I went down a rabbit hole tonight and landed in ENFP territory… except I’m really questioning the E. I can be very talkative and outgoing with people I’m comfortable with, and apparently I’ll tell strangers on the internet anything. I’m much more reserved around people I don’t know in real life social situations. I’ll usually observe first, I love being alone, I don’t need plans every weekend, and even after spending all day with people I genuinely like, I’m usually ready to go home and be by myself.
Give me the right person though? I will not shut the fuck up.
So now I’m stuck between ENFP and INFP.
For the ENFPs here…are you actually extroverted in the traditional sense? Do you genuinely get energized by being around people, or are you more selectively social and still need a lot of alone time?
Basically, how did you know you were ENFP instead of an unusually talkative INFP? 😂

This is kind of a poll. I would like to know which three MBTI types you would choose. I would also like to know whether the choices of ENFP women differ from those of ENFP men.

Please rank your choices from first to third:

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I’ve been doing some reflection on myself lately because I’ve cried twice already about 2 separate events, both similar in circumstance.

Imma try my best to describe it:
I’ve heard 2 different separate people, both are outliers and most would agree that the circumstance is purely due to their own volition. They both are alienated in their own work place and understandably so, as I also agree that their actions in their separate situations are questionable. Logic states I should stay away and best keep my distance, but as I mull over this, I can’t help but feel bad for these people as I think about how lonely they must feel.

Like….I went full on sob mode, ugly crying because I put myself in their shoes and couldn’t help but feel bad about how lonely they are. I realized that I wouldn’t even wish it upon my worse enemies, and I’m not sure how to feel about it since my brain is saying one thing and my heart is pulling me another.

I’m just genuinely curious about whether other ENFPs have experienced similar things. I know we have strong empathy, but I didn’t expect me to ugly cry for people who really did it to themselves.

I had a friend—well, an ex-friend—who made my life miserable during my 9th and 10th-grade years. We became friends in 9th grade because she didn't know anyone else in the class, so she joined our friend group (ESFP, ISTJ, ISFJ, ESFJ, ISTP, INFP). But as time went on, she acted increasingly weird—displaying the kind of toxic traits associated with an unhealthy ESTJ. She loved to debate and had to be right; if you disagreed, she’d hate you. She despised INFPs and ISTPs, calling them "weird"—everyone knew it, and it really annoyed me. She used to say I was boring and acted like an immature kid with zero emotional intelligence—which wasn't true; I just have a typical ENFP personality. Then came the day we had a falling out: she mocked me over something I’d posted in a group chat. She was laughing at me, which made me angry, so I told her she was unpleasant. I apologized afterward, but she wouldn't hear of it; she started making things up, claiming I’d been a bad influence on her—like saying I didn't know how to speak properly. Honestly, I didn't get it, since I have a good vocabulary—plus, what was the connection? She was trying to pin the blame on me, even though *I* was the victim. After that, she created a group chat—which lasted barely two days—where they called me a "bitch." Then came 10th grade; we changed schools, but of course, she ended up in my class again. She made new friends and told them not to go near me. One day, she started openly criticizing me in front of everyone in a group setting. Okay, this is a total disaster: this girl fits the exact profile of an unhealthy ESTJ, yet—for some reason—she manages to talk to my friends. Now I’m in 11th grade and, naturally, she’s in my class; but the dynamic is flipped—my whole friend group is there, and hers isn't. Of course, she tries to insert herself, and the ESFJ in our group welcomes her warmly. She’s even laughing and chatting with the very people she used to criticize—like the INFPs and ISTPs. Well, I guess that’s not surprising, since she’s a total hypocrite. But why isn't she acting fake with *me*? Probably because she knows I’m onto her—I know pretty much everything about her, given what I’ve just described.
Now I’m wondering what an emotionally intelligent person would do: should I give her yet another chance, or try talking to her? Let me know what you think—feel free to ask me more questions
-ENFP

Do any of you ENFP’s have dual residences in two very or not so very parts of the world? And does that come with very different social patterns for you?

I’ve been considering buying a second “home” in another city. I’m deciding between one in another country that is very different from the one I live in now and a city near the one I’m in now. I have two completely different friend groups in each one, both trying to convince me to come there.

Even if you don’t own your home, but have a similar set up due to work per se please chime in. How has it improved your quality of life? What opportunities if any have arisen due to this lifestyle?

are female and male friendships okay for enfp? a guy i like is an enfp and he is soo sweet and just awesome BUT HE HAS female friends… I am an INTJ and I am okay with that as long as there is boundaries. Our feelings are on the mutual side and I do not know how to process this female friends. They are all different. Some are younger and some are older or same age and he even plays with them online. For any enfp men what are your outlooks on this?

So I was touching my arms and legs and they felt like meat and kinda like fish not 🥨☹️. One day someone will eat us i mean i kinda wanna too. It feels like my skin would easily chop into 🍣 Do y'all relate?