i am 19 years old, and have recently accidentally fallen pregnant. i’m 6 weeks and i have never felt more tumultuous. i feel like i have to just say that there is no way i could responsibly have this child at this stage in my life. i am certain that i want the abortion and that it is what i need to do for my own safety and mental health but i have never dealt with anything like this before and i have no idea how to handle my thoughts and anxieties. my morning sickness is relentless and everyday. i have slept all day today and only just woken up at midnight.
i have no clue which procedure i am going to get, as far as i know my options are the pill or the surgical (suction) option.
i am just looking for some support because although i will only be for another 4 days, right now i am pregnant and i have so many hormones and debilitating morning sickness that i don’t know how to cope with.
i have so many questions but i have no idea where to start, if anyone could please offer me any advice or just reassurance i would be so grateful.
im really struggling right now and due to the secrecy of my situation i have no one to turn to.
just to end this, i hope anyone reading this isn’t also having this hard of a time, im just looking for a small show of support and i’d be more than happy to reciprocate.
thank you in advance

72 days. Post MA. I feel it’s so silly for me to feel sad or look at a baby and not feel some sort of sadness. It was my decision, I’m still happy about my decision but I feel selfish even having any sort of sadness. In my head, I think “ if circumstances were different” I feel selfish for thinking it. But I think of my decision every day. I know it was the right one, but the what if is always there

Ive had 2 MA’s within 2-3 months of each other. The most recent one being 07/21. I spent both abortions googling e every symptom stressed. The second time was so much worse because i was sick, in more pain, and had a lot going on. I just finished my first period since abortion as well. I also have OcD that has been untreated for a few months due to no insurance. Ill be seeing a psychiatrist next week. My question is, did anyone experience a surge in anxiety/ocd symptoms after abortion? I just feel so uneasy, jittery, and very irritable and under pressure.

My friend had a medication abortion using mifepristone + misoprostol through Aid Access. She completed the full misoprostol regimen and also took an additional dose after speaking with the M+A Hotline. She had the expected heavy bleeding, clots/tissue and cramping afterward, and then things seemed to calm down significantly.

A few days later (5 days), she suddenly started bleeding heavily again. At the heaviest point she went through roughly 2 maxi pads in about 1 hour. She briefly passed out and lost consciousness for a second. And regained consciousness, the bleeding went down right after that fainting spell.

The bleeding has now gone down tremendously and she’s currently only spotting. Still passing blood clots into the toilet though. She isn’t having significant cramping or pain. However, she still gets very lightheaded and feels like she may faint when she stands up.

One important factor she told me is that she’s barely eaten or drank anything for about 4 days because she’s had no appetite and has been stressed/sick through this whole process, so dehydration/not eating could obviously be contributing. But we’re also worried about blood loss/anemia because of how much she bled.

She is in Texas and is extremely scared about going to the ER because of the abortion laws, and she also doesn’t have money/insurance to easily get checked out. I know Reddit can’t diagnose her and that fainting can warrant medical evaluation. So we’re mainly wondering:
Has anyone had their bleeding get significantly heavier again several days later after it had already slowed down? Did anyone experience dizziness/near-fainting afterward? If so, did you end up being dehydrated/anemic or needing treatment?
We have also been in contact with the M+A Hotline and will contact them again. She has eaten finally and drank about a gallon of water and she does feel a bit better. But were Just hoping to hear some experiences while we figure out the safest next step.

Hi, my situation is long and difficult.
I am 26, married and have bipolar 2. In May my father started having severe health issues. I began lashing out by drinking more than ever, hanging out with crappy friends, and it led to a drunken hook up with a friends friend. Some may say I had a manic episode.
He did not finish, and I buried this information with me.
I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks later.
My husband and I were previously trying before my fathers health declined, so we assumed the baby was ours.
I’m now 17 weeks pregnant, and very scared this baby isn’t his. He knows the truth, and he still loves me for it (though he shouldn’t. I fucked up.)
We took a paternity test today, and I’m freaking the f*** out.
I live in Florida, where there is no abortion past 6 weeks.
Any advice? Anything please.

2 weeks ago I had a medical abortion. I was very early so they couldn’t see anything on ultrasound. I took the pills and had the normal cramping and clotting and bleeding that day that then lingered for about 6 days. In between there I got a UTI and was on antibiotics. Attributed that to why I felt like garbage. Now two weeks later testing very positive on urine strips I called my regular gyn (in a pro life no abortion state) for hcg bloodwork. Now I have nothing to compare it to, but it came back at over 14000. I completely freaked thinking it must be ectopic because there’s no way a baby survived that bleeding. Went for an ultrasound today in my home state and there is a sac in my uterus measuring 5 weeks. I should be 6 weeks 2 days based on my LMP. I’m waiting on a call back from the abortion clinic, but was just looking for any similar stories in the meantime. I am getting blood redone again tomorrow but I am STRESSED.

Hi, i’m 23f pro choice. located in Georgia. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. i’ve had an abortion before. early on in our relationship. i don’t regret it, but it was very hard and i told myself i will not get pregnant again unless im ready, and will be extremely cautious because i didn’t want to ever experience an abortion again. the abortion i had was at 5 weeks and 4 days. i took the pills and it was traumatizing, but i don’t regret it.

i found out i was pregnant this past friday night. planned parenthood is closed sat sun so i called early monday and the earliest appointment is tomorrow morning. i have a very supportive boyfriend, he doesn’t care what i do and will support me either way. i didn’t think i wanted to have a kid, and i especially didn’t think i would feel this torn about getting an abortion. i’m very pro choice & liberal. I grew up poor with abusive parents. i’ve always known i’d be a great mother but i didn’t really have any want to have a kid. i also always told myself if i want kids i would never put them in a financially compromised situation. i know there’s never really a right time and nothing can truly prepare you for a child.

we are both 23 and in college still. i am a nursing major. last week before i found out i was pregnant i learned i need to take this fall semester off because of issues i had with financial aid. my parents aren’t able to help financially so im taking a gap semester to work and save up money for tuition. he is also still in school and we both have about 1.5 or 2 years left before we graduate. I know that even if i kept this pregnancy nothing would prevent me from finishing college. i love school and nursing is my passion so i was really bummed out to realize i have to take a semester off. that being said we are broke. i am moving out of my apartment with my roommate back to my moms in a couple weeks which was already the plan before i found out i was pregnant. he still lives with his parents and is planning on moving out soon as he has a bartending job and well paying internship so he can afford that, but im moving home because i had a complicated year and need time to save up money before being on my own again.

i know that logistically it’s stupid. were both broke saving up to move out, i have been very depressed this year and need to focus on my own mental health. i’m just so torn. when i had an abortion i told myself this will not happen unexpectedly again but here i am. i feel so bad for even considering keeping the pregnancy when i know that there are so many limiting factors to giving my child a good life. i know that even if i did keep it the child would be happy and i would provide everything i can for it to have a good life, but i never wanted to have a child in a situation as difficult as this one.

im moving back with my mom, and we aren’t very close but have improved our relationship a lot the last couple years. she knew about the abortion i had and was very supportive. she was a little excited and said if i kept it she would support me as well, but the choice was mine. she is an immigrant, i have 2 siblings and she had us young, my older sister when she was 18. she helped me through the abortion and said that she came to the states to give us a better life and that she wanted me and my other siblings to finish school, have a good life, and not struggle if we want to have kids.

my older sister had 2 kids with her highschool sweetheart, she’s in her 30’s and they’re both toddlers. she didn’t end up finishing nursing school before she had them as her ex husband was controlling and abusive. i completely understand her and would never judge her situation. i love her and my nephews. but i see how much she struggles as a single mom and she’s going back to college with me to complete her nursing degree as well but i see how hard it is when you’re a mom.

i feel guilty for wanting to keep the pregnancy when i see how my mom struggled raising us, i see my sister struggling to finish school as a single mom, and it would bestupid for me to have a child right now considering my financial situation. my boyfriend is very supportive and said he will work ten times as hard if i want to keep it to provide the best life he possibly can, and i believe him. but i know that nothing is promised and many women like my mom and sister fall in love with men who convince them that they will be okay and after a few years they abandon them. so while im grateful to have a loving and supportive boyfriend i will never let myself depend on him completely and think that it’ll be like this forever even tho i hope it is.

i just don’t know what to do. i feel guilty and stupid for even considering keeping this pregnancy but i also feel really emotional and guilty for wanting to terminate it. just looking for advice.

I just found out I am 4w2d pregnant. In November 2025 I ordered abortion pills to have on hand and here I am,, needing the pills now. Well I checked and they expired August 13,2026. It is September 1,2026. I called the hotline and they said they should be fine to take especially since I am not far along, but I was hoping to hear if anyone else has had the same thing happen or if anyone has any advice. Anything is appreciated. Tysm

I don’t know what’s going on. I just started randomly bleeding heavy at 3 weeks post abortion. I don’t think it’s my period. I don’t have any cramps. But got a super positive ovulation test today while still bleeding.

I'm about 7 weeks pregnant and my body has already changed so much. Some of my jeans are struggling at the seams on my hips. My joggers are tighter on my hips, ass, thighs. My stomach is bigger but doesn't look like a bump. My boobs are bigger, but the weight just makes them sag down - i previously had smaller boobs and didn't have to wear a bra but now that is impossible.

Google says most early weight gain is bloating or water weight but i'm seeing physical changes in my body that don't align with this; they don't seem temporary.

I am struggling so much with my body changing in ways I cannot control. I have to eat 2x my normal amount otherwise I feel violently sick and throw up. I can't exercise for the same reasons. I know I should be reasonable and patient with my body going through something but it is so hard to watch my body change in ways that I don't like and I cannot influence at all. My body doesn't feel like my own right now :(

I worry that post abortion it will be weeks to months before I will start to feel in control of my body again. First I will have to recover from the surgery, then wait for hormones and my cycle to settle, then start being able to work on myself. I fear I am going to be trapped in a body sculpted by a baby that doesn't even exist with nothing I can do about it.

Question 1 - how long after surgical abortion do you start to feel like yourself again? I am currently very low energy, always hungry, and constantly nauseous throughout the day - how long until this goes away?

Question 2 - if your body changed much in early pregnancy, did it eventually go back? Specifically boobs!

This may seem vain and like it shouldn't be my biggest issue but it is a very difficult feeling like I have no control over my body - a feeling that does extend further than how my body looks. I feel ill and lethargic every single day and i'm definitely more emotional, and i'm so sick of it!! I really want to get back to how i used to feel but I know it won't be an instant change after the abortion.

My boyfriend is very supportive and continues to say he loves my body and finds me attractive. This reassurance helps but I worry about the future.

Sending love to everyone dealing with pregnancy and/or abortions regardless of your situation <3

Canadians only please. Abortion Pill experiences, looking for support.

Wanting to know others experiences with the abortion pill in Canada. My doctor says it’s best option since I want to try for a baby again. I was misdiagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy and my baby was harmed after I was given methotrexate and had surgery for ectopic but it was in my uterus all along. I’ve never taken the drug before and I’m really scared. We are trying to avoid a D & C. Any support and suggestions for how to get through it the best are greatly appreciated ♥️♥️

So yesterday afternoon i got my thyroid result that tells me i have hyperthyroidism , doctor suspecting that i have some metabolic disorder. So all my life i had hypothyroidism but from last April it turned to hyper. Also yesterday evening i tested positive for pregnancy with the clearblue showing 2-3 weeks. I am 36 years old and i have one baby boy who is 2.3 years, now my brain says to go and get the abortion done because i feel i am not mentally fit to raise another baby because he is too small and i get tired by my day managing my son and my work. I was planning another baby when my son will turn 3.5 years, Now my heart says i should continue because in my religion its sin to take life out of anything and indirectly i asked my sisters and they said its okay if you have another baby. When i think of myself with 2 babies i imagine more stress at this point of time and also all of my friends has 1 baby . I have anyways scheduled an abortion appointment after 10 days, but some times i think am i doing good. Please help me and share your thoughts because now i am stuck.

Update:

I just got my thyroid result which shows i have thyroid antibodies which shows i may have Grave disease or Hashimoto
P—TPO-ak (Thyroid Peroxidase Antibodies): 10 kIU/L (Reference range: <5.6)

How are you now? How do you feel about your baby?
I’m struggling to get mine, have a feeling it might work out with my partner despite the short time

Hi,

I am 41 and my wife is 37 (we are married since 11 years and have a 10 year old kid).

She has a 28 day cycle (and usually gets her periods around day 25 of the cycle but some of them might have been chemical pregnancies also recently, accompanied by heavy cramping which we mistook as early painful periods).

We had unprotected intercourse on days 7, 11 and 13 (only times we had it this month).

Her last periods started on August 6th (so 26th day today). Due date seems September 3rd (2 days from now).

Being hopeful for her periods in the next 2 days but please share your experiences of the abortion (if still needed) in case, it gets delayed by a few days.

Hoy por fin me dieron las pastillas de misoprostol, son 8 pastillas en total, y las debo tomar sublingual 4 pastillas cada 3horas. Estoy muy asustada por los síntomas que pueda tener y lo que me llegue a pasar, solo espero que den resultados efectivos.

Dentro de 15 dias debo volver para realizarme una ecografia y ver a la ginecóloga para saber si todo salio bien.

Estoy muy asustada. Nerviosa. Ojala todo pase pronto.

Got pregnant last September and October had an abortion with the pills. Fast forward to this past July I got pregnant again. I just had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and I’m so DEVASTATED I debated keeping the baby and initially didn’t want to since I was so afraid but then I decided I would continue my pregnancy and then I had a miscarriage at work it was so traumatic and I feel so saddened and feel like this is my karma for having an abortion. I can’t see anyone post about pregnancy’s cause I wanna cry this is so heartbreaking I am so sad and feel punished.

Hello, i am 19F living in west texas with my boyfriend. I will say this is completely my fault and i do feel guilty about it. We weren’t using protection and i feel dumb. Regardless here we are and we are not ready to be parents and provide a comfortable life for our baby. I already have access to one of the websites for the abortion pill. I am wondering if i should seek medical care or an ultrasound before i got thought with it, or if they find out im pregnant, will they eventually find out i had an abortion? Any help would greatly be appreciated.

I am 6 weeks pregnant and married. I already have one child whom is 5. I got pregnant with him when I was 17 and I am 23 now. My husband is the father of both of my son and the unborn baby but I planned on divorcing him and moving states. He’s very childish like and over the years I’ve fallen out of love with him. I took a plan b and still became pregnant. I know I can’t keep the baby if I move because it will make things harder for me and furthermore, I don’t want to be trapped with him any longer. He’s very narcissistic and just a shitty spouse in general. I don’t believe in abortion and I’ve never had one but I am considering the pill and save myself the stress. I’ve been crying a lot about this but I know it’s the best option.

I am almost 6 weeks pregnant. I have two kids, 4.5 and 7. I had been having baby fever for a few years where I was thinking about having another daily. But never enough to say I’m 100% in. We were getting a little lazy not preventing things because the idea of 3 kids sounded nice. Then I had a cardiac spasm event a few months ago, it’s pretty rare from what I understand and was really scary, it caused some heart muscle damage but my heart is functioning normally. I said to myself and my husband that after this month, we are officially closing this door. That we can’t keep talking about it and we are committing to two. We felt good after that conversation. I found out the next day I am pregnant.

Since then, I’ve been panicking, my fears have taken over. Primarily my health as I am at more risk of cardiac spasms in pregnancy though the spectrum does seem wide (from having a mostly normal, more monitored pregnancy, to a small chance my life could be at risk). I’m terrified that the age gap is a big deal, that it will feel like we’re raising two older kids and one younger, only child. I’m scared that it’s too late to have a third (I’m 34 and my husband is 37), all the things that could go wrong, and abortion feels like a perfect out. It’s hard because, if we had this baby, we could give it everything. Love, siblings, finances, we don’t feel like we’re in the position that we can’t give this baby what it would need. Maybe a bit like, I can give my kids right now 50/50. With a third, they’re each getting 30%. I know I would love this baby and we would make it work. I think most if not all people who have an abortion know they would love their baby if they had it. But I’m scared if I do have this abortion, then once all my fears of this pregnancy, and the changes that come with the baby disappear, once that happens will I regret it? If the biggest reason to have a baby is fearing you will regret an abortion really the right thing? Am I making a decision to calm my short term fears, but is my long term desire different? Did I just like the idea of having 3 kids and not the reality? Do I just like the idea of an abortion because it feels like a solution, but is the reality of it going to feel different? Am I overthinking everything!?

I know I don’t want to put my life at risk for this baby and the kids I currently have. I have an appt with my cardiologist in 2 weeks. That seems like so far away. I’m scared she’s going to say you’ll be monitored but you’ll likely be fine, and I will feel disappointment. Or I’ll go ahead with it and then something bad will happen. Or she’ll say there are risks and we would support you if you felt they were too high to continue, then will I feel sad and disappointed? I feel truly ambivalent.

It feels like having this baby feels like I’m being dragged by the arm. Like I’m going but I’m kicking and screaming. Like I’m saying no I don’t want to do this. Maybe when I get there I’ll be like ok this isn’t so bad. Maybe I’ll be like oh, I miss our old life. But then it feels like not having this baby it feels like I’m dragging my feet. Like I know that’s what we have to do but the doubt is like, are you sure? Is this really how you feel? Will I hate that I made this decision when I’m older?

I honestly feel so much dread with this decision, both options suck!

I found out I was pregnant July 7th. Told my partner, we decided to terminate. Went through with that and took the pills on July 29th and had a very positive experience with MA. I bled for about 2 weeks afterwards, was not intimate during that time with my partner. I also did not get the prescription for birth control filled at that time because I don’t like how I feel on BC and my partner supported that.
We were intimate August 22&23, using pull out. Then this past weekend using condoms.
This is where alllll my anxiety comes in. Yesterday I felt very foggy and anxious, felt like I was having to pee more than normal again, felt like I was having heart palpitations which all of these are symptoms I had during the early stages of pregnancy before we terminated. Today I’m feeling most of those same things as well as a runny nose. But my boobs don’t hurt this time.

I’m panicking because I don’t want to have to go through another termination so soon.

But I guess I’m just looking for advice if anyone else has dealt with this? What the chances are that I’m actually pregnant again? Or if I’m just dealing with severe anxiety and now I’m hypersensitive to the feelings in my body.

26F. I just found out today that I’m pregnant from a home pregnancy test. I’m currently around 6 weeks 5 days based on my Last period.

I’m going to an abortion clinic tomorrow for a consultation, but where I live there’s a mandatory 48-hour waiting period after counselling before I can proceed.

The problem is that I’m travelling on 4 September, so the earliest I could potentially start a medical abortion would be the morning I leave. If I wait until I return from my trip, I’ll be around 8 weeks 1 day.

I plan to do it immediately after im done with counselling. Which is the 4 sept morning. My flight is in the evening at 9pm. What are your thoughts?

I’m dealing with this completely alone and can’t talk to my family about it, so I’m honestly pretty scared and overwhelmed right now. I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been through something similar. ❤️

For anyone who has gone through this:
• If I have a medical abortion now at around 7 weeks, is there generally less pregnancy tissue/bleeding than at 8 weeks?
• Does doing it earlier reduce the chance of an incomplete abortion and needing a surgical procedure afterward?
• How successful was medical abortion for you at 6–8 weeks? Did anyone have one at around 8 weeks and have it work completely without needing further intervention?
• For those who have experienced both, how did medical vs surgical abortion compare in terms of pain, bleeding, recovery and overall experience?
• Would you personally avoid starting a medical abortion immediately before travelling overseas, even if it meant waiting another week?
• would u rather SA or MA

im 18 and Im 6 weeks pregnant and Im not happy with being pregnant i dont want a abortion but how can i have a healthy pregnancy if i dont even want the baby My mom and Aunt are happy im pregnant and say I should keep It but the father is In jail right now and he has put his hands on me Im also 18 and i know i shouldnt have done this in the first place If i didnt want a baby and i regret it so much everyday I stress about wanting to keep the baby or not and wondering if ill regret the abortion But im not happy at all right now I just feel deppressed And guilty I dont know what to do and I have No one to talk to can somone give me advice please I have so many mixed emotions right now .

I’m 20F and I’m almost certain that I’m pregnant. My partner and I have already talked about it, and we both agree that we are not keeping the baby.
The problem is that my mum doesn’t know.
She wants me to do some hormonal blood tests, but apparently they have to be done while I’m on my period. She also wants to come with me when I get them done, and she has made it very clear that she will come whether I want her to or not.
The awkward part is that if my period doesn’t come, she is obviously going to notice. I’m not sure what excuse I could realistically give her without making things suspicious.
I’m also scared of what would happen if she found out that I was pregnant before I was able to arrange the abortion. She is Christian and I know she would strongly oppose abortion and try very hard to convince me to keep the baby.
There’s also some complicated family history around pregnancy. My mum previously lost a baby because of health problems, although my brother and I were both subsequently born healthy. I know this experience affected her deeply, which makes me think her reaction to my pregnancy would be especially emotional.
I’m not asking whether I should keep the baby. That decision has already been made by me and my partner. I’m asking how to handle the practical side of keeping this private until I can deal with it myself.
I’m 20, but my mum is very involved in my life and I’m worried that simply saying “I don’t want you to come” a will immediately raise questions.
I’d really appreciate practical advice.

My partner and I have been together for four years. He is an incredible partner, and I feel deeply loved and safe with him. However, our circumstances are complicated: he has three teenage children, and I moved to his country to make our relationship work.

I felt ready to have a baby, but this pregnancy happened sooner than we expected. Because of my age, we assumed it might take longer. During the first few weeks, I experienced excruciating pain and began preparing myself emotionally for a miscarriage. That didn’t happen, and we’ve since been told that the pregnancy is progressing normally.

What has confused and frightened me most is my emotional response. I’ve felt repulsed by the changes happening to my body, and my breasts have already become extremely painful at six to seven weeks. More broadly, I’ve experienced very strong negative feelings towards the pregnancy itself. This is difficult to understand because I do want to become a mother, and I have wanted to experience pregnancy.

After two therapy sessions and two and a half weeks of intense consideration, my partner and I have decided to end the pregnancy. There are many factors behind our decision, including my career, our finances, our stability and whether this is genuinely the right time for us.

I’m also struggling to understand how much I’m factoring everyone else into this decision. His children have previously expressed negative feelings about us having a baby. Their reaction is understandable, but I can’t tell how much it has contributed to my own feelings. I don’t want to bring my first child into a turbulent or unwelcoming situation, but I also don’t want to resent his children—or my partner—for the fact that I’m taking their feelings and needs into consideration.

Even though I believe this may be the most responsible decision for our current circumstances, I feel incredibly emotional and conflicted. Wanting motherhood in the future while choosing not to continue this particular pregnancy is a painful and confusing place to be. I’m also conscious that I will be 37 in six weeks, which makes the decision feel even more complicated and frightening.

I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced similar feelings or made a similar decision at around my age.

Hi, 27F where abortion is illegal and socially stigmatized. I had 3 abortions from a 7 year relationship, this relationship was the reason why my family got mad at me. The guy had a reputation with drug use and even drug selling which caused my family to be so against him. On his side he says he's like this because of our set up, hiding our relationship and being badly treated by my family (which my family said is because he is dealing drugs and using, his family is not that poor for him to say that he does that because he has no choice) i gave him so many chances and stayed with him despite these issues that he had. We've broken up last year but got to meet up again and i accidentally got pregnant, he said he will straighten up and be a good father. But i was really hesitant to continue with the pregnancy which led to the 3rd termination, i was so guilty and was emotionally distressed with who i've become, and the choices that i've made. My family knew about the termination which i said was miscarriage, i almost lost my mind. Kept thinking of other young single mothers and yet they kept their kids while i didn't. I never confessed to the guy with what I did. My family firmly said to end things with him, and they wont allow me to go out with errands without accompanying me, even going to a doctor i had to be accompanied. The guy says to me he will ruin his life by selling loads of drugs , he also has firearms and has vehicles confiscated from people who didnt pay him from his drugs. I am scared, he said had i kept the baby he will not be like this, he said he doesnt care if he goes to prison or to cemetery, i told his mother what he's doing and what he's up to but his parents can no longer control him. I told him I can only get back with him if he changed his ways and fix himself. I've been trying to help him for the past 7 years, trying to advice him telling him to stop, i am so tired and i am ashamed with his drug dealings. Did i do the right thing? I am at a mess, he even cheated on me multiple times to multiple women and calls me a killer for doing the abortions (which he by the way agreed to do for the 1st 2). I don't want to be in this hole, i always told him to stop with his addiction and vices and yet he replied i can only save him or fix him but i am so tired of trying to fix him, i also distressed with the abortions and i also have to fix him? I might go crazy, what should i do?