I just found out I am 4w2d pregnant. In November 2025 I ordered abortion pills to have on hand and here I am,, needing the pills now. Well I checked and they expired August 13,2026. It is September 1,2026. I called the hotline and they said they should be fine to take especially since I am not far along, but I was hoping to hear if anyone else has had the same thing happen or if anyone has any advice. Anything is appreciated. Tysm

I’m 20F and I’m almost certain that I’m pregnant. My partner and I have already talked about it, and we both agree that we are not keeping the baby.
The problem is that my mum doesn’t know.
She wants me to do some hormonal blood tests, but apparently they have to be done while I’m on my period. She also wants to come with me when I get them done, and she has made it very clear that she will come whether I want her to or not.
The awkward part is that if my period doesn’t come, she is obviously going to notice. I’m not sure what excuse I could realistically give her without making things suspicious.
I’m also scared of what would happen if she found out that I was pregnant before I was able to arrange the abortion. She is Christian and I know she would strongly oppose abortion and try very hard to convince me to keep the baby.
There’s also some complicated family history around pregnancy. My mum previously lost a baby because of health problems, although my brother and I were both subsequently born healthy. I know this experience affected her deeply, which makes me think her reaction to my pregnancy would be especially emotional.
I’m not asking whether I should keep the baby. That decision has already been made by me and my partner. I’m asking how to handle the practical side of keeping this private until I can deal with it myself.
I’m 20, but my mum is very involved in my life and I’m worried that simply saying “I don’t want you to come” a will immediately raise questions.
I’d really appreciate practical advice.

It’s hard to believe I’m writing this but at almost 13 weeks pregnant, I have suddenly realized I don’t think I want to do this.

I am 40 and have no kids. My husband and I have been together a long time, more than 10 years, and never thought we’d have kids… Until about 8 months ago when I suddenly had this excited thought: maybe we should have a baby!! My husband got on board, surprisingly. I did ALL the fertility supplements, acupuncture, etc. but… When I saw a negative test after our first cycle trying, I was elated. I felt completely liberated. And still, I felt weirdly committed to this new vision, and we tried again. I got pregnant that second cycle.

My relationship is not great, but it’s been healthy enough that neither of us has left. It’s not abusive or noticeably toxic, but we have had issues especially with my partner lying, an emotional affair with a coworker, and a secret porn addiction which we went to many couples therapy over and he vowed he would stop.

13 weeks into my pregnancy, I suddenly had this dark feeling come over me and I begged him to be honest with me. After lying several times, he finally told me he’s been watching porn my entire pregnancy, and for a year before that. In therapy years ago, I made it crystal clear that porn was a non-negotiable for me, the degradation of young women and the misogyny involved have no place in my life. I know some women watch it, or are unbothered by their husbands watching it. I am very, very bothered by it, and it was very clear that this was a deal breaker for me. And he continued to secretly do it anyway, lying to me about it on multiple occasions. I know you may feel differently about porn, but it is a very, very big deal to me, and the amount of lying that goes along with it.

Basically I feel somewhat entrapped in this pregnancy, because had he told me prior to TTC that he was still watching porn, I would have ended our marriage. Now I am in a situation where I could possibly be stuck co-parenting with this person forever. I am 40 and will almost definitely not be meeting another partner in time to try to get pregnant again, if I even am able to. So this would likely be my only chance at motherhood. But when I started thinking about abortion, I immediately started to feel like myself again. I feel like an absolute idiot for believing my husband again, and for allowing a baby to be conceived in such an unhealthy relationship. I also worry if this baby is a boy, that this is the male influence I chose.

If I have the baby and stay with this man, I will be a resentful, angry mother and wife. I feel miserable imagining it. I recently left my career and have no job, and was planning to start a new career in several years once my baby was in school. So single mothering would be very difficult, with no job and no home (our house is in my husbands parents names… don’t ever do this).

Has anyone been in remotely a similar situation?? Or did I just get myself into the mess of a lifetime.

Got pregnant last September and October had an abortion with the pills. Fast forward to this past July I got pregnant again. I just had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and I’m so DEVASTATED I debated keeping the baby and initially didn’t want to since I was so afraid but then I decided I would continue my pregnancy and then I had a miscarriage at work it was so traumatic and I feel so saddened and feel like this is my karma for having an abortion. I can’t see anyone post about pregnancy’s cause I wanna cry this is so heartbreaking I am so sad and feel punished.

How are you now? How do you feel about your baby?
I’m struggling to get mine, have a feeling it might work out with my partner despite the short time

I don’t know what’s going on. I just started randomly bleeding heavy at 3 weeks post abortion. I don’t think it’s my period. I don’t have any cramps. But got a super positive ovulation test today while still bleeding.

I'm about 7 weeks pregnant and my body has already changed so much. Some of my jeans are struggling at the seams on my hips. My joggers are tighter on my hips, ass, thighs. My stomach is bigger but doesn't look like a bump. My boobs are bigger, but the weight just makes them sag down - i previously had smaller boobs and didn't have to wear a bra but now that is impossible.

Google says most early weight gain is bloating or water weight but i'm seeing physical changes in my body that don't align with this; they don't seem temporary.

I am struggling so much with my body changing in ways I cannot control. I have to eat 2x my normal amount otherwise I feel violently sick and throw up. I can't exercise for the same reasons. I know I should be reasonable and patient with my body going through something but it is so hard to watch my body change in ways that I don't like and I cannot influence at all. My body doesn't feel like my own right now :(

I worry that post abortion it will be weeks to months before I will start to feel in control of my body again. First I will have to recover from the surgery, then wait for hormones and my cycle to settle, then start being able to work on myself. I fear I am going to be trapped in a body sculpted by a baby that doesn't even exist with nothing I can do about it.

Question 1 - how long after surgical abortion do you start to feel like yourself again? I am currently very low energy, always hungry, and constantly nauseous throughout the day - how long until this goes away?

Question 2 - if your body changed much in early pregnancy, did it eventually go back? Specifically boobs!

This may seem vain and like it shouldn't be my biggest issue but it is a very difficult feeling like I have no control over my body - a feeling that does extend further than how my body looks. I feel ill and lethargic every single day and i'm definitely more emotional, and i'm so sick of it!! I really want to get back to how i used to feel but I know it won't be an instant change after the abortion.

My boyfriend is very supportive and continues to say he loves my body and finds me attractive. This reassurance helps but I worry about the future.

Sending love to everyone dealing with pregnancy and/or abortions regardless of your situation <3

Canadians only please. Abortion Pill experiences, looking for support.

Wanting to know others experiences with the abortion pill in Canada. My doctor says it’s best option since I want to try for a baby again. I was misdiagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy and my baby was harmed after I was given methotrexate and had surgery for ectopic but it was in my uterus all along. I’ve never taken the drug before and I’m really scared. We are trying to avoid a D & C. Any support and suggestions for how to get through it the best are greatly appreciated ♥️♥️

So yesterday afternoon i got my thyroid result that tells me i have hyperthyroidism , doctor suspecting that i have some metabolic disorder. So all my life i had hypothyroidism but from last April it turned to hyper. Also yesterday evening i tested positive for pregnancy with the clearblue showing 2-3 weeks. I am 36 years old and i have one baby boy who is 2.3 years, now my brain says to go and get the abortion done because i feel i am not mentally fit to raise another baby because he is too small and i get tired by my day managing my son and my work. I was planning another baby when my son will turn 3.5 years, Now my heart says i should continue because in my religion its sin to take life out of anything and indirectly i asked my sisters and they said its okay if you have another baby. When i think of myself with 2 babies i imagine more stress at this point of time and also all of my friends has 1 baby . I have anyways scheduled an abortion appointment after 10 days, but some times i think am i doing good. Please help me and share your thoughts because now i am stuck.

Update:

I just got my thyroid result which shows i have thyroid antibodies which shows i may have Grave disease or Hashimoto
P—TPO-ak (Thyroid Peroxidase Antibodies): 10 kIU/L (Reference range: <5.6)

I am 6 weeks pregnant and married. I already have one child whom is 5. I got pregnant with him when I was 17 and I am 23 now. My husband is the father of both of my son and the unborn baby but I planned on divorcing him and moving states. He’s very childish like and over the years I’ve fallen out of love with him. I took a plan b and still became pregnant. I know I can’t keep the baby if I move because it will make things harder for me and furthermore, I don’t want to be trapped with him any longer. He’s very narcissistic and just a shitty spouse in general. I don’t believe in abortion and I’ve never had one but I am considering the pill and save myself the stress. I’ve been crying a lot about this but I know it’s the best option.

How did you all decide to go through with your abortion? My husband and I found ourselves pregnant at an unexpected time. Our first born is 2 years old. We toyed around the thought of being one and done but ultimately did decide we wanted a second one, just not this soon… we thought maybe a larger age gap of 4-5 years would have been nicer. By the time I can get an appt it will be too late for a medical abortion so I would have to go the surgical route. Is it hormones creeping in? We can financially make two work although we wanted to pay off debts before having our next.

My partner and I have been together for four years. He is an incredible partner, and I feel deeply loved and safe with him. However, our circumstances are complicated: he has three teenage children, and I moved to his country to make our relationship work.

I felt ready to have a baby, but this pregnancy happened sooner than we expected. Because of my age, we assumed it might take longer. During the first few weeks, I experienced excruciating pain and began preparing myself emotionally for a miscarriage. That didn’t happen, and we’ve since been told that the pregnancy is progressing normally.

What has confused and frightened me most is my emotional response. I’ve felt repulsed by the changes happening to my body, and my breasts have already become extremely painful at six to seven weeks. More broadly, I’ve experienced very strong negative feelings towards the pregnancy itself. This is difficult to understand because I do want to become a mother, and I have wanted to experience pregnancy.

After two therapy sessions and two and a half weeks of intense consideration, my partner and I have decided to end the pregnancy. There are many factors behind our decision, including my career, our finances, our stability and whether this is genuinely the right time for us.

I’m also struggling to understand how much I’m factoring everyone else into this decision. His children have previously expressed negative feelings about us having a baby. Their reaction is understandable, but I can’t tell how much it has contributed to my own feelings. I don’t want to bring my first child into a turbulent or unwelcoming situation, but I also don’t want to resent his children—or my partner—for the fact that I’m taking their feelings and needs into consideration.

Even though I believe this may be the most responsible decision for our current circumstances, I feel incredibly emotional and conflicted. Wanting motherhood in the future while choosing not to continue this particular pregnancy is a painful and confusing place to be. I’m also conscious that I will be 37 in six weeks, which makes the decision feel even more complicated and frightening.

I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced similar feelings or made a similar decision at around my age.

Hi,

I am 41 and my wife is 37 (we are married since 11 years and have a 10 year old kid).

She has a 28 day cycle (and usually gets her periods around day 25 of the cycle but some of them might have been chemical pregnancies also recently, accompanied by heavy cramping which we mistook as early painful periods).

We had unprotected intercourse on days 7, 11 and 13 (only times we had it this month).

Her last periods started on August 6th (so 26th day today). Due date seems September 3rd (2 days from now).

Being hopeful for her periods in the next 2 days but please share your experiences of the abortion (if still needed) in case, it gets delayed by a few days.

im 18 and Im 6 weeks pregnant and Im not happy with being pregnant i dont want a abortion but how can i have a healthy pregnancy if i dont even want the baby My mom and Aunt are happy im pregnant and say I should keep It but the father is In jail right now and he has put his hands on me Im also 18 and i know i shouldnt have done this in the first place If i didnt want a baby and i regret it so much everyday I stress about wanting to keep the baby or not and wondering if ill regret the abortion But im not happy at all right now I just feel deppressed And guilty I dont know what to do and I have No one to talk to can somone give me advice please I have so many mixed emotions right now .

Hoy por fin me dieron las pastillas de misoprostol, son 8 pastillas en total, y las debo tomar sublingual 4 pastillas cada 3horas. Estoy muy asustada por los síntomas que pueda tener y lo que me llegue a pasar, solo espero que den resultados efectivos.

Dentro de 15 dias debo volver para realizarme una ecografia y ver a la ginecóloga para saber si todo salio bien.

Estoy muy asustada. Nerviosa. Ojala todo pase pronto.

Hello, i am 19F living in west texas with my boyfriend. I will say this is completely my fault and i do feel guilty about it. We weren’t using protection and i feel dumb. Regardless here we are and we are not ready to be parents and provide a comfortable life for our baby. I already have access to one of the websites for the abortion pill. I am wondering if i should seek medical care or an ultrasound before i got thought with it, or if they find out im pregnant, will they eventually find out i had an abortion? Any help would greatly be appreciated.

I am almost 6 weeks pregnant. I have two kids, 4.5 and 7. I had been having baby fever for a few years where I was thinking about having another daily. But never enough to say I’m 100% in. We were getting a little lazy not preventing things because the idea of 3 kids sounded nice. Then I had a cardiac spasm event a few months ago, it’s pretty rare from what I understand and was really scary, it caused some heart muscle damage but my heart is functioning normally. I said to myself and my husband that after this month, we are officially closing this door. That we can’t keep talking about it and we are committing to two. We felt good after that conversation. I found out the next day I am pregnant.

Since then, I’ve been panicking, my fears have taken over. Primarily my health as I am at more risk of cardiac spasms in pregnancy though the spectrum does seem wide (from having a mostly normal, more monitored pregnancy, to a small chance my life could be at risk). I’m terrified that the age gap is a big deal, that it will feel like we’re raising two older kids and one younger, only child. I’m scared that it’s too late to have a third (I’m 34 and my husband is 37), all the things that could go wrong, and abortion feels like a perfect out. It’s hard because, if we had this baby, we could give it everything. Love, siblings, finances, we don’t feel like we’re in the position that we can’t give this baby what it would need. Maybe a bit like, I can give my kids right now 50/50. With a third, they’re each getting 30%. I know I would love this baby and we would make it work. I think most if not all people who have an abortion know they would love their baby if they had it. But I’m scared if I do have this abortion, then once all my fears of this pregnancy, and the changes that come with the baby disappear, once that happens will I regret it? If the biggest reason to have a baby is fearing you will regret an abortion really the right thing? Am I making a decision to calm my short term fears, but is my long term desire different? Did I just like the idea of having 3 kids and not the reality? Do I just like the idea of an abortion because it feels like a solution, but is the reality of it going to feel different? Am I overthinking everything!?

I know I don’t want to put my life at risk for this baby and the kids I currently have. I have an appt with my cardiologist in 2 weeks. That seems like so far away. I’m scared she’s going to say you’ll be monitored but you’ll likely be fine, and I will feel disappointment. Or I’ll go ahead with it and then something bad will happen. Or she’ll say there are risks and we would support you if you felt they were too high to continue, then will I feel sad and disappointed? I feel truly ambivalent.

It feels like having this baby feels like I’m being dragged by the arm. Like I’m going but I’m kicking and screaming. Like I’m saying no I don’t want to do this. Maybe when I get there I’ll be like ok this isn’t so bad. Maybe I’ll be like oh, I miss our old life. But then it feels like not having this baby it feels like I’m dragging my feet. Like I know that’s what we have to do but the doubt is like, are you sure? Is this really how you feel? Will I hate that I made this decision when I’m older?

I honestly feel so much dread with this decision, both options suck!

I found out I was pregnant July 7th. Told my partner, we decided to terminate. Went through with that and took the pills on July 29th and had a very positive experience with MA. I bled for about 2 weeks afterwards, was not intimate during that time with my partner. I also did not get the prescription for birth control filled at that time because I don’t like how I feel on BC and my partner supported that.
We were intimate August 22&23, using pull out. Then this past weekend using condoms.
This is where alllll my anxiety comes in. Yesterday I felt very foggy and anxious, felt like I was having to pee more than normal again, felt like I was having heart palpitations which all of these are symptoms I had during the early stages of pregnancy before we terminated. Today I’m feeling most of those same things as well as a runny nose. But my boobs don’t hurt this time.

I’m panicking because I don’t want to have to go through another termination so soon.

But I guess I’m just looking for advice if anyone else has dealt with this? What the chances are that I’m actually pregnant again? Or if I’m just dealing with severe anxiety and now I’m hypersensitive to the feelings in my body.

26F. I just found out today that I’m pregnant from a home pregnancy test. I’m currently around 6 weeks 5 days based on my Last period.

I’m going to an abortion clinic tomorrow for a consultation, but where I live there’s a mandatory 48-hour waiting period after counselling before I can proceed.

The problem is that I’m travelling on 4 September, so the earliest I could potentially start a medical abortion would be the morning I leave. If I wait until I return from my trip, I’ll be around 8 weeks 1 day.

I plan to do it immediately after im done with counselling. Which is the 4 sept morning. My flight is in the evening at 9pm. What are your thoughts?

I’m dealing with this completely alone and can’t talk to my family about it, so I’m honestly pretty scared and overwhelmed right now. I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through something similar. ❤️

For anyone who has gone through this:
• If I have a medical abortion now at around 7 weeks, is there generally less pregnancy tissue/bleeding than at 8 weeks?
• Does doing it earlier reduce the chance of an incomplete abortion and needing a surgical procedure afterward?
• How successful was medical abortion for you at 6–8 weeks? Did anyone have one at around 8 weeks and have it work completely without needing further intervention?
• For those who have experienced both, how did medical vs surgical abortion compare in terms of pain, bleeding, recovery and overall experience?
• Would you personally avoid starting a medical abortion immediately before travelling overseas, even if it meant waiting another week?
• would u rather SA or MA

I love my boyfriend deeply and I understand his feelings too but I feel so conflicted. I miss my child, I wanted my child to be born. I put his feelings over my own desire and while I do know that it was the right decision (because we are young because we still have time to create a loving family because right now having a baby would be extremely hard etc) I feel like we would get this and we would be able to care for that child in the best way possible and I would be ready to be a mother even if he couldn't be a father. Am I wrong for feeling like I love my unborn aborted baby more than I love my boyfriend?

I’m 23, I just had my first abortion last week, and it feels like not being able to tell my mom is the biggest piece missing in finding closure.

My mom has always been liberal and “pro-choice,” but she had me at 19, and I knew she quietly held the belief that it was wrong to get an elective abortion. Last year, I stopped taking my hormonal birth control because I didn’t like the side effects. I told my mom I was scared of getting an IUD, and she texted me:

“Just know if you do get pregnant, that blood is on your hands because you were scared of putting yourself through something that might hurt you. With no regard for it, it might hurt an innocent fetus.”

“It’s not just a personal choice when you are bringing new humans into the mix. It affects them too, having to be aborted. Don’t you think?”

The second I got my positive pregnancy test, these texts flashed in my head, and my heart broke knowing I wouldn’t be able to tell her what I was going through.

We’re not even that close, but every day I get the urge to tell her about what this experience has been like for me. Finding out I was pregnant for the first time, going through these hormonal changes, going through this post-abortion grief. Maybe it’s just something I have to learn to live with, and there would be no closure in telling her, at least not for a couple years. Or maybe I need to just let her in and let her process it. I never know how she might react, and it’s not like I rely on her for anything. I’m an adult. But also, I’ve been with my partner for 3 years, and he is the love of my life. I don’t want to damage my mom’s perception of him.

Just looking for any stories about what it was like telling your mom, particularly those with a rocky relationship with their mom or ones who knew their mom might not take it well.

I recently had an abortion at 5 weeks along. I found out the weekend prior, I spent 6 days contemplating while I had the appointment scheduled.

I found myself reading stories on here for hours at a time, longing for it to feel like someone understood. Hoping to find someone in the same position as me. I found comfort in this community and I have come here to pass the comfort forward.

My husband and I have been together 5 years, we have two beautiful boys 3 years old and 1 1/2 year old. We knew we were done. Having two under two wasnt for the weak. I also work from home full time (sales) while watching my babies. There are some days I really question my sanity. On top of that I own a photography business, I often find myself so busy I dont get more than 5 minutes to myself by the end of the day, and I mean that literally...the 5 mins are the addition of thr SOLO bathroom trips during the day.

My marriage is in a rocky place, we are in couples therapy trying our best to work through it. Not sure of thr future but trying our best.

I was on birth control, but my primary care left the practice last month, it was the same month my year rx refill expired, and they wouldnt give me anymore until I saw my Dr. Well it was crazy busy, I kept pushing it off. I had only been off BC for a month and we were careful...

I got a notification from my Flo App that I was a day late last Sunday... not this past but the one before. And I thought theres no way... I must be stressed. But I was transparent and told my husband because I knew he would be upset if god forbid I was pregnant and didnt tell him I was speculating. Well I told him and asked if I should take a test, he said yes. It was nighttime, our boys both already in bed, the second line popped up right away... before the control line even could.

I was so scared, so mad. I could even say the word abortion out loud, and I still havent. But we talked about it and knew we couldnt do it. Our marriage wouldnt survive and I might not even, I had a few emotional breakdowns the past few months leading to temporary thoughts of harming myself. We agreed I would make the call first thing the next morning. I called my OB and learned I would have to go through Planned Parenthood. Im in FL by the way.

Planned parenthood could get me in that Thursday and told me the state had a 24 hr waiting period so after my first visit where they confirm the pregnancy I would have to wait a minimum of 24 hours before I could proceed with the abortion. Luckily I had an office close to me. I spent the next 4 days, going back and forth by the hour even. We told our marriage counselor who sympathized with us on our situation and supported us.

I was reading about surgical vs medicinal. Although the pill I could do in the comfort of my own home, the idea of prolonged physical and emotional pain all while having to tend to my two kids didnt sound like a good choice for me. So I decided on surgical preemptively and would talk with the Dr at my PP appointment. At the first appointment there were protesters out front but they had someone in the parking lot escorting everyone in and out, they had an umbrella they held to block you from the protesters and vice versa and they had music on to drown out what they were saying. The first appointment they did an ultrasound to confirm and scheduled the appointment, at this time I decided to proceed with surgical and my appointment was scheduled for Saturday, two days away but it was 2 hours away. Not a big deal.

I want to note two things, I have major anxiety and emetophobia so this may sound silly but I was more afraid of the affects of the sedation than the procedure itself. But I had read some terrifying stories about how painful it was and knew I was going to get the sedation. The clinic I went to gave me fentenyl and midazolam. They do give you IV Zofran before the Fentenyl since its known to cause nausea.

The night before I was just doom scrolling through the horror stories, and the positive ones but in my head I was like "it wont be easy on me". In all the stories I read it also said your partner wasnt allowed in the room with you during the procedure.

Day of came my appointment was 1pm, I was terrified, no other way to say it. I had come to peace with my decision I was just so scared. I waited a little and they called me back to the waiting and recovery area, I immedatley saw and emesis bag and someone who looked rather pale and started panicking. My husband was with me, they usually are allowed in rhe recovery area. He held my hand, the pale girl left and i felt the tiniest bit better. I communicated to my nurse I was scared of throwing up, she looked at me like I was nuts but understood. They started the IV and the Zofran in the recovery room and then asked me if I had to use the bathroom and when I was done they were ready for me. I peed and then came back out, they told me my husband could come THANK GOD. I felt so much more calm. I also read others state it was an actual surgical suite, mine was just a room. I got undressed and laid down, the nurse pushed the sedative, for a split second the dizziness really made me panic but I took some deep breaths and it turned into sleepiness. They started, it lasted maximum 3 minutes, it was a little burning and cramping. Its a little foggy remembering but it was not nearly as bad as anticipated. And like that it was over. The nurse helped me put my underwear and pants back on, they sent me back to recovery, I didnt have any nausea. Cramping was less painful than period cramps and i had no bleeding right away. And they let me go home in 30 minutes. I was out by 3pm. I felt sleepy for like 2 hours going home and rested at home the rest of the evening but I was fine, just a little tired. I am a little over 48 hours past, cramping has remained minimal, bleeding is also minimal. I do have some slight side effects of the sudden HCG drop like sweating and such but overall normal.

That was my process begining to end, a lot of it is rambling. But I am so glad I had the support and the ability to make this choice. I am brave, YOU are brave. You are incredible. I hope this post brings you some comfort the way reading others helped me. It will all be okay 🫶🏻

Hi, 27F where abortion is illegal and socially stigmatized. I had 3 abortions from a 7 year relationship, this relationship was the reason why my family got mad at me. The guy had a reputation with drug use and even drug selling which caused my family to be so against him. On his side he says he's like this because of our set up, hiding our relationship and being badly treated by my family (which my family said is because he is dealing drugs and using, his family is not that poor for him to say that he does that because he has no choice) i gave him so many chances and stayed with him despite these issues that he had. We've broken up last year but got to meet up again and i accidentally got pregnant, he said he will straighten up and be a good father. But i was really hesitant to continue with the pregnancy which led to the 3rd termination, i was so guilty and was emotionally distressed with who i've become, and the choices that i've made. My family knew about the termination which i said was miscarriage, i almost lost my mind. Kept thinking of other young single mothers and yet they kept their kids while i didn't. I never confessed to the guy with what I did. My family firmly said to end things with him, and they wont allow me to go out with errands without accompanying me, even going to a doctor i had to be accompanied. The guy says to me he will ruin his life by selling loads of drugs , he also has firearms and has vehicles confiscated from people who didnt pay him from his drugs. I am scared, he said had i kept the baby he will not be like this, he said he doesnt care if he goes to prison or to cemetery, i told his mother what he's doing and what he's up to but his parents can no longer control him. I told him I can only get back with him if he changed his ways and fix himself. I've been trying to help him for the past 7 years, trying to advice him telling him to stop, i am so tired and i am ashamed with his drug dealings. Did i do the right thing? I am at a mess, he even cheated on me multiple times to multiple women and calls me a killer for doing the abortions (which he by the way agreed to do for the 1st 2). I don't want to be in this hole, i always told him to stop with his addiction and vices and yet he replied i can only save him or fix him but i am so tired of trying to fix him, i also distressed with the abortions and i also have to fix him? I might go crazy, what should i do?

I just found out im pregnant. This would be our third, and my husband and I went through infertility treatments to get our first two. We haven't used protection in years, and that combined with my belief i was in perimenopause had us both extremely confident this would never happen.

I love love love being a mom. It's hands down the best thing in my life, but my kids are 12 and 9 and the idea of starting over sounds awful. It would change the entire dynamic of our little gang of four. It would change both my kids' lives, and i already have a very demanding job that leaves me with a ton of guilt over how my time is split. The idea of someone else taking more of me away from them is so upsetting to me.

My husband was also just laid off a week ago and while he'll have severance for the next year, I know he was hoping to take some time, maybe some courses, and pursue something new. He's in shock but says he's genuinely supportive of either choice.

I believe so wholeheartedly that every woman should have the right to choose, but now that it's me it somehow feels like none of these reasons are "good enough "? Does that sound crazy? I feel so guilty for even considering it when I spent so long praying for the kids I have.