i wanted to know how many people in this sub have married to someone who is from the west and what are some challenges they have faced/things i might overlook right now? for context i live in america as a student (background pashtun) & she is from el salvador but has basically lived her entire life here. i wanna know how your life is navigating stuff like religion, values, family relations etc. i’m personally very open minded about certain things and hopefully the people in this sub will too.

My friend was in relationship with a man for like a year. The man was good loyal caring and was ready to introduce his family from start. My friend took some time before starting any rishta thing. She wanted to be sure. After around 1 year she was sure about and after talking to man he told her family about him.

But oh man oh man whats wrong with these man. First he was forcing her to marry in 2026 and now after she tells everyone about him he flipped and started saying things like "ni ni 2028 tk koi chance nhi hai, apki family bhut jaldi kar rahi hai, agr mere ghr walo ne kch kha to m kch nhi kar sakta phr mojhy na khna mere abu bemar h delay kry hmara visit, meri sisters ko ap itni pyari nhi lgi, dekh ly apka ghr sahi h na yh na ho meri family ko issue ho, mama kh rai h ap job ku nhi karti blah blah""

What is wrong with theseee man???

So I never thought I have to write this here but I want to get out of my chest. Few years ago when my family was looking for marriage proposal I told them I am afraid of arrange marriages I will look for myself. So out of no where even I was not looking back then I met few people, and I genuinely get interested, vibes match, good personality, intelligent and financially good at start like normal middle class people. But suddenly after two weeks they lost job or financial difficulties. I am not talking about one guy here. It's the story of my life whenever it met someone always the same story and I feel like I'm the curse one. And why I only attract people who is struggling in their life.

Mind you I am not blaming them for financially I am just talking about myself and keep questioning my luck. Genuinely like someone everything was good, we were suppose to marry this year but bcz of financial issues he can't handle himself how he can runs a family and fulfil basic needs. So he left bcz he can't take responsibilities even though I am capable of sharing burdens.

Today I am sitting here questioning my life am I cursed or something. Why this is happening, and same story every single time. Am I not good enough or asking for financially good partner is wrong. What is missing

I’m a Male 23 only son no siblings, my parents got a bad divorce 2 years ago which left me with no one interested in marrying me. I am fairly handsome (used to get attention in the gym and college), have a gym bod, (been training for 4 years) good height and earn well too. Even after all of this, issue is k people think larka apne baap jesa hai, and honestly, everyone in my family has always said I am very different from him in most of the aspects.

Issue is I don’t want to marry any of my cousins (they are good potentials) just because no one else will accept my proposal due to my (parents divorce)

I have always craved for a lovey dovey relationship with my spouse but after this incident I don’t know how to navigate this situation. And I don’t think I’ll have that kinda relationship if I marry one of my cousins. I saved myself from every type of haram relationship or interactions too. I find a girl attractive but she’s 2 years elder than me. People in my circle say k girl should be 4-6 years younger because girls mature early and she’ll be more mature than you are.

Married people, help me navigate this please and please clear my misconceptions

Jazakallahukhairan🙏🙏

There are some certain emotions/terms like obsession, yearning, longing, temptation and infatuation.

They make me very curious, I read about them and I try to feel them and try to look them in people.

I try to pretend to feel how I can be obsessed with a person, I tried it once just to feel it. My kind of obsession is to stick to one person solely. And just look at each move from the way they talk to the way they smile, the way there eyes blinks or shines when they say something they're excited about. I pinned on that person for few days (That person doesn't even know me). It was fun indeed because I think our eyes matched and It left him wondering why I was look at him. That is the day when I stopped.

I read and watched some stuff about yearning. I wanted to feel that too and I tried something for that too. You know like doing little acts to show care, and it involved pinning on one person too. I pretended to think that he's my person who I want but cant have. I tried getting into that zone they call yearning. I loved this emotion. I mean trying to be with a person you cant have or be with but you know you want him. Its fascinating. I read few books about it and I think Im crazy about it.

Longing feels similar, but quieter. I read about it too and watched some stuff around it. It’s less “I want him” and more “I wish he were here.” I like the emptiness of it, strangely enough. The distance gives my imagination room to create everything reality hasn’t given me. and It was strangley crazy good. It excited me because I never felt something like this before.

Temptation fascinates me because of the conflict. Wanting something while knowing you shouldn’t have it. Sometimes I’m more interested in the moment before giving in the tension, the possibility, the little thought of “what if I actually did?” I loved poking around the edges and not actually get into it but keep wanting to. Then at last eventually end it.

And then there’s infatuation. I think it’s fascinating how easily the mind can turn someone into something extraordinary. You barely know them, yet suddenly every tiny detail feels meaningful. Maybe sometimes we don’t fall for people. We fall for the feeling of falling. It happens to me all the time, Imaginations take me to places.

I just wanted to put it here to know if anyone else is crazy about these stuff the way I am.

May be Im sick in head or something

I require a physiatrist for my girl (fiancée). She is suffering from chronic depression and anxiety. It’s effecting her sleep, meals and even daily habits

Its out of my control she relies on me but i cant do anything to help het instead we argue on stupid shit every single day

My girl had some childhood trauma and her mother has stage 4 cancer and she lives alone in a hostel so i would want a female psychiatrist for her

She might need medication cause its really severe now so thats why a psychiatrist.

If someone can recommend one ill be grateful
Ill cover the cost but it shouldn’t be too expensive

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Today I was sitting at a salon and this old uncle was sitting next to me. He asked me if I knew how to use a phone because he wanted me to download a picture from Facebook and send it on WhatsApp.

I helped him and then somehow we started talking about some guy. Uncle was like bro this guy is a really good person and basically like my own brother and all that.

Then he casually tells me this guy has done around 50 qatal and has escaped phansi like 5 or 6 times.

I was just sitting there like bro what the fuck

And then uncle goes something like Allah has shown him so much mercy that he keeps surviving.

BRO 😭

You just told me this man has allegedly killed around 50 people and escaped the death penalty multiple times and your conclusion is that Allah has shown him mercy?

The way he was saying all this was also so casual. Like he was telling me about some normal respectable guy from the area.

I genuinely didn't even know what to say.

Sometimes you hear these conversations and just sit there thinking what the actual fuck is going on in this country.

If a person can allegedly have 50 murders attached to his name and people around him still call him a really good person then honestly what are we even doing.

Pakistan ka kya hoga yaar.

Hey so i got these watches in Seiko and other tanks, they are absolutely beautiful pieces in affordable range for daily wear. Best for offices and small events.

I couldn’t find suitable communities where i can sell them off, can anybody enlist some of them or guide where they can be sold?