r/transpassing Apr 08 '21

DISCUSSION UPDATE: Post flairs, wiki updates, and more!

144 Upvotes

Hiya! A while ago I put up a discussion thread regarding the idea of updating/expanding the scope and focus of the subreddit. I need to apologize, cuz I intended to post this update a while back, but life stuff resulted in it slipping my mind for a bit.

This is also intended to be a discussion thread in its own right, as I want feedback on all the changes made or if there's any further changes that people would like, but here's a rundown of what's been changed:


  • Wiki Updates: So apparently the last time the wiki was updated was eight years ago, and by an ex-mod I've never interacted with. It was.. Bad, frankly. Aggressive in tone, containing links to /r/crossdressing as if its focus was synonymous with trans content, and a general vibe of assuming that this was a MtF-exclusive space. I'm really sorry for missing that for so long! On top of changes on my own end, /u/whoop_there_she_is was an absolute angel and wrote out a HUGE set of FAQ guides for both transmasc and transfemme folks. I left it almost entirely unchanged, and you can find it here! If you have any suggestions for additions or edits, please let me know!

  • Link Flairs: A few people suggested adding link flairs to help people express directly what kind of responses they want from the sub. To start with, I've added "General Advice" for users who just want any kind of feedback people have to offer, "Specific Advice" if they only want feedback on specific things (Clothes, hair, etc), and "No Surgery Recs" if they don't want any sorts of suggestions for FFS, lip fillers, etc. If you have any ideas for more, please let me know!

  • Sidebar Updates: I've changed up the sidebar slightly to add a link to our wiki near the top, as well as remove some dead or irrelevant links from our "relevant subreddits" section.

  • Automod Updates: I've edited automod slightly to try and make it less hyper-sensitive about automatically removing posts it thinks might be hypothetical, since it was becoming a big issue that it would frequently take down posts that in no way, shape, or form came off as hypothetical. I might just remove this feature overall though, frankly.

And.. I think that's it (Aside from a few tiny visual things)! Thank you all for your suggestions and feedback on the previous post, and please let me know if there's any further changes you'd like to see!


r/transpassing Dec 30 '23

Mod Feedback Should we go private?

194 Upvotes

Howdy, y'all.

As you know, this subreddit has often been the target of trolls, bigots, transphobes, etc. We also get more than our fair share of creeps, chasers, porn spammers, and people looking to use the subreddit's traffic to passively advertise their paid content, like their OnlyFans or their Instagram, for their own personal profit.

So I'm asking y'all - should we go private? If we do, a lot of people will need to be manually added to the approval list and I know from experience that may take upwards of two months to work through everyone who might need approval.

It also means this subreddit will get a lot less traffic and will be far less accessible to folks who need help, which is the primary purpose for the subreddit in the first place.

On the other hand, the community should be a lot healthier once it's full of entirely trans folks and has less bigots, chasers, and trolls lurking about.

It will also be a lot safer because transphobes have often used photo boards like this one as a way to find targets for abuse and to steal people's photos to rehost them elsewhere and harass people. It would be much safer for us if the sub was private.

Going private is also going to take a lot of work and it's going to be very disruptive to our day-to-day operations for a while.

What would y'all like to do? Please discuss below, and please keep it civil. Thank you!


Edit: Okay, it looks like we're staying open for now. I'll make another post and ask again later.


r/transpassing 54m ago

Here's a selection of slightly crappo photos, am I doing ok for a ten and a bit year along the line (nearly) 51 year old?

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r/transpassing 8h ago

Never get misgendered in public. Are people just being nice?

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60 Upvotes

r/transpassing 4h ago

Glow up or blow up?

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23 Upvotes

r/transpassing 18m ago

am i chopped

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mtf nearly 3y hrt and 5 months post ffs
i feel like i look masculine still, please be honest


r/transpassing 4h ago

will i ever pass? 18 mtf, hrt 9months

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11 Upvotes

r/transpassing 23m ago

Opinions wanted on whether my glasses help for passing

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Basically as the title says - do you think i pass better with glasses or without? Im a trans woman for context.

I used to get comments irl saying my glasses were helpful for looking more fem but in my last post people seemed to disagree! So i thought id repost with a more straight on angle and on/off comparison.

Also yes my room is always a mess :c


r/transpassing 17h ago

I never get misgender but people always say I look like a man and I’m trans what can I fix

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87 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

Got clocked at the function last night.

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804 Upvotes

Im the one on the right, and he said it wasnt the way i looked but the way i acted😭 idek what that means


r/transpassing 4h ago

is low pony or hair tied up or hair open less clocky/better for me?

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r/transpassing 22h ago

Do I pass? 20 ftm 2.5 years on T

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103 Upvotes

r/transpassing 20h ago

How clocky am i?

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60 Upvotes

I tried to include both good and bad pics. Any advice? 24mtf


r/transpassing 6h ago

Do you think I look feminine enough? I’ve only just started wearing light makeup, and I’m not on HRT yet.

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I recently came out to some of my family members about my gender identity. I feel calmer and “relieved” now. When I eventually start HRT, I hope to be able to project a more androgynous aura with a feminine leaning.


r/transpassing 9m ago

Please be honest | 1 year HRT

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r/transpassing 11m ago

How does the outfit look? And does my natural hair look better(1-4) or one of the wigs and what can i do better

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Note I had bought white boots but like a dummy I got the wrong size🫠 so I used these boots


r/transpassing 1d ago

I know I don't pass but am I getting close? (13 months HRT MtF)

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243 Upvotes

Is there anything I can do to pass better now? I can't afford FFS and kinda doubt I ever will be able to so my options are incredibly limited.


r/transpassing 1d ago

Manchester pride 🎉🎉🎉

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79 Upvotes

Be real with me


r/transpassing 1d ago

Got weird looks in public…

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124 Upvotes

Maybe makeup is wrong, or the ribcage and shoulders, or just body language?


r/transpassing 2h ago

Mtf looking for feedback 🩵

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How can I improve and look more feminine? any feedback helps! ty


r/transpassing 1d ago

No Makeup vs. With Makeup

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340 Upvotes

Do i pass? 😢

No surgery/procedure done on face.


r/transpassing 15h ago

What other facial surgeries do I need to achieve at least an average appearance? (I’ve already had rhinoplasty, forehead contouring, and a brow lift.) Or am I doomed to look unattractive forever because of my skull shape? MTF (3 years on HRT)

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7 Upvotes

r/transpassing 22h ago

How chopped are we at 38?

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22 Upvotes

r/transpassing 1d ago

27MTF 6 months on E and going XD

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47 Upvotes

r/transpassing 23h ago

Any advice welcome

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Im new to makeup btw if it’s a bit messy

I think I’m getting somewhere but still any advice at all is welcome

Im 19, 8 months e