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Important Article When Surgeons Fail Their Trans Patients on Gender Confirming Surgery
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/HiddenStill • Feb 07 '25
Mod Post The future of this sub
After this sub was "accidentally" banned 2 days ago there's been a lot of discussion about the future of the sub.
Whether it was an accident to not, the possibility exists that this sub and others will be banned from reddit in the near future. In the event that happens what do we do?
I started as a mod here when the sub had only 3k members and my intention was to grow it to where it is today, and more. I last wrote about how the sub is moderated in 2022.
In principle, it would be better to have an trans resource site independent of reddit and corporate control. In practice its very difficult to achieve for a number of reasons
There's no point in moving to another site like Discord which is susceptible to the same risks as reddit. i.e. based in the USA. But what other sites are there, and where else is safe in the long run? Not just safe from hostile governments, but whoever runs the community losing interest, or data (susans.org lost years of it with a hard drive crash), selling out, etc.
Neither Discord and Facebook are indexed by search engines making it difficult for people to discover the resources in the first place, or finding information once you're there. It's like a black hole for knowledge; you put it in and it disappears. Personally, I'd never waste my time on building this kind of community on sites like that.
Reddit also provides, or did, legal protection. If a surgeon doesn't like what's posted here they can't easily censor it. And especially important, they can't attack me personally as its not my responsibility. Good luck going after reddit corporate.
As one of the largest social media sites in the world reddit makes it easy to build community, there's so many of us already here. People have mentioned sites like Lemmy as alternatives, but as far as I can tell they have tiny membership and few people have even heard of them.
A major advantage for me was reddit's wiki's. Few subs take advantage of them, but I believe its a great way to build and spread knowledge, and it has helped build this sub and raise the general level of knowledge. People have asked that it be copied off site, but if this sub disappears many of the links in the wiki will also disappear. Its not nearly so useful at that point. I don't think anyone else will build or maintain a wiki either, as it seems to interest very few people.
Regardless if reddit banning this sub or not, I'd like to see another site even better than this one, but I'm not sure its possible. Even more so while reddit hosts trans content as 99% of people will just come here anyway. Reddit basically killed old style forums years ago and nothing's changed since then.
It's even more difficult to build a trans surgery surgery community on another site while this sub exists because its so big and useful that almost no one would bother going there. And I'm not shutting the sub down to force everyone to move to another site. That would cause immediate harm to people who use the sub.
If this sub does get shut down I personally won't be trying to rebuild elsewhere. I'm burned out with this and don't have the energy.
If anyone wants to discuss how to build a successful trans surgery community I'm willing to offer my advice. I'd like to see it happen and it would be great if people had a place to go, and knew about it ahead of time. My main aim is to help people, and it doesn't matter to me where that comes from.
Edit
If you set up any external resources for surgery, hrt, etc please add them in the comments here. And I suggest people save the links in case this sub, or worse, all trans content on reddit disappears.
There’s a number of people talking about off site projects they are considering or actually doing. Persons you could get together and discuss if you could work together.
This looks interesting r/RedditAlternatives
There's some cisgender people wanting to comment here in support of Lemmy and other reddit alternatives. Rule 5 limits cis people on this sub, but I'll allow it on this post only and give them a flair "cisgender reddit alternatives". If you're one of them please don't comment elsewhere.
Other reddit posts
- https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/1ii61jm/so_transgender_surgeries_subreddit_just_got_nuked
- https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/comments/1ii6qfw/rtransgender_surgeries_was_banned_an_hour_ago
- https://www.reddit.com/r/germantrans/comments/1ii6y7y/reddit_purge_beginnt_voran_transgender_surgeries
Media
- 2025-02-05 - https://www.newsweek.com/transgender-surgery-subreddit-disappearing-bug-2026965 by Rachel Dobkin
- 2025-02-06 - https://www.engadget.com/social-media/reddit-blames-bug-after-banning-more-than-90-nsfw-subreddits-221908069.html by Karissa Bell -- "The nature of the affected subreddits has alarmed some users and moderators who worry the company may be getting ready for a bigger crackdown. In r/transgender_surgeries, where users discuss their medical care, members began to discuss ways to “back up” the content of the subreddit. ""
Lemmy Discussion
Lemmy keeps getting mentioned. I don't know much about it yet. Its pitched as Fediverse reddit replacement.
According to the statistics here Lemmy has 477,049 total users and 45,194 monthly active users. The trans instance https://lemmy.blahaj.zone has 8671 total users and 971 monthly active users.
This sub alone has 93,419 members, and in the last 30 days 4.6M views, an average of 20.2k daily unique visits, 4.0 subscribed, and 1.2k unsubscribed. The main FTM surgery subs in total have about that again, and the HRT subs are a bit larger in total.
This sub is then 10 times the size of the main trans Lemmy instance, and the total with the subs I mentioned is approaching the entire size of Lemmy. This doesn't include all the very main trans subs which are individually many times larger as I only included the important medical subs.
I have a few reservations about Lemmy, partly because I know so little at this point
Can Lemmy can scale to the size required if trans content was banned on reddit.
I couldn't find much information on Lemmy's moderation tools. Currently this sub attracts a lot of hate and chasers, which moderation easily takes care of. In the past the have been excessive amounts, but reddit has cracked down on it, and provides tools to limit it (not very good ones). Lemmy would be unusable without this.
Lemmy works by sharing data across multiple instances (computers) and it appears there seem to be privacy concerns about the amount of data on users that is shared.
What is to stop the owners of the instance shutting it down, or the data being lost for any other reason? Although not a corporate it makes no difference. There would be a massive loss of knowledge and history.
If anyone has expert knowledge on Lemmy I'd be interested in learning more.
The author of the Engadget article on the sub's ban made a YouTube video on the Fediverse
- The future of decentralized social media by Engadget (Karissa Bell)
Discussion on Lemmy
- https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/21815813
- https://mlmym.lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/21815813 if you like old reddit
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/deathbedcompani0n • 16h ago
3 months post ffs
I got ffs with brian rolfes in may and wanted to post an update about my healing. Generally very happy with it though parts of my liplift scar are still raised but hopefully that will decrease with time. Also wish that my adams apple was less visible but im not sure if they just took off all they could safely? I got fat transfer to my lip but wish they did more to be honest. Anyways still very big improvement from before and im still kind of astounded with my new forehead and brow. I finally feel good about my new nose. The two weeks after ffs maybe were the worst of my life and I felt awful so im happy to be at this point. i was throwing up blood for like 36 hours after surgery and im just so happy that is over lol. Pictures are: now, before, 2 weeks after, and 1 month after. Ignore my expressions
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/KnockOffGandalf1 • 10h ago
Two week post op
I’m two weeks today so I just have dysphoria goggles or am I just cooked…
Procedures
Forehead and brow contour
Facelift
Jawline and chin contour
Hairline advancement
Malar implants
Also I’m aware that it takes months to see the final results but I’m judging the trajectory not the final result…
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/CherryGumDream • 1h ago
Which douche?
9 days post-op, things going well. However, not really a fan of the douche the hospital supplied. It’s a big bulky thing, and I need a tonne of lube to get it in, which kind of defeats the purpose of using a douche to clean out lube.
Crucially though it has holes on the side of the nozzle so it gets full coverage.
What’s your favourite douche?
See picture of example of the one I have (mine is pink lol)
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/ZatiannaXO • 18h ago
1 month post op facial contouring and rhino in south korea
pics 1,2 after, pic 3 before
helloo i know this is too early but im already excited to show off my new face! im southeast asian and i’ve always wanted to get FFS. but the surgeons i’ve consulted are either affordable but too far (dr baez in mexico) or just a bit out of my budget (dr coiante in italy). as a 3rd world trans woman with a weak currency i had a very tight budget and i needed to make sure i could afford grs in thailand in the next few years.
so i decided to focus on areas of my face that gave me the most dysphoria instead of getting the whole package. my brow ridge isn’t exactly 100% feminine but i was more uncomfortable with my wide nose and square jaw. i always felt like my face was too wide. so i decided to go to south korea because 1. facial osteotomies for cosmetic improvement are so common there and 2. they work with asian noses and well im asian!
the procedures i went for for were rhinoplasty and 3 point facial contouring which included chin osteotomy, mandibular contouring, and zygoma reduction.
as i said im only 1 month post op and this is far from the final result and i still have a lot of residual swelling but im happy with how much more feminine my face looks already! i will of course update more at the 3 months mark. let me know if you guys have any questions!
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Annual-Metal-3360 • 1h ago
Colon/Jejunum Revision Recs
TLDR: recs on surgeons for colon/jejunum revision surgery? Im east coast USA, bonus points if their aesthetics are good (bc mine… aren’t lol)
Hello!! I am at my wit’s end. My depth is down to the second dot (on a GOOD day) and this is after surgery, complications, and a later depth revision that just removed the scar tissue but didn’t graft anything.
I’m not feeling totally hopeless, I can still kinda have sex, I am on the largest orange dilator and still dilating daily after a year, and sensation is great! I just am so unfortunately straight and dating cis men with this depth has been hard. Also, I know all vaginas are unique but my aesthetics are a little off with the canal being realllyyy not covered by labia minora.
At this point, it seems like my only options are revision. I’m happy to try out colon or jejunum revision, I’m relatively healthy and bounce back pretty quick so I’m not so worried about the recovery. Open to waiting for the right surgeon!
Thank you!!!!
- S
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/rinsilvertg • 7h ago
Liposuction + Fat transfer to Hips Thighs and Breasts
I have a consultation in a few months with Dr. Andre Marshall in California for Lipo and a Fat Transfer as mentioned in the title, I’m wondering if anyone else has either gotten surgery with him or had the same surgery done? I’ve looked up a TON of reviews online and can only find pictures of people who have gotten fat transferred to their butts, which doesn’t help me at all to see what a realistic goal for what i want done is. I just want to fill in my hip dips to match my shoulder size and make my thighs proportional to the new hips. I would love to hear from anyone with experience on the topic!!
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Swellzong • 16m ago
Suporn discord invite please?
I am planning my trip and have paid in full with date confirmed, can I have an invite please? 😊
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Dapper-Drama-1447 • 6h ago
The entrance and inside of my canal is white and it feels hard skin to touch 8 months post op PIV
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Maddy_pen9511 • 15h ago
Seeking advice prior to my chin and jaw revision consults
Hi there, I’m heading to Korea, spain and America for surgery consults in relation to my chin and jaw, here are some photos of me I’d very much appreciate feedback on what I should be asking for and anything to be cautious about when consulting.
My goals are to pass better and look more beautiful.
I’m also getting hair transplants in Spain while I’m there!
Thank you so much and I’d really appreciate your honest feedback.
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Eveoe • 4h ago
Driving for 5 hours just 24 hours after a chondrolaryngoplasty ?
Hello !
I'm having chondroplasty soon and I was wondering if I can drive for 5 hours the day after the procedure ? Are the 45 minutes of anesthesia too drowsy ?
Thanks !
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/viermalinei • 4h ago
singing after VFS - only yeson?
if i want to be able to sing after vfs and keep the top range i have, is yeson my only option?
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/StarslimeSlug • 4h ago
Anybody tried timeless clinic (Poland)?
I am trying to decide on a surgeon, well surgeon team since i dont trust one specialist to be an expert in all the ffs i want to get (chin narrowing, forhead, tracheal shave and rhinoplasty). I have a 40k € budget, which isnt enough for facial team with the current prices, and i dont want to go to openclinic in the neatherland since they seem to botch a lot, and their chin procedure leads to sagging and a weak chin.
Timeless seems good, but i cant find thag many reviews
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/thatgirlsofie • 12h ago
who are the top VFS surgeons?
It's so easy to get a list of top US FFS surgeons, but when it comes to who are the top VFS surgeons in the US, it becomes a mystery scooby doo cant solve. There must be a top 5, top 10 list out there. Thanks in advanced.
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/Thorngloggernuts • 13h ago
Would cheek implants help me? Or any other soft tissue procedure?
I’ve gained over 50 pounds over the last year in hopes of building some amount of facial fat. But it kinda seems like my body genetically refuses to store facial fat anywhere other than my lower jaw.
So I’ve been considering cheek implants to help offset my expanded facial planes. I was also considering some sort of jaw/neck liposuction but it seems like the only version of that that exists is buccal fat removal. Which I’m pretty cautious of because it tends to make people look pretty gaunt, which is my number 1 problem right now. I was also wondering if yall think a lip lift would help too.
Also, a major reason I’m considering cheek implants over cheek fat transfer is because I’m scared of aging and losing the tiny amount of cheek fat I have left. So it kinda seems like the move if I want to maintain any amount of femininity past my 30s.
r/Transgender_Surgeries • u/BlazeDozer • 13h ago
Tips on applying lube to dilators?
Hitting about 2 months post colo-vaginoplasty with Dr Stiller, and im struggling with some canal tightening, I was reaching full depth on the orange dilator pretty easily but last two weeks due to the tightening it's been alot rougher.
It seems like no matter how much lube I end up applying due to the tightness none of it actually follows it into the canal with the dilator, it gets squeezed off and goes between my butt. Then my dilator can get stuck in my and I have to be very careful getting it out.
I was recommended to try silicon lubricant, but am hestitant to try that and was wondering if anyone had any tips on helping lube get deeper into the canal.