People complain about IPad kids as if the children procured the IPads themselves and also act as if there isn’t an adult in the house who could… take it away from them.

They act like kids simply just don’t read because they don’t want to, but I think it’s that a lot of parents just aren’t caring to teach them or read to them.

idc if we’re married or have kids, i’m not sticking around for it, and imo it’s actually 10x more selfish to pick up that hobby knowing you have kids at home waiting for you.

the most i can do is express my anxiety and heavily discourage them from doing it, but at the end of the day i cannot control a grown person’s actions. i’m the very last person to ever give an ultimatum in a relationship but at that point you would have to choose between me or the bike. way too much can go wrong and the risks HEAVILY outweigh the rewards.

and i don’t care about life insurance either. i would rather you be alive and healthy with me than be compensated for a 100% preventable tragic accident. no amount of money is worth losing the love of my life

no matter how focused YOU are on the road, there are hella people out there who aren’t paying attention and all it takes is one person on their phone cutting you off to either permanently disable you or end your life completely. while you’re out having fun riding at 100mph, i’d be sitting at home going crazy with constant anxiety and stress and that’s not something im willing to deal with ever.

For this post whataboutism is defined as deflecting an issue by raising a different issue or accusing the other person of hypocrisy, and straw manning is defined as mishandling an opponent's argument by distorting, exaggerating, or oversimplifying it to make it easier to attack.

Not all "what about" questions are bad. It depends on whether you are actually trying to help solve the problem.

A good example of this is if I post, "We should ban cats from going outside so they stop killing birds," it is totally fair to ask, "What about stray cats with no homes? What do we do with them?" This is a good question because it points out a real problem with the plan. Also notice how I said cats as a whole and did not specify that I was referring to pet cats, therefore it’s not unreasonable for people to question the logistics*.*

I recently posted that it should be mandatory for girls over 16 to be tested for uterine health conditions (like PCOS or endometriosis). As someone who has endometriosis and friends with same and other uterine conditions, these illnesses mess with hormones and make it hard to focus during exams. Putting it on their medical record would help them get extra help during tests. It would also be beneficial for girls with parents who don’t take their health seriously.

Whether you agree with my plan or not is not the point of this post you’re reading. The problem is that people instantly commented “Well, what about boys? Boys have hormone problems too!"

Bringing up boys on a post about uterine health fails basic logic for two reasons.

It creates a fake fight (Straw Man), I argued, "We should help girls with uterine conditions." Commenters twisted that to mean, "Only girls matter, and I hate boys." That is completely fake.
It assumes care is limited (Whataboutism), Helping one group does not mean you are taking away help from another group.

Also, if you’re born a boy, right, you don’t have a uterus, so boys have no relevance in the discussion.

Also, often times the OP will clarify or make exceptions in their post (for example, Everyone should get vaccinated against cancer …. except for people with autism or those allergic to the vaccine) and people will still go what about autistic people and those allergic?

I hate it when people twist the conversation just to feel included. If you want to talk about boys' health, go make your own post about it. Stop derailing ours.

At the end of the day, saying "I want to help one group" does not mean "I hate everyone else." Healthy debates only work when people actually listen to the specific topic being discussed. If you cannot look at a post about uterine health without shouting, "Well, what about boys?" you are not helping. You are just derailing the conversation. If you want to talk about a different issue, go make your own thread. Stop ruining everyone else's posts with textbook internet brain rot.

See it all the time with single women of women who don't have a good relationship with their dude, then turn around and look for that lack of love and attention in their son and out their son in a weird emotional husband role.

It's so common and should be called out. And no, it's not normal. One thing is to love your son. Another is to put them in an emotional love role because your dude doesn't give you love.

Companies and content creators have to stop editing closed captioning to not display curse words. It is incredibly annoying to watch a video and see the bad words edited or taken out. It would be one thing to take them out of an edited video where all audio has also been redacted, but to see the video say fuck and the the captioning say fluke or flip is annoying. Honestly I find it infantalizeing and disrespectful.

Deaf and hard of hearing people are adults and they should be able to read the content of a video without y'all taking away their autonomy. If they aren't old enough to read it as is then they probably shouldn't be watching the video anyway.

I want to be clear I am not deaf I'm just a person who has trouble processing audio without captions. There are people who can't hear at all and to take away their ability to see curse words is controlling and honestly a bit weird. Deaf and hard of hearing people deserve the right to view content as it was intended and not have it be edited as though they are children who should not be in control of what they view.

As a man/woman, usually. If you’re hot enough you can say and do shit ugly / average people would be jailed for.

Genuine question: why do you think that is

And don’t be stupid and say oh it’s not like this all the time. OF COURSE ITS NOT NOTHING IS 100% THE CASE ALL TIME so please save that stupid comment to yourself

its entirely valid to critique someone whos entire catalogue and play experience consists in what is essentially the same 2 games reskinned, specifically when that person then tries to turn and critique the quality of a game in a style they downright refuse to play because they can't sit through a 5 hour story, because it ISNT a "shoot the ball in the hoop" or "fire a gun" game.

TLDR: my opinion about Clair Obscur or The Last of Us isnt going to be swayed by a guy who only plays COD and FIFA and is mad because the games made him think.

No, I’m not talking about the old school, abusive asylums where anybody and anyone who didn’t do what they were told got banged up for life and locked up in cages.

I’m talking about long term residential, secure facilities for those experiencing chronic psychosis. Schizophrenia and Bipolar (who experience psychosis) lend themselves to this particularly.

I’m not sure where the disconnect is, but we have to stop expecting people experiencing severe, chronic, psychotic mental illness to function as a regular and functioning member of society. It doesn’t help anyone. We don’t expect people with Alzheimer’s/ dementia to remember medications, appointments, how to dress, what to say, work. We understand they’re implicitly not capable.

A person suffering from a mental illness that causes life long, chronic psychosis is the same. It’s no good telling them to just ‘try harder’, go to appointments, take medication. They haven’t got capacity - without guidance or care, they’re not going to be able to do this consistently, if at all. ‘Care in the community’ is not fit for these patients. The impact of unchecked psychotic illness is severe. It doesn’t just pose major risk to the person, but inadvertently others around them. The care required in terms of monitoring/ psychological support/ safeguarding is too extensive for many family and friends.

I’m saying this as a person with long standing psychotic bipolar, before anyone gets up my ass. The demands/ expectations placed on us to work, function, maintain, perform, manage are unreasonable and not feasible. Were taken into hospital for short term stays, kicked back out and expected to go back to work next Monday. Drive. Pay bills. Take medication. Make multiple appointments whilst working. Shamed for not working.

Long term facilities need to be brought back.

The only reason I still use reddit myself is because I'm big on nostalgia and a have a soft spot for my NEET neckbeard phase when I'd be on reddit all day.

But when I say I slept with around 40 women in the past three years since being a virgin or that I made a 500k net worth that I grew during that time while working multiple jobs, people call bullshit because "someone who could do that wouldn't be on reddit".

And when I share how I grew or how the average person can do just as well as me if not better, there's always something dismissive reason as to why that's not the case.

I don't get it.

And this isnt just me. There's a bunch of successful people I know who occasionally post on reddit and will get mass downvoted when the advice they gave is actually the reason for their success. It's almost as if a lot of people are too inexperienced to clock it

Smut serves the same psychosexual role it does in porn. The only difference is one is visual.

Also you'll notice that erotic novel consumption went up around the same time OF did in covid. And women are the main consumers.

I rest my case ✋🤚

My take on the Lindsay Clansey case is pretty unpopular. Ive listened to the whole trial. I've listened to unbiased podcasts telling me facts about the trial. My conclusion is Patrick had nothing to do with it. Maybe he wasn't a great husband, heck maybe he was even cheating, but i don't think he had anything to do with his children being ripped away from him.

I'm convinced she has some serious mental health issues that stem back to her adolescents and was fueled by the trial and error of drugs. (Mental health drugs are just that, trial and error) mental health is so complex. She was severely depressed, just depressed, postpartum taken out of it. With bipolar disorder and taking SSRI meds while having bipolar will fuel the bipolar disorder rather than help. If she wasn't completely honest and open with her providers it would be impossible for them to treat her correctly, they can only treat what you are telling them and what they observe, if you hide it they can't help correctly.

She was very depressed and wanted to take her own life, but she didn't want to leave her kids so in her mind the only way out would be to take them with her so they could still be with her in the after life. I don't believe she was in psychosis. I believe she was doing what she thought was the only way to be happy, unfortunately for her kids. I fully understand that thinking, I've stayed up crying at night from time to time thinking if anything happened to me would my kids be okay? Because no one can take care of them like I can.

Does that make what she did okay? Absolutely not. She killed 3 innocent children. She knew what she was doing, she knew it was not okay, but she so desperately wanted to end it she tried to take them with her, only she gets to go on with her life, if shes found not guilty by reason of insanity she has a chance to live a full life again. How is that fair to those 3 babies? She was not insane, she was in her mind she knew it was wrong, I dont feel sorry for someone that thinks taking kids out is the only way to go out.

My, I'm sure, very unpopular opinion.

What’s with dog people commonly hating on cats? I just came across this brand, Scratch, and when someone asked them to make dog food, they literally said, “chuck out the cats,” encouraging violence toward cats.

That’s quite far, even for a joke. If a cat brand were to say something like that about dogs, people would react horribly. But when a dog brand does it, it’s somehow acceptable? This just doesn’t make sense to me.

people act like every normal bit of social friction is a major psychological threat. like if a coworker is just being a standard annoying micromanager, people don't just call them annoying anymore, they call it a toxic abusive environment and talk about needing a trauma recovery plan. we stopped letting people just be difficult or selfish and started treating every regular bad interaction as proof that someone is violating our core safety, which just makes everyone terrified of normal human interaction.

Not saying that the person isn't bding a bum, but can we STOP labelling every small interaction as a psychological heartbreak.

I hate the fact that some parents wait until their kids grow up to divorce. The arguing, passive aggressive comments, the insulting each other just hurts the children more than if their parents split.
Now I don’t have split parents, but they need a divorce, so I could be very wrong, but I’m personally so sick of living in a household where my parents despise each other and refuse to separate.

Provided Lindsay Clancy did kill her children (there's some that believed she didnt this is not for them despite the evidence. And admission to guilt.) There is no extenuating circumstance where she should not spend the rest of her life in prison. Under no circumstance is she fit for a civil society after having killed her three kids. That's it. Prison. Mental disorder and that is very clearly what this is is no excuse for killing your children And to add it was premeditated. She planned it.

Sexual activities aren’t the only reason a woman may be on the pill. Heavy periods, reproductive health, postpartum, etc. Not to mention, the pill convinces our brains that we are pregnant and that we’re losing a baby once it’s time to bleed, so it’s not like we want to be on it

Ok, I'm not calling anyone out in particular but this is just something I notice with certain people on this sub. Look, these kinds of subs are good! Everyone has a unique opinion that, at times, is actually a good take or just something chill that's their own opinion that wants to be said. That's awesome! Or at least it's something you can think about more deeply when conversing with other people, and frankly we shouldn't be afraid to do that.

But there is a difference between saying an opinion that hurts no one, actually has merit to it and stuff to back it up, and it's something that genuinely comes from a place of you wanting to say something no one else will that needs to be said... to literally just saying vile unempathetic bullshit simply because it's a "hot take". If you see my comment history, I'll admit, I've made literal paragraphs explaining why just knee jerk saying dumb shit on this subreddit is just wrong (me coming from a place of wanting to properly educate people) because it just sets me off so fucking bad!

But frankly that doesn't do much. Either some people literally side with the vile person, don't understand the nuances of the situation, or the poster just either doubles down or dissappears completely, not willing to own their shit. ( Them taking responsibility rarely happens anyhow.)

I just honestly think people need to ask themselves one thing: if you wouldn't say this in public, or you know to some extent it's unrealistic, potential overreacting, or could genuinely hurt someone, then don't say it at all. And ask yourself where it is coming from.

I've seen transphobic stuff on this subreddit and other things, and people straight up saying things that clearly has lack of research or proper judgment to nuances and the reality of the situation. I'm learning that most people won't change their worldview for you no matter how much you educate or justify to them.

But it's still important to be self aware about what your posting, and if it's actually a hot take, or you just spewing whatever comes to your mind just because you want to say it because it makes you feel a certain way.

This is a subreddit for actual hot takes. Not bigots, not incels, not animal abusers, not antisemitic people or r@pe and pedo justifyers, nothing like that! Just people with takes that actually need to be heard, and properly discussed. Moral of the story? Stop and think before you post something, double check and research what your posting about, and be open to the criticism you might receive because that is what reddit is. You post something, other opinions will be said.

I’ve noticed that if you’re extremely negative or extremely positive; you don’t have a hot take.

The best hot takes have between a 40-60% upvote:downvote ratio as people in this subreddit don’t know whether to upvote or downvote great hot takes.

They also tend to have several comments attacking everything but the actual argument you have in place

Especially if while they're going through their low, you dismiss their feelings. Setting them up for failure and to think that's normal btw.

I'm not doing much effort to reel you guys into my side and that's cause I respect your opinion and willing to hear y'all out of you think otherwise.

You can't blame a company for a consumer's conscious choice to buy things they don't need. The excuse is always the same: I want to have fun, so what everyone does it, and the worst, well then I guess I should'nt buy anything.

People need to be honest to themselves and state that they are okay with human trafficking and slavery and so much worse, if it means they get their chocolate, toys, and waste.

I try whenever possible to try and support our small local businesses when I dine out, particularly those not service the exact same Sysco crap as everywhere else. However, the experience of a nice chill local restaurant is ruined by the vultures that are DoorDash and Uber Eats drivers, as well as the constant DING DING, DING DING, DING DING every time a new order comes in until the restaurant acknowledges it. I guess acknowledging it puts them on the clock, so they let it ring ad nauseam until the kitchen is ready to get started. In fact, they’ll probably pre-empt your dine-in order, because the delivery apps have a time clock so those are priority.

But back to the drivers. I don’t like to job shame, but a big part of why I don’t personally use delivery apps outside of exigent circumstances (like after surgery) is because, aside from screwing both the consumer and the local business, it is the absolute bottom of the proverbial barrel that deliver your food, and I frankly don’t want these people touching anything I’m consuming or bringing it in their nasty health hazard of a 2003 Chevy Malibu (even in a “sealed” bag). Delivery apps are a job of last resort, and these are people who couldn’t hack it at Waffle House. When this first started, you got retired people and people with extra time on their hands wanting to make a little extra money, but now those people are long gone; it’s the most desperate of society wearing nasty stained clothes and look like they haven’t seen a bar (or bottle) of soap in a week. It’s always the people who look like their picture should be in the Encyclopedia Brittanica next to the word “Unemployment.”

And let’s talk behavior. Restaurants are far too scared to put any guardrails on how these absolute vultures behave, for fear of looking like they are job shaming. So they behave just like vultures - filling every aisle and standing area in the restaurant and circling around until their customer’s order is ready, with no spatial awareness or consideration of the paying customers. Tonight I had to tell one to move, as he smelled like BO and booze and was standing RIGHT in my peripheral vision for a protracted time, on speakerphone with a family member and with his girlfriend right next to him. You aren’t their customer, and neither really is the restaurant, so why should they care about either? They always have to be in your way and behave in the loudest, most uncouth ways humanly possible. I just want to enjoy my fucking dinner without DoorVultures foaming at the mouth 3 inches away to pick up an order because they are desperate for a quick buck. We are not equals - I am paying to enjoy a meal here, you are here acting as an extension of the restaurant staff. Act like it. Know your place.

Some guardrails I’d love to see restaurants put up: Absolutely no guests come inside with you, wait in a designated area, no phone usage while inside except for directly interacting with the delivery app, do not disturb paying customers, and leave promptly once order is picked up. And sole discretion of management to refuse to hand an order to someone who objectively displays evidence of poor personal hygiene.

Make. It. Stop.

Servers that complain about people not tipping are usually the shittiest servers. You don’t automatically get 20% for showing up, if you don’t like your pay go learn a marketable skill and change jobs.

Istg I'm not rage baiting, it's very catchy

Also I think a lot of boomers never actually wanted to have kids in the first place but did it out of obligation/“just being what you do.” But now they’re stuck with adult kids they never really even wanted.

I think theres been some good animated movies for kids that have come out in recent years, its just that everyone is too hateful to give any original movies a try and also because they want everything to cater to them or else its bullshit.

Im talking about movies like Turning Red, KPDH or even Encanto or Elemental, movies made for children that I personally think are really good especially for kids standards. And most of the people hating on these movies are Grown people or teenager boys( teenager boys specifically for turning red) and they do it because crazy surprise children's movies dont cater to them. Theyre also the same people who scream about how theyre tired of getting adaptations or sequels but none are willing to support any new project.

I wish more people actually gave new movies a try instead of just hating based on short clips, people hate on things as soon as a trailer or announcement comes out without ever checking the movies out first.