r/ask_transgender Aug 05 '21

Aug 5th - I just did a bit of of automoderator config, if something is weird or if you have any suggestions, pm me?

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r/ask_transgender Aug 03 '22

No more “what is/defines a xxx?” posts

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We have similar posts like this that crop up every now and then. Some are coming from a genuine place of curiosity, but majority of them seem to be trolls looking for a platform to “debate”/invalidate people/stroke their egos here.

We already have enough going on in our lives we don’t need to have our identities questioned in what should be a safe space for us here. If you need answers, you can always search for older posts so we can save ourselves time rather than dragging folks here through the chore of justifying ourselves for the umpteenth time when we aren’t even obliged to.


r/ask_transgender 1h ago

Crush on my butch lesbian best friend, how should I go about this

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r/ask_transgender 1d ago

Image Post How do I get my binder to stop bending and hurting me??

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It bends at this crease, and digs into my fat rolls. I have tried ironing it, putting a shirt under it, adjusting it 100 ways even wearing it inside out.

But it bends there, over and over, and bruises where it bends. It hurts so bad.

I got it from trans queer project for free and don't want to buy a new one unless I really have to.


r/ask_transgender 18h ago

Need helping getting HRT

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Hi. Diana here. I just moved to Portland for college from California. I’ve already secured my HRT bloodwork from Planned Parenthood from Cali, but I have no idea how to transfer that paperwork to a Portland building to get my HRT.

Also I can’t use CVS because my mother has a CVS account and will see whatever I do there because we have the same last name.

I can only use cash, no card. What can I do?


r/ask_transgender 1d ago

Cellulite problem

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Is this normal for 8 months gynokadin gel ?


r/ask_transgender 2d ago

Weight gain

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For anyone who's basically a twig like me, what did you use to gain weight for fat redistribution? I've been hitting the gym more since I started but want to know anything else that helps gain fat too

Edit: I also forgot to mention im a trans woman


r/ask_transgender 2d ago

Text Post Doesn’t this invalidate my true female self since i haven’t had bottom surgery?

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I need to lay this out because the weight of it has been crushing me for almost a year, and I don’t think people truly understand the ripple effect of what happened.

Last year, my previous therapist told me outright that my insurance wouldn't cover my MTF feminizing surgeries. I trusted her completely, took her word for it, and watched what felt like my future slip away. But when I finally checked with my insurance myself, I found out the truth: they do cover them. All that was required was standard letters and documentation—the exact support a therapist is supposed to provide.
She didn't just give me wrong information; she stole an entire year of my life, my healing, and my peace.

The toll this took on me wasn't just emotional; it completely broke my daily existence. The loss of hope hit so hard that I spiraled into boymoding just to get through the days. I completely stopped caring for my appearance, abandoned basic self-care, and lost every ounce of motivation to do even the simplest things in everyday life. I was just surviving in the dark.

When I talk about this now, I’m not trying to be negative, dramatic, or manipulative. I am grieving. Having access to that care a year ago would have completely transformed my mental health. Instead, I was left drowning in preventable distress—distress so intense that it strained my relationships to the breaking point. Friends walked away because they couldn't handle seeing me in so much pain, friends who might still be here today if they had been able to see me feeling better and thriving.

It feels like mourning a ghost—mourning a happier, healthier version of my life that was right there, but taken away because someone who was supposed to help me failed me instead. I'm sharing this because I need people to understand that this isn't just about 'miscommunication.' It's about a year of lost time, lost connection, and a life that should have started sooner.


r/ask_transgender 2d ago

Text Post Can I DM anyone for passing advice?

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Pretty early on so don’t really want to post publicly but need advice


r/ask_transgender 3d ago

About a half a ml of liquid still in syringe every time I inject. Is this normal? I don’t wanna be losing out on hormones

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r/ask_transgender 3d ago

Facial features and face shape

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Be brutally honest and tell me what are all facial features that I have as a mtf person and tell me what face shape i have or if I have a mix of face shapes that way I know what I am working with as a mtf person


r/ask_transgender 2d ago

Am I attractive.?

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Please be gentle


r/ask_transgender 2d ago

Image Post am I attractive

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1 year and 5 months estrogen (I posted a while ago but it's outdated now)


r/ask_transgender 2d ago

How Passable Am I?

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r/ask_transgender 3d ago

Weird symptoms

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r/ask_transgender 4d ago

Misgendering and called young man

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For some odd reason someone on reddit when they first saw the photo thought I was a cisgendered woman with short hair and im not on hrt yet but yet with my job specialist when he was asking questions for my resume or whatever he asked me if I identified as lgbtq he either said I can say yes , no , or I perfer not to answer but I said I perfer not to answer since my mom was there shaking her head no and so after that for some odd reason hes been calling me sir and young man alot or sometimes and I dont know if he called me that before I answered the lgbtq question but yeah he's been using that alot and I have a really androgynous apperance so I don't know why what do you guys think?


r/ask_transgender 5d ago

Will I Pass Fat in the face, afraid of somehow making it worse

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About a year ago, I first started estrogen after considering it for many years. The first photo is me about 2 months before starting (and very sweaty) and the second photo is me about 3 or 4 months after starting. The last two photos are me now. I ended up getting off of HRT after about 6 months, mainly because I wasn’t seeing any effects I did like, and the ones I did notice, made me feel awful.
I’m starting to get to the point where I feel like I can’t hold back anymore, and want to get back on hormones, but I have a bunch of hangups. One of the main ones is that, when I was on hormones, my face just absolutely ballooning up, as you can see in the second photo, and my whole family was mentioning how my face just looked round and puffy in general, and I really felt awful about that.
I already have kind of a round facial structure as a male, and Im deeply afraid that if I go back on hrt, my face will just balloon out like that again. Is that the kind of thing that goes down eventually? Or am I just kind of fucked having a pretty round face pre hrt that I’m just gonna balloon out again?


r/ask_transgender 6d ago

Image Post Question about transition

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r/ask_transgender 7d ago

Image Post what did u wear and do and that gave u the most euphoria?

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Pre hrt pre surgery pre everything what did u wear and do and that gave u the most euphoria?

Obviously this is a personal question but im curious if there is something im missing out on

Example: wear: womens underwear/thighs high socks. Do: talk to others in the lgbt community online(not just reddit)/walk more like a woman


r/ask_transgender 6d ago

Extremely anxious about estrogen levels and hair loss, can anyone help?

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Basically the title, I’m 18 and already starting to see my hairline recede. I’ve been so anxious lately because I’ve been absolutely catastrophizing what’s going to happen with my hair (I love my hair so much)

Ive been on hrt for 3 weeks and finasteride for about a month, and I use topical minoxidil every night. My temples are not receded far at all, and despite that and the fact that I’m quite literally doing everything possible to stop the hair loss, I just keep perseverating on the absolute worst case scenario where my testosterone somehow breaks through all this stuff.

Could anyone provide any scientific or anecdotal evidence to maybe make me feel a bit better? I’ve been trying to manage it on my own but it’s gotten so bad lately.

I’ve also been more worried because I won’t know where my estrogen and testosterone levels are at until 6 months from now, because for some reason my planned parenthood isn’t ordering me bloodwork until after my next appointment. So I’ll have no idea if my monotherapy is working correctly.

Any help would be amazing, thank you.


r/ask_transgender 7d ago

10mL Testosterone bottle running low after 26 weeks, please help

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r/ask_transgender 8d ago

Text Post How to transition among transphobes

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Context I live in the UK which most of you probably know is a nasty place to live, I still haven't properly come out to my parents because I'm pretty sure their either transphobic or think I'm going through a phase.

However, I'm starting to get to a point where I really just don't give a fuck, but I would like to know how to deal with the abuse that I will probably face on TERF island.


r/ask_transgender 9d ago

Facial hair removal mtf

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Any ideas for how to get rid of facial hair. Not able to do feminizing hrt yet. I want to get a laser hair trimmer from Amazon but mom says it probably wouldn't work on men's thick hair. Is she wrong?


r/ask_transgender 10d ago

How bad is my brow bone? Brutally honest please

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MTF 18, I tried to include as many pics as I could. I hate my brow bone so much it genuinely just makes me want to give all this up. I’ve been on hrt for two weeks. I feel like I’ll never be able to pass