(I'm 25 and he's 21)

Okay so I'm not quite sure how to properly phrase it but I'm afraid that I might do something that'll scare him/turn him off.

What's something that you would have liked to known before having sex for the first time?

Is there something I need to be careful with?

Do I lead him or do I let him lead?

I really really don't wanna mess this up.

I've noticed that a lot of my male friends really want to have children and become dads. Some of them have even told me that, if they had to choose between keeping their child or keeping their partner, they would choose the child; even if the relationship eventually ended in divorce.

This made me wonder: is wanting to be a father really that important to most men?

For those of you who are men: Have you always wanted children, or did that desire develop later in life? And if you're already a father, do you feel that becoming a dad changed how you view relationships and your priorities?

I'm genuinely curious because I hear this from quite a few men in my life, and I'm wondering how common this perspective actually is.

would any man date a woman who has one boob maybe a b/c and the other a d/dd? I feel like my boobs are definitely 1-2 cup size difference, they hang at different levels, one Areola is much bigger than the other and sags more. I’m only 20 so I don’t know what to do, it’s not like I have money for surgery and if I did it could also still be uneven again since I have scoliosis and it seems to just unequally deposit fat when I gain weight in general in that area in general also and is probably genetic

am I supposed to tell any guy I meet this immediately when we first start talking, before we were naked together, or just not say anything at all? I heard like 10-20% of women have different cup sizes and asymmetry that much but I’ve also heard so many men online say it’s abnormal and they’ve never seen that before so it gives me an idea maybe most men don’t realize that can happen and I’m worried it would be considered ugly or weird . They’ve been unequal my entire life

Or should I just never date?

Ok so I(18F) have frequently been visiting this gas station late at night and this cashier (m, probably 30s or 40s??) flirts with me.

He’s so HANDSOME and I know he doesn’t JUST work there because he’s literally never there during the day. So I feel like it’s just his side hustle/job. Anyways. I don’t necessarily want much out of it, it’s just fun and I love flirting but I get so nervous and caught up and awkward with him and end up just saying thank you and smiling a lot and leaving when I pay, even if nobody’s around and there’s room to keep up a small conversation.

Before y’all come at me.. it’s NOT just friendly banter, I would never willingly flirt with someone at their workplace unless they were very obvious and initiated. Both things he did.

And like I said, I know I’m young and I don’t care to get anything out of it, it’s just something fun to lighten up the night and make me smile, lol. I was gonna compliment him on his facial hair/how it’s well groomed but I feel like that’s just giving weird? But he’s complimented me a few times before already and has even spotted me on cash. Let me know pleaseee and thank you in advance

How to appear in a more respectable and charismatic light in dating and not seem shy or too nice?

I am autistic and have a speech and learning disability as well.

Hi, I've been viewed at times as "evil" cause I've on afew times laughed at people getting hurt,

view handing situations as

really wanting getting their driver license

they don't care of they have to lie it's gonna be done,

Don't think I "fake" empathy?

Like, if someone told me they have an issue

"I'll go eh, that's unfortunate"

Or use dark homour to draw attention to the problem

Figure out a solution after first two are done

Know what I'm doing

Plus, I've issues behind compulsively lying and or coming off as dishonest at times, think something is wrong with me,

That a part of me likes to instigate people in order to feel like they care about me?

Thought about telling a therapist if I see one again

That can be a "emotional arsonist" in a way?

Therapist didn't really help me per say?

Looked into DBT abit

Plus, looked into PDA ( pathological demand advocate)

a subset of autism and felt it's lines up especially the socal aspect's

Can think of many examples where it's can be applied

It's just feel I'm not right for some reason,

Have bipolar 1, ASD 1,

mild Cerebral plasy,

Etc, feels that irrelevant

Not sure,

TLDR; how to stop enjoying being an "asshole"

I know he’s attracted to me. We exchange nudes. We other things, but he will not allow himself to have sex with me. He removes himself from any situation or position that would even make it possible, and I don’t understand.

It seems he gets overwhelmed when it turns into something sexual. I’m confused by it.

Men, what are you more attracted to? A woman who is independent and a little distant, but knows how to be affectionate from time to time, or a woman who is very loving and willing to give everything for the relationship?

I've heard people say you need to treat dating like a second job, and that it requires dedication finding the right person. However, I've known a lot of people in long lasting relationships who weren't necessarily looking to begin with, and they initially met each other through friends, at school or work. Ultimately, they weren't actively seeking or dating; it flowed naturally and they were in the right place at the right time.

I was thinking early retirement not too long ago. I'm curious what other guys would do in this theoretical scenario. Let's say you're dating a woman for several years with no intention of marrying (at midlife it's just too economically risky and pointless). Would you want that woman to retire with you and subsidize her income/lifestyle? This would be more or less in a scenario where the age disparity is pretty decent 10-15yrs causing you to be at very different retirement points.

I didn't provide any specific #'s because it truly is a fictitious scenario..

Hello everyone, I have a quite peculiar situation and would love to hear what anyone else thinks.

For context I'm (M22) and she is (F21), we'll call her Cass for the sake of this.

So me and Cass are basically best friends and have been for a minute. But this summer she went to work abroad and at the end of this summer I visited her on a 6-day trip. I caught feelings for this girl a couple months ago and that bubble was bound to burst here on this trip. I am not very experienced in social situations and often times don't know how to handle things.

So on one of the last days, she woke up super irritated and cranky, so I suggested we go out to eat and we did go out to eat. But she kept throwing her anger out on me and said a lot of hurtful things that genuinely hurt me, and I shut down and stopped talking. This is a red flag from me, something I will actively try to improve moving on, but when we did sit down I didn't say a word to her because of how upset I was, I guess I didn't know how to communicate my hurt. We went back at her place and out of a complete overwhelm of emotions I confessed my feelings for her. She was overwhelmed too and said "great" and got up. The night was okay, but the next day when I suggested I leave my baggage at her place so we leave together she told me she needed space and I understood and gave her that.

But ever since then she's been giving me a lot of attitude, opposing everything I say to her, basically irritating her for some reason. Anything I said would be met with the complete opposite, even things she'd say to me that I would say back to her, she would go opposite of that. We arrived back home and the night she sent me a message: "I really appreciate you coming here and I know I was slightly rude so I hope you didn't understand that personally".

So I'm extremely confused. When she said she needed space it was specifically because of "what happened and what I said (the confession)". But now everything is a mixed signal and I don't know. I need someone's thoughts and please don't make me feel like a fool, I'm really bad at understanding social cues but I want to work to improve that for myself.

I spent way too many years being closed off from the world because a man I liked picked another woman over me (I will be lying if I said it still doesn’t impact my confidence). Since then, dressing up, finding someone cute or being curious about someone feels extremely shameful and slutty.

How do I go back out there? I want to be able to post thirst traps, be confident in my own skin, meet new people and just have fun. I started working out, a full time job while being a full time student, but that lack of confidence is still there. I’m hyper vigilant as hell and always scanning for rejection ( which gets exhausting and draining as hell).

Im 24 and I know life will pass me by if I don’t make changes. But putting yourself out there literally guarantees rejection. Any advice on how not to be too sensitive about rejection?

¿Lo has dicho alguna vez? It does matter to me when after a couple of months he keeps coming back

i get told misogynistic jokes almost everyday. i can take a joke they are funny but sometimes i want a good comeback. got any?

Hi all, my family idolises my brother’s girlfriend.

Right some context, this is my brothers ‘first girlfriend’ he brung home. My family think she’s this goddess that has been brung from the heaves, like they will do anything for her. They have been together for 2 years, and at the begging of the relationship my family had some questions and I don’t know if the right words are time to warm up to her. But they had them type of questions.

They’re for my girlfriend on the other hand. I feel/know they don’t really like her. We’ve been together for 4 months. And this is the first girlfriend I’ve brung home. But they make sarky comments about her, make her look stupid to me, tell me she’s not the one, make her look like someone she isn’t, say stuff that ain’t true, find things about her appearance, or the way she walks, stands. ALL THOSE LITTLE THINGS and it’s all all of my family do them being, my dad, not so much my mum but I know her thoughts, brother, brothers girlfriend and my grandad. I find this absolutely infuriating to me and so so so hard to understand/comprehend everything. Absolutely everything.

I don’t know what to do, how to think.

Now we FaceTime most nights, like tonight but while typing this she ended the phone and said to me she’ll phone me back in a little bit. (It’s 1:23am but she is still replying to me because she’s not very happy at the moment) and that’s because, I was on my PlayStation with my best mate, and he was on FaceTime to his girlfriend and I was with mine, when she spoke it broke up so it was hard to hear her, then she just randomly changed to her ‘I’m upset/moody’ face, and no speaking. We don’t end the phone, but at the end when I turn my PlayStation off, before hand like 5 mins before she Turnt her tv off (she usually leaves it on so I can see if she’s asleep or not) so I hang my shirts up, and get in bed to watch tv, still can’t see if she’s awake at this point. Then like I said she ended the phone, and said to me I was ignoring her, she was speaking, but she wasn’t.

Some advice would help with both situations. Thanks

My boyfriend wants quickies that end only in his orgasm.. When I've said I don't feel happy with this unless he makes me orgasm first or helps me after he says 'why should I suffer and have to make you finish before or after just because you can't finish during sex'. The quickie is 2 minutes long and there's no warm up. Why does he feel like he's entitled to that and why is he framing my equal pleasure as a burden?

For context I have a friends with benefits relationship with a woman who’s 30 so that’s like 10 years older than me. When I spotted her initially I felt pretty attracted or at least I thought I was.

She had a nice light skin skin color and she didn’t look too bad, but then I found out too late that she was limping on one leg due to an accident she had several years ago. I mean that really wasn’t a dealbreaker but obviously it didn’t match the version of her I’d already romanticized in my head

Plus, other unappealing traits just started outing themselves as we saw and fucked each other more. Like how her voice had this hint of baritone in it, like how her shoulder and arms were a bit muscular due to the kind of work she does

Like how she can be mostly aggressive rather than soft with me, like how she preferred calling over texting almost everyday, like basically just even how she walks in general. Idk, it got to a point I just couldn’t stand her anymore. I’ll admit in the beginning i was curious because I wanted to experience an older woman and that’s why I approached her

But somehow for whatever reason that initial attraction has died down, and i feel almost nothing but sheer disgust for her, but I still keep fucking her and idk why. Probably because she’s the only woman I’ve ever been with that actually pays for the table and helps me out with cash sometimes too

Recently she’s noticed that anytime we fuck I can’t go past the initial round. Like as soon as I cum, that shit is laying down soft till we leave. I can’t get it up when I’m with her for some reason no matter how hard i try, compared to when we fucked for the first couple times and i’d go several rounds, so ofc she’d notice a difference

At first I thought it was the aftermath of all the late night wanking, but i said nahh, everyone wanks right? So obviously I tried different people, from girls from school to hookers, my libido always functioned normally. Hell, i’d keep going even after i’d cum, agile as ever

That’s when I realized I wasn’t the problem, it was just her. She didn’t exactly possess that “sex appeal” that would give me a good reason to stay hard. Not to say I’m repulsed by her, but her body really isn’t all that exciting to fuck. It’s just there really, hardly a replay value, if you know what i mean. Nothing to keep you coming back

So it’s clear I know my stance on this, I’m just putting this here to know if there’s any men (or women) who relate to this type of scenario

Matched with this woman, she right way said after some small talk, she’s looking for a traditional man, are u a provider? Are u financially stable? Do u own assets? I answered honestly.

I in return asked her, what about you, are u a traditional woman, are u a virgin? Do u know how to make a house a home? I didn’t do it out of pettiness. It was more so I matched the traditional standards she was looking for, and I just wanted the same in return.

When I asked that, she got extremely upset and called me a woman hater, and misogynistic.

Am I wrong in this situation? I was just stating my preferences just like she did.

Hi All
like tittle says. unfortunately it was argumentative. i in no way hurt him with my words or anything. but he teared and cried when he was talking about the way he feels about me and connects to me.

he obviously got very uncomfy and he had to walk away and take a min. i comforted him and apologized. i let sometime pass and then i initiated sex w him so he can feel wanted. what else should i have done? i feel horrible

For context, he's a doctor (male) and I'm a nurse (female).

He's a new doctor that just got hired into our OR theatre. We're both the around the same age and we have banter and chemistry. He's openly admitted he's single. The thing is because of the nature of our work environment privacy, fast pace team oriented, is very hard to get alone time as someone is always watching or listening. We're a small group of ~13 nursing staff and I want to keep this private but I also don't want to send an email asking for his number either. Any recommendations would be appreciated 🙏🏻