r/transplace • u/333nbyous • 16h ago
Progress/Selfie 3 years hrt. I try so hard, but get misgendered all the time :(
Voice training, makeup, styling..it feels like everything about me is characteristically female. I'm tall, 6"2, and have a deeper voice. I feel like that always "gives me away". NO ONE ever genders me correctly besides friends who know I'm trans and other trans people. I'm so exhausted. I just want to pass on a daily basis. Its so frustrating. I feel like Everytime I get misgendered I should just go back to baggy clothes because what's the point??? Feels like society just says no to me being the woman I want to be.
Edit: thanks for the kind words. Y'all cheered me up :) for context, I'm living in a new city, super blue, etc....i thought I'd escape the daily misgendering by moving somewhere socially more liberal, but here we are. I promise this wasn't bait! I struggle severely with my self esteem surrounding my appearance. I was put down constantly as a kid for how I looked, and even though I'm pretty now, I haven't quite kicked the self hate. Being trans, at times, adds an additional weight to that original burden.
Again, thank you for the kind words. You all are angels. I love this community. Be safe, be well, and, on your next bad day, try to love yourself a little more than usual. :)