Im the bride from Florida! After 2 years almost 3,000 miles apart, I officially moved to canada! Super super easy country to migrate too! I hope all my ldr couples have this ending...stick with it, the rewards are so sweet!!

This time we decided to meet in Canada (apparently the officials found that weird at the border 😶‍🌫️). Been loving it here.

I can still work and by 1PM I’m done for the day. So excited for the next weeks.

We (34/35) met on Facebook Dating at the end of July, and they came for their birthday weekend this past weekend. It felt so natural being with them, and my queer little heart is happy knowing I met my person. I have so much fun with them, and it was devestating dropping them off at the bus station yesterday. They’re planning on coming back on the 11th for the weekend. I’m lucky because we’re the same time zone and they live only 5ish hours away. They’re planning on moving to be near me as soon as they graduate school in the spring. These next 10 months will be challenging, but they’re well worth every “see you later.”

So I(28M) met this girl(23F) online through reddit. Originally meeting as friends to chat and game and whatnot. We texted everyday for around 2 months straight, not missing a day. I didnt want to get my hopes up but I started to fall HARD for her. Shes perfect in so many simple ways, I cant get enough of her. The only issue is we live across the world from each other. I stamped those feelings and stayed close friends with her, watching movies on call and just yapping endlessly. Then one night, it all changes. She comes forward and confesses to me, ME! It was like i was in highschool all over again, I got so giddy and happy and emotional. After talking about it we realized we were both such idiots and liked each other for awhile and just didnt see it. We are either very dense or very stupid, either way i couldnt be happier at the outcome. We are determined to make this work, I want nothing more than to spend every moment with this girl. We are planning a trip together to finally spend time together and I cant wait any longer. I just needed to shout this to the ether as im so thrilled and excited to have found this amazing girl!

This is my second ldr and he lives 9 hours away in another state we met on fetlife(iykyk) and ive now been up to visit him twice. Plans for him to move closer to me our kids are already besties and it feels so perfect this was the weekend when i went to visit(me 38 him 37)

Me (F29) and my boyfriend (M32) finally met in person after eight months of long distance (🇵🇭–🇪🇸).

On our fourth night together, he told me he was confused because he didn’t feel the same love for me in person as he did through the screen. He said, “But I’m willing to try.”

Hearing that made me incredibly sad and disappointed. I understand that this can happen in an LDR, because sometimes the connection you build online feels different when you finally meet in real life. I didn’t want to pressure him, so I started giving him some space during the following days.

I think he noticed the distance because he started trying to get closer to me, even pulling me toward him just to hug me. But strangely, those moments also made me question my own feelings.

Do I actually love him? Do I just like him? Was it love, or was it infatuation built from eight months of longing and imagining what being together would feel like?

I’ve experienced an LDR before, and it was very different. When I met my previous partner, I felt incredibly happy and at peace. My mind became quiet. I felt calm just being beside him.

With my current boyfriend, however, I noticed that I was actually excited to go home.

We have many similarities, but also differences that sometimes cause us to clash. During the two weeks we spent together, we fought around 2–3 times. Maybe that’s normal, but it still made me question our compatibility in real life.

The last day hurt the most. I imagined our final hours would be emotional, that we would talk, hold each other, and make plans to see each other again. Instead, two hours before I went to the airport, he was mostly on his phone.

Before leaving, I asked him, “Will we meet again soon?”

He simply said, “Maybe.” 🤷

That answer has stayed in my mind ever since.

Now, one or two weeks after meeting, I still don’t know what to do. I’m even thinking about canceling my visa application to Spain, because I was planning to visit him there, and now I don’t know if there will even be a relationship to visit for.

Part of me thinks we should give it more time. Maybe two weeks isn’t enough to understand each other after eight months apart. Maybe feelings can grow once the initial awkwardness disappears.

But another part of me wonders if I’m just holding onto something because we spent eight months waiting for this moment. Maybe he’s also confused and waiting for me to be the one to end things.

I don’t want to give up too quickly, but I also don’t want to stay just because of the time we’ve already invested.

If you were in my position, would you stay and give it more time, or would you take this as a sign to let go?

After a year of dating long distance, the love of my life is moving to Michigan to be with me

I finally made it official and broke up with her. She didn't notice I left her on read and didn't say anything the entire day. I'm tired of this so I just decided to officially break up with her.
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Also sorry shout my other post and the comment I made. I was just getting really tired and tbh didn't expect people to actually DM me and all that. I'm sorry :<

But thank you for all of the support and concerns, all of you. Today I really needed to because it was actually draining me so it was either stay and continue this or end things and heal myself.

I'm doing a bit better now though, went to the mall with my dad for a little walk and got some Starbucks for a snack. I even got some new shoes! I know it's gonna take a bit for me to heal, mentally and emotionally, but I'm gonna get through it.

I'm also gonna focus on in-person relationships instead of LDR once I heal myself :3

I love my boyfriend to death, wrote him 2 notebooks full of letters on how much I love him, cause I really love him, and he's my everything..

So, I have a lot of insecurities in my body, I'm morena and I don't have fair skin. I can see my veins in my skin, I'm scared it's varicose and I have a lot more insecurities other than that ( I also have OCD). I'm scared that when he met me, he's gonna regret it cause what if he doesn't like me up close, like the texture of my skin and everything ( stuff that you can't see on face time)...

I love him dearly, and I'm so guilty that if he came here, he's gonna regret it and just would waste his money especially that he's from the US and I'm from the Philippines and flying one way cause thousands of dollars, and if ever he's regretting it, I do want to pay for his expenses, but I don't have a work yet, since im still a student. And I can't afford it obviously too.

I already feel guilty of him sending me a package that costs a lot already, and I can't compensate for it cause I have nothing in my name for now.

He's gonna come here this December or January, and I'm scared he's gonna regret it and just waste his money on something he'll regret seeing.

Should I break up with him so that he can save himself for the expense and for him to not regret it? If only I could pay for the flight that would be no problem, but he's gonna be the one spending for the whole trip here...

I really don't know what to think of, I'm just scared but I really love him, and totally do anything for him, as long as he accepts me.

My understanding was that it was a relationship where you can’t see each other due to distance and though to an adult my meagre hour drive isnt a lot but to a teenager living on a farm (so no buses) that is a huge distance.

I have no way to see him and will copy paste my other post in the comments if necessary. i was sure that people here would at least be somewhat understanding but i appear to be mistaken.

is there another term youd prefer I use for my relationship? If not please dont just comment “it’s not long distance” as that does not bene you nor I. I’m not an evil being or a moron, I’m a teenager looking for advice so please stop some of the rudeness

Me (M21) and my gf (F23) have been dating for 2 and a half years now. We used to call every day for hours. Playing games, watching videos together, etc.. It was CONSTANT. Although in the first year I wanted to have my own time as well and we got into a lot of arguments about that, I changed for her and started spending WAY more time with her.

Lately she's barely texting, when she does it takes 5-6 hours and it's short. Her excuse is she's "physically exhausted" and can't text like she used to. Me, not wanting to overreact, I acknowledged it and got busy myself. The emotion and the way she talks remained, the frequency is what changed.

When she visited in person 2 weeks ago I noticed she kept hiding her phone and closing it whenever I got close. Found out later it was Character AI. I told her early in our relationship I used to use it too (not anymore though) so I don't get why she'd hide it from me specifically. It weirded me out A LOT but I didn't confront her or anything.

Now she's basically swapped our calls for being on Character AI and listening to music most of the day. I'm very concerned because this started happening a month ago when she started skipping out every day of work because of her headaches, later I come to find out she's been texting with Character AI this whole time instead.

Not sure if I'm overreacting or if this is a real red flag. Anyone been through something similar?

i am american and my girlfriend is english and i have been trying to find jobs i can do while in school where i can see her more often. i really dont wanna fly out there for anything less than 10-14 days but this is a steep ask for most jobs in america. i’m in college and we plan to get married after i graduate but until then do you have any advice? working full time and doing college hasnt been an issue for me but going a long time without seeing her has🫠 she works for her dad so she has more leniency with her time off, she has come to visit me but i hate her spending so much money to see me just for me to be at work or studying for 40+ hours. any advice for entry level industries that are giving this time off?

So I met this guy my first day of solo traveling in a hostel. I was talking to another girl and he invited us to breakfast. We had a great time together and ended up spending the whole day together.

The next day the other girl had to leave and the guy asked me to go to a restaurant. We did and ended up kissing that night. I told him pretty early on that I will not have sex with him until I k ow in which direction it’ll move. He completely understood and we went back to my hostel room and cuddled the whole night.

The next few days we hung out everyday and he really was the sweetest and most genuine guy I had ever met and we had an amazing connection.

He ended up leaving to go to Laos and I stayed back in Thailand but we continued talking to each other and even called each other once. He told me he was going to Vietnam and I suggested I‘d join him.
When k arrived in Vietnam I got into a very sketchy situation with a taxi driver and he stayed up the whole 2 hours it took me to get to the hostel at 3 a.m in the morning to make sure I was safe.

We then traveled through the mountains of Vietnam together for about 2 weeks with a group and had a great time though some moments occasionally were a bit awkward.
But we had a lot of good conversations and he told me he would only date to marry which is exactly my standpoint of dating as well and he talked about how much he wants a family one day.

We came back to Hanoi and spent 2 more days together until he had to leave. The last day I asked him how things were headed and he suggested we’d stay in touch and go back to our native countries and see how things would feel if we weren’t in the travel bubble anymore. He also told me I should come visit him in Toronto. (He is from Canada and I am from Europe).
It‘s been about a week since we parted and we kept in touch though communication has been a bit slow. I am considering visiting him in late October.

Do you think k it could work out?

Meeting my LDR boyfriend for the first time in a few months, and I’ve been doing pretty much everything I can to prepare especially physically.

We’ve been together for a year and 4 months, and although we’ve seen all of each other on camera countless times, I’m realizing that actually being physically together feels completely different.

I used to have acne, thankfully I’ve gotten past that, but I was left with some slightly deep acne scars. I also have a lot of freckle-looking spots across my body. I’ve been doing treatments, like lasers, skincare and basically all the things I can think of to feel better about my appearance before we meet.

I’m pretty sure we’ll eventually be intimate too, especially since I’ll be staying with him for almost two months, and honestly…that thought makes me really insecure.

He knows about my insecurities and tells me he doesn’t care about any of it. I believe him, but I still can’t get rid of the thought that he’ll actually see everything in person and notice things that he hasn’t noticed on camera. I know he loves me, but I keep thinking, what if he sees me differently once we're actually together?

I’m also a huge overthinker, so I can turn a tiny insecurity into a hundred different scenarios in my head. :(((((

I know these things probably sound insignificant, but when they’re things you’re already self-conscious about, the idea of someone you love seeing them up close, especially someone you’ve waited so long to meet is.just.terrifying.

Has anyone here experienced something similar before meeting their LDR partner for the first time?
How did you get past those insecurities once you were actually together?

And if you’re on the other side of this and there were things about their appearance that you didn’t find particularly attractive or wished were different/better, did it actually affect how you felt about them?

I’d really love to hear both sides. I think I need some perspective from people who have actually been through it. Thanks!!!

I’ve been seeing/talking to this guy since March, and I’m struggling to tell whether his circumstances and communication style are making his intentions seem more unclear than they actually are, or whether I’m overlooking the fact that he simply isn’t intentionally pursuing a relationship with me.

We started seeing each other in March, I broke it off in April, and he reached back out in July wanting to see me again. Our circumstances are admittedly weird. I just graduated and am in a transition period where I’ll soon be applying for jobs and likely moving somewhere else. Meanwhile, he travels to different cities every week for work and works 7 days a week for about 6 months out of the year. Because of that, I’ve probably only seen him 4 times total since March. He works in a neighboring state to where Ilive.

His busy season ends soon, but when he talks about his time off, he talks about wanting to travel and hasn’t really mentioned plans involving me. I recently asked when I’d see him again and he jokingly said “2028,” then never actually gave me an answer.

After that, I was pretty direct about my intentions. I told him I’m getting to know him with the intention of eventually pursuing something serious and basically said, “If we’re wanting different things, that’s completely okay, I just don’t want us wasting our time.” His immediate response was to explain that work is why he sometimes takes forever to respond and reassure me that he isn’t seeing/talking to other girls—I’m the only one.

He’s also said he doesn’t want to just “talk indefinitely,” but when I brought up having some sort of plan/intention for where this is going, he said he “doesn’t like to plan.” I still can’t tell whether he meant he doesn’t like planning out the future/logistics and prefers letting things develop naturally, or whether that was his way of avoiding saying he has no actual intention of making this a relationship.

That’s what has me so confused. I was intentionally giving him an easy out by saying it was completely okay if we wanted different things, and he didn’t take it. He continues talking to me and has done thoughtful things for me in the past (although not much recently), so part of me wonders if he genuinely thinks he’s already made his intentions clear. But other things—like not being able to tell me when he wants to see me again or talking about everything he wants to do when work ends without mentioning seeing me—don’t register as someone actively trying to pursue a relationship.

For the past week, I’ve stopped putting as much energy into our conversations because I feel like I’m investing in something that might be going nowhere. I also don’t want to have yet another conversation asking what he wants. When I broke things off in April, I literally told him, “I’m not sure this connection is going anywhere, and I want to respect our time rather than letting this continue without any direction.” Even then, his response focused on how he struggles with communication and how running his businesses makes him ungodly busy.

So maybe I’m overthinking while he’s underthinking. Maybe his life genuinely leaves him with very little capacity and he thinks he’s already communicated that he wants this. Or maybe I’m giving too much weight to his explanations when his lack of initiative is actually my answer. I’d love some outside perspective because I’m too close to it at this point.Repost to another community

okay hi me and my boyfriend just started doing long distance. he went to college states away and it’s been less than a week and i feel awful. like genuinely a pit in my stomach, i feel so lost and sad. He means a lot to me and i really want our relationship to make it through. lots of people have said that our relationship is very strong and it makes me feel better but idk i just overthink a lot which is already kind of taking a toll on me. i guess im just worried its gonna feel this hard for the whole long distance. i just already feel disconnected from him. and i just worry so much into the future like what happens after college? will it be more long distance? will we move in together? i’m just scared and need advice.

ways to get through long distance and how to take care of yourself and make it easier please

I met a friend of a friend while visiting his country at the beginning of this year. We shared social media after hanging out with our mutual friend and texted continuously with occasional calls until I went back to his country this summer. This was a period of about 8 months.

During my time there this summer, we got to spend a fair amount of one-on-one time together, but it never turned romantic. However, after I got home again, we admitted we both like each other, and now we have no idea how to progress our relationship while being so physically far away. What advice do you have on this stage, and what kinds of things do you look for to evaluate compatibility at a distance? We agreed to continue talking to figure things out but are not officially dating.

TIA

My bf follows thousand of people, thousands of people follow him back, many of them are girls. He says he doesn’t know them personally but they are from his school. Should i be worried about them?
He doesn’t like reels and posts on instagram, and he doesn’t repost also.
Few of these girls don’t follow him back also. He made his account in 2015.
Should i tolerate this?

I recently moved a 2-3 hour drive from my boyfriend. Life is amazing, I’ve been able to see him every other week three times in a row instead of going for month to months without knowing when i would see him next. I’m so insanely happy

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I met someone online from literally the other side of the world and it's been almost 5 months now. Everything has been online but the connection feels so genuine and real to me.

We call each other pet names, tell each other we like each other, call for hours, play games together, be silly, get nervous around each other even now, fight and argue like couples and then fix it like couples too. I overthink, he reassures me, he gets jealous sometimes, he puts in effort and his energy towards me has never really changed. He's genuinely amazing to me.

But the funny thing is we have NEVER actually asked what we are. Not once 😭i genuinely don't understand why both of us avoid the subject.

I'm also not really someone who dates online or in general i might be an avoidant and im not proud of it. so I genuinely don't know what I'm doing here.

And there's another thing, We've talked about the future before but somehow we've never actually talked about meeting each other. We both have financial struggles and we've talked about that from both sides. Neither of us really knows if we'll ever be able to meet.

And honestly I feel like there's more of a chance this eventually ends without us ever meeting than there is of us actually meeting.

So sometimes I wonder if continuing this and getting even more attached when we don't even know if we'll ever meet is a good idea.

At the same time, everything between us is soo good. I don't feel like he's wasting my time or anything, he's consistent and puts effort into me and show he cares he's very affectionate towards me still shows the same nervousness he did when we first started talking and I really do care about him. What confuses me is he also NEVER brought up once about what we are. I just don't know what I'm doing atp😭

Would you actually ask what we are at this point or just leave it alone since everything is already good? And is it stupid to keep going when there's a real and more possibility you'll never meet?

What do you guys think about your partner going on one on one dinner and then to the movies with her guy friend. And also her going on a one on one trip with her guy friend? What do you guys feel about this? And what are your boundaries. Whats considered normal and what's not?