I posted on here with my ex a while ago and if anyone happens to remember this may be awkward lol, but y’all were sooo sweet. Turns out my ex was not so sweet, miss girl would apparently do a mental SWOT analysis of my appearance, compare me to other women, and subtly neg me??….My last ex did something similar why do I keep attracting this tomfoolery idk, but therapy should help me figure it out 😭

But now I’m posting to celebrate being single, so excited to redirect my love to all the good things in life :) Love you guys!

I’ll be 21 on Sunday,,, turning off my notifications and not checking this til then… Leave me smth special?

Hitting the dad pose in pic 3 🤣

I (20F, lesbian) recently started talking to a girl from my college. She (19F, lesbian) started a conversation with me on social media after seeing that we had some interests in common, and confessed that whenever she saw me, she wanted to come up and talk to me, that she thought I was really pretty, stylish, etc. She seemed VERY excited and invested at first, to the point where at some point I realized it was probably the first time she had ever tried anything romantic with someone.

We talked a lot and made plans for future dates, but I started getting worried about how quickly things were moving (she was already calling me pet names after 3 days of talking), and I was afraid of hurting her or disappointing her expectations. Anyway, she really insisted that we watch a movie at her place as our first date, so I agreed. We watched the movie cuddled up together and it was really nice, until the movie ended and she decided to kiss me, and suddenly things took a turn I wasn't expecting. Since she seemed to know what she was doing and was the one who initiated it, I let things happen, even though I had a feeling she was a virgin.

At some point, I decided to ask just to be sure, and she said yes, she'd never dated anyone or gotten to that level with anyone before. From then on, I told her there was absolutely no pressure for her to do anything, asked if she was okay every step of the way, and everything else. I tried to be as careful as possible to make sure it was, above all, a good experience for her, since I'm more experienced. Afterward, we talked, I asked if she was okay and told her she could talk to me if anything had bothered her, and she seemed fine. But as the afternoon went on, I got the impression that she was becoming distant. Since she said it wasn't anything and she's naturally a reserved person, I tried not to read too much into it.

I got my Uber, went home, and when I started talking to her, she suddenly sent me several messages apologizing, saying that she felt weird and that she was too confusing and complicated, that everything was very new to her, and that her mental health had never been this bad... I was understanding, and in the end she said she'd rather we just be friends for now and "see where it goes" later. I agreed.

She hasn't messaged me since then, and I can't stop thinking that I did something wrong, that I pressured her even though she was very verbal about telling me that I was great and that she didn't feel pressured, and even though she was the one who initiated everything. It's kind of consuming me. I feel horrible, and I keep thinking that she wasn't ready but felt like she HAD to do it to please me.

During that conversation, she kept emphasizing how much she liked me, but now I'm convinced that she hates me and that I'll forever be associated with a bad memory for her...

I made a post a few months ago about my partner and I because we met on this subreddit. We prioritized our commitment to being together despite the fact that she is from Brazil and I am from NY. We got a lot of positive comments on the original post and I wanted to share and update that we are still so in love!!! Sometimes you find your soulmate on Reddit when you weren’t looking :)

Hello! Long time listener, first time caller here.

So I (39) came out later in life. I was married to a man for 8 years, and realized I was a lesbian. We worked it out with a lot of therapy and time, and are good friends now.

A few years later I tried dating, it was a lot of first dates, rejection, and casually searching for someone I would click with. Eventually I met an amazing woman (41) and we fell in love. We dated for about 7 months, and made it official 4 months ago.

When she told me she loved me, I was elated, and realized that I was in love with her too. She quickly became someone that I didn't want to live without. And things seemed to be going well.

We both ride motorcycles, one of the reasons we first connected, and she planned a romantic getaway for us, a long weekend in a cabin in the mountains, and we were to see the sights and enjoy some alone time together. The first half of the trip was the happiest I had ever felt in a long time.

But about halfway into our trip I noticed something was off. In pictures we took together, her body language changed. When she would normally have her arm wrapped around me, she kept as much distance as she could, and didn't touch me. I wanted to let it go, but I worked up the courage to talk to her about it.

I asked her if everything was okay, despite being on this romantic trip, she seemed to be keeping me at a distance. She admitted that she felt the spark had left, and that when she first told me she loved me (she said it first) it was because she was happy about a gift I bought her, but when she'd say it after that, she felt like she was lying. I was everything she wanted on paper, but she was afraid she can't love, is avoidant, and only wants to be friends with me.

It was devastating, and even worse, it was the middle of the trip, and I was trapped in the middle of nowhere, with no way to safely leave. All I had was my motorcycle, which is very unsafe to ride when emotionally distraught. So I had to wait, for hours, for a tow to arrive for my bike to get me home. Thankfully she paid for it.

My heart is broken. Before I met her, I thought I had loved someone before, but after unpacking all the comphet I went through being with men, I made the sad realization that she was probably the first person I ever truly let into my heart.

Despite everything, I still love her. If she asked, I know I would run back to her in a heartbeat. But I know that's not what she wants. I don't know how I am going to recover from this. She lit up my life in a way that I never thought possible.

I don't know how to move on, I want to hate her, to be angry, but all I can feel is a numbing pain.

What can I do to let her go? All I can think about is her.

Any advice, comfort, anything would be appreciated. Thank you for reading this.

They humiliate me by liking my profile

Seriously I need these women with boyfriends to stop liking my profile.

Just a Hi & a Selfie

It's been a while since I've posted on this sub.

Just wanted to drop by and say hi (and drop a photo!). How are you all? Would love to know what you're up to and maybe even see a selfie or two 🥰 Have a fab day!

I was fortunate enough to find a lovely women to date in college. We dated for 6 long amazing years. Unfortunately, things did not work out for many reasons i dont need to get into. Since then, ive had the opportunity to date a few women the past several years. I just wanna say, wtf happened? Theres been something wrong with every girl ive ended dating and i genuinely dont know what to make of it. In college me and my gf just chose each other and made it work till it didnt make sense anymore, mutually. Since then its been:

1. Far too immature

2. Ghosted me

3. Admitted to dating a man who killed people for a living, knowingly "cuz it was hot" among other insane shit

4. Cheated on her bf with me, i didnt know

5. Ghosted me

6. Randomly dumped me over the phone because her "type changed" and other totally innocuous reasons that made no sense (longest of the bunch, 1 whole year down the drain)

7. Ghosted me

These are just the ones i dated. I went on plenty 1st dates where there were obvious red flags, simply no spark/unaligned goals, and a shocking amount of aromantic and/or asexuals (nothing against that, just disappointing)

I fear im absolutely cooked. What even happened

That is all

Just curious

My girlfriend is genuinely the sweetest person ever. She’s so soft, loving and princess-like to me, and I honestly see her as this innocent little angel 😭

Recently she told me that she likes being called a “slut” during sex, and I’m having the weirdest time wrapping my head around it.

Like… HER?? A SLUT?? 😭😭 It feels so contradictory to how I see her. I know she likes it and I actually want to say it because I want her to enjoy herself, but it feels so crazy coming out of my mouth when I literally think she’s the loveliest person ever.

I know logically that it’s just a sexual dynamic and doesn’t mean I actually see her that way, but I’m wondering if anyone else has had this experience, where the person you adore and see as the sweetest/princessiest human ever likes being called something completely opposite during sex?

How did you get comfortable with it? 😭

I need advice from other wlw that happened to move-in too quickly. For context, my girlfriend 28F and I 25F moved in after dating for only 3 months. We already had been through some problems early on the relationship, however we were very much in love. It’s been 6 months and honestly some days it seems like we can’t stand each other. We went out during the weekend and nobody said a word until we did and it started a fight. We fight about our cats, about chores, petty little things. Our chemistry is not the same and when we did have good sex I was blacked out drunk and don’t remember a thing. Breaking up feels more like an option as time passes. Im traveling for 15 days and we won’t see each other until then. I don’t know what to do. We still have 6 months left on our lease. Is this normal? Is it just a phase? How can we move past this?

Hi there!

So I’m not sure what to think here…this week I need to go to the hospital for a minor surgery (kidney stones removal 😭) and of course I asked my gf to go with me, and since it was her day off I thought it would be no problem. Well, she says she can go during the day (after jokingly complaining). The thing is that I might have to stay one night there for observation and she says she can’t stay the night with me because she has to work the next day, which starts around 10am, she could easily call an uber and go to work but I guess it’s ask too much of her.

I have major health anxiety and, my sister, knowing this, offered to stay the night with me. (She also has to work next day same as my gf btw)

Anyway…I just feel horrible to have to go through this and she seems that I just asked her to go with me to a boring meeting or something ordinay, not a surgery.

It sucks to know that I can’t count with her for even ONE night, and that my sister has more care for me than the person I’ve been in a relationship with for the past 3years and share a home.

Am I overreacting?

I am 33, lesbian. I have lots of friends all in different places in uk, talk to them regularly enough. I am single and in the process of trying to find a wife or at least a long relationship so going on dates when I can.

At night is the hardest. I have filled my time with hobbies i enjoy but nothing is quite hitting.