We are planning on taking our friends and family on a 2-hour boat cruise between our ceremony and our reception venues as they are in different locations & the only ceremony slot we could get was in the afternoon. It’s a destination wedding and everyone will be staying for a few days, so no one will be driving or travelling etc. There will be food at breakfast, and food & drinks/lunch before the ceremony around 1 pm, but then not until the reception dinner around 7 pm. We’ll be getting on the cruise at 4. We’re planning on serving sparkling wine on board. Is having no snacks on the boat recipe for disaster? Or should it be fine? Opinions very welcome!!

My fiancé and I are getting married next September (yay!), and I think we’re having a nicer event than most people in my family would expect us (me) to have.

I mentioned including a dress code on my wedding invitations during a conversation with my mom and she told me it was insensitive to do so, because most people can’t swing buying new nicer outfits.

For context, all I want to make sure of is that people don’t show up in leggings. We’re in New Mexico where things are pretty lax, so I wouldn’t be surprised if people did show up in leggings.

Am I crazy for wanting a dress code? I’m not wanting anything crazy, just a casual attire dress code.

Also…Rough budget for these?

Thanks!!

Trying to keep it short and sweet as I don't like being the center of attention!

These are my vow:

[His name], to be standing here in front of you after 7 long years of distance feels like a dream I never want to wake up from. The time we had apart makes me grateful for the little things that we now are able to do together, like going on our walks, going out to shops or just sitting down to watch our shows without having to do it through a call or facetime. I know we are both thankful that we are finished with the distance, but I am equally as thankful for it because it shaped us into who we are today. Through that distance, we learned patience and with that patience, we have a better understanding of how to communicate to each other.

I promise that on the good and the bad days, I will never stop loving you. Even if I am being stubborn, I promise to always tell you I love you.

I promise to always be there for you whenever you may need a hug.

I promise to close all the cupboards you leave open and not give you too much grief.

I promise to keep making you laugh even after you drop your tooth brush with all the tooth paste onto my feet.

I can't wait to finally be your wife and work together to create the life we always talked about.

[His name], I choose you as my best friend, my duo in all games, and now I choose you as my husband. I love you so much.

I dropped off my dress at the tailor today. I needed bodice, hem and bustle work done and both bodice and hem is a lot of work (multiple layers, etc)

She said she will be done with the bodice in 25 days (she said to come on 9/25), which is 2 weeks from when I need to pick up my dress. And then I guess she will do hem and bustle within those 2 weeks.

I got a lot of quotes from tailors and debated A LOT on who to choose, and chose this one between the top 2 choices because I can start earlier with this person. But now I’m worried that I can’t see my dress for 3.5 weeks and what if it doesn’t fit right??? It’s so nervewracking :( the other tailor I was considering offers weekly fittings but she’s not able to start until 2 weeks.

Should I ask if I can come by weekly to fit? Is that the standard? Or do I just trust and wait.

So my wedding is taking place on September 26, 2027, out of town in the mountains for immediate family and the bridal party only, with a dinner to follow. Then, a bigger reception the weekend after on October 2, 2027 for 120 people, including those who came to the ceremony. I’m very type A, organized, love planning, and know what I want. My fiance is letting me do all the decor and such with little input because he trusts me and the style he wants is the style I want.

The ceremony is going to be on a mountain, my friend is officiating (he’s never done it before, but we’re working together on everything). The bridal party and our parents will all be staying in an airbnb together and will be getting ready there (it’s very large). The dinner after will be at a restaurant in town later on and there will be pictures in between. The reception is very DIY; we’re having more or less a chicken BBQ style dinner at a fire hall. My friend is DJing, an acquaintance is bartending, and our families and friends will be there the day before and after to set up and tear down decor and such. I am literally making all of my decor/got lightly used items to use for decor from others. I have a rough itinerary already, but it’s obviously still a big event to plan.

We have venues booked, food booked, hair and makeup booked, accommodations for us and the bridal party booked, and obviously DJ, bartender, and officiant taken care of too. We also have a photographer who ended up being someone we also know personally. We’ve saved A LOT of money doing things doing things the way we’ve been doing them and I don’t want to spend a bunch of money on a coordinator if it’s something I can do. So I’m wondering if anyone has done it themselves before? I’d rather not spend the extra money, mostly because it’s not exactly in the budget.

So my partner and I are deep in this conversation right now and I just want to hear some other people’s opinions who have absolutely zero stake in my event.

So I have a brother 10 years younger than me. He’ll be 15 at the time of my wedding. This is the only kid that will for sure be invited to our wedding.

But that also brings up the issue of whether other people will be annoyed at the no kids thing. Tbh I don’t care because there’s a big difference between bride’s brother and distant friend of the groom’s kids.

Now as of right now, we only know 2 people who will be invited who have kids. Unless I decide I actually want to invite my aunts and uncles, but that’s super unlikely because of some family issues.

Friend 1 is best man. I’ve considered making his kids ring bearers because I really like his girlfriend and want both of them there. Plus if we made them part of the wedding party we could still say no kids except those in the bridal party.

Friend 2 is the groom’s friend. We’ve been together for a long time and I have never met this friend. He lives about 5 hours away. We visit his area pretty frequently, but the friend never wants to meet up with us unless we go to his house. We’re usually there to see family and for short periods so it’s never feasible. This friend was asked if he would come both ways. To childfree, he said no. If we include children he said maybe.

My fiance thinks we should include children and if any of our other friends have kids we could just invite them too. He also included that people may be upset my brother is included or the best man’s kids. My partner is also rather uninvolved in the wedding planning, so while he can answer idk to every question, I have been bombarded with opinions. I have reached a point of just not caring for other’s opinions, but this was his first time hearing anyone’s opinion on our wedding so he’s taking it deeply.

I would also like to add that neither of us actually really like kids. I like my brother and the best man’s older kid, but for the most part I don’t like kids. My fiance has absolutely zero interactions with everyone’s kids. He pretends they aren’t there tbh. So I don’t think he really realizes what kids do at a wedding maybe. Every time we’ve spoken about it he kind of just assumed they would just sit at a table.

Need to just get it off my chest. I'm a month away from our wedding and I'm really feeling the deep bodily fatigue, brain fog, dizziness, nausea, headaches, just everything. The past couple of weeks (beginning of August really) felt like crunch time because September is just packed with other family getaways, work trainings, and work itself that left very little time to do anything. Because of all the deadlines being 2-3 weeks prior to our wedding, it felt like I only had august to complete everything.

I have a whole Excel sheet to keep track of all the tasks, took a week off to time block for tasks, but I noticed my body was slowly shutting down. On top of being a therapist, I was running on empty. I even noticed myself zoning out and thinking about wedding planning during sessions. I broke down to my dog and cried, then broke down to my partner and yelled ugh. He's not the best at planning and organizing so a lot of it was on me, even when I delegated tasks to him. He tries to attend to things, but obvs not to my level of project managing.

Today, I had a packed work day and cancelled everyone last minute because I just felt like my brain was throbbing, my back and arms are constantly sore, I'm having nightmares about last minute details about wedding planning, running late, people not showing up, and feeling like my brain has been so loud with chatter that for the first time while I sat in my backyard that always calms me down, the silence and sounds of nature made me even more on edge that eventually I couldn't even hear the trees or wind anymore. I had two bouts of panic attacks already. I can only sustain an hour max to wedding planning before getting overwhelmed and having an anxiety attack.

I'm super excited for my wedding day, I actually don't feel anxious about it. But I'm more excited for this fucking thing to be fucking done!!!!!!!!! FUHHHHHHHHCKKKKKKKKKK...I cannot wait to have financial freedom again, to be able to save, pay off things on time, to be able to eat out again without penny pinching, to buy a new office chair to save my back, to not out things that we need on the back burner anymore. I am both mentally, physically, and emotionally sick of wedding planning. I hate it with all my heart. End rant <3

Howdy y’all! Wedding is not until October 2027 so I have plenty of time to plan, but I’ve been working on figuring out all of our first dance and parents dance songs when I had the idea to possibly have my fiancé and I have a dance with both of our kids (they’ll be 5 f and 2 m when we get married).

Has anyone ever done this? I think it would be a nice and fun moment for our little family and the pictures would be wonderful to have. If anyone has any song recommendations, I would greatly appreciate it!

Also when would you do this dance? After the couples first dance? After both parent dances?

My parents had a very messy divorce 30 years ago, which has always made me weary of the eventual wedding where both sides of the family would be in involved. While everyone will be polite, it will be a chilly reception between the families and an uncomfortable environment for all. (For those who will ask why I am having a wedding - fiance wants one and I will not punish him for my family’s dysfunction.)

I am getting my hair and makeup done for the wedding, and my mom and her sisters will be joining in as well. In a conversation about my wedding, my aunt on my dad’s side was emphatic in her request to join me for hair and makeup. (Context here: I am getting married in May, so this is not a last minute ask by any means. I am also getting married in a state different from where all relatives live, so she doesn’t have a go-to for hair/makeup.)

I’m really conflicted on what to do. It’s one thing for my families to see each other at the wedding, but the getting ready portion will be VERY intimate and too close for comfort with all of them there. I also don’t want to offend my aunt (dad’s side) that I didn’t think to include her or ask her first if I turn her away. There’s no winning here. I just hate this so much.

Advice would be appreciated, especially from those who may be in a similar situation.

Hello, due to a family member getting a bad diagnosis giving them 6 months without treatment and up to 2 years with treatment if it works, I need to plan a wedding that will take place before/ around December for under $4,500 . I don't think any venues have openings so either a church or an Airbnb type thing, any ideas are appreciated.

Hi! I signed a contract with a photographer but I’m starting to have buyers remorse now. The retainer fee is not refundable and the wedding is 9 months away. The photographer is so sweet and talented but I can’t stop thinking about a particular photographer whose style I absolutely love.

Except the one we can’t stop thinking about is 11k for 4 hours with travel, which is quite expensive for us.

Curious to know about your photography experience, buyer’s remorse (if you felt it & what did you end up doing), and how much you spent on a photographer!

Has anyone used the made-to-order Groom/Groomsmen suits from Azazie? I’m curious about the total order time including production, processing, and shipping. My fiance is on a health journey at the moment and is actively losing weight, so we wanna wait as long as possible to order, but still allow enough time for any potential last minute alterations. Thanks in advance to anyone that can offer their experience as helpful insight!

I'm wondering about strippers at Bachelorette parties.

Ive been told (only by members of my family and her family) that that full....ummm...full exposure/contact doesnt normally happen at Bachelorette parties. Im pretry sure that people telling me this are simply trying to avoid me getting upset. What they dont understand is that the only thing about it that could be upsetti.g me is this feeling g that they aren't being honest with me.

Ive been to two bachelor parties involving female strippers, and in both cases there was full nudity and quite a bit of raunchiness.

Occurred to me that I might hear some objective honest responses by asking on reddit. Hope its okay, and thanks for any insight!

AIA this is a bit of a pity post 🙂 I’m hosting quite a big engagement party at the end of the month and I just feel totally stressed out by it and all the anxiety of inviting different people from different circles along with difficult family situations. Worrying about people who don’t get along being in the same room, family drama, people not turning up, having friends message me asking to catch up before the party because I haven’t seen them in a while ETC I just didn’t expect to have so much to worry about and maybe I’m just having a bad day but it’s all just really putting me off the idea of having a big wedding which ironically was what I thought I always wanted🤣 I’m sure it’s just the anxiety talking and that everything will be great on the night but I wonder if anyone else has had a similar experience with engagement / wedding celebrations and could put my mind at ease? Or maybe experiences where you decided a big wedding just wasn’t for you?

Does anyone have recommendations for mixologists that work weddings in specialize in serving speciality/elevated cocktails?

I see photos of palm leaf plates and people saying they look great. I also see occasional photos of people saying they have ugly black flecks on them and are all warped. I'm guessing some brands have quality control issues.

Has anyone here used them? How did it go? If it went well, can you link to where you bought it?

Alternately, accepting suggestions for actually-compostable plates that don't look like they belong at a picnic.

Edit: because I'm getting downvoted apparently... this is for cocktail hour at a rustic outdoor venue.

My fiance and I booked our photographer for our Oct. 2027 wedding in early March. We gave a 50% down payment and signed a contract. Since then, we have not heard from the photographer. Part of our package included a free enagagement shoot which we would like to schedule for this coming winter/late fall. My fiance messaged him to ask what his availability would be for this and we have not heard back yet - it has been 24 hours. Is this a red flag? Are we being unrealistic in the response timeline? I understand photographers are busy since my fiance is also a photographer but we can see when he is active on instagram and he has been in the past 24 hours. I think a simple message stating “sorry i’m a bit busy at the moment I will get back to you soon!” would even suffice. Am I being a Karen? Wedding planning is stressful enough.

So for the past two years, I've had a very specific dress design that I wanted, that would need to be made overseas. It is what I would consider "my dream dress". However, some of my close friends got married this year and were advising me that the wedding dress really doesn't need to be a big deal, and that as a bride, I will look good in any well-fitting dress whose general silloute and style is my taste. I want to ask brides who've had their wedding or are just about to, how much does the EXACT dress matter? Is this something that is worth putting a lot of effort into? If I get it custom-made, I will need to work with the designer online (she has a GREAT reputation for working with brides virtually and getting a perfect fit), but I also have the option to fly and get fitted once before the wedding to be safe. The cost of traveling isn't a problem and the dress is also well-priced compared to one I could buy in the states (it's 2k-3k). But it's obviously going to be a hassle and I want to know if my wedding dress really is worth the fuss.

I got engaged last month (yayy!) but my ring was too big. It was a size 6 (L 1/2) and I took it to be resized today (cost £70! 😮‍💨 as it wasn’t the original jewellers, my partner ordered online)

It is now a size 4.5 (I 1/2) and it seemed fine at the shop but I have worn it all day and think it is too lose. It spins slightly (it would spin all the way if it wasn’t for the diamond hitting my other fingers) and if I wet my hands, shake them slightly etc it moves from the bottom of my finger up to my knuckle, although it doesn’t go past it.

Can anyone help me figure out if it is too big, please? I have contacted the jewellers who said I can return and get it resized again at no extra cost, but I am just worried too many adjustments will weaken the ring only a few weeks into my engagement! What if I put weight on in the future and it needs to be resized again 😩

What does everyone think of ring guards? Is it too cheap to put a piece of plastic on a ring that’s cost thousands? Do they need to be replaced very often??

I have a video of what it does but I can’t figure out how to attach it (newbie to Reddit, sorry) if anyone can help me do this, I’d appreciate it!

does anyone know of a cheaper barn venue around macomb, mi? I found one for 8k for the weekend but i cannot get them to call me or email me back! they also had decoration rentals which would’ve been so helpful!

Has anyone ever paid their florist to save their bouquet and ship it off to the person preserving? I’m kind of wondering if I might be able to ask my florist to take home my bouquet and I would pay for the shipping and materials and also pay her a fee to do it for me? She will be around for cleanup after the event since all the vases are hers.
Any florists able to chime in on if this is something they would be willing to do for a fee?

I can’t believe I can officially say my wedding is going to be next month. It’s been such a journey, and I can’t wait to be married to the love of my life! With less than 50 days to go, is there any advice or anything I should think about this far out? Right now I am in the midst of DIY’ing our wedding favors (matchbooks), cups, welcome signs, napkins, etc. we’re about 10 days out from our cutoff date for RSVP’s. We’re having final meetings with vendors. Just wanted to see if there was any advice for these final 6 weeks or things I may not have thought of!

Has anyone used Zola any other apps/websites to help with planning??

How are you guys finding venues that are semi-cheap? We are considering getting a beach permit and getting married on the beach, but you can’t put any chairs out. So, I’m considering using our air bnb as a venue? It’s only going to be us, and 18 close family members. I’ve been trying to find a church even, and it’s hard. Anyone familiar with Big Island please give all the advice for a micro wedding! 🥰