r/mildlyinfuriating 7h ago

I'm slightly vexed Please pay attention

My neighbor was outside talking on her phone while watching her 2 year old grandson. He was running around in front of her. I got into my car, turned on my favorite podcast and put the car in reverse. I looked up and realized that I didn’t see him anymore. I checked my rearview camera, and he was standing behind my car. Fortunately, my foot was still on the brake.

I’m so grateful that I have that camera. He’s so little that he was completely hidden from my rearview mirror. His grandmother didn’t look in our direction until I got out of the car and called her. I try not to think about what could have happened if I’d been running late and rushing.

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u/OGPasguis 6h ago

The reason why now all newer cars have rearview camera. Too many children ran behind a car, and no one could see them. Good job for being aware and alert.

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u/klopije 4h ago

I always back into my driveway so that it’s easier to see when leaving, but in this case a toddler still wouldn’t be visible if they were directly infront of my vehicle. I’m pretty sure my new car has front sensors, but definitely a reminder to be aware of your surroundings. Kids are fast!

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u/HideAndSheik 4h ago

Honestly I wish that front cameras would become a thing, ESPECIALLY with those big ass lifted trucks. Or at least a kind of front detection. Rear view cameras are one of the most amazing automotive inventions.

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u/PrettyPurrfect 3h ago

Those big ass lifted trucks should be illegal.

I say this as someone who owns a normal fucking truck

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u/Ok_Basis1422 3h ago

Even those big ass non lifed trucks. Ever drive a modern unmodified Silverado? Can't see shit out of those. 

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u/civilwar142pa 2h ago

I walked in front of a truck the other day in the parking lot and could barely see over the hood. I'm a 5'4" adult. Those things are insanely tall.

u/captain_20000 53m ago

Yep! I’m 5’3’’ and walked past this truck the other day! 😮

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u/IncredulousPatriot 2h ago

My 97 f250 is not lifted at all. Not modern at all. And I couldn’t see a child in front of it.

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u/Ok_Basis1422 1h ago

Was yours 4x4? My 97 sat lower because it was a base 4x2 and I didn't find it terrible. 

u/Infinite_Welder6775 14m ago

I LOVE it when I see one of those trucks and it's perfectly clean, like it's never actually been used as a pickup

u/Not_an_okama 28m ago

Agreed. The issue is emmisions regulations imo. The regulation is based on vehicle size, and since the point of a truck is to have a lot of power for towing and hauling, the body of the trucks got bigger to meet the emmisions regulations without breaking the use case.

u/Cimerone1 34m ago

Those things are literally bigger than tanks and so dont have any place outside of using them for actual work

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u/St_Franz 3h ago

I'll never understand why some people think it's cool to need a fucking stepladder to get into their truck. It just reeks of overcompensating for something...

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u/Ad_nauseum11 1h ago

I immediately thought of Richard Hammond using a step ladder to get in to his lifted American truck 😂

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u/couchsweetpotato 1h ago

I just have a Bronco Sport and I have a front camera. But I have to press a button to turn it on and it will only turn on if I’m not moving or under a certain mph. You’d have to make it a habit to turn it on to check every time before you left your driveway.

u/Ok-Doughnut5155 53m ago

I know some cars have a Birds Eye view that would do a similar thing

u/HomeGrownCoffee 53m ago

If you have a blind spot directly in front of your vehicle, you have a terribly designed vehicle.

You don't need a camera, you need an automotive designer that doesn't put a garden shed around the engine.

u/HideAndSheik 47m ago

While this is 100% true, it's highly unlikely that automotive designers would be willing to change that vehicle design entirely when it unfortunately sells extremely well within a certain demographic. It's much more realistic to push for a small addition (automatic front obstacle detection) rather than ask these soulless billion dollar corporations to just design the vehicle itself differently.

u/MoonIsMadeOfCheese 0m ago

I drive a normal sized Mazda SUV and it has an awesome 360 camera that I am obsessed with. Helps with parking in general, but being able to check around my car when I need to is amazing.

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u/IndustrialSlicer 6h ago

yep! it's a great regulation, and it saves real lives

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u/hot_shaker 3h ago

If I recall correctly, a pediatrician accidentally backed over his own toddler so he made it his mission to make back-up cameras standard.

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u/JonBonSpumoni 2h ago

Guy from my hometown killed his nephew this way :(. Sad as fuck

u/LKayRB 28m ago

I know someone who lost their first child this way 😩

u/GoatCovfefe 2m ago

I mean, thats not the reason why.

u/Impressive-Top8992 38m ago

In Europe rear view cameras aren’t the standard in basic version of cars. Parking sensors are but cameras are a

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u/cynuhstir1 7h ago

This happened to a lesser extent with some idiots dog in my neighborhood. They were just letting him run loose. Thank God for back up cameras.

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u/InfiniteGas_ 7h ago

Well just to note, I have an acquaintance who had an accident with not paying attention and their toddler running out to the garage to welcome them home.

I won’t go into details, but it was a horrific ending.

Always, ALWAYS, check twice and drive carefully with kids around.

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u/LaFemmeCurieuse 7h ago

I’m so sorry that happened. In my case, I do believe he ran over to say hello. Unfortunately, they don’t understand car dangers at the age.

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u/DeterminedThrowaway 3h ago

:(  

I'd never be able to forgive myself, I can't even imagine 

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u/Old_Shake3789 3h ago

Why do people let kids so young out of their sight outdoors?? It takes a second and they can go anywhere its so dumb especially on roads and such. Its too common and I hate seeing it.

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u/mr_humansoup 4h ago

When I was a kid (2nd grade), the kid next door got run over by his mom backing down the driveway. He lived but was out of school for awhile with broken ribs. Can't imagine being a parent and dealing with the guilt.

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u/LaFemmeCurieuse 4h ago

The guilt would be tremendous, but I’m glad he survived.

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u/AlexaJones2023 3h ago

Children are so fundamentally stupid. You can't even trust them to breathe on their own. I don't know why she thought it was okay to let her eye off him.

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u/Senator_Bink 3h ago

If you know the kid's parents, tell them.

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u/LaFemmeCurieuse 3h ago

He lives with his grandparents.

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u/Senator_Bink 1h ago

Oh. Poor kid.

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u/Jerry_BKK 7h ago

Good for you!

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u/billsdabills 1h ago

I one time came home after school to find a toddler in my house (I was a teenager, my parents weren’t home, and we did not have a toddler in the family). Turns out his grandmother who lived a mile away was watching him, and when she turned her back “for a second”, he had walked out the door. By the time I found him there was a full blown manhunt for this kid. Thankfully, a neighbor knocked on my door right then to enlist me to help in the search, and she rode with me to return the kid to his parents. A short police interview later all was well!

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u/inderu 1h ago

I once had a very weird version of this happen to me.

I was 19 and drove my mum's car to my guitar lesson (as usual). Only this time I brought my new guitar with me (I usually just played the guitars they have there).

When I got back to the car in the parking lot after the lesson - I approached from the driver's side (as that was closer to the direction I came from) unlocked the car, and walked around to the passenger's side to put my guitar case in the passenger seat.

And that's when I saw someone lying on the ground, their head under the car right next to the tire, and not moving.

I freaked out a bit - tried to talk/yell to get a response - but just got some weird moaning (so he was alive at least). I called emergency services and told them that I found someone lying on the ground next to my car and that I think he needs medical attention.

Paramedics arrived a while later, gave him a quick check, and said he's just drunk - and that they called the police to deal with him. They left, and I waited for the police.

About half an hour later the police arrive and manage to wake him up. This guy then immediately opens the back door of my mum's car and climbs in saying "Where's my wallet?"

The nearest officer says to me "just give him his wallet".

I say "I don't have his wallet, and I've never seen him before in my life. I just found him laying on the ground next to the car when I was about to drive home. Please get him out of the car and let me leave."

They saw I was a bit freaked out and thankfully just got the guy out of the car and said I could go.

It was such a weird experience.

But the thing that I sometimes think about that really worries me about this - if I hadn't brought my new guitar with me that day, I wouldn't have gone round to the passenger's side. I would have just gone straight into the driver's side and started the car without knowing that guy was lying there. I could have killed him. It gives me a chill every time I run this situation through my mind.

u/LaFemmeCurieuse 59m ago

I’m glad you saw him.

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u/Wintersmight 1h ago

My ex MiL ran over a toddler standing behind her suv one Sunday morning. Not easy to live with yourself after that. Glad you were able to see him!

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u/LaFemmeCurieuse 1h ago

That’s heartbreaking.

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u/Wintersmight 1h ago

Yes it is. It’s been over 15 years and it’s still on all our minds.

u/ValKyrie1424 48m ago

My neighbors kids were doing this to me but are much older kids… so I went next door and told the parents and now the parents yell at me that I’m a Karen….

u/ivorella 29m ago

I'm 31 now, but when I was maybe 12, a young girl got backed over by her dad's big ass truck from being behind it. I can still hear him shrieking sometimes :/

Cameras should be mandatory.

u/Independent_Cream156 33m ago

I had an older Ford Escape that just beeped if something was behind me. Once in a dark parking lot , I was backing up and it kept beeping I saw nothing but knew better not to go. I get out of my car, there was a man bent over tying his kids shoe!

u/nightmareinsouffle 32m ago

This happened to me years ago with a kid about that age, maybe even a little younger.
Except the parents were nowhere in sight and he was next to my passenger side brake light.

I had no reasonable way of seeing him as this was a car without a camera. I just had a feeling and stopped and then he came out from behind the car.

He went back towards what I think must have been his house. Still no parents.

u/LaFemmeCurieuse 15m ago

Did you call the police?

u/nightmareinsouffle 5m ago

Honestly, no, this was more than 10 years ago, not my neighborhood, and in a state that doesn't really do much about parents letting kids wander around. Even ones that young.

u/Themeanoneof7 18m ago

I am positive that I would have started screaming at her.

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u/Due_Appearance57 1h ago

That is one reason I always back into my parking space.

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u/mcgwigs 1h ago

When I got a minivan and had 2 toddlers I was in distant on a backup camera. My DH was notorious for backing without looking in our driveway and also with his tractor when mowing too. 

u/Sushi_Trashpanda 24m ago

That worst case scenario happened to a lady at my folks church. This was about 25 years ago and she was a Fedex driver making deliveries. She had to go down a long driveway to make the delivery and then back out bc there wasn’t enough room for her to turn around in the driveway. So she was backing, the high pitched beeping noise was working, and the pre-k child was outside unattended and didn’t realize the noise meant danger. Absolutely tragic 💔

u/LaFemmeCurieuse 16m ago

That’s awful. The common theme in these incidents is that no one was watching the kids.

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u/Constant-Ad-7490 1h ago

The fact you're acting like checking your backup camera is somehow optional is more than mildly infuriating. Are we supposed to congratulate you for not running over the toddler? 

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u/FireOfOrder 1h ago

How did you read this and get that impression? The post is calling out the person watching the kid.

u/Constant-Ad-7490 55m ago

They implied they would skip the step of checking the camera if they were rushing. Read it again. 

u/FireOfOrder 53m ago

I perceived that as rushing sometimes causes accidents. Humans make mistakes. Why are you being rude?

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u/paguy 1h ago

If they had checked the rearview mirror (also the right thing to do), they would not have seen the kid. I think the point is that the "new" technology makes cars safer.

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u/The_Walking_Dad 5h ago

1 rule: Don’t see? Don’t drive.

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u/caitejane310 4h ago

That is literally exactly what they did 🤦🤦

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u/Sub_Sandwich_Gal 2h ago

Nah the 1 rule at play here is; Someone is supposed to be watching a child? Then they should be fucking paying attention to them.

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u/AllThatKat 4h ago

Do you have magic eyes or something bc I definitely can’t see in 360 degree field around my car at all times. Op could easily be looking in the rear view or over their shoulder for approaching cars and not see a toddle run behind them. Ppl need to start taking responsibility for watching their kids 

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u/Spiritual_Ground_778 3h ago

Actually it's the driver's responsibility not to run over pedestrians. That includes children. particularly when they are on the sidewalk, which is a safe pedestrian path.

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u/OpposingPug 3h ago

and its the childs guardians responsibility to keep the child safe and out of danger

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u/Spiritual_Ground_778 2h ago

Yes, for instance by being on the sidewalk. The place where pedestrians are meant to be.
OP was driving her car on the bit of the road were pedestrians are meant to be.

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u/OpposingPug 2h ago

at no point in the post does it mention where the car is parked, sure it could be in a driveway (95% of houses where i live do not have a driveway) but it could also have been parked on the side of the road by the curb where a pedestrian shouldn't just be standing around, especially a toddler.

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u/nutlikeothersquirls 2h ago

At no point does the OP mention a sidewalk. And there is no reason to think that they were parked immediately in front of the sidewalk, even if there were one.

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u/LaFemmeCurieuse 1h ago

He wasn’t on the sidewalk.