If any of you have seen the first update you'll remember I said that I didn't inject into the muscle like I was supposed to, which is true. But the main reason why it hurt so bad has been revealed by my grandma who is a nurse.

I took 4 times my dose.

The vials say single use on them, so I assumed all the medicine in there was my dose, and I don't know how to read a syringe so I thought .25mL meant the number 2 on the vial. I drew up the entire vial. And shot it into my leg.

I didn't know that you only draw a portion of the vial and toss the rest. Oops. I injected 3-4 times my actual dose on accident. I learned my lesson, and my grandma now does my shots for me since I cannot trust myself to do them anymore until I learn properly. I am still in mild pain a whole week later, but it's gone down. Don't be me, take ur shots the right way.

Hey everyone, I wanted to share a rhetorical tool I’ve been using at work that has been incredibly effective at completely shutting down ignorant commentary without putting myself on the defensive.
I don't talk about my personal life or my transition with the majority of my coworkers—it's frankly none of their business, and a few of them are serious "red pill" types. But lately, whenever the room starts making ignorant comments, I’ve been testing out a response that completely short-circuits their brains.
I just look them dead in the eye and say: "To be fair, everybody is a little trans."
They always pause and look at me like I've lost my mind. Then I explain the math and the scale.
Think of a scale from one to ten. A trans person who does hormones, surgery, and a legal name change would be a 10—the whole receipt. Extreme edition. But look at where everyone else falls on the lines under that.
Women are getting fillers and Botox so their face can “age like fine wine.” Men are lining up for TRT because their testosterone did what it naturally does after 40, and suddenly it’s a medical crisis instead of just Tuesday. Gym bros are reshaping their entire bodies with cycles, and half the country is on Ozempic because the body they have doesn't match how they want to feel.
It is ALL body-affirming care. They are changing their physical bodies to match who they want to be. But when they do it, it's called "wellness" and "self-care." Why is it only controversial when trans people do it?
Keeping myself out of the equation entirely forces them to actually think about their own bias and their bullshit. Watching their brains short-circuit when they realize they have absolutely no counterargument is pure comedy. They just look at me stunned and go, "...damn, he's right."
We can’t always be fighting them on their terms or staying on the defensive about this shit. It's time to start reflecting that mirror right back at them. Hopefully, this framework helps some of you handle stressful environments a bit easier!

super curious how many of u guys want surgery, or if u only want one and maybe not the other, or no surgery at all! btw I know there are other masculinization surgeries, but I’d like to focus on top and bottom just because they’re so prominent in the community

for me, I used to really want top surgery but now I’m not so sure! I was never really too into bottom surgery and I don’t think I’ll ever get it. sometimes it makes me feel like less of a trans man bc I don’t want surgery, so I’m curious how many of yall feel similar to me

feel free to expand on how u feel in the comments!!

Trans people’s right to legal gender recognition is much older than we realize—older than abortion rights, Alaska’s statehood, and the Civil Rights Act. That history just became common knowledge.

Write-up: https://www.transiticsnews.com/p/trans-peoples-identities-have-been

Full timeline: https://timeline.transiticsnews.com/

I just went to a public toilet at the mall and used the men’s one, the cleaning lady standing at the front yelled at me that the woman’s restroom is at the front. I didn’t turn around and just used the bathroom because why would I? I am no woman. (This felt like one of the biggest achievements ever)
Based on my looks and my voice, I could get misgendered easily but no one is surprised when I say I am a boy, also I was right behind my (very obvious male) boyfriend so I 100% knew I was omw to the men’s restroom

Anyway, she looked really embarrassed when I walked out without batting an eye at her but I am still definitely gonna report this

Hi, did anyone else not need any adaptation time after they got top surgery? It is like my chest has always been like this. I am actually surprised at my lack of reaction. I saw my chest for the first time i was like "👍". Its almost weird how i immediately integrated and got used to my new chest in 5 seconds. Actually it still surprise myself in the mirror sometimes, but only to have this "damn i look GOOD" reaction

I’m monogamous, and after a string of failed relationships, i’ve been taking a break from dating.

my issue is that I don’t personally know any trans men who are in happy relationships that are monogamous. All of the happy trans men i’ve seen are in polyamorous relationships. Which I’m not hating on btw, but are there any monogamous trans men out there who are in happy relationships? Sometimes it feels like only the polyamorous people are happy :(

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i love singing and my voice is just starting to change, so i figured i might as well try to find music/vocal inspirations who aren't just cis dudes.

however, almost every single trans guy in music that i saw recommended in other posts seems to not really be from the genre i'm interested in hearing (mostly seems like variations of bedroom pop/rock which i don't enjoy that much).

for context, some musicians and banfs i normally listen to: pearl jam, alice in chains, korn, linkin park, radiohead, soundgarden, jeff buckley, bauhaus, the cure, deftones, the offspring, will wood and the tapeworms. (tried to include some variation of diff vocal styles and voice types i enjoy).

ik it's somewhat older stuff but that's the general idea of what i'd like to hear some trans guys do and can never really find unfortunately :( i'm also open to anything that's on the louder side really.

i'd also prefer recommendations for singers who have already been on t a while and have a more 'passing' voice, and specifically trans men/transmascs, not just trans musicians in general.

i really hope stuff like what i'm looking for exists lmao and thx for the help yall!

I think I may be a victim of fearmongering, cause I thought that hysterectomies were like a big deal super risky difficult surgery. Now I'm seeing a LOT of trans men casually mentioning their hysterectomies. Are they actually that dangerous? Do the pros outweigh the cons? What does it do for transmascs other than securing infertility? If there are good alternatives, what are they?

And another thing, how do you choose what to remove? Uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries, cervix.

Anyone who has done research and/or gotten one/something related, I'd love thoughts.

okay so, not sure where to start, but generally how do you guys put bandiads on hairy legs or what type of bandaids are best to use???

i get ingrown hairs every now and then that get super angry so i put a pimple patch on top with a bandaid to secure it for the day (and to not have a gunk filled pimple patch facing the world lol). today i had to do that on my thigh and its still shorts season where i live, i had to take my hair trimmers and put my smallest guard on them to shave away extra fuzz that left me with an okay amount, but longer hairs still got caught in the bandaid too. now im frustrated thinking about how when i take these off itll rip out some of my legs hairs that may just bring in more angry ingrown hairs!? genuinely no clue if there if a solution to this, but kinda would like to be able to wear bandaids without it being like cartoony duck tape hair removal feeling shit. 😭

I have pretty severe lower dysphoria, always have. It used to make me mad when people say they "got over it". I likened those types of statements to advocating for conversion therapy. until i realized that there is a distinction between social dysphoria and intrinsic dysphoria. social dysphoria comes from how others perceive traits as male or female. social dysphoria is somewhat malleable. If social expectations change, the dysphoria changes. height dysphoria is a good example of something that can generally be overcome by changing one's mindset. It doesnt make the dysphoria less real. We are perceived by others for most of our waking hours and obviously we want to be perceived as ourselves.

Intrinsic dysphoria is the primary mismatch between brain and body. if i was stranded on an island alone, i would still want metoidioplasty. I now know that many people have the opposite experience. so i think we can all afford to have a little more empathy regarding other people's dysphoria

I am pre everything and I am very open with my friends. I am in the process of choosing names in the future for when I come out and start medically transitioning and I’ve been 2 of the names I’ve felt most connected to are White names and I am black African. It would look a bit unnatural alongside an African surname but I never really minded until they brought it up. My friends have been teasing me about it whenever I say something relating to it and I can’t help but feel a bit hurt by it since I really like those names and they just feel like me. I recently found another name from my culture that I like and my friends believe suit me better but I don’t like it as much as the original ones. I know it’s my choice which names I pick and they likely mean well but I just feel hurt about it. I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive. I have slightly referred to the fact that I don’t like the teasing but Im not sure if I am being too sensitive and just let it be or call it out to prevent the teasing from continuing.

i dont even know where to start. im 19 and not even a month into a multiple months trip to europe. too many unnecessary details but im almost certain she took it. i left it with all my things in my rented room in bern, made sure it was there when we both left to zurich, we were there for days and she just left straight to the airport and i just got back to bern and it isnt anywhere. i can only think that she couldve taken it when we were leaving the building and she said she forgot something and went back upstairs alone (cause i saw her trying to snoop the box i had it in)

my shot was due on the 28th, last one was on the 3rd, im late already. i dont know what to do. no context matters right now cause the thing is that it isnt there and i have no idea how long i have until it wears off too much and stops supressing estrogen and everything. theres no possible way i could ever pay to get a new prescription in switzerland and as far as i know my prescription from peru isnt acceptable here. i dont know if she hid it somewhere in the bags she left at a friends house in zurich or if she even threw it out or something

i never told anyone in real life im on testosterone because im an adult and i just dont want to. i know she was looking things up about if im on it but thats my choice. and i know it isnt legal for her to interfere with anything medical of mine but genuinely, what does that information serve me at all? i feel so fucking stupid for not taking my ampoules with me everywhere. i cant just go back home right now. it was so expensive getting here and i cant cut it shorter than intended and everything is starting to go well but i cannot be off testosterone. i cant let that happen to my body for the following months. i dont even know why bother posting this. i feel so fucking sick, i guess i wish there was some secret miracle or something but i know that if i go look through her bags and it isnt there its just over for me. i could use any words at all, i know this isnt rare but it still seems so unfixable.

Basically what the question says. Does anyone have experience with a cognitive dissonance like this? I don’t want Urethra Lengthening when getting phallo at all and I am super happy with that decision because complications and healing time will be easier. I don’t define myself or a man through peeing standing up. But somehow when my boyfriend pees standing up in public it is a MAJOR trigger for me and I get very dysphoric. Does anyone know what could be causing this? It is affecting me more than I’d like it to. Hope someone can share their experience.

I’m only two weeks on T, no significant changes but GOD DAMN THE SMELL. I took a shower last night , put on deodorant and went to sleep, woke up and i smell like i havent showered in weeks, i am so musty. It usually takes me at least two days to get like this, not 12 hours later. Is this supposed to be normal and i need to shower twice a day now or do i need a new deodorant?

Edit: thank you all for the advice, its much appreciated, I will look into a new deodorant, soap, and change my bedsheets more often

Hi, call me Matt. I'm 17 and in my final year of high school. Today was my first day back. I'm the child of a stay-at-home mom who writes letters every year regarding my given name (to not being deadname by my school etc) and getting support from the school staff about my trans identity. Despite my father's lack of approval, the school is willing to help me with this process, even if it's not official. Anyway, the student advisors at the school who are in charge of my class (and therefore also me) asked me how I could feel comfortable. They agreed that I could use the boys' locker room and bathroom, and the staff restroom if needed. (Absolutely, listen to this with all due respect. I'm not in the US, lol.) Anyway, towards the end of the day, I went to the men's restroom for the second time that day, and a group of boys (about 5) started talking in other voices when I closed the restroom door behind me, saying "Lost generation!" Another one shouted, "Argh! A trans person in the men's restroom!" and "So there's a girl here then?!" things like that. I was obviously uncomfortable and angry. When I came out, they were already in the courtyard. (There weren't many of us since it was during class time.) So, I just stared at them from a distance with a death stare and left a few minutes later to talk to one of my student advisors. She said she'd take it into account if it happened again because taking immediate action could make things worse rather than better, but the advisor was very supportive! But anyway. I'm a cis-passing student, and it's been four years since I adopted a male name and began my transition. Honestly, my only theory is that it's rumors or people from my school (before my transition) who told their friends to make fun of me because they didn't know my deadname.

Anyway, it bothers and stresses me out a lot. I don't want any trouble or for it to upset the students in my class, especially the boys. I'm fed up with the rumors and the teasing.

Any advice?

so for context im a nonpassing trans man (binary) dating a cis guy. he isnt the problem in this, hes great about it.

basically, my bf likes holding hands, laying on each other, kissing, general pda. i dont mind this stuff because im a very tactile person, but i hate thinking about it.

most of my problem stems from the fact that when people see us, they assume were in a straight relationship and that im a woman. obviously this isnt great, im short and have a round face and just generally look like a girl. but being with a man doesnt help because nobody assumes im just a fem dude, they assume girl.

it bothers me a lot because i dont want to make him sad by not holding his hand or anything, but i hate the idea that people see us together and assume im a girl more than they already do. i dont particularly care what others think of me in general, but being seen as a woman is what gets me.

anyway i dont know how to address this with myself, but i just want to stop being miserable every time my bf wants to hold my hand. any ways to make this stop or at least lessen?

TLDR; I'm 18, found out I can medically transition now and take T, but I'm scared because medically transitioning might affect other things going on in my life. But im also scared waiting would hinder my results that I want in the first place.

Hi, I turned 18 maybe a few months ago. I am very sorry if this is technically breaching the rules because while im asking for advice im also sharing some of my thoughts right now which might count as a vnt im not sure, but im not vnting im hoping to get some external feedback so I can come to a good conclusion for myself and I was thinking I should probably consult other men about this. Especially men who are more experienced than me.

Im closeted and still live my parents. I just had this sort of semi revelation that I can actually go get Medical help and HRT by myself since I am technically an adult now and my parents aren't required legally to be informed about it. But I'm also weirdly anxious.

I know I'm a guy, I've been out to my friends for years. But It's almost like I fear being forced to come out to those that I haven't come out to yet who are potentially dangerous to come out to. What if I get stripped of my opportunities (Parents paying for college)? What if I somehow change my mind about perhaps having children in the future.

I feel like I'm under a sort of time limit where I wouldn't get the results I want from my transition if I don't start now, especially because I am genuinely super short and I might have a hard time passing in the future. But then If I made a hasty decision I also have something to lose.

My dysphoria is more manageable than my other problems in life so it kinda adds to the guilt that If I decide now I might lose some thing. I know I will not miss being mistaken for a girl, or any part of how I was raised, but maybe I fear that I could lose the social privileges of pretending to be cis and navigating a world where a lot of people are kind of against me is really scary. I also heard that T as a hormone can mess with your ADHD which is something I have, and I fear it might affect my college grades. My other puberty was messy and I've associated it with my bad upbringing and i kinda don't wanna go through that again. Because mentally ive been in a better place now more than ever before, but im not sure how much my social transition to my friends has affected that or if it's just my puberty ending or that family stopped harassing me as much as a grew older. Dysphoria was just one of the problems in my life and I dealt with many other things that were more painful to me so it seems so pointless in comparison. I'm aware this is an unhealthy and misguided mentality but that's where I'm at right now.

At the end of it all I just want to live my life as I'm supposed to be and finally have what I feel to be expressed physically, outwards to other people.

But I live in two quite socially conservative countries and I'm thinking about my future. So I feel stuck. But maybe since it's something I plan on doing anyway at some point in my life I might as well start now.

I don't know, I probably sound really silly and naive right now, but I'm glad to receive any sort of input.

So I've got a boyfriend (we're both ftm) and he told me he would like me more if I had male genitalia. before that I rarely experienced genitalia dysphoria but now I think it's severe. I have no balls to confront him about it and how it made me feel. I feel like trash when I think about what he told me and when I look down there. honestly I don't know what to do 😞