r/R4R40Plus 12m ago

M4F 46 [M4F] #USA #CO Looking for awesome conversation, good vibes and laughs

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I figured I’d try Reddit because dating apps have just been frustrating. Is everyone always climbing a mountain?!

I’m a divorced guy in the Denver area. I’m pretty introverted at first, but once I’m comfortable with someone I’m affectionate, sarcastic, curious, and like to crack jokes - especially when I'm nervous. I'm fairly left-leaning and matching on that is pretty important.

By day I’m a software developer/solution architect. Outside of work I’m a giant geek and a maker. I have a woodworking shop, CNC router, 3D printer, weld, build things, fix things, and occasionally spend an absurd amount of time solving a problem that a normal person would probably just buy a solution for on Amazon.

I’m also a gamer, love movies and good TV, and music is a pretty big deal to me. Tool, Alice in Chains and Chevelle are firmly in the rotation. Lately I've been on a The Warning binge, though, as I just discovered them. Give me great guitar riffs, drums and something I can head bang to. Unplugged can also be very soothing when it's time to chill.

Personality-wise, I’m much more comfortable with a quiet night with someone I really like than working a crowded room. I’m caring, empathetic and gentle, and I tend to connect best with people who are the same. I do really well in small groups and even better when someone else makes the intro. I love intelligent conversations, dumb conversations, dark humor, teasing each other, and that point in a relationship where you can be completely weird around one another.

What I’m looking for is pretty simple: a woman I genuinely click with.

I’m not trying to speed-run a relationship, but I’m also not looking for a Reddit pen pal who disappears after three weeks. I’d like to talk, see if there’s chemistry, eventually meet, and hopefully find someone where it develops naturally into dating and a relationship.

You absolutely do not need to share all my hobbies. In fact, it’s probably more interesting if you don’t. I’d much rather meet someone who has her own interests and gets excited telling me about them.

If you’re smart, kind, affectionate, a little nerdy or quirky, and would rather have one really good connection than a hundred superficial ones, we might get along.

If you message me, tell me something about yourself beyond “hey.” Tell me what you’ve been obsessed with lately, what game you’re playing, what show you can’t stop watching, your favorite album, or some completely random thing you could talk about for an hour.

Bonus points if you can make me laugh.


r/R4R40Plus 3h ago

M4F 35 [M4F] - Easy company and chill vibes

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Hello. Im throwing my hat into the ring. It’s a pretty low stakes night for me, plan on spending the night on the couch playing some video games and watching movies—trying so desperately hard to decompress from life. Would love to actually have some company throughout.

Me? I’m a writer. I like to read and indulge in all sorts of media (movies, shows, books, games etc.). Horror is my favorite and I have a lot of tattoos. Oh and facial hair and piercings cause that matters sometimes?

You should just be cool.

I don’t know how to make myself sound real interesting cause I guess I’m not really? I’m really laid back, will laugh at the darkest of jokes. I’m an open book. Ask and you shall know. If you made it this far you win.


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

39 [M4F] online/anywhere lets strike up an exciting conversation!

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Hi there, hows your day going? Good i hope! I dont have much going on today and would love to meet someone to chat with!

Big on books and would love to chat them! Ive read a few this year and working on another big book currently.

Horror movies are my jam.

I live to bake and cook. If you like food we will get along.

Im a big fan of good music. That means not country, sorry country folks. Its not a deal breaker but im not a fan..

If you are curvy/alt/nerdy please move to the front of the line. Also know effort you put in is effort you will get back.

Send me a message and lets chat!


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

M4F 44 [M4F] #Lauderdale - things go a little too far during your boudoir photoshoot…

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First things first: safety and discretion. I don’t keep your photos. You can keep or wipe the memory cards. I can shoot without memory cards at all, if you prefer. I’ll also physically show you that all WiFi, Bluetooth, etc. are disabled on my camera. Finally, we can and should meet for coffee first to give you an opportunity to see how comfortable you feel with me. I’m in it for the fun experience, not for spank bank material. And I’m all about discretion.

Ok, now for the fun part:

Have you ever fantasized about doing a boudoir photoshoot with an attractive man who makes you feel like the sexiest woman on the planet?

You can meet me in a hotel room, where I’ll already have the lighting equipment set up and a pose list ready for you. (Sadly, hair and makeup aren’t on my broad skill list.) You’ll bring a few outfits that make you feel gorgeous, and I’ll lavish praise on you, pose you, direct you… and also slowly turn up the heat. My praise will get flirtier, my touches will linger ever so slightly as I pose you, and my directions will get bolder and bolder as we both feel the tension and lust in the room. I’ll adjust your hips for the pose… help you remove your bra… smooth your hair away from your breasts… Eventually, the tension will be so high that I’ll just have to put the camera down to focus on properly putting my tongue between your thighs.

As for me: I’m 5’11, 175 lbs., blue eyes. I get compliments I don’t ask for. Clean, drug free, and entirely discreet; I’m not interested in drama. No problem if you’re in a committed relationship.


r/R4R40Plus 4h ago

M4F 42[M4F] #GTA Ontario Canada-looking for a temporary relationship. Also Open to single moms and divorced females, especially Persians

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I hope to find a good woman

I hope to find a good and respectful woman in my area soon

I’m in Aurora so I hope you are close

About me, people tell me I look cute, green eyed ,and a person who respects others.

u can see my pic if you send a text, and u can decide, if you want we can have a video call before meeting

please don't hesitate to send me a text.


r/R4R40Plus 5h ago

M4F 55 M4F Rotherham Area

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Looking to meet a genuine woman locally for some relaxed, no-pressure fun and good company. Easygoing, discreet, and drama-free.

Big bonus if you’re natural 😉 xx

About me: 6'3", greying hair, and built like an out-of-shape rugby player 😄

Not interested in guys, couples, or anyone looking for payment. Thanks.


r/R4R40Plus 5h ago

M4R 50s [M4A] Arizona

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Looking for chats buds or more, read profile and if treated hmu. Located in Arizona.


r/R4R40Plus 6h ago

M4F 34 [M4F] #Online #Germany - Erotica Writer into Voice Chats looking for Longterm Connection

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If this post is up, I'm still looking!

Hello! I'd like to preface this by saying that a lot of posts on reddit are outright sexual, and that is okay, but that is not really for me. I am looking for a balanced connection that involves getting to know someone first, conversations, phone calls, and eventually, if the chemistry is right, things getting there naturally. If this resonates with you, please continue reading!

A bit about myself: I am 34 years old, and from Germany (though I am flexible in timezones). I love fixing things, and building things. My hobbies range from simple walks and cooking and baking, to DIY and electronics design and repair, and going to the gym. I also watch a lot of TV shows and am always open to new recommendations. Other than that, I am very passionate about the things I do. I love asking questions and learning new things!

I like to write erotica as I have mentioned, feel free to take a look at the things I have written and posted, if it intrigues you. That way you can check for sexual compatibility before getting to know me. That said, I am very open. Good, and respectful communication is key.

If you're interested, please introduce yourself, the more you like to share the better!

Vocaroo voice messages are really appreciated and I will send one back!

  1. A short description of where you are from, how old you are, and what you look like. Feel free to share your interests as well!
  2. What has drawn you to message me.
  3. Your current obsession.

Thank you for taking your time to read this! I am looking forward to your message! 🙂


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] Online, Anywhere, Australia. Looking for my forever soulmate

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G'day.

I really suck at describing myself but anyway. I'm 41 and ive in sunny downtown Brisbane, Australia. I just recently came back from my 6th trip to Japan, I just cannot get enough of the place, I miss the food lol.

I am an avid collector of lego and an even bigger collector of bookshelves for said Lego. I enjoy playing my switch 2 and am currently playing Splatoon raiders.

I love watching movies or tv shows but I really suck at watching things I have never seen, I'm always up for recommendations and maybe we could watch a movie together.

Ideally looking for something long term which could lead to something more. I don't care where you are from, age or if you have kids, just bring the awesome conversation. More than happy to share pics once we have talked for a bit.

Look forward to hearing from you


r/R4R40Plus 7h ago

M4F 40 [M4F] India/Anywhere, looking for my favourite person

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Greetings from India!

I’ve connected with a few people here before, but it didn’t quite click, so here I am again, showing up with a hopeful spirit.

I’m 171 cm tall, sport a dad bod, and I’m embracing the next chapter of life with curiosity and optimism. If you love to travel and crave adventure, perhaps we could explore the world together.

I work as a business consultant, but outside work I'm a bit of a dork. You'll usually find me binge-watching sitcoms, getting lost in a good book, wandering through open-world games, or hunting down my next favourite meal. I love history, stories, and places that have stood the test of time. One of my dreams is to visit the places Asterix & Obelix travelled through and imagine what those worlds might have been like. Life is full of little adventures, and I'm looking for someone to share them with.

In another life, I might have been a Giant Panda—laid-back, perpetually curious, and always up for a snack. I’m also a child-free divorcee, ready for whatever this next chapter brings with someone special by my side.

About You

I’m looking for someone between 35 and 50 who values honesty, kindness, and a playful spirit. If you’re the kind of person who’s up for an impromptu Nerf gun fight, enjoys wandering through museums or old cities, or is happy debating who the real MVP of Asterix & Obelix is, we'll probably get along just fine.

A sense of whimsy goes a long way. I believe we're here to laugh, love, and make the kind of memories that get better with retelling. Light conversations, inside jokes, the occasional meme exchange, spontaneous road trips, and finding joy in ordinary moments—yes, please.

Distance doesn’t scare me. I’d happily cross oceans for the right connection. And while I love the idea of a nomadic life, I’m open to settling down if our paths align.

A couple of things worth knowing about me

I’m not relentlessly cheerful 24/7. Sometimes life throws a few unexpected side quests my way, and I can get a little quieter while I figure them out. The good news is that curiosity, optimism, and a sense of humour usually find their way back before too long.

And if we get to know each other, you'll quickly discover that my way of showing affection includes a healthy dose of teasing and being just the right amount of annoying—the kind that makes you roll your eyes, laugh, and secretly look forward to the next time it happens.

If any of this sounds like your kind of adventure, I'd love to chat and see where it takes us. Happy to share more about myself and photos too.

Life is an adventure. Could you be my favourite person to share it with?


r/R4R40Plus 9h ago

M4F 38 [M4F] - Maryland/North America; Still looking for my person

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Hi there! James here, I am 38 (soon to be 39) from Maryland (Anywhere in the US/Canada is fine too; you don't have to specifically be from Maryland. I can freely travel/relocate due to WFH) and looking to chat and see if chemistry develops. I am on here looking for someone that matches my energy. I've been snipped for 4 years; apparently being snipped can be a conversation ender on dating apps!

Still looking for my person...

I am 6', black hair, hazel eyes, love working out/lifting weights! It is as good for you mentally as it is physically. Willing to share pics as well!

Some of my hobbies/interests:

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Lifting weights

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Videogames

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Movies (HUGE Marvel fan; love anything HORROR/sci-fi/comedy/action/high fantasy primarily)

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Huge music fan (of all kinds; primarily of the 90s/early 2000s variety)

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Road trips! (Tons of fun, especially with the right co-pilot)

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Traveling

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Stand-up comedy

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Socialize with friends (can have just as much fun staying in too)

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Drinks occasionally

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Sports

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Learning to play electric bass guitar

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Voice calls/voice messages (It's way easier and more fun to get to know someone/talk with them via voice; much easier to convey sarcasm as well 😁)

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Audiobooks

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* Being active and outside (LOVE the beach!)

\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\* HALLOWEEN IS THE BEST SEASON.

Shoot me a message if you're interested, and a pic since attraction is important; wouldn't want to hit it off like crazy and find out we're not attracted to each other.

Here is my voice to show I am not a bot, if you're curious:

https://voca.ro/17YDWuF7kFeE


r/R4R40Plus 9h ago

F4R 49[F4R] Feeling a bit bored and could use some company Friendship

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Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)


r/R4R40Plus 10h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Westminster - Seeking younger woman for FWB in Southern California

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I am looking for a young woman for a fwb type situation. Several years back, my marriage of 9 years came to an end, and due to circumstances out of my control it took me several years to put my life back together. It took a lot of hard work and determination but I was able to prevail. I'm in a place now where I want just want to enjoy myself but don't want to do it alone. I would love to go on fun dates like the beach since it's so close by or perhaps try out some restaurants that I have been wanting to try. I prefer to keep things casual however I am willing to entertain something longer term if we fit well together. Regardless, I prefer something regular and ongoing even if it just stays casual.

In relationships, I very much believe in the male role of leadership. Things like responsibility always fall on my shoulders and it's my duty to make sure that everything that needs to be handled is handled. In exchange, I seek a woman who looks up to a man like the one described and naturally falls into her submissive feminine role. I am very aware that things like submission is earned over time and is not just handed out freely. The way we get there is through mutual respect of one another. Love does not exist if respect is not present. I don't believe in big blowout arguments, screaming matches, name calling, or belittling of each other. I understand the physical power imbalance between the sexes and it is my duty to make sure you always feel safe in my presence.

I am very sexual with a high drive and I am looking for someone who is looking for a good sex life. I am very much a dominant and love being in control. This will be your time to shut your mind off and not think about anything other than enjoying the moment. You will never have to think about what comes next as I will always lead the interaction. I very much care about the pleasure of my partner and will always make sure you feel good and feel taken care of.

I have a lot of lived experience, have led an interesting life, and can have conversations about most subjects especially those that involve the inner workings of how the world works and life in general.

I am 5'10 and weigh 163 lbs. I am white with brown hair with some grays peaking out and hazel eyes. I very much care about my health and how I look and have been working out for years. I have a pretty fit body type.

STD free


r/R4R40Plus 18h ago

M4F 45 [M4F] #Manchester/ online – looking for interesting/ engaging conversation and plenty of mischief with genuine people

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6’2”, blue eyes, slim/athletic build.

I’m fairly laid-back, liberal, reasonably intelligent, and capable of having a conversation about almost anything.

I like conversations that develop their own momentum — the sort that start with something completely mundane and somehow end up somewhere unexpected.

Good humour, quick wit, a bit of teasing and the occasional bit of mischievous flirting all get my attention.

I’m not looking for a particular age, look or type. I’m much more interested in whether there’s a spark when we actually start talking.

As for what I’m looking for…I’m not entirely sure. No big great expectations. Just someone genuine who is interested in exchanging messages, getting to know each other and seeing whether we click.

And if we end up becoming a welcome distraction in each other’s lives, I certainly wouldn’t complain.

I’m UK based, and ideally looking for someone reasonably close to my time zone. Beyond that, I’m pretty open-minded.

Please don’t just send “hey”. Tell me something about yourself, what brought you here, and most importantly:

What book did you read that changed your life?


r/R4R40Plus 18h ago

F4M 48 [F4M] UK looking for whatever I find

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Hi,

I've made good and lasting friends on Reddit before. I have some spare time so thought it might be fun to try again.

I'm single, not actively looking to be otherwise, but enjoy chatting, so who knows. I'm in England but don't mind where you are.

I'm pretty chilled out, decent sense of humour, naturally curious so I will ask a ton of questions.don't game though so you might lose me there.

Looking for 48+, not married.

B


r/R4R40Plus 21h ago

M4F 49/50 [FM4F] #Cleveland - all the basic stuff you would expect, hang out, get dinner, laugh, you end up tied to a bed and whipped by a couple and brought to tears. Repeat.

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We are a married couple, and our kind of bonding is bondaging (it’s not technically a word but should be, so I’m going to use it. To reciprocate we’ll let you use literally in the wrong context so fairs fair, but I’ll cringe a bit inside and may use it against you when we’re abusing you, so things just aren’t fair but that’s true in both life an in bdsm)

So back to the original point before you forced me off on a tangent, we’d like to know a bit about you before we get to things more intimate, like hatefucking, whipping you, or hanging out to watch a TV and it turns out you don’t like Game of thrones, I mean if that’s the case then it does help justify abusing you.  

So, a bit of discussion is needed, as if were going to spend time together though most of it will be testing your limits and seeing what it takes to break you. There will undoubtedly be time to hang out and we don’t want to mistakenly have invited some monster that listens to K-pop into our lives, got to have standards.

What you should be.

Be a WOMAN between the ages of 24 and 55, and look good, that can be thin, athletic, a few extra pounds are fine, just have some feminine attributes. I want something pretty to break. Don’t be a dude.

No Guys, no Trans, no penis at all, born a woman.

Single, or at least your husband knows about things and is okay with you playing alone, we aren’t going to be part of cheating.

Clean and DD free, non-smoker.

Be any race whatsoever, bonus if you're Asian, if you are hard gothic that's sexy, and We like Tattoos.

Us

We are fit I'm 50 Latina 115 lbs and have large after market breasts, my husband is 49 5'11 190lbs and in good shape, we are both really well kept and will trade pics and verify, you should be ready to do so as well.

Abise to expect-

Abduction, degradation, verbally abused, tied up, lots of slapping, choking, being facefucked. You will be whipped, blindfolded, clamped and DP'ed (I have a big strap on) I will try to fist you if you’re open to it (pun intended), or stretch you we will use dildoes, toys, and our bodies to torment you. We would want to see you brought to tears.

If you have something you really want done, we will likely be able to oblige, we're pleasers after all.

What we won't do

No shit, no permanent damage, no kids, no animals, no feet (I don't like feet) no death (goes with permanent) and no branding, no listening to kpop

Will we be willing to own you?

No, not in the 24/7 slave manner, but we’ve collared a sub before, so its possible..

Limits'

You should have some and be upfront, don't say you have none, that's just dangerous or you’re a liar and aren’t really going to meetup, we want to play rough but not at risk of life or limb.

Aftercare

If we spend time together you will definitely need some, and when the masks are off we will be your friends, I will cuddle you as you cry and my husband will be his soothing self and reassure you. We can order pizza and eat and hang out until you feel better. Then we will punish you

Overall-

If you're interested let's chat, we can discuss things we will want to see some pics and get to know you a bit, before we all figure out the logistics of getting together. But if you're serious about some fun CNC and really being violated by a couple lets chat.

*If you like all of the above and want to meet.

We want to know you and will need to chat a bit, video, facetime, until we all are comfortable. We will likely want to meet up for coffee, lunch or something just to see you first. We aren’t swingers and playing safe is important, if we get a bad vibe we don’t want to go forward, you should take similar precautions. So, let’s be human, we will mistreat you eventually but not at first and not until we all are ready.

 


r/R4R40Plus 23h ago

M4F 41 [M4F] #Gardengrove - FWB. Southern California

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I am looking for something casual and fun to blow off some steam every now and then. I had a really intense work schedule over the last few months and am slowing down some and want to enjoy myself a little. Hopefully you can be apart of that. While I do enjoy being in relationships, it's not really a priority for me right now. I prefer to find an ongoing situation as opposed to a one time hookup.

When it comes to being involved with someone, to me, respect is the absolute most important thing. I will always show you respect and will always act kindly towards you. Making sure you feel safe and comfortable at all times is a priority of mine.

In bed, I very much like to take the leadership role and love a woman who wants to be tossed around. I very much enjoy imposing my strength on you. I love when a woman just let's herself go and let's me have my way with her.

About me:

I am 41 years and have no kids. I have my own place about 10 minutes from the beach. I am 5'10 and weigh 165 lbs. I am white with brown hair (all my hair) with some grays poking out on the sides. I am pretty health conscious and have an overall fit body type.


r/R4R40Plus 23h ago

M4F 44 [M4F]#Ohio/online- Educated, good sense of humor, and genuine! Looking for a long term connection!

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Interests:

sports

concerts

comedians

science

anything outdoors

gardening

home projects

reading, movies and tv

trivia

politics

history

birding

Looking for other people who are looking for genuine, non- platonic connections. Not looking for someone who’s just passing the time at work!

If you write me a book as an opening message, I probably won’t read it.

Very dominant.

Please lead with pertinent information about yourself so we can get the ball rolling. Everyone has their someone but some of us are not for everyone, and that’s okay. Keep it positive!

Not sure how this is going to go but here are some starters updated:

Favorite historical event?

An interesting fact you love?

Current obsession?

If you were stranded on AN island, name 3 things you’d bring with you.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

44 [M4F] #Pittsburgh - Looking for a beautiful mind

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I live by myself, I pay my own rent, I wear socks that match and I love my mom. I am a confident, attractive & comedic person.

I love life and I love living life.

I’m an amateur photographer and a wine enthusiast. (I get notes of...) I love food. Period. If you are a foodie, we definitely can get along.

An engaging conversation is always a plus. If you’d like to know more say “hi”.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

55 [M4F] - Georgia -I’m not even sure why I’m on here or what I’m looking for at this point

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I’ve been on here for at least a year at this point. I feel like I’ve had the full experience: phishing, onlyfans ads, guys that want to show me their wife, good chats, bad chats, critique of my wording, sexting, no sexting put just send pics, ghostings, blocks, pretty much the whole reddit experience. At this point I don’t know what I’m even looking for. Married but it could be better. I work from home so I’m alone most mornings and afternoons. Not looking to change anyone’s situation. Not looking to meet in person (unless it REALLY goes well and for a long time). Would like a good conversation with someone in similar time zone. Age is flexible. I’m not picky just be an adult. A woman. No ads. I’m not moving to FaceTime or what’s app. I’m open to failure. If we don’t click, you can stop messaging. I’d prefer you let me know but hey, it’s the internet. I’d like it if there were some flirting/sexting at least a possibility but if not, that’s ok too. If you’ve made it this far, feel free to DM me. Hopefully I’ll get at least views and see what happens.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

35 [M4F] Virginia/Online - Nerdy Appalachian Guy Looking for His Person

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I never really know how to start these things without sounding like I am applying for a position in someone's relationship, so I guess I will just start talking about myself and hope somebody makes it to the bottom.

I'm a guy from Southwest Virginia, born and raised in Appalachia, and I'm probably a weird mixture of country and nerd that makes a lot more sense once you actually talk to me. I love where I'm from and I'm pretty attached to this part of the world, but I'm perfectly fine meeting somebody online and seeing where things go. I'm not expecting someone to magically live twenty minutes away from me. That would be convenient, but I also know how geography works.

A lot of my interests fall firmly into the nerd category. I'm into computers and technology, and I'm currently working on my education in IT/computer science. I'm the kind of person who actually enjoys troubleshooting something that isn't working, although there is usually a point about an hour into it where I threaten the computer like it understands what I'm saying.

I'm also a huge sports fan. I love everything from football to wrestling to baseball to NASCAR. Anything in between as well. You can usually find me with something sports wise on television in the background when I am doing something.

I read, write, play games, mess around with Dungeons & Dragons, watch way too many movies and television shows, and generally fall down rabbit holes about whatever happens to catch my attention. I like everything from history and local folklore to horror, true crime, technology, sports, and completely useless trivia. I've also gotten pretty heavily into writing. Some of it is serious fiction and history, and some of it is making fun of local news and the absurd things that happen in the news. My sense of humor can be sarcastic, stupid, dark, dry, or occasionally so childish that I probably shouldn't admit it in a dating post.

Personality-wise, I'm pretty laid back. I can be quiet at first, but once I'm comfortable with somebody that tends to disappear quickly. I like joking around and teasing each other, but I'm also completely capable of having an actual serious conversation. In fact, that's probably what I'm missing more than anything. I don't just want somebody to exchange "hey, what's up?" messages with every three days until one of us eventually disappears. I want somebody I actually look forward to hearing from.

I'm at the point in my life where companionship sounds better than chasing some endless series of casual conversations. I want the person I can send something stupid to at 2 in the afternoon because I know it'll make her laugh. Someone I can talk to about what happened during the day, watch something with, play a game with, complain to, encourage, flirt with, and eventually build all of those little inside jokes with that make absolutely no sense to anyone else.

I don't expect somebody to have all the same interests as me either. Honestly, that might get exhausting. I'd rather meet somebody who has her own interests and gets excited telling me about them. Tell me about the bizarre hobby you could give a forty-minute presentation on. Tell me about the show you're obsessed with. Send me the song you've listened to fourteen times this week. I like people who have things they genuinely care about.

As far as what I'm looking for, ultimately I would like something real and long term. I'm fine with starting online, taking our time, and just seeing whether we actually enjoy talking to each other before trying to plan our entire future after three Reddit messages. Chemistry matters. Conversation matters. Being able to laugh together matters a lot.

And because I know it matters (been ghosted a ton for it), I am a big dude. I am working on myself, but I always plan on being a bigger dude. I am bald, bearded, tattooed, and have a crazy set of eyes that change color depending on the weather and my mood. It is fun. I fully expect to share a picture with you early on. I just want to make sure that I am the one you are looking for as well.

I don't need some perfect opening message either. Just tell me a little about yourself. Age, where you're from, what you're into, and maybe something that you are just excited about or for.

Or just send me your most controversial completely meaningless opinion.

I'll start: there are absolutely television shows that should have been legally prohibited from making their final season.


r/R4R40Plus 1d ago

M4F 60 [M4F] #Phoenix Married Man Looking for a Real Connection

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Hello, and thank you for reading my post. I’m a married gentleman in a dead end marriage. I’m looking to connect with a woman in similar situation - or at least understanding of my situation - for a real, long-term emotional and physical relationship, online to start, and hopefully meet in person in the future.

Here’s some more about me and what I’m looking for… I’m 60, married white male from Phoenix, AZ, the father of several kids (all young adults), and work from home for a large corporation. I’m 5’9”, 200 lbs, with brown hair and blue eyes. I’m clean, DDF, non-smoker. When I’m not working, I enjoy walking and hiking, sports (baseball and football are my favorites), and binging a good show online… I’m currently watching the new seasons of Lioness and Reacher.

I have been on a health journey since August 2024, and have dropped over 130 lbs - down from 337 to 200. I can share more about my journey if you’re interested. My renewed focus on my health and well being has given me a new lease on life, and I’m doing what I can to live life to its fullest.

I’m in a failing marriage where the passion and desire have been gone for some time. I am so tired of feeling alone, unappreciated and taken for granted in my own home. I’m looking to connect with a woman (reasonably close to my age) for a relationship that includes conversations with depth and purpose, lots of playful fun and laughs, and real, genuine care for each other.

Discretion is important. We can share pics after we connect, and I’m open to moving this chat elsewhere if/when you’re ready. Also, I am not a buyer (will never send you any money), and I do not want to go to your “special page”.

Thank you for making it to the end of my post, and really hope we can connect soon. Have a great day!