r/ftm • u/SarqgTheWise • 1d ago

Advice Needed Dating???

okay so i didn’t really date ANYONE during highschool at all. there’s someone interested with me at college who is fab. I haven’t told her yet but i need advice on how to flirt and like…. what to do help pls

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u/iamsoverycool12345 1d ago

If you’re not comfortable flirting don’t force urself to, it sounds cliche but just be your (best) self, be confident and nice and slip in a few compliments. If u get the feeling she might like you, ask her to do something 1 on 1, maybe get coffee?

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u/Competitive_Pop_5281 1d ago

This is solid advice. I think also being weirdly clear is usually better than being coy or smooth. Like “hey you’re gorgeous and I’d like to go on a date with you sometime” tends to go over well, because either you get a yes or a no and both are good clear answers. Or like “hey i like that we’ve been hanging out and I’m developing a bit of a crush on you :)” & then giving her an out to not reciprocate gracefully like offering up another compliment and then changing the topic of conversation (if she wants to go back to it she will, if she doesn’t know how she feels yet she will follow the topic change and you’ll come back to it eventually, but now she knows. I also think “hey I haven’t really dated before but I find myself wanting to date you” or any variation of just like laying your cards on the table is useful. Take it or leave it.

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u/iamsoverycool12345 1d ago

Definitely much better than stumbling over some pick up line. Honesty is usually endearing, and is also more respectful to the girl giving her the space so say how she feels.