I just talked with my daughter about cleaning my house. It's extremely cluttered. I have a husband, 2 sons, and a daughter. I have ADHD and depression.

I come from a large family where we always help each other whenever needed. We'll have a project weekend to clean out someone's garage, gather clothes and drop them off to goodwill, do dishes clean whatever is needed to help. We're fast. Done.

I live 3 hours away from my sibling. Two came to help me move once and 2 came to deep clutter clean. I won't ask again. I'm too embarrassed.

My family on the other hand doesn't help. I guess I trained them that way.

I have cleaned dog crap, cat crap, mouse infestation crap, scrubbed and painted for my daughter. She's bi-polar and an alcoholic. She's been California sober for 8 years.

I've cleaned up condoms stuck to the floor in my son's bedroom along with tons of junk. I've cleaned and packed for my other son.

They all live on their own.

I ask my daughter for help and she says it's too depressing. We keep her dog will she dog sits, which is a lot. One son will come over once in a great will to do things for an hour. The other is an ER Dr. With 2 kids and no time at all. My husband will do the dishes, walk the dog, and wash some laundry once in a while.

I really want them to help me. I have to get over that and do it myself.

I need to hire someone or a company to help me.

I have scheduled a dumpster before but my family didn't show up.

I'm venting.

I have to figure this out.

Thank for any advice.

For years I had The Chair.

You know the one.

Jeans I wore for three hours. A hoodie that's still fine. Pajamas I'm wearing again tonight. A sweater that doesn't need washing yet but also doesn't belong back with the clean clothes.

None of it had an actual home, so it all ended up on one chair until the chair became a textile landfill.

Yesterday I stopped pretending I was ever going to develop a better personality and put a cheap open basket next to the closet specifically for those clothes.

That's it.

No folding. No deciding whether something is clean enough for the drawer. If I'm planning to wear it again, basket.

The chair is empty for the first time in probably a year.

I feel slightly ridiculous that such a stupidly simple solution worked, but apparently half my clutter comes from objects that don't have a category.

If you have your own version of The Chair, maybe it doesn't need discipline. Maybe it needs a designated containment zone.

I am taking more credits than ever before this semester, and it starts tomorrow. I really wanted to go through my clothes because there are many I don't wear. But I realized that doing that has put me over the threshold of overwhelm so that I haven't been able to even start to tidy up my room or wash my bedclothes. These tasks take priority and I'm posting my before picture so that I can come back with an after. Does anyone else get too grand of plans right before life gets busy and it keeps them from making incremental progress?

i‘d say that im pretty good when it comes to cleaning/keeping everything tidy.

but the second it gets to dishes it is a lost cause. theyre piling up and i seem to never have the energy to do them. it has gotten to a point where i have to throw away boxes/bowls because food was moldy and i couldnt be bothered to clean it.

i dont have a dishwasher as my apartment is pretty small - so i have to wash them by hand.

any advice?

We are getting two full size couches and a recliner. We are getting rid of the current couch! I'm sorry about the clutter, I'm trying my best.... What can I do to make this space flow better? Will all that even fit? What do I do with all this STUFF?! We feel suffocated by our own house and this is cleaner than usual. This living room is mainly windows and makes things uncomfortable

Where I live, it is allergy season, which turns into cold and usually flu season pretty quickly. Nothing is more miserable than being sick and not knowing where the thermometer is, or having anything to take to feel better

So today we are going to purge the medications that have expired and we are going to make sure we put replacements on the grocery list. We are going to find the thermometer and make sure we have those silly little caps and fresh batteries for it in a place we would think to look.

If you don't have a thermometer, now would be a good time to buy one.

I like to keep fever reducers, cough medications, stomach medications etc together in one bin under the sink in the bathroom. It doesn't have to be fancy. Just something you can find if your fever starts rising.

And stay well.

Ah depression and alcohol use disorder and caregiving (not in my home but elsewhere) for my parents has resulted in sheer disaster. Worst my place has ever been. I am ashamed and disgusted and barely know where to start.

But have to slowly pull myself out of the shame spiral and time to do something about it.

I have cleaning supplies arriving via delivery any moment and plan to spend a couple cycles of 20:10s over the coming day(s).

I hope I can post progress photos in the replies for support and accountability.

Thanks for this forum - UFYH principles have saved me in the past, and I know they can again.

Hugs and love to anyone else suffering.

Like okay, okay, I get it Furbo 🙄

I need to clean, I know I do, and I want to clean too. I know I don't have a use for any of this garbage, junk, etc. and that it is lowering my quality of life.

But every time I start trying to clean, I get emotional. I get genuinely upset by having to throw away actual garbage, to the point where sometimes I even start crying. I feel like I am throwing away things that are important to me, even though it is *literal* garbage. I can't bear to throw away empty bottles, rotted food, etc., because for some dumb reason I feel like I am throwing away things that mean the world to me. I know I have friends and family who would be willing to help, and I even have a dumpster to throw away the trash, but I just can't let go.

Does anyone have any advice for getting over this emotional hurdle? Has anyone even dealt with this?

Monday's are bathroom and utility room days for me. I also wash the rugs as needed. We don't have shower curtains. Today's one minute task is to restock toilet paper, shampoo etc. If you are running low, add that to the shopping list. I have storage behind each toilet for TP and personal care items. I make sure to refill those from the stock in the pantry at least once a month. If I am running low of anything it's a good time to add those to the grocery list so we are never totally out.

Also just a disclaimer for anyone worried: a child does not live in this room! The toddler bed is for when I babysit my nephew so he has a place to nap. This room is always cleaned when he sleeps over :)

Running out of space in my closet, is it a danger sign that you're starting to fill the coat closet in the living room? Need suggestions on what to toss, blouse-wise. Amazon is so habit-forming when looking for clothes. Do you toss old workplace uniforms, and is it ok to toss or drop off at goodwill, copyrighted polos that previous places say they don't want back when you quit?

Hi there! I’m a south Florida resident whose been suffering from severe depression. I’ve been medicated for my mental symptoms and such but I STILL have the burden of coming back to my extreme depression room/bathroom. It’s gotten to a point where I genuinely doubt this is something that can be cleaned by just me and my family, I feel like if we did, it’d end up the same way it is right now.

What I’m looking for is a service to declutter and make my room livable again as I want to refurbish it. I’ve been searching so far and haven’t found a good result at all yet :( please help me, I seriously cannot bare to live like this for any longer. Being in here just makes me incredibly miserable

It’s mainly just my bedroom + bathroom that need the most help, I have tried in the past to clear my room out but I keep getting the same result with either finishing exhausted or being completely overwhelmed. I want to get rid of things, I want things to look different so I can put new furniture in and feel at peace with my room 🥲

Any help would be greatly appreciated, tysm

Some things I want to do but never seem to know how to get done:

- Go through and cancel subscriptions and research best options for the ones I need and utilities/insurance/etc.

- resell the boxes clothes/items I know would be worth the time to list and publish for sale.

- wash my walls/ceilings/mattresses/couches/rugs/nooks and crannies

- update my resume and portfolio

- make needed appointments for myself and family

- detail my car

- digital declutter

- go through kids artwork and create a system for keep/trash… display keeps by making books/collages, etc.

Many more unfortunately.

Not looking for advice! Just curious what tasks others are facing in a similar way.

I’m trying my best to declutter and organize but I’ve posted in other threads and people are still dogging on me. Is my house really that bad? This is as clean as it gets and after I rearranged, decluttered, organized and redecorated a little. I really don’t see it as cluttered or messy but maybe I’m blind to it?

Not much but I managed to get my bed set up and in place, so I have more floor space now. Moved my chair to my desk, and emptied some bits and bobs into my drawers. It’s still messy, but it’s something

Hiya I posted this on r/cleaningtips but I think this is also an appropriate subreddit, if anyone has any experience with maggots I’d really appreciate your advice 🙏

Hey everyone, like the title suggest I'm pregnant right now and it's rough on me. I've basically been too sick to do much of anything for my first nine weeks, I'm kind of vaguely getting out of that stage now maybe (I'm less nauseous constantly. I'm on meds for it but they only help so much.) but the first trimester fatigue is still going strong.

Problem: We've have three pets, a five year old, and my spouse struggles with ADHD causing executive dysfunction BAD. (diagnosed. We think I might as well but I'm undiagnosed so nothing for sure.) Because of this, I'm usually the primary cleaner. I'm a stay at home parent so I'm here most often so I try to get the majority done. You can see where this might create a big issue when I'm no longer able to do my part.

On top of everything we were hit with an over twenty four hour power outage this weekend. Went out Friday night, came back this afternoon. The apartment. Smells. Horrible. There's clutter everywhere. Everything feels like Sisyphus moving the boulder and I already had a breakdown about it today.

How do you find the motivation when you're this exhausted and sick? How did any of you manage through pregnancy? It wasn't this bad with my first, I had the easiest breeziest pregnancy and I know I was so lucky but this one is here with a vengeance. Like I'm getting what I missed with the first on top of it all.

I come to this with the baggage of being raised by hoarders so the pet scent in here right now+everything is extremely triggering to me and I'm barely holding together.

Spouse wants me to make a chore chart so we both know what to do each day and plans to help me with making it/putting it up but that even feels like just...moving a mountain. And I'm terrified they won't actually keep up with it with me and I'll feel like the only one doing this again.

I'm sorry this is all so scattered. Typing through a nauseous spell makes for brain bunnies.

TLDR: How to clean when you're constantly tired and nauseous and how to take care of a house with multiple pets in it smell wise when you can't afford the insanely expensive enzyme stuff?

Hey friends, I need to do my bathroom, I have cleared it out and wiped down my shelves and counters and I need to put everything back, in addition I have 2 rolling carts that are very messy and dirty and under the sink cabinet that I need to tackle. I know I will feel so proud of myself and happy when I am done but its such a long job lol and I have a lot of trouble staying on task. Kindly someone pls send HELP. Ugh

well, it's certainly not perfect, but WOW do I feel great about having usable desk space again. no, this is not the ideal desk set up... yes, I will need to come back for the stuff under the desk... but I was able to be ruthless and get rid of many craft supplies I simply will never use, found a bunch of empty boxes, reorganized the drawers to actually fit everything. it feels soooo much better to be in this room now!

thank you so much everyone for the support! i have really poor executive functioning; cleaning and tidying is the most difficult thing for me to do. i'm so happy i've been able to share my progress with you all, and happy i get to finally enjoy my space! 💖

Hi all, starting my UFYH journey. I've been so overwhelmed with stuff for way too long, a pattern I unfortunately have inherited from my parents. my goal is to get to a place where all my flat surfaces are consistently usable— right now everythingggg becomes a dumping ground. Starting on my side of the bedroom since it's supposed to be a place of rest. (I have been blessed with a much more organized fiancé and want to be better for him, too!) First before and after at the end. Already feeling the relief. Posting for accountability, you'll see more soon! Any tips/advice are welcomed!

TW addiction and suicidality (past)
Hello everyone! I have seen the wonderful transformations others have accomplished and it's given some hope for me in my fucked habitat.

I quit cannabis just over 9 months ago now. My life was falling apart, I was working my way past passive suicidality, and I was using dab pens and edibles to numb out from my life and not deal with my problems. It got to a point where I stayed awake for most of three full days, started posting crazy shit on social media, and a few people kinda raised the alarm. My family swooped in and helped me out of my rough spot. I'm incredibly lucky and want to be fully out of this mire I find myself in so they dont have to worry about me anymore.

I'm single now, not smoking weed, have a pretty good job, but still living in a mess I have a hard time dealing with. How do I even deal with this? I have containers and bins but a hard time letting go of especially crafty things and figuring out what to sort where