I'm an independent app developer in Berlin, and for the past months I've been working on probably my most unusual project so far: a dating app.
It's called "Berlin Audio Dating" for now, and it will initially be limited to Berlin.
The idea came partly from my own frustration with dating apps.
I've used quite a few of them over the years. Tinder was actually exciting to me when I first started using it. But eventually online dating became mostly a numbers game: look at lots of profiles, swipe, send likes, hope for matches.
Meeting someone in real life feels very different.
Walking up to someone and actually saying something requires a little courage. You hear their voice, notice how they react and get an impression that isn't based entirely on a few photos.
Years ago I used a now-discontinued German dating app that made voice part of the first contact. If you wanted to approach someone, you had to record a short audio message.
I still remember sitting there, thinking about what to say, recording it, deleting it, trying again and eventually pressing send.
One or two of those approaches somehow felt more meaningful than dozens of swipes.
That's the part I'm trying to explore again.
In Berlin Audio Dating, approaching someone starts with a short personal voice message rather than a like.
I'm also building a few other ideas around that:
When someone approaches you, you initially hear their message before seeing their photo and full profile. Physical attraction still matters - the idea isn't to turn this into blind dating. I just don't want a few photos to make the entire first decision every single time.
There also shouldn't be an endless stream of consequence-free approaches. Sending one requires a little effort, and the app isn't supposed to be optimized around collecting unlimited attention.
At the same time, nobody owes anyone attraction, a conversation or a date. You can decline, ignore or report an approach, and you should be able to pause yourself completely when you don't want to receive new ones.
I'm deliberately starting with Berlin because I don't want to launch another dating app that technically works everywhere but has almost nobody nearby.
The first public test version could be ready within the next one or two weeks, assuming I don't run into any unexpected problems.
From there, I want to get it into the hands of real people as quickly as possible. Rather than spending months trying to design the "perfect" dating app in isolation, I'd rather see what actually happens when people use it and improve the next versions based on that.
I've also started r/BerlinAudioDating as a small development journal where I document some of the decisions behind the app, including ideas that might turn out not to work.
Since today is Kiez Creator Monthly, this seemed like a good opportunity to finally introduce the project outside my own little development bubble.
If the idea sounds interesting, you're welcome to follow along. And if you think parts of it sound completely misguided, criticism is welcome too. At this stage I'd much rather hear that than pretend I've already figured out dating.