Hey so i got these watches in Seiko and other tanks, they are absolutely beautiful pieces in affordable range for daily wear. Best for offices and small events.

I couldn’t find suitable communities where i can sell them off, can anybody enlist some of them or guide where they can be sold?

So I never thought I have to write this here but I want to get out of my chest. Few years ago when my family was looking for marriage proposal I told them I am afraid of arrange marriages I will look for myself. So out of no where even I was not looking back then I met few people, and I genuinely get interested, vibes match, good personality, intelligent and financially good at start like normal middle class people. But suddenly after two weeks they lost job or financial difficulties. I am not talking about one guy here. It's the story of my life whenever it met someone always the same story and I feel like I'm the curse one. And why I only attract people who is struggling in their life.

Mind you I am not blaming them for financially I am just talking about myself and keep questioning my luck. Genuinely like someone everything was good, we were suppose to marry this year but bcz of financial issues he can't handle himself how he can runs a family and fulfil basic needs. So he left bcz he can't take responsibilities even though I am capable of sharing burdens.

Today I am sitting here questioning my life am I cursed or something. Why this is happening, and same story every single time. Am I not good enough or asking for financially good partner is wrong. What is missing

I require a physiatrist for my girl (fiancée). She is suffering from chronic depression and anxiety. It’s effecting her sleep, meals and even daily habits

Its out of my control she relies on me but i cant do anything to help het instead we argue on stupid shit every single day

My girl had some childhood trauma and her mother has stage 4 cancer and she lives alone in a hostel so i would want a female psychiatrist for her

She might need medication cause its really severe now so thats why a psychiatrist.

If someone can recommend one ill be grateful
Ill cover the cost but it shouldn’t be too expensive

I’m a Male 23 only son no siblings, my parents got a bad divorce 2 years ago which left me with no one interested in marrying me. I am fairly handsome (used to get attention in the gym and college), have a gym bod, (been training for 4 years) good height and earn well too. Even after all of this, issue is k people think larka apne baap jesa hai, and honestly, everyone in my family has always said I am very different from him in most of the aspects.

Issue is I don’t want to marry any of my cousins (they are good potentials) just because no one else will accept my proposal due to my (parents divorce)

I have always craved for a lovey dovey relationship with my spouse but after this incident I don’t know how to navigate this situation. And I don’t think I’ll have that kinda relationship if I marry one of my cousins. I saved myself from every type of haram relationship or interactions too. I find a girl attractive but she’s 2 years elder than me. People in my circle say k girl should be 4-6 years younger because girls mature early and she’ll be more mature than you are.

Married people, help me navigate this please and please clear my misconceptions

Jazakallahukhairan🙏🙏

i wanted to know how many people in this sub have married to someone who is from the west and what are some challenges they have faced/things i might overlook right now? for context i live in america as a student (background pashtun) & she is from el salvador but has basically lived her entire life here. i wanna know how your life is navigating stuff like religion, values, family relations etc. i’m personally very open minded about certain things and hopefully the people in this sub will too.

There are some certain emotions/terms like obsession, yearning, longing, temptation and infatuation.

They make me very curious, I read about them and I try to feel them and try to look them in people.

I try to pretend to feel how I can be obsessed with a person, I tried it once just to feel it. My kind of obsession is to stick to one person solely. And just look at each move from the way they talk to the way they smile, the way there eyes blinks or shines when they say something they're excited about. I pinned on that person for few days (That person doesn't even know me). It was fun indeed because I think our eyes matched and It left him wondering why I was look at him. That is the day when I stopped.

I read and watched some stuff about yearning. I wanted to feel that too and I tried something for that too. You know like doing little acts to show care, and it involved pinning on one person too. I pretended to think that he's my person who I want but cant have. I tried getting into that zone they call yearning. I loved this emotion. I mean trying to be with a person you cant have or be with but you know you want him. Its fascinating. I read few books about it and I think Im crazy about it.

Longing feels similar, but quieter. I read about it too and watched some stuff around it. It’s less “I want him” and more “I wish he were here.” I like the emptiness of it, strangely enough. The distance gives my imagination room to create everything reality hasn’t given me. and It was strangley crazy good. It excited me because I never felt something like this before.

Temptation fascinates me because of the conflict. Wanting something while knowing you shouldn’t have it. Sometimes I’m more interested in the moment before giving in the tension, the possibility, the little thought of “what if I actually did?” I loved poking around the edges and not actually get into it but keep wanting to. Then at last eventually end it.

And then there’s infatuation. I think it’s fascinating how easily the mind can turn someone into something extraordinary. You barely know them, yet suddenly every tiny detail feels meaningful. Maybe sometimes we don’t fall for people. We fall for the feeling of falling. It happens to me all the time, Imaginations take me to places.

I just wanted to put it here to know if anyone else is crazy about these stuff the way I am.

May be Im sick in head or something

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Today I was sitting at a salon and this old uncle was sitting next to me. He asked me if I knew how to use a phone because he wanted me to download a picture from Facebook and send it on WhatsApp.

I helped him and then somehow we started talking about some guy. Uncle was like bro this guy is a really good person and basically like my own brother and all that.

Then he casually tells me this guy has done around 50 qatal and has escaped phansi like 5 or 6 times.

I was just sitting there like bro what the fuck

And then uncle goes something like Allah has shown him so much mercy that he keeps surviving.

BRO 😭

You just told me this man has allegedly killed around 50 people and escaped the death penalty multiple times and your conclusion is that Allah has shown him mercy?

The way he was saying all this was also so casual. Like he was telling me about some normal respectable guy from the area.

I genuinely didn't even know what to say.

Sometimes you hear these conversations and just sit there thinking what the actual fuck is going on in this country.

If a person can allegedly have 50 murders attached to his name and people around him still call him a really good person then honestly what are we even doing.

Pakistan ka kya hoga yaar.

My friend was in relationship with a man for like a year. The man was good loyal caring and was ready to introduce his family from start. My friend took some time before starting any rishta thing. She wanted to be sure. After around 1 year she was sure about and after talking to man he told her family about him.

But oh man oh man whats wrong with these man. First he was forcing her to marry in 2026 and now after she tells everyone about him he flipped and started saying things like "ni ni 2028 tk koi chance nhi hai, apki family bhut jaldi kar rahi hai, agr mere ghr walo ne kch kha to m kch nhi kar sakta phr mojhy na khna mere abu bemar h delay kry hmara visit, meri sisters ko ap itni pyari nhi lgi, dekh ly apka ghr sahi h na yh na ho meri family ko issue ho, mama kh rai h ap job ku nhi karti blah blah""

What is wrong with theseee man???

Some people will literally ask you to be their friend, and the next moment, they start acting like you owe them something. If you’re not okay with something, they’ll keep insisting as if you’re their property. If both people are okay with it, fine but HOW HARD IS IT TO UNDERSTAND THAT NO MEANS NO?!

And the moment you say no, they get offended and show their true colors. And that’s when you’re like… oh, so THAT was the fuss.

I feel like this as a woman with a darker tan complexion, I always get seen as I'm not pakistani or people will assume I am Indian or bengali. I dont mind people thinking I'm from somewhere else at first but I would like to think people would not be shocked as well when I tell them. Also I think that the guys are seen normally regardless. I think it affects women more, as if they are not accepted overall.

Hi, everyone I am new here on Reddit. I would like to get some clean info about reddit 🤭. I am not genZ, not millennials but in between 💅. So suggest some good communities and tell where I need to be like careful ✌️.

We need clean, affordable convenience stores across Pakistan, especially near universities and offices. Right now, students and workers have to eat unhygienic street food because there are no good options on the go. There are few Convenient stores in Karachi, which are not convenient at all; the food is overpriced, and people cannot buy it every day or whenever they want. We want easy, budget-friendly shops with fresh packaged food so people can grab a quick, healthy bite without spending too much money, this is avaialble around all over the world.

like: 711, CU etc

i love Pakistani food, but they are not healthy at all; eating everyday will make you sick and create cholesterol and BP problems, if there is any organization or rich party who need business idea, please consider this

This is going to be a long story so bear with me. Im looking on some perspective on this where I can see what my sisters think about this.
So I am 29M and got married last November to 24M. It was an arranged setup where we got engaged in July 2024 so there was an approximate 15 month engagement period.
So for context, I am from a family where I am the youngest and have a married brother 35M. My wife is the eldest in her family having a younger brother and youngest sister.

The engagement period.
Before the engagement, we met each other just a week or two prior and started talking to each other. Nothing very special but we did talk about priorities and what to expect and I specifically asked her if she was into the marriage or not, because consent matters a lot to me. Her parents wanted to marry her with me from the get go where my parents and I went to her place for the first time and they were the ones pushing for a quick engagement (we do live 5minutes drive away from each other). I took a few days, did istikhara and everything was fine where I kept a little distance from talking and she was very talkative over text (we couldnt meet each other much as my job takes me to far off places as deployment). At that time, she was studying in a well off university (in terms of expenses). She was a little shaky, as you would expect women to be nervous regarding such a big step in their life. However, a month into it her birthday comes and since Im far away I couldnt manage a birthday surprise as per her expectations and my parents aren’t so good with gifts. From her birthday, she started becoming distant and barely talked to me, expressing her disappointment with mine and my families gifts. At the time, I was suffering from a severe infection and was admitted in a hospital at my deployment location.
Her mother had been a very frequent communicator with me where she would text me, call me and tell me about her and her family. Her mother told me how she was disappointed with the gift so I sent her two gifts in the next two weeks through a friend which were quite expensive to make up for it. She then started to be a little better but then asked me for “space”, i.e. not to talk to her for a few days which eventually became a week. Come september, I went on leave to my home and we were fine, we met each other, went on drives and everything seemed fine for a few months as you would expect an engaged couple to be.
So in January 2025, I am deployed to a closer location and the time comes to decide dates for the wedding. We discuss with her father who is a little confused at first but we settle for November 2025. She starts telling me jokingly that we should reconsider, maybe delay for a year or two and what not but for no reason, just that she is confused. Things go to and fro and everything is routine for another few months.
Moving to July/August 2025, wedding dates come nearer and we are starting preparations where I am deployed to another location which is maybe 6 hours away. She again starts jokingly saying that she wants to delay but does not give I reason. I ask her what the issue is but she doesnt tell me, but she is very normal and really attached to me judging by her frequent texts and videocalls which do bother me at that time but we meet up once Im on leave, we go on drive or I visit her home where her family is very forthcoming and really treats me a bit too much.

Pre Wedding Phase
A month** before **the wedding, she starts to become distant and completely stops contact with me. I try to approach her and her parents but they say everythings fine and she is just anxious, and I believe them since every girl would be in this stage. I reassure her, and try to tell her that everything would be fine and its too late to cancel the venue and tickets for her and mine family coming from abroad for the wedding and she reluctantly agrees. As per her parents, she increases her dose of anti-depressants but she remains slightly distant from me throughout. The pre wedding events begin and we both get busy with our side of the families.

Wedding
So when the Mehndi / Nikkah happens, she is very shaky and nervous. I comfort her the best I can and her family surround her, not letting anyone know of her condition. She is very much concerned about her friends coming and doesnt even invite them, or even tell them beforehand that she is getting married!
While signing the nikkah papers, I see that her signature is shaky and her family tells me later on that her brother held her hand to sign it.
She goes to her home, nervous and crying and I comfort her the best I can.
That night, her mother has a vertigo attack and is admitted in hospital and remains there for three weeks.
The day of the Wedding/ Barat, I pick her up from the Salon and she is fine, we go to the photoshoot venue and yet again things are fine aside from the nervousness. Once we go to the wedding venue, her mother barely arrives for half an hour and has to go back to her hospital. But I do notice that she is concerned about her friends being there. We go to the hotel room we had booked (she wanted to spend a few nights at the hotel instead of my house) and her whole family, literally her cousins and aunts come to accompany her and remove the makeup and the dress. This does concern me a bit but considering her mothers situation, it seems fine. No intimacy that night since she is on her period.
The next morning, we wake up and I go to the washroom. Coming out, I see her crying after checking her phone and comfort her and ask her whats wrong. She goes on to tell me that she doesnt want to go with the Walima and Im really taken aback with that. I comfort her, tell her its ok nothing is going to happen and that it would not be fine not having the walima since everything is planned.
I call her father and aunt and take her to her home, visibly shaken myself about whats going on. She reluctantly agrees after a few hours so I take her to the salon with her cousin, then the shoot and then the venue where things go fine without an issue. That night, she tells me that she doesnt want to spend the night with me at the hotel and wants to go home so considering the situation, I say ok and let her be. My family does not have an idea about whats going on as I dont tell them considering what they would think about it.

Post Wedding
She continues to spend her time at her home, with us going out for drive or meet her mother at the hospital for a few hours. And she remains distant.
4 days after the marriage, we have to go on our honeymoon and she asks me if she can take her cousin and sister along for “moral support”. Yet again, I agree to make her comfortable considering the situation.
We go for 3 days together, with her cousin and sister in one room and us in another yet she does spend most of the time with them.
On the second night, I ask her to tell me candidly whats wrong because things are not fine. She tells me that she has “attachment issues” and that she had a previous relationship which didnt turn out well so she needs time. Im visibly taken aback and concerned. So, upon return I go to her father and ask him to meet me. Then I meet both her parents who say that she is just making excuses.
I try to comfort her any way I can and be there for her yet all this time she remains secretive and hides her phone from me (continues to this day).
Then, one day her parents force her to spend the night with me at my home. We spend the night and the next day she tells me to drop her at the hospital. I drop her off and she texts me that she does not want this. Her parents are forcing her to spend time with me and that way everything will backfire. So yet again, I say ok, take your time and relax, Ill be there for you. Things go on the same way where we meet daily for an hour so but no spending the night.
Fast forward to end of december while my wife is away, i open her mothers laptop as she asked me to install a software. Whatsapp is open and i see her texts to her mother complaining “only your choice can be this cheap and dirty” and then a comment on a photo of us together “i wish it was xyz (name of another guy)”. Im visibly taken aback and I confront her and her family where she tells me that this is the same guy she told me about and blah blah. Her parents keep saying that its an excuse and she is not involved or whatever. Still, I dont tell my parents.
Things settle down a bit, I move away and keep telling her to stay with me but she hardly comes for 7 months (only two time, and one time with her cousin and sister). We have our fights where she either wants to visit abroad with her friends, or want something too expensive etc. Even when I come on Eid, I have to fight her to spend time with me. And during this time, intimacy is bare minimum as she is totally uninterested and makes excuses for everytime we are together.
I confront her about her attachment with her past relationship and she gaslights me for being too controlling and manipulative so I eventually stop about it. The fight spirals to almost a seperation and I tell my parents and thats the first time they know about it. But I stop telling them later on so they do not have resentment with her once she does come. I do regularly talk to her parents about concerns but they try to assure me, telling me that they have tried everything, they start praising me for bearing with her and everything and what not.
I send her on an umrah with her friend in February 2026 and thins do seem to get better, then I take her on another umrah with myself in July 2026 but we keep having fights during that as well.
Fast forward to our return, I am now deployed to my home city and live at my place. But still, after almost a year she barely comes to spend time with me and in a month, we only spend a few nights together. She makes time for her cousins and her friends, prioritizing their plans over ours and our fights have become more frequent.

For the past two weeks, I have sat her down and expressed my concerns about her backing off of her commitment/promise to spend time together over excuses and spending more time with her friends and cousins than me, her husband. I feel to have lost connection with my family and friends because I always wanted to spend more time with my wife. I feel like that she only contacts me when she needs something and is still involved with someone( yet i Dont have proof apart from her behaviour). I have been contemplating divorce but I cannot get over the fact that I have to answer to Allah over it and the stigma attached with it.
I recently confronted her father, meeting him alone and expressing my concerns to what he replied that I have two choices, either to trust in Allah to change her heart or end it, its my choice. Yet I feel her parents keep hiding something from me, even though they do tell me a lot of things which the girls parents so not occasionally mention.
I feel isolated, emotionally drained and feel like I am being punished for unknown reasons. I see other couples and I feel sad seeing them together, spending time together without a lot of expenditure and in routine activities where she wants to only do things which take a lot of expenditure.
In her defense, my wife said that she has anxiety and cannot leave her room. She does take medicines since a few years and does not spend a night over at her friends or cousins, only her room. She has improved herself as compared to last year but I feel that the real love is missing. I literally have to beg her to spend time with me.
She works for only a short time which is online teaching and is not completely dependent on me, takes pocket money from me (I still give it to her and handle the expenses once she is with me) and her father as well.

I’m 20F from Islamabad and honestly just need some outside opinions. About 6 months ago, I met this guy through Snapchat. We started talking and eventually he became someone I was pretty close with. He was older than me and used to spoil me with gifts and sometimes send me money when I was going through a tough situation. I never really asked for it, and I genuinely thought he was just being nice and never though too much about it.

This went on for around 6 months until he started wanting more from me. That’s when I realized maybe there were IRL expectations behind all the gifts and money. I wasn’t comfortable with that, so I ended things.

Now I keep wondering if I should feel guilty for accepting everything he gave me. I never promised him anything, and I didn’t know he expected something in return. So was I wrong for accepting his help, or am I overthinking this?

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I am dealing with an extremely abusive family forcing me into marriage. I need a temporary marriage of convenience within the next few months with a gay man facing the same pressure.

There will be no photos or functions. Just a simple, quiet Nikkah.

He needs to be financially stable (to convince my family easily) and able to host me for roughly a year, until I save enough money to move out. I am an introvert and live very simply. I will repay the living expenses later and can also handle cooking and chores.

I have no other option and they are pressuring me. I don't want to marry anyone genuinely. My family will also give me some cash if I marry, which can help me gain my independence.

Putting this out here to cross paths with someone in the same situation.

Conservative and religious people, please stay away.

EDIT: Stop DMing me asking if there is another way. Yes, there is, if someone gives me a ton of money to live independently I can run away from my house lol

Just wondering if miracles happen.

I’ve been married for a year and honestly, I feel so emotionally drained.
There’s basically no emotional connection between us anymore. My husband doesn’t really talk to me or share things with me. He’ll discuss even the smallest things with his family, but when it comes to me, I feel like he has nothing to say. Even when I try to talk to him or ask him something, he barely pays attention. I don’t feel like I’m his person or someone he actually wants to share his life with.
He has never taken me on a proper date after marriage. We barely spend any quality time together, there’s hardly any affection or effort, and it feels more like we’re just living in the same house than actually being a married couple.
Our physical relationship is also barely once a month. I found out that he watches a lot of porn and was also using OnlyFans, and honestly, that really messed with me and made our already weak intimacy even worse.
For the past 20 days, we’ve barely spoken. He thinks I may have checked his phone, so he changed his password. Since then, he barely sleeps, spends most of his time on his phone laughing and texting, and basically ignores me. I don’t even know what he’s doing, but seeing him so engaged with his phone while completely distant from me hurts like hell.
I also feel like I’ve lost myself after marriage. I’m expected to handle the house, I’m not allowed to work, and I don’t have any financial independence. I don’t even get pocket money. I’ve spent so much time compromising and trying to keep everything together that I’m just tired now.
I keep thinking about leaving, but then I get scared. What am I supposed to do after leaving? How will I support myself? Where will I go? Will I regret it? I’m honestly terrified of starting my life over.
I recently graduated and have around 7 months of work experience, so I’m trying to figure out how I can become financially independent and have some sort of backup for myself.
What would you do if you were in my situation? Should I keep trying to make this marriage work, or should I start preparing myself to leave? I’m genuinely scared of what life will look like after leaving and could really use some honest advice.

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My wife left me because my job was going good but she couldn't find one. i am an anesthesiologist and she is a surgeon. 

we have been together for 7 years.

i don't know what went wrong,  i tried everything to keep her happy,  but on a slight inconvenience she would threaten to divorce me or leave me. I would do two jobs to just help her live comfortably but that would make her more angry that i don't spend time with her. But when i would take days off just to be with her and take care of her ,she would not talk , she would rather avoid me , i would ask her to go out but she would insist on not going anywhere.  she also gets extremely jealous of even her female cousins if they say pay attention to me. She would also never let me touch her cellphone.

i regularly go to gym, i am valedictorian on my college and am doing good in my carrier.  It got sometimes so worse that she would mind me going to gym. 

i used to be pretty popular with girls in my medical college president of societies and all, where i met her and after she became my girlfriend i never even talked to anyone else.  i totally changed the spark in me died. i accept that i have flaws , i may be short tempered , average looking  with high functioning ADHD but i don't think i ever harmed her emotionally or physically.  I am very close to her parents as well. But somehow she makes me feel lacking and say i dont care about her.

I have even left my guy friends circle because i would rather give my family time. but Alas.

the recent crashout between us was because of my job requiring me to go at a remote location for 2 months. I don't know what to do i am alone and being a man i don't have anyone to talk to or someone who can understand.

Guys tomorrow is my first day of work do you have any suggestions for me at all? How to deal with employees and boss stuff. Please give me your experience so i wont have to go through it.

Hey hii

### Lil background you can skip
Im 25M a software engineer working in Europe earning around 700 euros / month (excluding freelancing)

I intend to move abroad my target was germany but i wont be able to be to get a block account. And im not qualified for DAAD scholarship as well as it requires 2 years of experience post graduation.

I have 3 years but i started working during uni and my gpa is not that too either 2.6 thats cause i skipped exams. Overall im above avg in studying and im in a mid level software engineer tho. My main neche is fintech. I was earning from 2 jobs till last month but i got laid from one the Pakistani one but the European one is long term and i tend to stay with those guys.

I am now targeting italy but i heard pay there sucks and idk what to do anymore its either italy or ill take a loan for Germany.

### Need help regarding these things
I want help choosing a country for studies or find a job leading to visa in Europe or American side (canada, usa, North American counties)

I would love some sort of visa sponsorship i heard i wouldnt need a block account if someone in Germany can sponsor a visa.

I might need financial help a loan of sorts i can manage upto 15 lac by early 2027 but idk much about anything else.

I applied to italy this year but wasnt accepted. I want to move out of this country to support my family.

### reasons why i want to move out
My dad is sick and im the eldest son so the whole households responsibility is on me. I barely managing my home with what im earning. If i go abroad i can earn money far more easily.
I need to prepare my my sisters wedding. My fiancé is also waiting. My brothers are in university so ill pave a path for them.
Lmao too many darn issues these are keeping me awake and im falling into chronic depression

Im sorry if i yapped a lot i just dont see any other options that can help me like this im good at what i do so i want to go somewhere where my skills wont deprecate. Any sort of advice or help be appropriated.

It all really started three years ago when we met in a random group chat. I started liking her back then, but over the course of two years, we only talked for about a month in scattered patches.

Then this past March, our conversations started properly. She confessed her feelings to me, and I felt like this was finally the moment I had been waiting two years for. Everything was great for about a month. Then, on a random Monday evening, she suddenly decided to pull away. She became distant and barely talked. I initially thought she would come around on her own, but after two weeks of this, I asked her about it. She replied, "I know I became distant. I don't want your studies or mine to get ruined, and this is just how I am. Before someone leaves me, I distance myself first." I thought to myself, this makes zero sense, but I stayed quiet, hoping things would resolve themselves.

During that period, things got so intense in my head that I even started hallucinating that she was physically with me.

Then came Eid, her midterms, and her final exams. Everything passed, and my birthday came around too. Instead of a proper birthday wish, I received a paragraph talking about how calm I am, how I don't make her feel guilty, and essentially questioning why she was even with me.

Later, her internship started. Around that time, I was in another city standing in front of a beautiful view, so I texted her: "I love you, I wish you were here."

She replied, "Say whatever you want before I fall asleep."

I didn't want my texts to sit unread while she slept, so I said, "Go to sleep then, goodnight."

She suddenly became furious, claiming, "I wanted to talk, but you don't. You've lost interest." I tried my best to reassure her, saying, "Who has seen tomorrow? Let’s live in the present instead of worrying about what will happen."

Still, nothing improved. Two weeks later, I asked her again. She told me I was overthinking and said, "I need space." I agreed and told her I wouldn't text. Just two days later, she messaged me: "You don't love me. I don't need a man who is all words and no action. If I go quiet, you disappear for two days? If I'm silent, why are you silent?"

It hurt deeply. My messages would sit on delivered for 15 hours straight while she was out enjoying life—shopping, lunches, dinners, posting stories, sending snaps, and commenting on reels. She looked happy in every aspect of her life, even reposting romantic reels, but couldn't find a second to message me. Still, I apologized and reassured her.

This became a constant two-week cycle. Her responses were always the same:

I am overthinking.

I am over-expecting, and she doesn't feel any urgency to reply to me anymore.

I have changed and am no longer the person I used to be.

I only talk and take no action.

"Take a break if my behavior affects you."

"Let's just stay friends."

"Fuck off."

I remained calm and apologized every single time. Whenever we did talk for 20 or 30 minutes, it felt completely forced. I brought up these issues in the most polite way possible, but she reacted with fury and defensiveness every time, never answering my questions directly. Instead, she flipped the blame on me: "You're wrong, you did this, you did that."

Last Eid, she told me, "Remind me next Eid, I will apply mehndi in your name." When I reminded her, she flatly refused, saying, "No, not before marriage." There was never a valid reason; why say it in the first place? Another time, there was a trend about saving pictures in your partner's DMs. She told me, "I don't take pictures anymore." An hour later, she posted pictures on her story. Things like this happened multiple times.

It reached a point where I had to go on antidepressants. I genuinely believed I was the problem, that I was ruining everything, and that she was beyond reproach.

Eventually, her texts dwindled down to one-word replies. Out of 100 messages I sent, she would respond to barely two with:

"Hmmmm"

"Yeah"

"Ok"

"Alright"

I wrote out my feelings and told her honestly, "These things are hurting me, and I need answers." Again, no real answer. Instead, she said things like, "I love you and I am with you as long as I can be, but your intensity scares me, and that's why I pull away, and my family is a factor too." I thought, You were the one saying 'who has seen tomorrow,' so why put me through hell for three months? If you knew your family would be an issue, why confess and enter a relationship in the first place? Even then, I never raised my voice or used a harsh tone. I communicated as politely as I could, hoping things would finally return to normal.

The next day, while we were in the middle of talking, she vanished. Over the next four hours, she sent snaps cooking, playing with her brother, and eating fries. The following morning, she went to her office and posted a story. When I liked it, she probably realized she hadn't opened my text and messaged, "Sorry, I was busy." I told her how that made me feel. She exploded: "Go to hell, you're toxic. You keep nagging that I don't give you time. Take a break, and I'll take a break too." Swallowing my self-respect, I messaged her again the next morning, and we fell back into the same shallow exchange:

"Hey, how are you? Is everything okay?"

"Yes, I'm fine."

Shortly after, I went missing for four days because I was diagnosed with blood cancer. When I finally texted her asking how she was, she merely reacted to my message with a thumbs-up. I told her, "We barely talk, that was really rude." She replied, "I won't blame you, I don't talk to you myself anyway." When I revealed my diagnosis to her, the only change was that every one or two days I would get a dry text: "Hey, you okay?" Just that.

I thought maybe things would soften up, but it immediately went back to cold, dry replies and messages left on delivered. It felt like purely performative sympathy. When I returned after being hospitalized for two days, she reposted a reel that said: "If he ain't doing something, some other man will." Over the past four months, she hasn't said "I love you" on her own once. She just claims, "I am avoidant, this is who I am." In the last four months, we have probably spoken for a total of four hours, and even that was spent arguing.

Eventually, even the 15-hour late replies turned into just heart-reacting to my texts. When I used to compliment her, she would say thank you; now, it was just a reaction icon. After four months of this, I asked her again for clear answers. She snapped: "Go to hell. Leave if you want to leave. I never asked you to do anything; you did it of your own choice. Fuck off. This is how I am, and I have problems at home." Keep in mind, I had checked in on her personal problems nearly ten times before this.

The following day, she reposted reels implying she was on her period and that she had never been loved right. She has past trauma from an ex who dumped her after three years, saying he couldn't marry her—though she mentioned they only really talked for 2 to 3 months out of those 3 years anyway.

Yet, she remains completely fine with her other male friends—following them, liking their posts, and commenting. When I expressed discomfort and asked her to remove them, she retorted, "Don't tell me what to do. I know my limits and boundaries." Back when we started talking, she was the one who asked me to tell her who to remove.

Every single time, I stayed and apologized. She ignores me ruthlessly. The focus is always on my reaction to the mistreatment, never on her actions that caused it. It is classic narcissistic behavior—she is always right. She confessed, made me believe we were going to get married, and then switched to cold, dismissive treatment. She likes reels celebrating being single, calling men terrible, or romanticizing past heartbreak, yet shows zero regard for my feelings.

Earlier on, she mentioned that a birthday is the most important day of someone's life and that you should make your partner feel truly special. Taking that to heart, I went all out:

As an electrical engineering student, I built a personalized AI companion keychain tailored specifically to her personality that talks to her.

I grew her favorite flowers myself off-season using special sheets, then crushed those exact petals to handmade paper for her birthday letter.

I worked two jobs over the summer to save 100,000 PKR for a ring so I could propose to her on a rooftop restaurant overlooking the mountains at sunset.

I kept a dedicated diary filled with poems and reflections on how I felt and what she might be feeling.

I even learned calligraphy from scratch so my poor handwriting wouldn't ruin her letter. Everything was handmade with complete devotion.

There are countless contradictions in her words that I can't even fully list. Every single issue ends with me apologizing. I have tried everything: ignoring her, matching her energy, giving cold replies, and being overtly romantic. She never initiates, never shares reels like she used to, and we went from talking 16 hours a day to nothing for days.

I realize now that I might just be in love with the memory of who she used to be. It is a clear loss of interest on her end—there is no excuse for not being able to find even one hour for someone over five months. The only time I feel any sense of peace is when I stop reaching out. I have been gaslighted, manipulated, and ghosted.

From my perspective its js clear lost of intrest and she js dont want to be villain

I mean she still says she loves me

But completely ignore any king of conversation

Okay u have past trauma

Why u confessed

And than made me feel like shit

I still love her and part of me doesn't want to walk away. You know my side of the story now—maybe I did things wrong too. But what should I do? Should I execute the birthday plan I spent months preparing, or should I walk away?

I took a long break from Instagram. I remember there used to be this Pakistani guy who had moved to Europe. He was maybe in Spain and used to post book reviews interspersed with gravel related content. His profile was called "books,drones,coffee" or maybe "drones books coffee."

I reinstalled insta, and tried to look him up. Couldn't find his account , anyone else remember him?

My father has always been a narcissist I've known that since I was a child. My parents had a love marriage that turned into something really bad and I wanted them to get a divorce when I was old enough to understand stuff but they never took that decision. Now everuday its so hard to have a normal conversation with my father. It was my dear dream to move abroad and get admission but I couldn't last year because my parents said no don't move abroad etc etc. Then comes my father in march telling me to apply to universities abroad, why aren't you applying, go to saudia, dubai, USA, taking literally all country names. And all scholarships do end their application by December max January. And i wasn't able to apply because i didn't had ilets as well. I got admission in masters at nust and fast. Now I literally have my first day of university next week and he's not happy. He's constantly just picking at me. As if I'm a loser. I've always been a high achiever, got a job the next day of my last paper in BS, don't take money from them at all, started my own business which he's again not supportive of. At this point I literally feel like running away, I've even told my mother to just get me married maybe I can have some peace. I'm so frustrated, everyone around him would tell him how good your daughters are, how good your wife is and he'll say the opposite. Tell us to look at his friends daughters and wife. Well those friends are being a good father and a husband. My mother takes care of his father day and night. And yet he's not grateful at all.