im so bored

6 Upvotes

Idk what to be doing with myself right now so beyond bored which is only making things so much harder as all I can do is think about how hard and shit things are right now and I’m so fkn tired all the time.

First few days I was surprisingly quite productive had an interview today think it went well but now I’m just sat around doing f all. Trying to find things to do to stay productive but idk what to be at.


r/leaves 11h ago

Extremely tired after quitting: anyone else?

12 Upvotes

Hello everyone,

I wanted to ask whether anyone has had a similar experience to me when quitting.

To give a bit of context: I am 30/F, been smoking since my 15th, almost daily since my 18th. After having a bad anxiety attack over 2 years ago, I switched to smoking only hash. I had many unsuccesful attempts at quitting before this, always picking it back up after a few days or weeks. But I've carried the desire to quit completely with me for years now. Because what started as a way to deal with social anxiety (ironic right?), an outlet for creativity and a way to self-medicate my depression, ended up being an impediment to making personal progress and growth.

I have used a recent trip abroad as a jumping off point to quit, as I was very active on the trip itself, hoping to push through the habit on my return. So far this has been surprisingly successful, especially because I live in a country where it is legal to smoke and I am surrounded by dispensaries. I only notice pangs of missing it here and there, which I am able to ignore so far.

Contrary to many other posts here, I am able to eat, focus on my hobbies, and I sleep well (with vivid dreams). But I do feel extremely tired, needing additional naps wherever possible. As such, I am wondering whether anyone else has had a similar experience, i.e. whether it is related to quitting and the body processing no longer ingesting THC. Because I am starting to feel that it could be a health issue rather than a side effect of quitting.

Aside from my question, I also want to express my gratitude for this subreddit. I have followed it for many years and have found it very helpful to follow the experiences and trajectories of others in their quitting journey.

Thanks for reading, hope to hear from you!


r/leaves 3h ago

Nicotine

2 Upvotes

Hello everyone!!!

Is there a sub for users quitting nicotine?

This sub has gotten me almost 1 month as of Friday THC free after 13 years of consistent use.

This is giving me the energy and capacity to start kicking my nicotine habit.

Thank you in advance!!!


r/leaves 7h ago

8 Months Of No Carts, Still Joyless

6 Upvotes

I was smoking carts daily for 4 years straight and quit in January. I gained 50lbs in the first 5 months due to eating out of stress and boredom. I have picked up healthy habits, such as exercising daily and eating healthy. But I do not get a feeling of reward from these (except the food, all food is the same and is the only thing in which I feel "pleasure". I am only able to keep up with the healthy habits through a process of commitment, stress, and relief and there's 0 reward. I have lost 12 of the 50lbs already and I simply don't care. I stress about not doing the things I promised I would do, so it's easier to do them the second I wake up. And once they are done, the stress is gone and everything else to do in the world sucks. The time between and after exercising and eating is so empty and I try to do things or get into things but it never does anything for me. Am I expected to just keep making more commitments and go through the cycle of stress of relief for an indefinite period. I'm at a loss as to how to spend my time after my commitments are taken care of. It just feels like I'm waiting for bedtime to repeat the same things over again. Is this just what life is? I can't think of the last time I did something out of want instead of need, I can't even imagine what satisfaction and enjoyment feels like. I feel like a robot with the ability to only feel boredom and stress.


r/leaves 8h ago

Day 9

7 Upvotes

I am physically okay, I am not okay mentally. My anxiety feels like it did before I was medicated. I am on a prescription medication for my anxiety/ocd. Everything is heightened, I am emotionally unstable and can’t stop crying and hyperventilating randomly. I am taking my PRNs as needed but this is so hard and feels like if I lapse I’ll let everyone down. I just feel like I am fighting myself so hard and for what.