have always been fascinated by androgyny and how thinly-separated masculinity and femininity can be… so decided to do a side-by-side comparison in an everyday outfit!

• masculine: shirt un-tucked and joggers waistband sitting on (or below) hips; chest puffed, shoulders raised, and spine straightened to emphasize upper body mass.
• feminine: shirt tucked and joggers waistband sitting higher on torso, minimizing waist and highlighting curves; shoulders angled toward camera lens and hip popped to emphasize lower body.

be yourself, everyone else is taken! ❤️‍🔥

It’s spooky season

Especially if it’s not easy to tell what sex/gender the kid is. There was another thread under this post about the clothes and hair of the kid, how it’s a „boy‘s haircut“ or „girl‘s shoes“ so this is the right pronouns to use for them.

Like, theres no gender to clothes and haircuts for one. And if we can‘t tell right off the bat, why not just choose whatever‘s in between? I don’t think it’s that difficult.

Original commenter used „they“ for the presumable parent in the video and I see nobody complaining about that too. But it’s suddenly a problem when it comes to the kid/s.

I’m 29NB and am looking for advice/encouragement/suggestions on how to
make the wait for top surgery easier. I have a consultation with a therapist in about 5 weeks (a gender therapist who will approve me for a surgical consultation through my insurance). The wait has been excruciatingly painful and difficult. I’m constantly aware of my chest and how it feels, giving me anxiety and a sense of impending doom. I’m taking a lot more of my anti-anxiety meds but I can’t numb myself into oblivion for the next several months which I wait for the therapy consult and then however long for the surgical consult and however long til surgery. What do you do while waiting?

TLDR: top surgery feels impossibly far away, how do I cope?

I'm too neurotic to put a pic of me on Reddit.

Anyway, I am a punk and dress in a diy fashion with band tee shirts or horror related t shirts usually.

I source most of my clothes at charity shops, but I struggle to find good things that fit. I'm wanting to find a big coat, a waistcoat, oversized dress shirts, comfy dress trousers and some posh dark brown shoes. But I have an odd body shape after losing a lot of weight and it redistributing from testosterone.

Does anyone have advice on how to pick the right length for the coat and trousers? I'm 160cm/5ft 3 and I usually go for "men's" section for the looser boxy fitted stuff to hide my body, but always accidentally go too big and it looks massive on me. I'm having to source a new denim coat to DIY into a new battle jacket because my old one is wayy too big for me now I've lost the weight.

I wish I was a ripe 5ft 5, slightly lengthier legs it'd be so much more easy to dress.

Hey! I’m a nonbinary/genderfluid woman. I would say my personal style is comfortable, girly, and cute-sy. When I see other queer people online they almost always look “alt”. If you took a look at me, you probably wouldn’t assume I’m queer (but then again you can never assume). I wear plain t shirts, plain jeans/shorts, sneakers, and occasionally necklaces. I don’t even wear makeup. So when I compare myself to other queer people, I just feel less than; like I don’t fit in. They make sure they stand out in a crowd, but I pretty much blend right in. I just feel like I’m too “boring” for such a creative group. Idk, I just wanted to get that out.

Hi! Lately, I’ve been questioning my gender after having ignored the topic for many years. I don’t really know how to explain my gender or how to understand myself.

Like, I don’t feel like a she, him, or even they, but more like an IT; like a creature or a THING, but not in a non-binary way (that doesn’t feel right or like that’s what I am). It only happens sometimes, but it feels more ethereal or astral. Like, imagine Jesus Christ: my physical body is MY physical body, it’s the body of a “she,” but in reality I’m a creature and this is simply my physical form while I’m alive.

BUT I still feel connected to my gender assigned at birth (AFAB) in some way, even though I don’t entirely feel like a girl either. I use any pronouns, but I mostly use she/her pronouns. I don’t know if that’s because I’ve been used to them my whole life and it’s easier for me to react when people refer to me that way or what. I do feel a sense of connection and belonging to my femininity and to being a girl, but I don’t entirely feel like a girl either.

I’ve had questions about my gender in relation to my body since childhood, but I never really explored the subject much. Over the past year, it’s become something I can’t ignore anymore and I want to ask about a few things.

• Is being demigirlflux a combination of demigirl and girlflux?
• Can you be xenogender and demigirl, demigirlflux, or girlflux at the same time?
• What other genders are there?
• Are demigirl, demigirlflux, girlflux, and xenogender considered part of the trans or non binary umbrella?

I need help, please. The more I think about it, the more confused I get. I know nobody is forcing me to choose a label or call myself anything, but I feel like I need one… I want to know. I need to know so I can understand myself better.

I only recently came out as agender. Big reason was how stupid gender norms are. Im AFAB which I found nothing wrong with being but I just hated how Im treated because of it. Im always told to not cut my hair, shave your legs, dont lift that let a man do it. It always pisses me off. I do want the world to know that you really shouldnt judge gender and to only judge the person themself, but my problem here is I still want to prove that women are badasses too and they can do stuff men do. So at work, everyone knows me as a woman so I feel that revealing im agender wouldn't prove anything. I kinda just want to be a role model for other women who are working at blue collar jobs and to show people that "yeah, women can do this too."

Edit: I should also mention my co-workers very much respect me and have seen just how capable I am. Its the customers that tend to view me strangely

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I feel like I'm losing my mind. As someone who is Transfeminine, aka, for me, a Nonbinary and/or genderfluid person who has a heavily feminine gender identity/and or expression, I feel like I'm suffering from gender dysphoria and I hate it. I feel like for the past two weeks I cry all the time now because I hate the fact that I look masculine, and want to look feminine and/or be seen this way. The amount of confusion, disconnect, denial and sometimes shame that comes with this is sometimes unbearable.

I wouldn't necessarily say I have "gender dysphoria" in the sense that I want to be the "opposite" gender. However, how I see myself internally is someone who is feminine-presenting. Or, female, I suppose. I'd like to possibly transition via HRT eventually, but experimenting with socially doing it before hand. I changed my name in several cases. Although I think I would be okay transitioning within the male/female binary, I don't really also care about this, either. I sometimes say I want to be a girl, but it's weird, I don't care about identifying as one.

That said, do you peeps deal with dysphoria at all? How do you cope with this? I consider myself both Trans and Nonbinary, so, I feel like that also adds to the confusion!

Not sure exactly how to explain this issue, it always sounds kinda stupid when I write it out, but basically I feel like I am missing a lot of potential matches because my gender presentation is ambiguous which makes it a little confusing what kind of dating/sexual partner I'd be or want.

Basically in my photos I mostly pass as a woman. People who just look at the photos assume woman. So I end up having to put some kind of awkward disclaimer in my profile. But then this becomes difficult to do without making my profile look excessively horny, because the information I need to communicate is about what genitals I have and how I intend to use them. Even just including the word "top" totally changes the tone of a dating profile, it brings things directly to sex and hookups and honestly less desirable matchups. I'm also never quite sure how to list my gender, I tend to list trans woman or list both man and woman when that's allowed. Sometimes there's an NB category but putting yourself there is a graveyard for matches.

I'm just trying to find a way to communicate "this person looks and talks like lady and the tits are natural, but is male and is into you and everything's fully functional and there's no weird sissy stuff involved here." This turns out to be surprisingly difficult to get across without writing about my dick on my bio, and I really want to come across as normal and not repel nice people or attract ghosty one night stands. But I also want to find the NBs and straight/bi women who are into whatever I categorize as.

Any ideas gang?

I feel every day i get more comfortable with the fact that im nonbinary. i like that im experimenting with my fashion it helps me express myself alot. Despite being amab i want to be more feminine leaning, so im wondering if i should microdose hrt. it feels right. i dont mind presenting masc and im happy if im able to present both at the same time. all in all im really satisfied with being nonbinary because it gives me the space to be me and thats it.

I'm a bit shy but I thought I was looking good on this day even though my hair was a mess from wind.

How's everyone's week been? I've been trying to find more comfort in non-binary spaces as I continue through my medical transition. I feel more comfortable just being me and not fitting into a certain box of masculinity. I can't believe I'm turning 29 soon.