Just wondering as a 38 year old still figuring out his way through life 😶‍🌫️

I’ve always dreamed about falling in love with someone and being with them for the rest of my life but unfortunately I have to let that dream go. There are things I can’t give that are considered “essential” in a romantic relationship.

If you also share a birthday with me, I wanna wish you a happy one !!!

Their owner passed away. They are good kitties but a bit traumatized.

Idk just want to have conversations

Sometimes everything just feels so boring and predictable. Everyone agrees, everyone gets along, everyone says what they’re supposed to say… and I get bored 😭

So I’ll purposely stir the pot, push people’s buttons, play devil’s advocate, or say something I know will get a reaction just because I wanna see what happens.

It’s not even that I actually care about the argument. I’m just curious and entertained by seeing people drop the polite version of themselves and show their real reactions.

But then when people actually get mad, I’m sitting there like:

“Okay damn... I was just bored.”

Anyone else have this weird ENTP alter ego? 💀

Perhaps it’s that as an introvert you meet less people, and so you’re less desensitized to the emotions that come with meeting/losing people. Or perhaps it’s this ability to imagine a whole lifetime that will never occur, within the blink of an eye, so you’re able to feel like you’ve lost something that you never even had.

But I feel that most people don’t really comprehend just how existentially serious every meeting is. Even when it’s the most minute of exchanges, two people glancing at each other for a brief second as they pass one another.

That alone is enough for that person to live on in your mind forever. Thoughts of what might have been, what you should’ve said or done. You might not even realize it in the moment, but it’s sort of like when you accidentally hit a pimple that you didn’t know was there, once the person does come to mind, then you find yourself realizing through the sting of it, what they really meant to you.

You can look in a persons eyes and feel the weight the presence of their soul places upon yours.

Picture a bowling ball being placed on a pillow. It slowly returns back to its former shape once the weight is removed, and although the indentation is no longer perceivable, the imprint remains in the heart forever.

It’s ironic. When you realize how complex every soul is, and assign it its real value. On the one hand you might desire to give every soul its due. And yet the pain of losing something so great is even more crippling.

I’m very curious what yall listen to. I listen to Nirvana, Aespa, NewJeans, Illit, Jungkook, Alien Stage, and The Neighbourhood :)

Hello everyone! I wanted to talk about how I can be a leader in group projects sometimes!

So, when I'm feeling comfortable with a group, my Te appears naturally, and I can lead and organise the group.

But it's only sometimes, it depends a lot of things:

Who am I working with: If there is a Te dom or Auxiliary in the group, probably I won't be leading

If I'm comfortable with the group, and can be myself

And it's not a rigid Te, it's my Te cooperating with my Fi, for example: Instead of doing the things my way, I ask everyone opinions in one thing, keeping everyone calm, and mediating the discussions, using democracy and trying to put everyone ideas into the work and trying to include everyone.

It's pretty cool when that happens, but it's very rare. What do you think about this?

I just turned 26 today, and i was hoping if i could get advice from more experienced INFPs.

if you could give advice to yourself at 26, especially as an INFP, what would it be?

It can be about anything > career, relationships, friendships, money, creativity, finding your place in life, dealing with uncertainty and learning to accept yourself.

Another question:

What did you worry about in early or mid twenties that turned out not to matter as much as you thought? And what do you wish you'd taken more seriously?

I'd genuinely appreciate hearing your experiences.

And thanks in advance!💙

p.s: other types are welcome to share advice too ofc! I think we can learn alot from other types as INFPs.

I feel like people around me demonize me just because I’m quiet and not extroverted. A lot of people that I meet say that I think I’m “better” than everyone else, why ? Just because I’m shy and I don’t really try to make friends. And I can swear on my life that I’ve never done anything bad to anyone intentionally and if I do something that hurts other people I apologize a thousand times. I don’t get into gossip, fights or anything of that sort but I’m the problem just because I don’t talk much…

The INFP anti authoritarian rebel spirit is real guys! And I must listen to it even if it means I self sabotage.

Not like I don't do it anyways.

Hello, everyone.

When I woke up today, a song was playing in my mind, a song I’ve heard and listened to since childhood. It’s a song my mother used to hum when I was little. Its title is "Seviyorum Seni" (Loving You) by Onur Akın.

The song is in Turkish, and unfortunately, I couldn't find a version with English subtitles. The opening part of the song features a poem by Nâzım Hikmet. That is why I read the poem over and over today and wanted to share it, a poem that has grown up alongside me, with all of you wonderful people. I have never been in love, yet this short poem conveys so much.

I entrust this poem to your hearts. I hope you love it as much as I do.

I’m 28F, and my boyfriend is 28M. We’re both INFPs and in a long-distance relationship. I live in Asia, while he lives in Europe. For the most part, we were a very happy and loving couple. Things were okay until I discovered that he still had a connection with his ex. When I asked him about it, he explained that the only reason they were still in contact was because his ex had borrowed a game from him and hadn’t returned it yet. I told him honestly that I was uncomfortable with them still being connected, and I asked if he could unfriend her.

I even offered to buy him the same game because it was available where I live, so he wouldn’t have to maintain contact with his ex just to get it back.
He became very upset and told me that one of his principles is that when you borrow something from someone, you should return it. I understood his point, and I didn’t want to disrespect his principles, but at the same time, my discomfort was genuine. Eventually, after several arguments, he agreed to unfriend her.
Things went back to normal afterward, but honestly, I feel like something changed between us.
Little by little, he started opening up to me about his mental struggles. He told me that opening up to people is extremely difficult for him and that he sometimes feels like he’s in a very dark place. There was one point when he stopped talking to me for three days. Eventually, he apologized and told me that he would try to be better for me. I tried to understand because I knew he was struggling.

But now it has happened again.
He told me that he is in a very dark place, and he hasn’t talked to me for more than a week. I’ve tried reaching out. I’ve been patient. I’ve tried to give him space because I know he is struggling. But at this point, I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. I feel like I’ve been ghosted. And I’m struggling because I really love him. I’ve tried so hard to be patient and understanding with him. I’ve tried to make space for his struggles and never wanted him to feel like he had to be okay all the time just to be loved by me.

I don’t know if I’m looking for advice, reassurance, or maybe I just need somewhere to let this out. I genuinely don’t know what I need to hear right now.
I just feel incredibly hurt.

Can you guys tell me more about this personality?

Have you ever had to deal with them? 🫶

I am not 😄

The cats enjoy it too.