r/whenthe 19h ago

I know what you are

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u/genius_overflowing 19h ago

Imo it's specifically weird if you say 'men and females'. Otherwise in some contexts 'female' does make sense.

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u/beaaaaaaaans 18h ago

It's usually weird when used as a noun more than as an adjective. If you heard someone say "look at that female over there" or something you'd probably find it weird

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u/TheLuminary 15h ago

YES! This is it. Its weird when female (or male for that matter) is used as a noun. Using it as an adjective is fine.

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u/Pr0udDegenerate Yuki's pus guy 14h ago

Saying "look at that female over there" makes it sound like you're a hunter, looking for a female deer or something.

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u/Manzhah 11h ago

Unless you are talking about animals, like showing your friend your aquarium of goldfish.

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u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer 19h ago

What if I exclusively say Male and Female? Am i still weird?

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u/0anonymousv 19h ago

nah. just a sciences guy

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u/randomname560 OoOo BLUE 18h ago

BILL NYE?!

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u/1JungleMonkey 18h ago

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u/PerfectBeginning__45 The Omnipresent Retarded Gay Vore Necro Sleeper Agent 17h ago

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u/Ditto13248 19h ago

Yes. Using "male and female" instead of "men and women" is like using "humans" instead of "people", or using "sodium chloride" instead of "salt". It's still weird, but in a different way

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u/Atlas_of_history Official Ralsei 19h ago

Reminds me of that one Jimmy Neutron post were a person gets so pissed at him saying sodium chloride that he writes a paragraph about why he's wrong

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u/Ditto13248 19h ago

I was referencing that

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u/Atlas_of_history Official Ralsei 19h ago

Lol

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u/Moody_GenX 18h ago

It took me years after getting out of the Army to stop saying it. I was a military policeman and it was every day nomenclature.

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u/pinkstrawberymonster 16h ago

I so occasionally say to people I don't know "These little humans are unknown to me" and make it sound like I'm a red marsian 

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u/charizardfan101 7h ago

*Martian

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u/therandomham 3h ago

Idk man they sound more like a marsian to me

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u/charizardfan101 7h ago

I feel like we really should separate "human" from "people" though, as one is describing a species, and the other a societal thing

All humans are people, but not all people are humans

All known fully accepted people are humans, but there are some humans who argue that animals such as Orcas and Dolphins are intelligent enough that they should be considered people despite not being human

And that's not even getting into the possibility of intelligent aliens and how we'd also have to refer to them as people despite them not being humans (I'll admit to being unrealistically optimistic here)

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u/Dragonssssssssssss 17h ago

Why tho? If you're a science guy you know Male and Female refer to the reproductive biology of most species. You don't interact with the things that make a person Male or Female on a regular basis. You interact with the social aspect of being a Human Male or Female, for which we have alternative words.

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u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer 17h ago edited 13h ago

I was a part of the American Imperial War Machine and thats how it was referred to and the habit kind of stuck around. I didn’t think too hard about it, but I use whatever pronouns people prefer.

EDIT: a part

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u/DMMeThiccBiButts 15h ago

I was apart of the American Imperial War Machine

So you weren't part of it?

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u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer 14h ago

No, that was an error on my part. It’s supposed to say “a part”. I figured people would understand what I meant based on the context, but I see I was making further mistakes.

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u/HungryYeastStarter 6h ago

Same, buddy. The egg on my face learning that's just not how it really works. Some habits die hard.

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u/CitizenPremier 13h ago

apart

In general, you may not be using English so precisely there mate, so let's not get held up and insist on using terminology that bothers people.

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u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer 13h ago

What terminology bothers people and who’s getting held up?

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u/CitizenPremier 12h ago

If you do say "There's a female outside to see you," people would be bothered by that.

Honestly though, if you use it as an adjective most people aren't bothered. It's if you use it as a noun that tends to be the worst.

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u/Sheriff_Is_A_Nearer 12h ago

Ah I see. I mostly use it as an adjective now that I think about it.

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u/MajorBootyhole420 8h ago

yes. not a bad guy but it's still gonna be off-putting for people, because the majority of folks who call women "females" are incels or misogynists. IMO it's worth trying to change the habit, but not worth actually worrying about, you feel?

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u/Piranh4Plant 19h ago

It's still pretty unusual but not bad weird

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u/hopium_od 19h ago edited 18h ago

I say male and female a lot because I work in marketing and that's how demographics are presented.

It does slip out in the real word and I remember the incel connection and I do have to correct myself, but I can imagine that a lot of people in my profession make the same mistake without knowing the connection.

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u/Whosebert 17h ago

men and femen

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u/Gushanska_Boza 16h ago

The Spice must flow.

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u/LightofNew 13h ago

As with most things, context is important.

That's kinda the point of a dog whistle I suppose. Take something inoquous that makes sense in certain context and assign a new meaning that allows you to perpetuate your message without using the words.

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u/El_Lanf 10h ago

Even then, people can jump on that when people have used the words but in different sentences and different contexts. I think it's something modern internet use has made us overthink tbh.

We don't stop and consider the word's histories as to why they might feel wrong and it very much comes down the the Germanic/Romance bifurcation in English vocab. Man and woman are from old English and old English words form the core part of our daily vocab. Male and female come much later from Latin (although not initially related, the two were later grouped and spellings changed to match) and of the time, this represented a more cerebral, high minded and analytical style of speak and even today, despite French/Latin/Italian etc forming a collective majority of our vocab, is far more reserved for more elaborate and less often used words than our core. That's why I think it's perfectly fine when using an analytical tone to use male and female as nouns and the pushback is silly.

I suppose the ironic thing is that the biggest advocates of the word woman might not really like the extra baggage it has etymologically compared to female. It means literally wife-person, originally as wifmann. Wife sort of got extended to eventually mean all adult women and in some dialects is still used in terms like wifey which doesn't necessarily mean a married female.

Also I think the casualness of man Vs male and woman Vs female might lead us to to use the more casual one for our in-group and formal for our out-group, as language has long made us do (particularly with older pronouns like thou Vs you where thou was actually more casual). In some ways English has simplified so much in regards to gender that it leads to what's left of it being over analysed compared to its cousin languages that still retain it in its full, scary glory. When you learn french or Spanish and see all those gendered words, English used to have that too, and is by far the outlier in European languages for not having it.