Got pregnant last September and October had an abortion with the pills. Fast forward to this past July I got pregnant again. I just had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and I’m so DEVASTATED I debated keeping the baby and initially didn’t want to since I was so afraid but then I decided I would continue my pregnancy and then I had a miscarriage at work it was so traumatic and I feel so saddened and feel like this is my karma for having an abortion. I can’t see anyone post about pregnancy’s cause I wanna cry this is so heartbreaking I am so sad and feel punished.

I'm 19 and I live with my mum privately renting someone's garage space under their house. Money is a massive struggle and I live in near poverty. My ex and I broke up shortly before finding out i was pregnant. I had no money, no partner, no plan, and no space to even raise a baby. I couldn't keep her because what kind of life would I be bringing her into? Iv always known I want children but I don't want to raise them in a broken home. By the time I had my ultrasound I found out I was 10 weeks further than my blood test and tracking suggested. The only option of termination left was a medically induced premature labour. So I had a waterbirth at almost 22 weeks and my baby girl came out so gorgeous. She looked exactly like me. She didn't come out with any signs of life so I didn't have to watch the light fade as I held her but knowing she came out deceased feels so horrible. I held her on me the whole time I was in hospital. Two weeks later I had to have a D&C surgery. I'm still in recovery and I wanted to know if anyone has had to grieve a baby they chose not to have. I want to know if anyone has any guidance they can give me. I'm letting myself grieve as much as I need to, and I'm trying to get myself living normally day to day but I feel stagnant. Like a part of me is still in that hospital bed. The father ghosted me most of the time I was pregnant and blocked me before the birth not even wanting to know her name, he didn't help at all financially though he knows how much I struggled and he even left for another state without a plan of return and lack of a vehicle for his "friend's birthday". After losing contact with him I reached out to his family for financial aid and no reply. Iv been getting better emotionally and physically as the days go by but I just had a massive sob over my baby girl while looking at a photo I have framed of her, and thought to see if other women have been through something similar.

I am 6 weeks pregnant and married. I already have one child whom is 5. I got pregnant with him when I was 17 and I am 23 now. My husband is the father of both of my son and the unborn baby but I planned on divorcing him and moving states. He’s very childish like and over the years I’ve fallen out of love with him. I took a plan b and still became pregnant. I know I can’t keep the baby if I move because it will make things harder for me and furthermore, I don’t want to be trapped with him any longer. He’s very narcissistic and just a shitty spouse in general. I don’t believe in abortion and I’ve never had one but I am considering the pill and save myself the stress. I’ve been crying a lot about this but I know it’s the best option.

I’m 23, I just had my first abortion last week, and it feels like not being able to tell my mom is the biggest piece missing in finding closure.

My mom has always been liberal and “pro-choice,” but she had me at 19, and I knew she quietly held the belief that it was wrong to get an elective abortion. Last year, I stopped taking my hormonal birth control because I didn’t like the side effects. I told my mom I was scared of getting an IUD, and she texted me:

“Just know if you do get pregnant, that blood is on your hands because you were scared of putting yourself through something that might hurt you. With no regard for it, it might hurt an innocent fetus.”

“It’s not just a personal choice when you are bringing new humans into the mix. It affects them too, having to be aborted. Don’t you think?”

The second I got my positive pregnancy test, these texts flashed in my head, and my heart broke knowing I wouldn’t be able to tell her what I was going through.

We’re not even that close, but every day I get the urge to tell her about what this experience has been like for me. Finding out I was pregnant for the first time, going through these hormonal changes, going through this post-abortion grief. Maybe it’s just something I have to learn to live with, and there would be no closure in telling her, at least not for a couple years. Or maybe I need to just let her in and let her process it. I never know how she might react, and it’s not like I rely on her for anything. I’m an adult. But also, I’ve been with my partner for 3 years, and he is the love of my life. I don’t want to damage my mom’s perception of him.

Just looking for any stories about what it was like telling your mom, particularly those with a rocky relationship with their mom or ones who knew their mom might not take it well.

I’m 20F and I’m almost certain that I’m pregnant. My partner and I have already talked about it, and we both agree that we are not keeping the baby.
The problem is that my mum doesn’t know.
She wants me to do some hormonal blood tests, but apparently they have to be done while I’m on my period. She also wants to come with me when I get them done, and she has made it very clear that she will come whether I want her to or not.
The awkward part is that if my period doesn’t come, she is obviously going to notice. I’m not sure what excuse I could realistically give her without making things suspicious.
I’m also scared of what would happen if she found out that I was pregnant before I was able to arrange the abortion. She is Christian and I know she would strongly oppose abortion and try very hard to convince me to keep the baby.
There’s also some complicated family history around pregnancy. My mum previously lost a baby because of health problems, although my brother and I were both subsequently born healthy. I know this experience affected her deeply, which makes me think her reaction to my pregnancy would be especially emotional.
I’m not asking whether I should keep the baby. That decision has already been made by me and my partner. I’m asking how to handle the practical side of keeping this private until I can deal with it myself.
I’m 20, but my mum is very involved in my life and I’m worried that simply saying “I don’t want you to come” a will immediately raise questions.
I’d really appreciate practical advice.

I had a surgical termination on the 25th of June, I also had my Mirena iud inserted while they used ultrasound technology while I was asleep during the process.. I didn’t have sex until 9 days after the procedure when my bleeding had stopped. I have had on and off spotting here and there, not my actual period yet. I can still feel the Mirena strings too, I took a pregnancy test at 6 weeks post abortion and it had a faint positive test, took another one today now at nearly 10 weeks post abortion and it came back as faint positive as well except you can only see this one in direct sunlight (a photo can’t pick it up) I’m not sure if this is a new pregnancy or just the HCG still dropping since I did take one at 6 weeks which was positive. Has this happened with anyone else? I’m reading online from doctors stating the HCG should leave your system at 8 weeks… so I’m scared that I am pregnant which is crazy to understand seeing as I have a Mirena which seems to be in the correct position

Hi everyone. I am looking for some advice and to share my story. I recently turned 30 and since I’ve been married for a little over a year my husband and myself thought we would start trying for children. Prior to trying we foolishly didn’t really have any serious conversations about it, I guess we thought it would be a process that would take some time. We shockingly got pregnant on our first try and our reaction wasn’t the best to say the least. I suffer with depression and anxiety and find myself not being able to find any positives in this situation, everyday I struggle to get out of bed and have panic attacks which has been scaring my husband. My husband also doesn’t feel the most ready, which I blame myself partially for. I am about 5 weeks along and debating a medical abortion. I have a consult booked Wednesday and really think I am going to go through with it as I just don’t feel like it’s the right time and my husband agrees. I guess I just struggle with the fact of terminating a wanted pregnancy, as I really do want to be a mom but the timing and the fact that my mental health is so poor makes me nervous to continue the pregnancy. I guess I am just looking for peoples experiences and whether they had gone on to have healthy pregnancies afterwards or just share there experiences or help me through it. I have been struggling so hard with the “what ifs” lately which is largely due to my anxiety and just feel so remorseful about my actions.

I just found out im pregnant. This would be our third, and my husband and I went through infertility treatments to get our first two. We haven't used protection in years, and that combined with my belief i was in perimenopause had us both extremely confident this would never happen.

I love love love being a mom. It's hands down the best thing in my life, but my kids are 12 and 9 and the idea of starting over sounds awful. It would change the entire dynamic of our little gang of four. It would change both my kids' lives, and i already have a very demanding job that leaves me with a ton of guilt over how my time is split. The idea of someone else taking more of me away from them is so upsetting to me.

My husband was also just laid off a week ago and while he'll have severance for the next year, I know he was hoping to take some time, maybe some courses, and pursue something new. He's in shock but says he's genuinely supportive of either choice.

I believe so wholeheartedly that every woman should have the right to choose, but now that it's me it somehow feels like none of these reasons are "good enough "? Does that sound crazy? I feel so guilty for even considering it when I spent so long praying for the kids I have.

I love my boyfriend deeply and I understand his feelings too but I feel so conflicted. I miss my child, I wanted my child to be born. I put his feelings over my own desire and while I do know that it was the right decision (because we are young because we still have time to create a loving family because right now having a baby would be extremely hard etc) I feel like we would get this and we would be able to care for that child in the best way possible and I would be ready to be a mother even if he couldn't be a father. Am I wrong for feeling like I love my unborn aborted baby more than I love my boyfriend?

I had taken the 1st pill on 7/24 and then the 4 pills on 7/25. 45 mins after taking them i started cramping and then an hour came around and i started bleeding. Now it’s 8/31 and ive been bleeding ever since. It’s light bleeding to normal bleeding but how long am i supposed to be bleeding for? i’m going on 5 weeks.

I also had just taken a pregnancy test because i was told to take it on a certain date which is 8/28, to make sure im not pregnant anymore. The test still says positive. But all of my pregnancy symptoms have disappeared. i’m not nauseous anymore nor do i have sore breasts. I feel back to normal. What does this mean?

I just found out I am 4w2d pregnant. In November 2025 I ordered abortion pills to have on hand and here I am,, needing the pills now. Well I checked and they expired August 13,2026. It is September 1,2026. I called the hotline and they said they should be fine to take especially since I am not far along, but I was hoping to hear if anyone else has had the same thing happen or if anyone has any advice. Anything is appreciated. Tysm

I made an appointment online for Friday at 12:30PM to have an in clinic abortion with Planned Parenthood. Will I for sure get the procedure done or should I call and maybe go a day ahead for the ultrasound? I saw a post that someone did not get theirs done the same day.

I'm about 7 weeks pregnant and my body has already changed so much. Some of my jeans are struggling at the seams on my hips. My joggers are tighter on my hips, ass, thighs. My stomach is bigger but doesn't look like a bump. My boobs are bigger, but the weight just makes them sag down - i previously had smaller boobs and didn't have to wear a bra but now that is impossible.

Google says most early weight gain is bloating or water weight but i'm seeing physical changes in my body that don't align with this; they don't seem temporary.

I am struggling so much with my body changing in ways I cannot control. I have to eat 2x my normal amount otherwise I feel violently sick and throw up. I can't exercise for the same reasons. I know I should be reasonable and patient with my body going through something but it is so hard to watch my body change in ways that I don't like and I cannot influence at all. My body doesn't feel like my own right now :(

I worry that post abortion it will be weeks to months before I will start to feel in control of my body again. First I will have to recover from the surgery, then wait for hormones and my cycle to settle, then start being able to work on myself. I fear I am going to be trapped in a body sculpted by a baby that doesn't even exist with nothing I can do about it.

Question 1 - how long after surgical abortion do you start to feel like yourself again? I am currently very low energy, always hungry, and constantly nauseous throughout the day - how long until this goes away?

Question 2 - if your body changed much in early pregnancy, did it eventually go back? Specifically boobs!

This may seem vain and like it shouldn't be my biggest issue but it is a very difficult feeling like I have no control over my body - a feeling that does extend further than how my body looks. I feel ill and lethargic every single day and i'm definitely more emotional, and i'm so sick of it!! I really want to get back to how i used to feel but I know it won't be an instant change after the abortion.

My boyfriend is very supportive and continues to say he loves my body and finds me attractive. This reassurance helps but I worry about the future.

Sending love to everyone dealing with pregnancy and/or abortions regardless of your situation <3

How are you now? How do you feel about your baby?
I’m struggling to get mine, have a feeling it might work out with my partner despite the short time

im 18 and Im 6 weeks pregnant and Im not happy with being pregnant i dont want a abortion but how can i have a healthy pregnancy if i dont even want the baby My mom and Aunt are happy im pregnant and say I should keep It but the father is In jail right now and he has put his hands on me Im also 18 and i know i shouldnt have done this in the first place If i didnt want a baby and i regret it so much everyday I stress about wanting to keep the baby or not and wondering if ill regret the abortion But im not happy at all right now I just feel deppressed And guilty I dont know what to do and I have No one to talk to can somone give me advice please I have so many mixed emotions right now .

My partner and I have been together for four years. He is an incredible partner, and I feel deeply loved and safe with him. However, our circumstances are complicated: he has three teenage children, and I moved to his country to make our relationship work.

I felt ready to have a baby, but this pregnancy happened sooner than we expected. Because of my age, we assumed it might take longer. During the first few weeks, I experienced excruciating pain and began preparing myself emotionally for a miscarriage. That didn’t happen, and we’ve since been told that the pregnancy is progressing normally.

What has confused and frightened me most is my emotional response. I’ve felt repulsed by the changes happening to my body, and my breasts have already become extremely painful at six to seven weeks. More broadly, I’ve experienced very strong negative feelings towards the pregnancy itself. This is difficult to understand because I do want to become a mother, and I have wanted to experience pregnancy.

After two therapy sessions and two and a half weeks of intense consideration, my partner and I have decided to end the pregnancy. There are many factors behind our decision, including my career, our finances, our stability and whether this is genuinely the right time for us.

I’m also struggling to understand how much I’m factoring everyone else into this decision. His children have previously expressed negative feelings about us having a baby. Their reaction is understandable, but I can’t tell how much it has contributed to my own feelings. I don’t want to bring my first child into a turbulent or unwelcoming situation, but I also don’t want to resent his children—or my partner—for the fact that I’m taking their feelings and needs into consideration.

Even though I believe this may be the most responsible decision for our current circumstances, I feel incredibly emotional and conflicted. Wanting motherhood in the future while choosing not to continue this particular pregnancy is a painful and confusing place to be. I’m also conscious that I will be 37 in six weeks, which makes the decision feel even more complicated and frightening.

I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has experienced similar feelings or made a similar decision at around my age.