Is there a widely accepted derogatory term for non-disabled people? If not, can we create one?

My family is having a ball coming up with slurs for me, and I'd like to throw back a few choice names/terms that pack the same punch. It's all in good spirits (family, and all 🙄), of course.

hello! I’m a 15 year old boy with a physical disability, I have had severe chronic pain in my left leg since birth. been to over 20 specialists with no answers so I just call it chronic pain. for some background its like been a 7/10 pain every single day of my life but I still play a sport and Just push through because otherwise I will get depressed (only Mentioning the sport because sometimes people look at my post history and say I’m not disabled cause I’m an athlete)

so a few weeks ago I was talking to this girl I’m friends with who was recently diagnosed with POTS. sometime in the conversation she brought up disabilities and the conversation went like this

her: “yknow your so lucky”

me:” what why?”

her: “because you dont have a dynamic disability like me, i will be completely fine with barely any symptoms for weeks then have a horrible week where I can’t do anything, your just in pain all the time so you know what to expect. Also you were born this way and never had to experience how traumatizing it was to lose the ability to do things because of having pots”

after that I kinda snapped at her because I was fucking pissed especially because she has very very mild Pots too (her words I don’t wanna be like saying she’s barely disabled she describes it as the most mild thing ever) like I would give anything to have some days where I wasn’t in pain! Also I was mad about what she said about loosing the ability to do things, when I was younger I wasn’t able to participate in recess and they had to lay out a fucking mat for me to sit on and watch the other kids play, I grew up having to explain to all my teachers that I couldn’t participate in half the shit we were doing because of my lack of athletic ability. I kinda feel like it was wrong for me to snap at her but also like who tf says that

This is a slight update to my post about a hostile employee I worked with.

So all summer I’ve had an internship on a farm. This is due to me being an agriculture and natural resources treaty rights major. The farm is directly connected to my college campus. It’s a small community farm run nearly solely by volunteers. My advisor and the dean in charge of the students and internships know I’m disabled (EDS, POTS, MCAS) and we’re fine with me interning there.

I’ve worked my ass off planting, cleaning eggs, processing meat, sheeting rabbits, etc. I’ve never needed anyone’s help and I’ve only had one medical episode there throughout the summer and that wasn’t even related to my disabilities. I got heatstroke one day but I was not the only one who got heatstroke and they actually let all the workers off early because of how hot it was.

The plan was to extend it through fall for harvest season and we were preparing for that with my academic advisor and my farm supervisor until very abruptly the farm supervisor said he wasn’t going to extend it.

It took about three weeks to learn why which I did this morning. Apparently he doesn’t think I’m a good fit because I have EDS/POTS/MCAS and he doesn’t want someone to have to watch over me all the time or worry about the tasks he gives me. He doesn’t, and I quote, want the risk of a disabled person on the farm. Also, just to be clear, no one has EVER watched me. I’ve always worked solo. There’s never been a time where I had someone working beside me in order to make sure I didn’t have a medical episode. The only time I’ve worked beside others is when I was doing tasks that involved working with the others (building new rabbit enclosures for instance). No one has ever “checked up” on me or anything.

But the thing is aside from once in the very beginning I’ve never had a medical episode at the farm, I’ve never had to have someone with me in case of emergencies I always worked completely alone and the work I’ve done is at the same level as all the rest of the people on the farm.

I would understand if I was having medical episodes left and right and constantly needed support from another person but I didn’t. I worked alone and my only medical issue was something multiple workers experienced that day.

Hell! I barely used my forearm crutches!

Yet apparently they’re so worried about this and claiming they need to do things for me that they have never actually done. I’ve never been communicated to about poor work, either.

I do know there’s this one employee who dislikes me because she “doesn’t want to deal with my disability and is worried I’ll have an episode so maybe I shouldn’t be on the farm”. She’s literally stated she doesn’t like being around disabled people because it grosses her out.

I don’t know. I may be overreacting. I probably am overreacting. But I can’t help but feel that this has a taste of ableism to it? I’m quite upset over this and also confused because as I said nothing has ever really happened. I mean I got bit by a tick once and had to work indoors for a week because I was on doxycycline but that’s pretty normal in our area since it’s up in the rural Northwoods. Everyone’s been treated for, has had, or has been given antibiotics just in case for Lyme.

I just feel wronged. And again maybe I’m overreacting. But the fact no one communicated this to me, the farm supervisor’s reasons being things that have never actually happened, the fact it took three weeks for my academic advisor in charge of the internship to find out why they didn’t want me back, the employee who didn’t like that I was there because it made her worry I’d have a accident or medical problems, that no one had ever complained about my work…idk man it all stinks.

And again it wasn’t like this was an official business. I wasn’t working for a company. There was no liability such and such. It was the campus farm. I’d been approved to work there by people who knew my disabilities.

I loved working on the farm. I’ve done everything they’ve put in front of me. Completed every task. Worked through lunch. It still wasn’t enough.

And I’m upset about it. Though the rest of Reddit is saying I’m overreacting, I guess. So idk maybe it all is my fault and I’m just overly sensitive. But I do feel very frustrated.

To be clear I don’t want to take any legal action. I don’t want the drama, I dont need more on my plate, and otherwise my college is excellent and I don’t want to do anything that could hurt them

But yeah needed to get this out.

ETA: this was a paid internship by my college who gets grant money for this program

It makes me so angry that we have to pay more for things people compared to people who aren't disabled. Like the touring company of Beetlejuice is coming to Akron Ohio. I would LOVE to see it. Tickets are only $38 each so I think we can swing that for the two of us. Except I wear a prosthetic leg, am still getting used to it and I don't know if I can handle the stairs so I look at disabled seats. $112 each! That is out of my price range so I guess we won't be seeing that show.

I can accept living in hard mode. I can accept there are things that take so much more effort. But it is not fair that I should have to pay extra for being disabled.

Sorry my husband usually listens to my rants but he is at work right now.

I'm 27, American, and live in Missouri. I'm applying for SSI. I stayed in a program for disabled people for a bit and it was terrifying. I won't go into detail but my health is severely worsened by their abuse. I used to be able to work part-time hours, but now I don't think i can do anything at all. Im staying with my dad now, and he keeps telling me he wants me gone. Today he told me to apply for assisted living, and he was angry when I told him no. Can he force me?

I have a caseworker, but she has no ideas for housing i can apply to NOW. We've only looked at apartments in could apply for when I win my ssi case, which could take years. I have no income. I'd try applying for jobs here, (even though i probably can't do any work, im in too much pain) but there aren't any. Its a rural area, im completely isolated and I can't drive.

A lot of non-disabled people look down on you for not having a job and living on disability because they see you as “lazy” or as “bumming off the government.” They tell you that there’s no excuse for not working because employers are legally required to provide accommodations. Meanwhile, when you do get a job, some employers don’t want to be bothered with accommodating you and act as though you shouldn’t even be working at all if you need accommodations.

To be clear, I do have a part time job now and enjoy working. But when I was unemployed, living off disability, and job searching, this is just something that I noticed. And the unwillingness to provide accommodations happened at some of the previous jobs I've had.

I live in an area where we get a lot of snow during the winter. With winter approaching soon, I need to get a pair of winter shoes. I slip and fall a lot on the ice or in deep snow. I walk very slowly like a penguin. Does anyone recommend a pair of winter shoes or boots I could order that have nice traction but also don’t break the bank? I currently wear basic Walmart shoes with little to no traction.

Thank you in advance

I met my new boss in the building my company is moving me to Friday. I wsd removed from my prev6role after requesting offical accommodations I had already cleared (unofficially) with my immediate supervisor. 5 unpaid months later, they found a spot they felt would work for me. The building tour had some suprises, mostly that the building is not ADA accessible. The job offer comes with a 10 calendar day deadline.

A call to the HR in charge of the placement said she'd work on it Wright away to see what can ba done so I can make a choice before the deadline. Yesterday. She said this yesterday.

I followed up today to ask how its going as I now have less than a week left. And she's on vacation until my deadline.

HOW ARE YOU INSTALLING DOOR MOTORS FROM A BEACH? YOU COULDNT HAVE SOMEONE TAKE OVER? YOUR GONNA GIVE ME A DEADLINE TO A JOB I PHYSICALLY CANNOT ACCESS WITHOUT ACCOMMODATIONS AND THEN WITHOLD ACCOMMODATION UNTIL AFTER THE DEADLINE?

There's not many historical hikes in the USA, even fewer on the west coast (I envy my English relations, a walk around the neighbourhood can take you past 1,000 year old landmarks), but here's one just west of where I live. Note: the leg I use is the Ossur Cheetah Xplorer. It's my second such leg, the first one didn't start to delaminate until it's 7th year which impressed me.