r/R4R40Plus • u/tehdrizzzleswitch • 12m ago
M4F 46 [M4F] #USA #CO Looking for awesome conversation, good vibes and laughs
I figured I’d try Reddit because dating apps have just been frustrating. Is everyone always climbing a mountain?!
I’m a divorced guy in the Denver area. I’m pretty introverted at first, but once I’m comfortable with someone I’m affectionate, sarcastic, curious, and like to crack jokes - especially when I'm nervous. I'm fairly left-leaning and matching on that is pretty important.
By day I’m a software developer/solution architect. Outside of work I’m a giant geek and a maker. I have a woodworking shop, CNC router, 3D printer, weld, build things, fix things, and occasionally spend an absurd amount of time solving a problem that a normal person would probably just buy a solution for on Amazon.
I’m also a gamer, love movies and good TV, and music is a pretty big deal to me. Tool, Alice in Chains and Chevelle are firmly in the rotation. Lately I've been on a The Warning binge, though, as I just discovered them. Give me great guitar riffs, drums and something I can head bang to. Unplugged can also be very soothing when it's time to chill.
Personality-wise, I’m much more comfortable with a quiet night with someone I really like than working a crowded room. I’m caring, empathetic and gentle, and I tend to connect best with people who are the same. I do really well in small groups and even better when someone else makes the intro. I love intelligent conversations, dumb conversations, dark humor, teasing each other, and that point in a relationship where you can be completely weird around one another.
What I’m looking for is pretty simple: a woman I genuinely click with.
I’m not trying to speed-run a relationship, but I’m also not looking for a Reddit pen pal who disappears after three weeks. I’d like to talk, see if there’s chemistry, eventually meet, and hopefully find someone where it develops naturally into dating and a relationship.
You absolutely do not need to share all my hobbies. In fact, it’s probably more interesting if you don’t. I’d much rather meet someone who has her own interests and gets excited telling me about them.
If you’re smart, kind, affectionate, a little nerdy or quirky, and would rather have one really good connection than a hundred superficial ones, we might get along.
If you message me, tell me something about yourself beyond “hey.” Tell me what you’ve been obsessed with lately, what game you’re playing, what show you can’t stop watching, your favorite album, or some completely random thing you could talk about for an hour.
Bonus points if you can make me laugh.