And yes I'm in a lot of pain now from sitting to draw. It's probably worth it

Leaving the house in 10 mins to be at the hospital for 5:30 am check in and 7:30 surgery time. I'm the first patient of the day. Beyond ready for relief and to feel like a person again. Thanks for all the advice and good vibes leading up to today! About to join the hysterectomy sister ranks!

35f. 9wpo - had everything removed but the ovaries. Went private as I was told I’d get nowhere with the NHS. Had my first GP appointment post surgery today and prefaced it by saying I’d had a hysterectomy which could be contributing to my symptoms for the issue I was there for.

You’d think I’d committed the most awful of sins!!

His face just dropped and I got a barrage of questions…

You had a what done?
On the NHS?
Then what provider?
Why?
What were your symptoms?
What did they take?
How many children do you have?
What do you mean you have no children?
Have you been pregnant?
Do you have a history of issues with the uterus in your family?
What were your symptoms again?
Have you been pregnant?
You have, but you have no children?
Do you understand it’s a major organ?
And you don’t have children?

Dear lord! God forbid women have bodily autonomy. I said I am very, very happy with my decision and went on to discuss what I was actually there for. Hoping I don’t have to go through this every time I have an appointment now…

I recieved the official lab report today, and I just needed to voice my surprise that my uterus only weighed 52 grams. The organ responsible for ruining most of my life weighs the same as a couple of slices of cheese.

I dont know what I expected it to weigh, but this just seems insulting. HOW!? Hahah

Im 36. Had a hysterectomy last October. Left both ovaries. Ever since, I have been trying to discuss changes in my body with my ob and every time I got dismissed. In June, I went for my annual. And again, I tried to have a conversation. I told her I am hot all the time, I dont sleep well, Im tired all the time, Ive gained 30 pounds despite eating well and being more active than Ive ever been. My hair is falling out by the handful. My legs are restless and itchy. Im cranky and blah and just generally dont feel myself. I asked her about the possibility of trying hrt. She noped me immediately. Said I was young and had my ovaries and it's impossible that they've failed at my age. Its impossible, thats just not how that works. Then she doubled down and told me if I wasnt happy with my weight I should eat less. I thought she had to be joking and I laughed, but she was dead serious. I brought a whole body and mind problem to my doctor and she told me to eat less. End of conversation. I left feeling humiliated and crazy. Last week I decided to make an appointment with my primary. She listened. Shared some personal experiences and recommended a supplement that might help in the meantime/alongside hrt if thats an appropriate avenue. She doesnt really practice women's health so she researched what all labs should be done and ordered all of them. All the basics- vitamin b and d, ferritin, metabolics- came back normal range. Lutienizing hormone came back WAY high, which points to ovarian insufficiency or surgical menopause. Still waiting on the rest of the hormone panel to come back to confirm. Seeing that so high was really bittersweet. Im glad we can move forward treating it and I can feel better. But it sucks that it could've been solved way earlier, and it really sucks to be treated nonchalantly. Maybe one day we will be able to walk into our doctor's appointments confident we will be taken seriously!

Around 10k 😵‍💫 Plus 4 other medical staff assisting the surgery, separate charges, few thousand each. Crazy...

Going on 11 days now lol. How long did you give it before you started going back to normal life? How many days did you spend in bed doing sweet FA? Just started a 13 season show so I could be here for the long haul 😅

I got diagnosed with a complex, solid, ovarian mass back in June. It’s growing. It’s doubled in size in 10 weeks. It’s secreting hormones. To the point that my blood pressure skyrockets, I feel like I’ve had 6 cups of coffee, and the feminine rage emanating from me would likely kill a man. For months I said something was off, before they found it. My husband said I was just over exaggerating. He FAFO’d.

Had repeat imaging, it grew again. Has its own vascular flow. O-RADS now a 4. This free loading bastard is good chance of malignant AF. It’s going to have to come out. And now, the doctor says safest bet is to take it all out. All the lady bits. Cause it could be aggressive, and the uterus be thicc, so it might be malignant too. Won’t know til they take it all out and do the final pathologies.

And here I am, just now realizing I’m a woman in my mid 40’s, with no children. I spent my life adamantly not wanting to give birth, or to raise another human. And while I think I stand by that decision, I’m now recognizing I never can. And it’s hitting me…hardddd. I’m crying into my feral dinner over babies I’ve never had, never wanted, but will now never even have the ability to have. I feel unbelievably inadequate and sterile. Like we’re all born as inherent mothers, and I’m losing that part. And also terrified of chemo taking my hair. Nor do I do well mentally with several weeks of downtime. Staying busy and outdoor exercise is what keeps me sane.

Anyways, I’d like to name the mass and the thicc uterus, before we yeeterus. Thoughts?

uterus yeeterus
a haiku

vamoose, time to go
you housed two big fat babies
i bid you adieu

has been playing nonstop in my head. doo doodoo doo, doodoo doot doodoo…

surgery is tomorrow!!!!!!

I have been so excited and so looking forward to this but also so full of anxious energy and I haven’t been sure why because I am not specifically afraid of surgery

and then I realized it’s because the last time I spent any real time in a hospital, especially with IVs and beeping machines and wheely beds and all that, was nearly two years ago when I was the hospice caretaker for my mom :((

ugh I can’t wait for this to be overrrrr

sorry, I just had to get this off my chest

How long and how much did you bleed? I'm having an abdominal hysterectomy in 2 weeks and was thinking about the last few menstrual pads i need to get for myself in this life

I had my surgery on May 6, 2025, and wanted to come back and share a positive update now that it’s September 1, 2026.
Before surgery, I had adenomyosis, endometriosis, and ovarian cysts, primarily on my right ovary. That ovary had a cyst on it when it was removed. I was bleeding for months at a time without stopping, dealing with horrible pain and cramping, and my quality of life had become pretty terrible.
Now, almost 16 months later, I feel better than ever. I’m pain-free, able to do so much more, and actually enjoying life without constantly having to plan around bleeding or pain.
My only wish is that I could have had the surgery sooner. For me, it’s been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I knew I wanted relief, but being on the other side has made me realize just how much I was living with before.
Everyone’s experience is different, but I wanted to share my success story for anyone who needs a little hope. I’m so grateful to feel this good again. ❤️

I am 4 weeks and a couple of days post op for a robotic-assisted laparoscopic hysterectomy sparing both ovaries. My initial recovery was amazing. I had stopped bleeding post-op within 48 hours and was up and walking a mile or more within a week. At my two-week post-op appointment, I told her I felt amazing and asked what more I could do physically, since I was getting a little bored and I'm used to heavy weight lifting for workouts. She warned me not to get ahead of myself because she was glad I was feeling great but didn't want to see that derail. The day after my two-week appointment was one of the worst days I had up to that point post-recovery. Awful body pain, terrible fatigue, cramping, and incision pain I hadn't had previously. That lasted about 2-3 days, and then I rebounded again. I was feeling amazing, and this last week, my 3rd week going into my 4th week post-op, I increased my activity again. I was walking about 3 miles a day and was doing some light body stretching. Fast forward to the last 72 hours. I've been terribly fatigued, cramping, highly emotional, sleeping more than normal, and in the last 24 hours I've had new spotting when I haven't had any bleeding for weeks. To get to my point.

Has this Rollercoaster been normal for anyone else? I keep getting to a point where I feel amazing and then hit a new "milestone" and feel like garbage again. When I reached out to my OB about my latest symptoms, I was told the spotting is normal at this point with the cuff suture dissolving, to keep an eye on it, and that I was possibly overdoing it on activity and to dial back for a while. I'm just looking to see if anyone has had an experience like this because the yo-yo feelings have me going insane. Maybe it's my fault for overdoing it on activity and causing my own low points, but weirdly, the plateaus have been coming in 2-week cycles instead of more immediate body feedback. I haven't had any issues during my workouts or even later in the day or the next day. It's like everything is building and then drops in these week cycles. Is this just me, or has someone else had a similar experience? Sorry for the long-winded explanation; I was trying to provide as much information as possible.

Hey I’m 3 weeks post op today and I’m unsure if I’m meant to be doing any pelvic exercise before I see the PFT after 6 weeks clearance. I tried the other day just to do the squeeze which I’ve always been able to do no worries but my gosh I could not do it! Just spasmed and felt like a pulsating sensation🫠 Was I wrong to try this early?

Supracervical robot assisted lap today. Thankful for the advice from this sub! Just struggling with the gas pain right now. Trying to stay on top of meds and move. I think the anticipation of laying back down after getting up is the worst. Feel like I can’t take a full breath, and did some torturous ab workout. Any secret tips besides time and walking a bit?

I’m 4 months post op, everything but ovaries was taken, but for I want to say the last 3-4 weeks I haven’t been able to ”feel” my boyfriend inside me, like no feeling at all besides a little bit here and there. Not like I normally do, even my clit I can’t feel any pleasure from. I do get wet, but I don’t truly know how when I don’t have any feeling or pleasure from being touched , the stimulation he does I can’t feel but somehow I get wet. some times I can feel him other times I can’t. I figured this is normal as I’m still healing and everything. I would hope it was but I do have an appointment with my OB coming up so I’m clearly going to ask her but has this or Is this happening to anyone else? Will the feeling come back?!

I'm 11 days po. Days 7-9 there was virtually no pain, I wasn't even taking Advil anymore. This afternoon started different. I have pain in my lower abdomen. It's not pain at the incisions, those are much higher, and this pain is deeper inside. Maybe where there was some cauterization? I also have the slightest bit of spotting, and I've had none even on day 1 previously.

I've been going on very short walks since about day 4 (like to the end of my street, about 10 houses down). The last 2 days though I was bending down a bit to pick things up here and there. A stray sock here, my kids soccer uniforms there, unloaded a small dishwasher load this morning (only 2 dishes on the bottom rack).

I'm wondering if that motion is just too much? Did I mess something up? Should I be worried about the spotting (it was just a barely noticeable red tinge on the toilet paper after peeing).

Is this within the range of normal? I was supposed to have my post-op appointment on Wednesday, but my doctor has been called away. They said there wasn't a single opening until Sept 16, but I fought it and the earliest they could do was Sept 9.

I really wanna hear that this is normal and I didn't mess anything up...😬 But, lay down the truth ladies!

Hopping on here to share that since I’ve started tracking my symptoms, I’ve stopped gaslighting myself.

I’m scheduled for a hysterectomy later this year and it’s been difficult for me to admit that it’s necessary. I think when you live with chronic pain it’s easy to tell yourself that what you’re feeling is normal or not that bad.

That being said, hysterectomy is the only way they can perform necessary pathology and treat my symptoms. I’ve had two failed biopsies, because of challenging anatomy and have suspected adeno and endo, yet I still question everything.

Anyways, my whole point is that I started tracking symptoms daily in my notes app. I’m talking cramps, bloating, GI symptoms, migraines, anything that keeps me from feeling like I’m thriving and when I start doubting the direction I’m heading, I reference that list of symptoms. It’s been a good tool to help me recognize all that my body deals with and acknowledge that I deserve a better health outcome.

Thought I’d share, in case others are struggling with their situation.

I 36f am scheduled for my hysterectomy on October 20th. I could have had it sooner but October 20th was earlier in the week, and my boyfriend 40m (together 2 years), can only spend time with me on the front half of the week because he has his daughter on the back half of the week, so I wanted to have the surgery as early in the week as possible.

Best case scenario, he will take me to surgery, bring me home, and stay with me for 2 ish days until he has to go pick his daughter up from school, and then I will be on my own until she goes back to her mom's a few days later as we do not live together. But lately he hasn't been around much regardless of his parenting schedule, and I am terrified of recovering alone. My parents will be out of the country as they often are, my son is a pilot and isnt home much, and my daughter is only 11 so she can't help with a whole lot. I live in a 3rd floor walk-up, the laundry room is on the ground floor of another building, and i dont have the means for a cleaning lady or anything. It feels more and more likely that I will be recovering mostly alone.

Will I be okay or should I maybe cancel the surgery? Im not nearly as bad off as some women. I have endometriosis but its mainly just daily blinding pain--i dont have cancer or anything and I dont bleed for 100 years straight. I dont have any crazy adhesions, my bladder hasn't melted to my butthole or anything like that, its just pain that is more or less constant. I feel like surgery is kind of a dramatic step in my case anyway. I dont know what im hoping for here. Maybe just some advice from those who did end up recovering alone?

TLDR; it is likely that I will be recovering from my total hysterectomy mostly alone and I am scared and wondering if I should cancel.

So, I was honestly just wondering if anyone else had, or is having, a similar situation to me:

(For context, I’m 32-had endo and PMDD-Laproscopic hysterectomy with kept ovaries)

So, before my hysterectomy I‘d have pretty awful depressive episodes the first three days of my period (weirdly the day before my period I’d feel the best I would all month and then it’d just crash down) and after my surgery I noticed some minor pms type symptoms when my cycle was supposed to be, but never to the extent it was when I actually had a period. Now I’m just entering my fourth month post op (had surgery May 29th) and have experienced that depression, fatigue, and irritableness again for about an entire week now.

Honestly I was just wondering if anyone else had the same experience as me because I’m truly feeling pretty disheartened.

Looking for my 4 day post full laparoscopic surgery twin🧐🫶🏾🤣So far my day 4 is best day. Still very sore though! No diarrhea anymore. Took a short walk. But still moving like a turtle. Just looking to commiserate🤣🤣

I've had a pretty uneventful hysterectomy and recovery journey. I was back to driving/working by day 5, and was told I could do basically anything other than heavy lifting or inserting anything into the vagina by my first post op visit (it was somewhere around the 3 week mark).

My next post op is tomorrow (almost to the 7 week mark). Im very excited to hopefully get back to intercourse tomorrow. I'm a little worried because my boyfriend is a bit larger than average in size, but if I am cleared he has agreed to take it easy/slow. We had a very active sex life before so we are both eager to get back to it.

Any suggestions? Im excited and scared.

Hi all,

I'm 39, total hysterectomy but keeping ovaries. Sugery is scheduled for next Tuesday. I've been lurking here for the last few weeks and decided to post to the community to see if anyone else felt depressed before surgery? I understand that is a loaded and delicate question and all experiences are so very welcome if you are willing to share <3 I have seen some good tips and ideas and most importantly all the reassurances (thank you!) I bought a wedge pillow since I think that would have been nice after the open myomectomy a few years ago (it was supposed to be laparoscopic but the fibroid was too crazy and they had to switch to open). My partner is wfh and will be home all the time after we get back from the hospital, so I'm happy I'll have help. But I am overwhelmed with anxiety about this surgery and I think I've burned myself out with stress. I think it's helped kicked me into depression (along with all the other life stress). Yesterday I slept for 11 hours and felt so listless, and burst into tears throughout the day. I'm happy to be scheduled for a hysterectomy so I don't have to keep dealing with fibroids. I'm grateful I have a surgeon who didn't think twice or try to prevent me from having one as woman that's never had children in a red state (US). I'm grateful I have a better job and I get 7 weeks off of work instead of the 2 weeks last time. Life is going to be so much better, and the best place to have a medical emergency is when you're already in a room full of doctors. Logically I know all this. But I am SO anxious and scared. I have to have a colorectal surgeon present because of adhesions from the myomectomy. I have to get bloodwork and an EKG tomorrow maybe because of my venous reflux/lymphedema from an old leg injury? I have to stay overnight because I'm higher risk because of BMI is what it sounds like. This surgery is supposed to be laparoscopic but I'm worried it'll just turn to open again and it was such a long recovery last time and I lost a lot of blood during that surgery. I'm upset with myself for not knowing if I wanted a hysterectomy or not last time and wish I had just done it then. I have an extra therapy appointment today and we're just going to focus on the surgery and coping mechanisms. But golly I can't wait until this is over and to not have to worry about planning my life around heavy periods and anemia making me dead tired lol. Thank you for taking time to listen to me <3